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over a year ago
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"  last time I asked this question I think my wording was pretty dire and I never fully explained the situation. So , there's a (singular) girl in the gym , iv noticed her noticing me .. many times .. and contrary to what you may think ..I honestly think she's "giving me the eye" ..I look up from any activity and we usually clock eyes . And I'm not embarrassed to say I usually flap it first and have to look away she's fuckin gorgeous .. now . I asked this question previously and got absolutely slaughtered but after a week of this eye fucking with her ....I think I need to ask again..so gods of fab. Am I allowed to approach this girl in the gym or what??? I feel like following her outside and trying to strike up a conversation is borderline stalking . So . Any advice will be nice. Please thanks and don't bite me head of "
Next time you look up and shes looking at you,don't look away, smile.
If anything is going to happen, let it happen organically.
I think previously it came across as wow all these fit birds in the gym I'm gonna approach them all.
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"Given the responses from last time, I’d simply offer that you’re a grown adult, so do what you like. You don’t need permission or validation from us. "
I appreciate that mate . The validation seeking was just banter .. but I do genuinely need advice I'm a big shitbag when approaching women tbh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd atleast make a point of walking past her and saying hello on your way by. It's a start if nothing else.
Or you could as you mentioned, follow her outside one time and ask for a name/number. The braver option but she might well appreciate you taking control of the situation.
Good luck either way |
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"Ask her “ do you come here often” .
Just speak to her  "
I want to but I was quite explicitly advised against approaching women in the gym .. we have spoke like I say hello every morning and the mandatory " have you finished with that love" ..but I wouldn't have a clue how to go further ...do I just spit it out and say you're fuckin beautiful ??? Or what haha .. I'm 75% sure I recognise her from my local pub.. but my eyesight is shit and it would just be my luck if it was someone else |
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I never know where to look in the gym. The treadmills over-look the rest of the gym and most of the equipment faces eachother.
There's a lot of awkward eye-contact with other people
But, yeah, fuck it, just talk to her - You'll never know otherwise! |
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" last time I asked this question I think my wording was pretty dire and I never fully explained the situation. So , there's a (singular) girl in the gym , iv noticed her noticing me .. many times .. and contrary to what you may think ..I honestly think she's "giving me the eye" ..I look up from any activity and we usually clock eyes . And I'm not embarrassed to say I usually flap it first and have to look away she's fuckin gorgeous .. now . I asked this question previously and got absolutely slaughtered but after a week of this eye fucking with her ....I think I need to ask again..so gods of fab. Am I allowed to approach this girl in the gym or what??? I feel like following her outside and trying to strike up a conversation is borderline stalking . So . Any advice will be nice. Please thanks and don't bite me head of
Next time you look up and shes looking at you,don't look away, smile.
If anything is going to happen, let it happen organically.
I think previously it came across as wow all these fit birds in the gym I'm gonna approach them all.
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Yeah I think so too . I'm definitely not handsome enough or fit enough to be approaching them all hahaha.. I meant one in particular but I guess it was my wording. so my bad . We've passed that point too .. i've done the smile thing a few times and it's always reciprocated but iv got no idea what to do next |
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"Ask her “ do you come here often” .
Just speak to her
I want to but I was quite explicitly advised against approaching women in the gym .. we have spoke like I say hello every morning and the mandatory " have you finished with that love" ..but I wouldn't have a clue how to go further ...do I just spit it out and say you're fuckin beautiful ??? Or what haha .. I'm 75% sure I recognise her from my local pub.. but my eyesight is shit and it would just be my luck if it was someone else "
Next time you say hello add "how are you today?" it allows her to answer and hopefully ask you. Then you say something like " I'm good but I wish it wasn't leg day" or whatever gym people say. Basically ask a question that can be followed up, it's how conversations get going. You need to lay the groundwork as does she. |
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"Is she looking at you, or does she just want to use the equipment you're using and Is looking to see when you've finished using it? "
Well tbh I thought that at first ..and often we do switch equipment.but the gyms sort of split into two sections and it's been long distance smiles too. Haha, I'm just being weak I think . I should strike up some sort of conversation . I'll have to plan my move |
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Be polite, don't over do it.
A simple ..... Excuse me, would you fancy going for a drink with me some time?
Doesn't have to be a drink, can be whatever you choose.
If she says No, just smile, then reply ..... No problem.
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"I never know where to look in the gym. The treadmills over-look the rest of the gym and most of the equipment faces eachother.
There's a lot of awkward eye-contact with other people
But, yeah, fuck it, just talk to her - You'll never know otherwise!"
