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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The manners thing annoys me.
I get told constantly I have no manners because I don't reply to random guys I have no intention of ever meeting. "
I wouldn't consider that "ghosting" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The manners thing annoys me.
I get told constantly I have no manners because I don't reply to random guys I have no intention of ever meeting.
I wouldn't consider that "ghosting" "
But ghosting is not necessarily a lack of manners.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Speaking from experience (again)
But whats up with manners these day's?"
In what context?
Like people not replying to you?
Or having conversations then them vanishing? |
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"The manners thing annoys me.
I get told constantly I have no manners because I don't reply to random guys I have no intention of ever meeting.
I wouldn't consider that "ghosting"
But ghosting is not necessarily a lack of manners.
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I disagree, but I think the example you have wasn't ghosting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The manners thing annoys me.
I get told constantly I have no manners because I don't reply to random guys I have no intention of ever meeting.
I wouldn't consider that "ghosting"
But ghosting is not necessarily a lack of manners.
I disagree, but I think the example you have wasn't ghosting "
Well I know that. I was referring to the manners part. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no one owes anyone anything on here being ghosted is being used for anything now days ...the convo went dead or someone changed there mind its that simple..
i get guys chatting and some start off great with spark and me interested but then comes the boring sob stories and shit i did not sign up for a guess what dead end convo and then i get accused of ghosting them lol no you bored me to death  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ghosting isn't right on anyone's part , absolutely no problem if a person isn't the right " type " but don't lead a person on or up the garden path in chatting etc if you know in your heart & soul that you will never meet , it ain't right and it certainly ain't cool. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ghosting isn’t dropping a chat. Getting to the pint you dare not reply to anyone in case you decide you’re not interested and you’re labelled a time waster or a ghost. Seems to be an expectation if you reply and chat you’ve agreed to a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ghosting isn't right on anyone's part , absolutely no problem if a person isn't the right " type " but don't lead a person on or up the garden path in chatting etc if you know in your heart & soul that you will never meet , it ain't right and it certainly ain't cool."
Not necessarily. We can be talking to someone for weeks and they can say or do something that makes us ghost them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find this interesting, as when people have spoken to ladies regarding dating apps etc (I know this isn't one) a lot have feedback and said they felt used/unwanted etc when a guy didn't respond and would have apppricated if they said thankyou but no thankyou.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How long does it have to be before it’s classed as ghosting?
Or how many messages have to be ignored before it’s classed as ghosting?
Just curious what other people would class as ghosted max "
We class it as ghosted when we’re arranging a meet. It gets to the point of setting a date and then silence or we’ve arranged it and then hear no more. |
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I ghost because I can’t be bothered with the drama
Sorry but a few bad apples ruined the bunch. I tried not ghosting and the drama and abuse trying to tell a woman no, not worth it.
I just block and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How long does it have to be before it’s classed as ghosting?
Or how many messages have to be ignored before it’s classed as ghosting?
Just curious what other people would class as ghosted max
We class it as ghosted when we’re arranging a meet. It gets to the point of setting a date and then silence or we’ve arranged it and then hear no more."
this.
Anything else is just a conversation reaching its natural course. Okay, it feels odd when you've just asked a question or something, but that's coz you cant read engagement on line. You think you are scintillating company. The other person has moved from thinking you could be interesting to a one of those salesmen that keep asking questions to try and win back the sale. |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ? "
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How long does it have to be before it’s classed as ghosting?
Or how many messages have to be ignored before it’s classed as ghosting?
Just curious what other people would class as ghosted max
We class it as ghosted when we’re arranging a meet. It gets to the point of setting a date and then silence or we’ve arranged it and then hear no more."
This is what I’d class ghosting as too…
I think the word is thrown around too much tbh. |
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties "
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night "
People lie on fab?!! |
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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night "
Ha ha this actually made me laugh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night
People lie on fab?!!"
Only about little things. Their cocks for example |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can only really be ghosted by someone you let in and in that case it can be painful and feel like you were abandoned as unimportant with a stranger who the hell cares |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can only really be ghosted by someone you let in and in that case it can be painful and feel like you were abandoned as unimportant with a stranger who the hell cares "
I’ll never leave you. |
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night "
Some clever app developer people could work out a way of doing it .. If it was an app instead of a webpage it would probably be alot easier to do .. I do agree though I would have had more red flags than the Chinese Olympics after last night but ...you remembered me . I feel touched . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can only really be ghosted by someone you let in and in that case it can be painful and feel like you were abandoned as unimportant with a stranger who the hell cares
I’ll never leave you. "
my dog said that too the traitor |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties "
I like that idea |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night
Some clever app developer people could work out a way of doing it .. If it was an app instead of a webpage it would probably be alot easier to do .. I do agree though I would have had more red flags than the Chinese Olympics after last night but ...you remembered me . I feel touched ."
