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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I never thought I would either, but here I am. I know it’s morally wrong, but I also know that you only get one life…so I’m going to live it to the fullest. Right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"…just wondering what everyone’s thoughts on this are?  "
Each to their own tbh , not for me totally non judgemental as everyone has their own reasons but married or attached are not for me . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You’re a grown adult, do what you want.
Will the opinion of a bunch of strangers really persuade you one way or the other? "
I’d say definitely not. Looks like he’s doing it anyway so why ask?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont look behind this tree im not here this is the tree talking shit sorry thought it was the hide n seek thread  "
You can’t play with the helmet on I keep telling you!!
You keep getting lost! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont look behind this tree im not here this is the tree talking shit sorry thought it was the hide n seek thread
You can’t play with the helmet on I keep telling you!!
You keep getting lost!"
but im not here im a tree  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Devastated. Maybe I’ve just answered my original question.
That you cheated or that she found out.?"
Think he means he’d be devastated, in response to the forum question.
Imho, be honest or prepare for a lot of pain. You only live once right?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Life is unfair, it can lead us to places we never thought we'd go, but there's almost always a choice. I can only say to you.......
Do you really want to be that man, that partner/husband,? Do you Really want to be that Father (if you have them)?
Only you know what point in the relationship you are, talk, if you haven't. Seek counselling, if you haven't, then it's time to pull on those big boy pants and make a decision. It's a shitty journey that needs to be taken I'm afraid and you'll need to be honest with yourself. Just don't destroy someone's faith, confidence and their life on the misconception that they won't find out. I really hope you sort it either way, with as little damage done as possible, for both your sakes. |
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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago
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"…just wondering what everyone’s thoughts on this are? "
Next time you come in here asking questions like this - warn me, please!!
Then I can get the popcorn and watch and wait the judgemental replies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"…just wondering what everyone’s thoughts on this are?
Next time you come in here asking questions like this - warn me, please!!
Then I can get the popcorn and watch and wait the judgemental replies."
Ohh what flavour of popcorn we talking here?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you will find a lot of people will judge you but the only people that matter are you and your partner. Be very clear about what you're doing and what the repercussions may be for your relationship.
Some people don't ask and won't be bothered if you're attached. Personally I don't get involved with attached men. (PS it's discreet not discrete.) |
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People don't talk about it, don't want to hear about it or have their noses rubbed in it.
But we're all at it so don't talk about it anymore it's not a 'thing', it's a trust issue.
Most are happy to participate and preach on at others, I'm sure you've noticed. |
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A lot of men find themselves in a situation where their partner's libido suddenly disappears. How many people would be happy to accept that they'll never have a sex life again?
Sure, there's the argument that people should be honest and move on if that's what they want, but it would be pretty cruel to leave your life partner just because she doesn't do sex any more.
A lot of men make a pragmatic decision to discretely pursue their needs elsewhere, and the swinging world - where sex is largely detached from the emotional side of relationships - is probably a much better route than starting up extra-marital affairs.
I wish people would be less sniffy about it, we all have our own reasons for being here and people shouldn't be judged for the often difficult decisions they make to be here. |
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"Personally I don't get involved with attached men. (PS it's discreet not discrete.)"
I find attached men a bit more direct in their needs and more likely to be careful not to screw up a good thing.
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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago
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"People don't talk about it, don't want to hear about it or have their noses rubbed in it.
But we're all at it so don't talk about it anymore it's not a 'thing', it's a trust issue.
Most are happy to participate and preach on at others, I'm sure you've noticed. "
He asked for an opinion, most people are obliging by providing one, don't think it's preaching. |
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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago
Longridge |
"…just wondering what everyone’s thoughts on this are?
Next time you come in here asking questions like this - warn me, please!!
Then I can get the popcorn and watch and wait the judgemental replies.
Ohh what flavour of popcorn we talking here?
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Sour!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"…just wondering what everyone’s thoughts on this are?
Next time you come in here asking questions like this - warn me, please!!
Then I can get the popcorn and watch and wait the judgemental replies.