When I first started going I used to look down ...but my mantits kept smacking me in the face so they forced me to look up . Now I'm looking up because Im starting to feel the benefits of going the gym.. it's a progressive cycle I guess |
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"Be polite, don't over do it.
A simple ..... Excuse me, would you fancy going for a drink with me some time?
Doesn't have to be a drink, can be whatever you choose.
If she says No, just smile, then reply ..... No problem.
No dramas"
The no part is my biggest fear .. haha I'd probably never return to the gym . And all my recent progress would be lost haha it's soul destroying getting the knock back. I'd imagine it's Especially demeaning when sober |
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By *l6789Man
over a year ago
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When she is doing her squats come up behind her and right as she is going down slap her bum and tell her she has a real peach of an arse. I’m sure she will then come find you on the bench press and sit on ur face to let you know she is interested.
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"Just wave your penis at her all seductive like, see if she takes the bait.
Does this ever work?
Yes, but you have to use actual bait 
Also, hope you get to chat with this person OP!  "
Cheers mate, if all else fails I'll resort to this tactic.. .. iv heard the gym in prison has no distractions |
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"When she is doing her squats come up behind her and right as she is going down slap her bum and tell her she has a real peach of an arse. I’m sure she will then come find you on the bench press and sit on ur face to let you know she is interested.
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.hahahahaha can't say I have fantasized this |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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So you are asking for assistance on how to approach her instead of if you should approach her?
If so then be yourself. Nothing anyone says here will be of any use to you, unless you read from your phone whole talking to her.
You have convinced yourself that she is looking at you, so what do you have to lose?
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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago
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Does anyone else remember the days when it was considered normal to approach a human being in a real life situation and say hello?
We never used to think someone was creepy, no matter what the situation (maybe in a changing room or something would be weird) as long as they were polite.
I miss that.
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"So you are asking for assistance on how to approach her instead of if you should approach her?
If so then be yourself. Nothing anyone says here will be of any use to you, unless you read from your phone whole talking to her.
You have convinced yourself that she is looking at you, so what do you have to lose?
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Yeah you're right nothing to lose I guess. My go to line would be something shit though like fancy going for a steak . Or fancy going for a drink sometime and I honestly don't think that would interest anyone whilst training and trying to be healthy. Where do healthy people have socials ???? |
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"But what happens if you pull it off and it turns out shes married but wants you to get your cock out shes horngry what you doing then? "
.I don't think I could go through with it . Obviously the temptation would be hard to resist ..but i do have empathy ..and I wouldn't want anyone doing that to me ..fucking good question though mate, I hope she's not married or attached it's one of the biggest things stopping me from asking her out . An I don't wanna stare too hard to see if she's got a ring on |
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over a year ago
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"But what happens if you pull it off and it turns out shes married but wants you to get your cock out shes horngry what you doing then?
.I don't think I could go through with it . Obviously the temptation would be hard to resist ..but i do have empathy ..and I wouldn't want anyone doing that to me ..fucking good question though mate, I hope she's not married or attached it's one of the biggest things stopping me from asking her out . An I don't wanna stare too hard to see if she's got a ring on "
id personally take a ring off if im working out it could bend or snap just saying |
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"Just stare at her and give her your best diamond eye wink and then keep licking your lips. This always works.
Good luck.  "
I'd look like someone on day release from a nuthouse  haha cheers tho man |
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"But what happens if you pull it off and it turns out shes married but wants you to get your cock out shes horngry what you doing then?
.I don't think I could go through with it . Obviously the temptation would be hard to resist ..but i do have empathy ..and I wouldn't want anyone doing that to me ..fucking good question though mate, I hope she's not married or attached it's one of the biggest things stopping me from asking her out . An I don't wanna stare too hard to see if she's got a ring on id personally take a ring off if im working out it could bend or snap just saying "
.yeah true. Guess i'll just have to take the plunge ... Fuck knows what I'll say ..but there's always hope  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tricky to start a conversation when someone's in the middle of their program.
Wait till she takes a kidney break, be using a piece of equipment where she's likely to be walking back in, great time to start a conversation.
Open up with something like "have you been for a shit then luv" or "did you just shake your lettuce"
Can't fail.......
If all else fails, just say hello.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you are asking for assistance on how to approach her instead of if you should approach her?
If so then be yourself. Nothing anyone says here will be of any use to you, unless you read from your phone whole talking to her.
You have convinced yourself that she is looking at you, so what do you have to lose?
Yeah you're right nothing to lose I guess. My go to line would be something shit though like fancy going for a steak . Or fancy going for a drink sometime and I honestly don't think that would interest anyone whilst training and trying to be healthy. Where do healthy people have socials ???? "
Unless she's a strict bodybuilder, I don't think she'd have a problem with it...