Hard to forget you tbh, you really upset the apple cart. Thought you got banned in fact
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night
Some clever app developer people could work out a way of doing it .. If it was an app instead of a webpage it would probably be alot easier to do .. I do agree though I would have had more red flags than the Chinese Olympics after last night but ...you remembered me . I feel touched ."
I suggested something similar a while back and someone much cleverer than me pointed out that as long as sex is involved Apple wouldn’t add it to the AppStore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can only really be ghosted by someone you let in and in that case it can be painful and feel like you were abandoned as unimportant with a stranger who the hell cares
I’ll never leave you. my dog said that too the traitor"
Mine too actually now you mention it.
I’ll definitely leave you.
It’s inevitable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night "
Well the ghosted would leave the veri |
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night
Some clever app developer people could work out a way of doing it .. If it was an app instead of a webpage it would probably be alot easier to do .. I do agree though I would have had more red flags than the Chinese Olympics after last night but ...you remembered me . I feel touched .
Hard to forget you tbh, you really upset the apple cart. Thought you got banned in fact
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Sorry to disappoint |
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night
Well the ghosted would leave the veri "
Ah, I'll visit and verify you any day  x |
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night
Some clever app developer people could work out a way of doing it .. If it was an app instead of a webpage it would probably be alot easier to do .. I do agree though I would have had more red flags than the Chinese Olympics after last night but ...you remembered me . I feel touched .
I suggested something similar a while back and someone much cleverer than me pointed out that as long as sex is involved Apple wouldn’t add it to the AppStore."
That's a valid point if its true. Is that why it's a webpage and not an app then ? Makes sense . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night
People lie on fab?!!
Only about little things. Their cocks for example "
I'd never lie about mine. |
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties "
What would stop the guy that I said no thanks to this morning, who went on to call me a fat cunt, 'reporting' me for ghosting him?
Or me deciding I don't like your post so red ticking you?
It would be absolutely open to abuse, just as name and shame would. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night
Well the ghosted would leave the veri
Ah, I'll visit and verify you any day x"
Awwwww |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"But anyway OP.
In what context are manners relevant?
Did you talk for a while first?
Or did somebody just not reply?"
I'm not bothered by the act generally, I'm thicker skinned than that it was just a question as to why its easier to ignore than it is to actually say whatever you feel negatively |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night
Some clever app developer people could work out a way of doing it .. If it was an app instead of a webpage it would probably be alot easier to do .. I do agree though I would have had more red flags than the Chinese Olympics after last night but ...you remembered me . I feel touched .
I suggested something similar a while back and someone much cleverer than me pointed out that as long as sex is involved Apple wouldn’t add it to the AppStore.
That's a valid point if its true. Is that why it's a webpage and not an app then ? Makes sense . "
I think so. An app would make it a lot easier but it would have to be a third party app. Fine if you’re on Android but I’d guess at least half of fab users are using Apple devices. |
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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
What would stop the guy that I said no thanks to this morning, who went on to call me a fat cunt, 'reporting' me for ghosting him?
Or me deciding I don't like your post so red ticking you?
It would be absolutely open to abuse, just as name and shame would."
It’s true… I would defo red tick people for fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
What would stop the guy that I said no thanks to this morning, who went on to call me a fat cunt, 'reporting' me for ghosting him?
Or me deciding I don't like your post so red ticking you?
It would be absolutely open to abuse, just as name and shame would.
It’s true… I would defo red tick people for fun "
I’m red green colour blind. I’d think someone with 20 red ticks was as genuine as they come. |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Should you be allowed to call ghosters out ?
No, as previous posters say you have no idea of circumstances. And it would appear many people have differing ideas on what ghosting entails
P
Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
It’s too easy for people to lie though. Imagine how many you’d have after your thread last night
Some clever app developer people could work out a way of doing it .. If it was an app instead of a webpage it would probably be alot easier to do .. I do agree though I would have had more red flags than the Chinese Olympics after last night but ...you remembered me . I feel touched .