Ohh what flavour of popcorn we talking here?
Sour!!"
Aww one likes salted can I bring some? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I don't get involved with attached men. (PS it's discreet not discrete.)
I find attached men a bit more direct in their needs and more likely to be careful not to screw up a good thing.
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I don't want it on my conscience or be something my kids are disappointed by. That's all that matters to me. |
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I made the mistake of doing this and was caught out. Had never actually met anyone… used it as an escapism method.
Ultimately… it wasn’t worth it. All the pain it caused my wife and I and to lose each other and the kids… all due to finding a cheap wank!
Now I’m here because I’ve got no one else!
My advice would be to avoid it unless it’s consensual.
Quite a deep post for a Wednesday!… apologies! |
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"I made the mistake of doing this and was caught out. Had never actually met anyone… used it as an escapism method.
Ultimately… it wasn’t worth it. All the pain it caused my wife and I and to lose each other and the kids… all due to finding a cheap wank!
Now I’m here because I’ve got no one else!
My advice would be to avoid it unless it’s consensual.
Quite a deep post for a Wednesday!… apologies!"
It wasn't meant to be, you'll be happy in the end  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of men find themselves in a situation where their partner's libido suddenly disappears. How many people would be happy to accept that they'll never have a sex life again?
Sure, there's the argument that people should be honest and move on if that's what they want, but it would be pretty cruel to leave your life partner just because she doesn't do sex any more.
A lot of men make a pragmatic decision to discretely pursue their needs elsewhere, and the swinging world - where sex is largely detached from the emotional side of relationships - is probably a much better route than starting up extra-marital affairs.
I wish people would be less sniffy about it, we all have our own reasons for being here and people shouldn't be judged for the often difficult decisions they make to be here."
I think you're not considering it from the POV of someone who is cheated on. I am pretty sure I was. I'd rather not be lied to. Being lied to is incredibly damaging. I can understand why people have affairs and cheat. I simply choose not to participate. |
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"I think you're not considering it from the POV of someone who is cheated on. "
I'm pretty sure I know exactly what POV I'm considering it from. Hence my reference to a pragmatic decision. Many men love their partners and want to continue sharing their lives and know that their partners probably feel the same. Leaving a woman to try and rebuild a life alone (in the absence of libido) wouldn't be a very kind thing to do, which is why many of those men stick with their partners.
But making the decision to live a life without ever having sex or intimacy is a huge ask and rather unfair. |
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By *l6789Man
over a year ago
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It’s a question of morality mainly, how ever you dress it up you choose to be married and if your partner is not aware or accepting of this then it’s cheating unquestionably.
Yes we all get one go at life and should make the moments count rather than live with regrets but what about your partner what does she want out of life? If you love her then wouldn’t you want to include her?
I’m sure I’ll get flamed for my opinion but I look at a relationship as someone to trust and share it all with or why be in the relationship if it’s not what you want |
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The way I look at this is that you have to look yourself in the eye in the shaving mirror. If you can happily do that and don't try to involve me, crack on. I'm not the guardian of your conscience or monitor of your behaviour. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been open in my profile that I am one of these deviants - been accepted by in large by all here and it does put a barrier up with many of ladies - doesn’t stop people from flirting and becoming “friends”… there is something for everyone here I suppose… might take a bit longer to find it though. |
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"I’ve been open in my profile that I am one of these deviants - been accepted by in large by all here and it does put a barrier up with many of ladies - doesn’t stop people from flirting and becoming “friends”… there is something for everyone here I suppose… might take a bit longer to find it though."
Can I wax your bum please |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve been open in my profile that I am one of these deviants - been accepted by in large by all here and it does put a barrier up with many of ladies - doesn’t stop people from flirting and becoming “friends”… there is something for everyone here I suppose… might take a bit longer to find it though.
Can I wax your bum please "
If it makes you happy yes… |
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"I’ve been open in my profile that I am one of these deviants - been accepted by in large by all here and it does put a barrier up with many of ladies - doesn’t stop people from flirting and becoming “friends”… there is something for everyone here I suppose… might take a bit longer to find it though.