People who go to the gym still do normal social stuff... usually, anyway...
Or is there a club I don't know about where they all do strip-squats and chug protein drinks? |
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"So you are asking for assistance on how to approach her instead of if you should approach her?
If so then be yourself. Nothing anyone says here will be of any use to you, unless you read from your phone whole talking to her.
You have convinced yourself that she is looking at you, so what do you have to lose?
Yeah you're right nothing to lose I guess. My go to line would be something shit though like fancy going for a steak . Or fancy going for a drink sometime and I honestly don't think that would interest anyone whilst training and trying to be healthy. Where do healthy people have socials ????
Unless she's a strict bodybuilder, I don't think she'd have a problem with it...
People who go to the gym still do normal social stuff... usually, anyway...
Or is there a club I don't know about where they all do strip-squats and chug protein drinks? "
Yeah I was overexaggerating If she doesn't like a steak and a few drinks though she's probably not my type of girl anyway .. I'm not just interested in her looks tbh..but I'm impressed with her training and her dedication and I think if all else fails ..asking her out and telling her I think she's looking gorgeous might just lift her confidence or make her day better .. can't lose really can I...but if she rejects me I'll just have to move gym |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Smile and wave.
Just don't do what I did once, which was try to sign across a noisy room "do you want a drink?". It looks like you are asking for a BJ. "
Did you do the tongue pressed in your cheek action too? |
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"Smear peanut butter on your penis.
If she licks it off then you’re in.
It seems like she's on a bit of a health kick at the moment, can you recommend a low calorie brand? "
Swap the peanut butter for marmite that’s healthier.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Next time you lock eyes, smile, quick wave and mouth ‘hello’.
If you get a good response then ‘accidentally’ walk past her when she’s between sets snd say hello.
If she gives you the middle finger and mouths ‘f-ck off’ then I’d prob give her a wide berth!
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I’d proffer that basic gym etiquette is “never ever speak to a lone woman at the gym unless she approaches first.”
That said, if you get out before her and hang around outside texting, and happen to look up as she comes out the door, it may be more acceptable. |
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Christ people are really making a big deal out of this.
Wait until she's finished working out.
Walk up say hi introduce yourself.
Ask her if she wants to go for a coffee sometime.
If yes game on.
If no then what harm done other than a slightly bruised ego.
Job done.
Now grow a pair son and go for it. |
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"Christ people are really making a big deal out of this.
Wait until she's finished working out.
Walk up say hi introduce yourself.
Ask her if she wants to go for a coffee sometime.
If yes game on.
If no then what harm done other than a slightly bruised ego.
Job done.
Now grow a pair son and go for it."
This is the response |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You already know my feelings on chatting up women in the gym so it’s pointless me saying it again because I feel like no matter what you’re eventually going to approach this woman.
What I will say is that there’s plenty of ways for you to naturally start a conversation without following her or interrupting her workout. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be polite, don't over do it.
A simple ..... Excuse me, would you fancy going for a drink with me some time?
Doesn't have to be a drink, can be whatever you choose.
If she says No, just smile, then reply ..... No problem.
No dramas"
Then just find a new gym |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your there to work out
If your checking out woman your not working out hard anuff and that’s just facts
Rubbish "
Definitely not rubbish if you time to check people out your not working out hard anuff trust in that one
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just ask her out.
If she is smiling and holding eye contact she’s giving signals.
What’s the worst that can happen? You have to change your gym routine! |
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By *al kalMan
over a year ago
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I would start with a simple convo first time round.
Not that I have any experience talking to ladies in the gym!
Does she use a machine you don’t use? Perhaps just ask her how does she find that particular machine, is it useful?
If you get a friendly open response introduce yourself at some point. Doesn’t have to be a long chat, just keep it light and chilled.
You got this…. |
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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
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"Given the responses from last time, I’d simply offer that you’re a grown adult, so do what you like. You don’t need permission or validation from us.
I appreciate that mate . The validation seeking was just banter .. but I do genuinely need advice I'm a big shitbag when approaching women tbh "
Have you got over the line with, Hi, yet?
Try that first. Once you've established a few greetings with Hi, it is time to progress to, Hi, how are you?
I hope you have enjoyed this free course. For all your dating hot tips please join us at the introductory price of just £77. Your ideal partner is just a click away.
In all seriousness, just say Hi, and once you have gauged the response to Hi as favourable, move to Hi, how are you. A conversation is now going to happen |
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"Be polite, don't over do it.
A simple ..... Excuse me, would you fancy going for a drink with me some time?
Doesn't have to be a drink, can be whatever you choose.
If she says No, just smile, then reply ..... No problem.