Can I wax your bum please
If it makes you happy yes…"
See, married men are considerate  |
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"Leaving a woman to try and rebuild a life alone (in the absence of libido) wouldn't be a very kind thing to do, which is why many of those men stick with their partners.
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Wow.
People in relationships who are being cheated on deserve the truth and to make their own decisions on what happens next, not have their cheating partner decide what's best for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve been open in my profile that I am one of these deviants - been accepted by in large by all here and it does put a barrier up with many of ladies - doesn’t stop people from flirting and becoming “friends”… there is something for everyone here I suppose… might take a bit longer to find it though.
Can I wax your bum please
If it makes you happy yes…
See, married men are considerate "
Housebroken is the word lol |
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"People in relationships who are being cheated on deserve the truth and to make their own decisions on what happens next, not have their cheating partner decide what's best for them. "
So if a man, who's not cheated, abandons his wife because she won't have sex any more and he just wants to have sex, what would your opinion of that man be? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good luck on what you seek OP it’s your life and decisions no one else’s. You was always going to get a negative response mate.
As a final note though despite what people might suggest on here don’t tell your mrs she’ll fucking kill you  |
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"People in relationships who are being cheated on deserve the truth and to make their own decisions on what happens next, not have their cheating partner decide what's best for them.
So if a man, who's not cheated, abandons his wife because she won't have sex any more and he just wants to have sex, what would your opinion of that man be?"
depends on the reasons she won’t have sex ,Medical reasons then I’d say she’s better off without him if every Avenue is explored then he has every right to leave and be happy ..Not every cheating man/woman has a sob story a lot of the times they are just selfish and want to have their cake and eat it . |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
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As a final note though despite what people might suggest on here don’t tell your mrs she’ll fucking kill you "
Tell your Mrs you are not happy with your sex life. Try to find solution together, not just make assumption what is good for her or both of you without knowing her decision.
Yeah, we are living just one life and it’s nice to enjoy it with a need to lie or hide.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you're not considering it from the POV of someone who is cheated on.
I'm pretty sure I know exactly what POV I'm considering it from. Hence my reference to a pragmatic decision. Many men love their partners and want to continue sharing their lives and know that their partners probably feel the same. Leaving a woman to try and rebuild a life alone (in the absence of libido) wouldn't be a very kind thing to do, which is why many of those men stick with their partners.
But making the decision to live a life without ever having sex or intimacy is a huge ask and rather unfair."
I don't think anyone should have to live a life without sex or intimacy if they don't want to. I'm simply saying that most people would prefer honesty and make their own choices. Not have their partner decide what's best for them. Women are perfectly capable of rebuilding their lives after the breakdown of a relationship just as men are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People in relationships who are being cheated on deserve the truth and to make their own decisions on what happens next, not have their cheating partner decide what's best for them.
So if a man, who's not cheated, abandons his wife because she won't have sex any more and he just wants to have sex, what would your opinion of that man be?"
If one partner refuses to accommodate the needs of the other partner in any way - then the relationship may fail. It's not "abandoning" anyone. |
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"…just wondering what everyone’s thoughts on this are? "
Get a divorce. People on here can make up any bullshit claim they want to justify cheating but it's not OK. Sort your home life out of move on. |
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We wouldn't meet someone playing away , I'd hate it done to me
have you talked and explained you're not prepared to live with no sex life and ask if you can seek it elsewhere ?
If not ,I'd suggest you try that before cheating,if you get caught and people do,you'd have to live you with the consequences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its wrong, done it in the past and had it done to me, swore never to cheat again, the pain it causes all when caught alone is not worth it.
You lose all trust in others.
Be honest and if you wanting to play around either be single or have a partner who is into it aswell.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I remember the day I stumbled across this site. My then boyfriend of 2 years' tablet flashed up that it needed charging. As I plugged it in, the screen woke to him being signed into fab with 8 veris over the last two months. Why he didn't put a password on it I'll never know.
I thought we were happy, t knocked my confidence and I don't think its fuy recovered to this day. I didn't trust anyone else for five years. Telling you that wont change your mind. But at least you may understand the consequences of your actions  |
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God help your poor wife!
Do you hate her that much that you are willing to take the chance of absolutely devastating her....if so crack on, says a lot about you if you can do that to someone you supposedly love. |
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I know a lady who stayed with her man for over 20+ years, he cheated and cheated on her countless times. It finely came to ahead and she regrets now being In Her 50’s wasting her life with him who obviously had no respect for her. You do have one life and so does she, don’t let her waste her life on someone who isn’t respectful enough to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never thought I would either, but here I am. I know it’s morally wrong, but I also know that you only get one life…so I’m going to live it to the fullest. Right? "
Of course, though through honesty, accountability and not hurting people.
Without those, one life and living it to its fullest is a weak excuse.
Have the nerve to go it alone if you've no respect or consideration for your partner.
At the very least tell them you're intentions, maybe invite them along. |
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"I think you're not considering it from the POV of someone who is cheated on.
I'm pretty sure I know exactly what POV I'm considering it from. Hence my reference to a pragmatic decision. Many men love their partners and want to continue sharing their lives and know that their partners probably feel the same. Leaving a woman to try and rebuild a life alone (in the absence of libido) wouldn't be a very kind thing to do, which is why many of those men stick with their partners.
But making the decision to live a life without ever having sex or intimacy is a huge ask and rather unfair."
So the kind thing to do is cheat on them??
Surely the kind thing to do is to tell them the facts then let them choose how they want to be happy?
With or without a cheating partner. Their choice, no one else's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The fact you're prepared to cheat says alot about you. I wouldn't get involved with an attached guy personally, as said above it's your life and you will do as you please. Don't complain if it backfires, grass is not always greener. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally love a married man. I certainly wouldn’t take the moral high ground on here lol. It’s a personal choice and let’s be honest the majority are attached you’d be very naive to think otherwise. J xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn't knowingly fuck one.
Spoke to lovely ones on Fab who are sound.
Spoke to plenty male halves & single guys of couples who were complete arseholes.
There are far worse things on Fab than a married man. |
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"Morning id agree with Jasmine we've no problem at all with married men or women ,their personal life is there own business x"
Same. In fact in my experience so much less hassle. Depends on reasons for me though. If it’s just for the thrill of cheating or they’re gonna slag their partner off to me I’m not interested.
Apart from that people’s personal life is none of my business as mine isn’t to anyone else. I won’t tolerate lying though, if you’re attached then be honest about it although to be fair it’s not hard to work out! |
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Speaking from personal experience and being that wife that found out her husband was cheating and had done so with 6 different women that I know of… I can honestly say it broke me mentally and emotionally and still effects my trust levels 7 years later.
Wouldn’t mind but we had a great sex life so not as if he wasn’t getting any at home.
Because of this.. I would NEVER knowingly cause another woman and family the same heart ache and pain it caused me and my family.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Speaking from personal experience and being that wife that found out her husband was cheating and had done so with 6 different women that I know of… I can honestly say it broke me mentally and emotionally and still effects my trust levels 7 years later.
Wouldn’t mind but we had a great sex life so not as if he wasn’t getting any at home.
Because of this.. I would NEVER knowingly cause another woman and family the same heart ache and pain it caused me and my family.
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That's the main reason why I could never knowingly do it.
And to go off at a slight tangent, I've seen profiles on here saying they love to be a married man's "dirty little secret" or similar.
Actively getting off on being part of a deception is fucked up in my opinion. |
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Live and let live. If it's not for you, fine. But save the sanctimonious, self-righteous lectures... You're not going to change the world with your moral preaching!
Everyone on here has made decisions to behave in a way that some people would find abhorrent, and let's face it, I doubt there's anyone on here that can honestly say none of their freinds, family or loved ones would be disappointed to find out they choose this lifestyle.
The simple fact is that we've all chosen a different set of morals/standards to the "norm", there are no "lines in the sand", just graduations of a spectrum that we're all on.
So maybe don't be so judgmental - most of the time you have absolutely zero idea what is going on in another person's life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Live and let live. If it's not for you, fine. But save the sanctimonious, self-righteous lectures... You're not going to change the world with your moral preaching!