No dramas
The no part is my biggest fear .. haha I'd probably never return to the gym . And all my recent progress would be lost haha it's soul destroying getting the knock back. I'd imagine it's Especially demeaning when sober "
There can be many reasons she may say no that are not based around you.
Don't let ego rule you, mate.
There's nothing lost if she says no.
From my perspective, it's best knowing so you can go forward, rather than staying in one place in the hope she has interest and the nerve to say so.
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"Do you really need a bunch of strangers telling you what you should do.
You are a grown man....make your own decisions!"
There’s been a very strong effort the past 2-3 years telling all men we are doing everything wrong and to question what we are doing. I don’t think it’s an unfair question to ask. Especially when some people will say go for it, and others will liken talking to a female in the gym as sexual harassment
As for me, I’d say don’t do it. Plenty of women to fuck that don’t go to your gym. Don’t shit where you eat |
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..."
And go from there "
Im kind of past that stage now ..I'm just gonna ask if she wants to go for a drink or a bite to eat . Fuck it I'm gonna do it tomorrow if she's there .. fingers crossed . If not .nothing ventured nothing gained I guess . I think rejection will not make me feel as bad as not asking her will..it's driving me mad trying to work up the courage |
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..."
And go from there
Im kind of past that stage now ..I'm just gonna ask if she wants to go for a drink or a bite to eat . Fuck it I'm gonna do it tomorrow if she's there .. fingers crossed . If not .nothing ventured nothing gained I guess . I think rejection will not make me feel as bad as not asking her will..it's driving me mad trying to work up the courage "
Yes! Do it! Good luck |
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..."
And go from there
Im kind of past that stage now ..I'm just gonna ask if she wants to go for a drink or a bite to eat . Fuck it I'm gonna do it tomorrow if she's there .. fingers crossed . If not .nothing ventured nothing gained I guess . I think rejection will not make me feel as bad as not asking her will..it's driving me mad trying to work up the courage "
That's the thirsty approach |
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..."
And go from there
Im kind of past that stage now ..I'm just gonna ask if she wants to go for a drink or a bite to eat . Fuck it I'm gonna do it tomorrow if she's there .. fingers crossed . If not .nothing ventured nothing gained I guess . I think rejection will not make me feel as bad as not asking her will..it's driving me mad trying to work up the courage "
If it's a no, it's a no, nothing changes, you haven't lost anything.
Just keep on doing your thing. There's no need for any sort of discomfort if that's the reply.
Though, It'll never be a yes if you don't try.
Good Luck.
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..."
And go from there
Im kind of past that stage now ..I'm just gonna ask if she wants to go for a drink or a bite to eat . Fuck it I'm gonna do it tomorrow if she's there .. fingers crossed . If not .nothing ventured nothing gained I guess . I think rejection will not make me feel as bad as not asking her will..it's driving me mad trying to work up the courage
That's the thirsty approach "
Thirsty and hungry.. I'll offer her food and drink |
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"Just say " Hi, I see you come here often like myself, if you ever need any help or anything let me know..."
And go from there
Im kind of past that stage now ..I'm just gonna ask if she wants to go for a drink or a bite to eat . Fuck it I'm gonna do it tomorrow if she's there .. fingers crossed . If not .nothing ventured nothing gained I guess . I think rejection will not make me feel as bad as not asking her will..it's driving me mad trying to work up the courage
If it's a no, it's a no, nothing changes, you haven't lost anything.
Just keep on doing your thing. There's no need for any sort of discomfort if that's the reply.
Though, It'll never be a yes if you don't try.
Good Luck.
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True that.. in gonna go for it . Thanks |
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What's the worse that can happen really?
Don't approach her mid set and dint be creepy but catch her on her way out maybe and simply ask her if she fancies a coffee perhaps.
How do you know she's single single though? |
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"Ask her “ do you come here often” .
Just speak to her
I want to but I was quite explicitly advised against approaching women in the gym .. we have spoke like I say hello every morning and the mandatory " have you finished with that love" ..but I wouldn't have a clue how to go further ...do I just spit it out and say you're fuckin beautiful ??? Or what haha .. I'm 75% sure I recognise her from my local pub.. but my eyesight is shit and it would just be my luck if it was someone else "
Next time you see the doppelgänger in the pub ask the gym girl whether she “was in the dog and duck last night?” If no, then roll with it |
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Ok I've said my bit earlier in the thread but also you could try.
Just as she's walking past
"999,1000,1001 phew! Hey I did over a thousand you know you may of heard me counting"
Ron Burgundy styles
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"Is she looking at you, or does she just want to use the equipment you're using and Is looking to see when you've finished using it? "
This would be me. |
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