Everyone on here has made decisions to behave in a way that some people would find abhorrent, and let's face it, I doubt there's anyone on here that can honestly say none of their freinds, family or loved ones would be disappointed to find out they choose this lifestyle.
The simple fact is that we've all chosen a different set of morals/standards to the "norm", there are no "lines in the sand", just graduations of a spectrum that we're all on.
So maybe don't be so judgmental - most of the time you have absolutely zero idea what is going on in another person's life."
The initial post asked for others opinions on it.
For some people, this can be a raw, hurtful subject.
So maybe take a pinch of your own advice.
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"Live and let live. If it's not for you, fine. But save the sanctimonious, self-righteous lectures... You're not going to change the world with your moral preaching!
Everyone on here has made decisions to behave in a way that some people would find abhorrent, and let's face it, I doubt there's anyone on here that can honestly say none of their freinds, family or loved ones would be disappointed to find out they choose this lifestyle.
The simple fact is that we've all chosen a different set of morals/standards to the "norm", there are no "lines in the sand", just graduations of a spectrum that we're all on.
So maybe don't be so judgmental - most of the time you have absolutely zero idea what is going on in another person's life."
Nobody knows what’s going on in someone’s life. And no two stories are the same. I’ve said before I could probably bring the most judgemental people to tears with the story of a man I met. I’ve got no time at all for people who think they can judge when they have no idea of circumstances. None whatsoever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You only have one life, do what makes you happy
But if my happiness causes someone else to be unhappy.
They're responsible for their own happiness "
Nah I don't agree with you , people do things that can make you unhappy, keeping them out of your life is the thing but doesn't always happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Live and let live. If it's not for you, fine. But save the sanctimonious, self-righteous lectures... You're not going to change the world with your moral preaching!
Everyone on here has made decisions to behave in a way that some people would find abhorrent, and let's face it, I doubt there's anyone on here that can honestly say none of their freinds, family or loved ones would be disappointed to find out they choose this lifestyle.
The simple fact is that we've all chosen a different set of morals/standards to the "norm", there are no "lines in the sand", just graduations of a spectrum that we're all on.
So maybe don't be so judgmental - most of the time you have absolutely zero idea what is going on in another person's life."
Guessing your wife also doesn’t know you’re here. |
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"…just wondering what everyone’s thoughts on this are? "
Well there are bloody loads of women doing it, so sauce for the gander etc.
However, its a recipe for disaster and something I wouldn't do. I only came back on here after my 5 Yr relationship ended. |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. "
Partially agree with you, mate.
I wouldn’t judge and probably don’t want to know back story.
Just as a person from the other end I’d prefer my ex told me rather then I got to know by accident.
The outcome could have been very different and who knows maybe even enjoyable
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"Morning id agree with Jasmine we've no problem at all with married men or women ,their personal life is there own business x
Same. In fact in my experience so much less hassle. Depends on reasons for me though. If it’s just for the thrill of cheating or they’re gonna slag their partner off to me I’m not interested.
Apart from that people’s personal life is none of my business as mine isn’t to anyone else. I won’t tolerate lying though, if you’re attached then be honest about it although to be fair it’s not hard to work out!"
I recently left a 25 year marriage. It was a good marriage, we lived well and it produced two sons . Lovely home and all that - it’s on the market.
The sex was dreadful. I’m not a beast and I know that things ebb & flow especially after childbirth. She had a very controlling father who I’m sure convinced her that sex was dirty. Only for procreation not recreation.
I had four sensational affairs during that time. I was lucky in that my job meant lots of travel across Europe.
If I could turn the clock back, I would not have had affairs & been totally faithful. Do I regret the affairs? No. A contradiction I know. I have some lovely memories of four fabulous women - two of whom were also married by the way. One to a member of the Italian Carabinieri - the armed Police. I lived dangerously!
I know I wouldn’t like it if the shoe was on the other foot so I am a real piece of contradiction. In my defence I never drank to excess, I never gambled, I worked hard, built a beautiful home.
I understand the reaction of those that have had their lives ruined by serial cheaters. I have been surprised by just how judgemental many people on here are, I guess I expected more liberal thinking.
What point am I trying to make? I’m not too sure. It’s nothing new of course although some of the posts on here makes you think it is. I like the French approach- cinq et sept, you see your lover between five & seven, then go home for supper.
Not much demand for an ageing shagger of course. I’m great company though with some wonderful stories to tell.
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. "
I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it . |
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it . "
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!! |
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!! "
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!! "
Very much. Loads of threads seek validation for their actions. "Am I right to feel this way?" is quite a common question although often phrased differently. I personally think that people who aren't sure if their actions or feelings are ok want a sort of back up and strangers will more readily give the truth (unless they want to have sex with them but that's another story). |
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!! "
I thought everyone held Scottish Harry in high regard. |
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!!
What’s Harry said about me now. "
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!!
What’s Harry said about me now.
You don’t wanna know. Have to say it’s totally changed my opinion of you ya big rotter! "
Look he said I’d be doing him a favour and they weren’t his knickers anyway.  |
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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it . "
Most probably to draw out those that are ok with it, so they can contact them. But I'm a synical old coddger. |
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!!
Very much. Loads of threads seek validation for their actions. "Am I right to feel this way?" is quite a common question although often phrased differently. I personally think that people who aren't sure if their actions or feelings are ok want a sort of back up and strangers will more readily give the truth (unless they want to have sex with them but that's another story). "
Yes I suppose so. We’re all different I guess. I’ve always made my own decisions, I take on board opinions of people I care about etc but ultimately I’ve never needed people to accept what I do in anything really. Perhaps it helps others make decisions. Who knows. x |
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!!
Very much. Loads of threads seek validation for their actions. "Am I right to feel this way?" is quite a common question although often phrased differently. I personally think that people who aren't sure if their actions or feelings are ok want a sort of back up and strangers will more readily give the truth (unless they want to have sex with them but that's another story). "
Lots of them just want a place to chat about their marriage as well, with no intentions of ever doing anything, they are seeking marriage counselling without seeking professionals |
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!!
What’s Harry said about me now.
You don’t wanna know. Have to say it’s totally changed my opinion of you ya big rotter!
Look he said I’d be doing him a favour and they weren’t his knickers anyway. "
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!!
Very much. Loads of threads seek validation for their actions. "Am I right to feel this way?" is quite a common question although often phrased differently. I personally think that people who aren't sure if their actions or feelings are ok want a sort of back up and strangers will more readily give the truth (unless they want to have sex with them but that's another story).
Lots of them just want a place to chat about their marriage as well, with no intentions of ever doing anything, they are seeking marriage counselling without seeking professionals"
Or simply adding to an interesting debate / discussion on an Internet forum?
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"Live and let live. If it's not for you, fine. But save the sanctimonious, self-righteous lectures... You're not going to change the world with your moral preaching!
Everyone on here has made decisions to behave in a way that some people would find abhorrent, and let's face it, I doubt there's anyone on here that can honestly say none of their freinds, family or loved ones would be disappointed to find out they choose this lifestyle.
The simple fact is that we've all chosen a different set of morals/standards to the "norm", there are no "lines in the sand", just graduations of a spectrum that we're all on.
So maybe don't be so judgmental - most of the time you have absolutely zero idea what is going on in another person's life."
The OP asked for opinions...this subject is quite an emotional one for many people and just because a lot don't agree with cheating, it doesn't make them judgemental.
I don't care what others do but I do care about honesty especially to partners you are supposed to love x |
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"Live and let live. If it's not for you, fine. But save the sanctimonious, self-righteous lectures... You're not going to change the world with your moral preaching!
Everyone on here has made decisions to behave in a way that some people would find abhorrent, and let's face it, I doubt there's anyone on here that can honestly say none of their freinds, family or loved ones would be disappointed to find out they choose this lifestyle.
The simple fact is that we've all chosen a different set of morals/standards to the "norm", there are no "lines in the sand", just graduations of a spectrum that we're all on.
So maybe don't be so judgmental - most of the time you have absolutely zero idea what is going on in another person's life.
The OP asked for opinions...this subject is quite an emotional one for many people and just because a lot don't agree with cheating, it doesn't make them judgemental.
I don't care what others do but I do care about honesty especially to partners you are supposed to love x"
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!!
Very much. Loads of threads seek validation for their actions. "Am I right to feel this way?" is quite a common question although often phrased differently. I personally think that people who aren't sure if their actions or feelings are ok want a sort of back up and strangers will more readily give the truth (unless they want to have sex with them but that's another story).
Lots of them just want a place to chat about their marriage as well, with no intentions of ever doing anything, they are seeking marriage counselling without seeking professionals
Or simply adding to an interesting debate / discussion on an Internet forum?
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!!
Very much. Loads of threads seek validation for their actions. "Am I right to feel this way?" is quite a common question although often phrased differently. I personally think that people who aren't sure if their actions or feelings are ok want a sort of back up and strangers will more readily give the truth (unless they want to have sex with them but that's another story).
Lots of them just want a place to chat about their marriage as well, with no intentions of ever doing anything, they are seeking marriage counselling without seeking professionals"
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"Devastated. Maybe I’ve just answered my original question."
Then what you doing here.... Its not just the getting caught outright, the sneaky on your phone, the distance while chatting to other woman, we do pick these things up. Is it really worth it for a random shag? That's what you gotta ask yourself.
Is it not worth being honest with her and say this isn't enough why don't we try xxxx at least some level of respect and communication.
I definitely wouldn't meet married people if they have no respect for the person they love how would I expect them to have any for me.
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"Just for balance there are tons of married women on here too. I know I’ve fucked a fair few. I don’t judge anyone until I’ve heard the back story. I agree with you ,difference is tho women very rarely make posts seeking validation from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
These posts will always bring out strong emotions from people that have been lied and cheated on that’s why these posts hardly ever end well.
I just don’t get why they have to broadcast and give 1 sided sob stories. .It’s no one else’s business or marriage so just get on with it .
Agree. Why do people need acceptance and validation from strangers? It’s always confused me. Just get on with doing what you do. Do people really care what Harry in Scotland thinks of what they are doing?!!!
Very much. Loads of threads seek validation for their actions. "Am I right to feel this way?" is quite a common question although often phrased differently. I personally think that people who aren't sure if their actions or feelings are ok want a sort of back up and strangers will more readily give the truth (unless they want to have sex with them but that's another story).
Lots of them just want a place to chat about their marriage as well, with no intentions of ever doing anything, they are seeking marriage counselling without seeking professionals
Or simply adding to an interesting debate / discussion on an Internet forum?
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Having a debate /discussion and seeking validation are two separate things.
..In order to have a debate you have to have all sides of the coin and all we ever get is I’m cheating and I’m in a sexless marriage and I refuse to believe that everyone cheating is having no sex.
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My thoughts on it are that it’s wrong. The only time I can slightly justify it is if you are in some kind of toxic/abusive relationship. Otherwise ask yourself if she/he found out would they be devastated and destroyed by it.
I wouldn’t want to entertain those that are sneaky and going behind a loved ones back. But that’s my opinion. |
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"Live and let live. If it's not for you, fine. But save the sanctimonious, self-righteous lectures... You're not going to change the world with your moral preaching!
Everyone on here has made decisions to behave in a way that some people would find abhorrent, and let's face it, I doubt there's anyone on here that can honestly say none of their freinds, family or loved ones would be disappointed to find out they choose this lifestyle.
The simple fact is that we've all chosen a different set of morals/standards to the "norm", there are no "lines in the sand", just graduations of a spectrum that we're all on.
So maybe don't be so judgmental - most of the time you have absolutely zero idea what is going on in another person's life.
Nobody knows what’s going on in someone’s life. And no two stories are the same. I’ve said before I could probably bring the most judgemental people to tears with the story of a man I met. I’ve got no time at all for people who think they can judge when they have no idea of circumstances. None whatsoever. "
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