Hard to forget you tbh, you really upset the apple cart. Thought you got banned in fact
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Sorry to disappoint "
No disappointment on my side, merely a statement of fact
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But anyway OP.
In what context are manners relevant?
Did you talk for a while first?
Or did somebody just not reply?
I'm not bothered by the act generally, I'm thicker skinned than that it was just a question as to why its easier to ignore than it is to actually say whatever you feel negatively "
Maybe they didn’t want to hurt your feelings?
Maybe yours was the 10th, 11th, 12th message that day?
Nobody owes anybody a reply, that’s not a lack of manners.
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
What would stop the guy that I said no thanks to this morning, who went on to call me a fat cunt, 'reporting' me for ghosting him?
Or me deciding I don't like your post so red ticking you?
It would be absolutely open to abuse, just as name and shame would."
. verification is open to abuse too though ...
I guess in principle it would work like this . You'd have to join the meet list...then if your two phones werent connected by the end of a 24 hour period (or any period really) then the meet would be failed and you'd both get a red tick . Nobody should be able to hide their red ticks like they can their veris . |
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
What would stop the guy that I said no thanks to this morning, who went on to call me a fat cunt, 'reporting' me for ghosting him?
Or me deciding I don't like your post so red ticking you?
It would be absolutely open to abuse, just as name and shame would.
It’s true… I would defo red tick people for fun
I’m red green colour blind. I’d think someone with 20 red ticks was as genuine as they come."
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"But anyway OP.
In what context are manners relevant?
Did you talk for a while first?
Or did somebody just not reply?
I'm not bothered by the act generally, I'm thicker skinned than that it was just a question as to why its easier to ignore than it is to actually say whatever you feel negatively
Maybe they didn’t want to hurt your feelings?
Maybe yours was the 10th, 11th, 12th message that day?
Nobody owes anybody a reply, that’s not a lack of manners.
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This is my opinion. Far too many entitled people on the internet. Yes it would be nice to get closure but it's just not realistic to think that's possible all the time.
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By *l6789Man
over a year ago
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Ghosting says more about them than you, depends on the situation but if the chat just dies then it wasn’t really there.
But if they make plans with you then just ghost that’s a bit different as it shows a lack of maturity, and insecure on their side to not be upfront. I’m sure either side of the fence men and women would agree we would rather be just told than left without a bit of closure.
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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago
Bath |
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
What would stop the guy that I said no thanks to this morning, who went on to call me a fat cunt, 'reporting' me for ghosting him?
Or me deciding I don't like your post so red ticking you?
It would be absolutely open to abuse, just as name and shame would.
. verification is open to abuse too though ...
I guess in principle it would work like this . You'd have to join the meet list...then if your two phones werent connected by the end of a 24 hour period (or any period really) then the meet would be failed and you'd both get a red tick . Nobody should be able to hide their red ticks like they can their veris . "
You can hide verifications though… there would be no getting away from the red rock of doom |
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
What would stop the guy that I said no thanks to this morning, who went on to call me a fat cunt, 'reporting' me for ghosting him?
Or me deciding I don't like your post so red ticking you?
It would be absolutely open to abuse, just as name and shame would.
. verification is open to abuse too though ...
I guess in principle it would work like this . You'd have to join the meet list...then if your two phones werent connected by the end of a 24 hour period (or any period really) then the meet would be failed and you'd both get a red tick . Nobody should be able to hide their red ticks like they can their veris .
You can hide verifications though… there would be no getting away from the red rock of doom "
Nope  . Marked for life . Just so nobody can be disappointed and ghosted by you in future. I don't use the term "ghosting" in reference to blanking messages ..only meets |
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
What would stop the guy that I said no thanks to this morning, who went on to call me a fat cunt, 'reporting' me for ghosting him?
Or me deciding I don't like your post so red ticking you?
It would be absolutely open to abuse, just as name and shame would.
. verification is open to abuse too though ...
I guess in principle it would work like this . You'd have to join the meet list...then if your two phones werent connected by the end of a 24 hour period (or any period really) then the meet would be failed and you'd both get a red tick . Nobody should be able to hide their red ticks like they can their veris . "
It is open to abuse - which is why most people don't take it too seriously.
So both people would get a fail if their phones don't meet? How would that work with people like me who invited 5 guys round (all verified profiles) and only 2 turn up. They'd all get one red tick and my profile would be trashed by three?
How would that be fair when I was exactly where I said I would be?
Then again how would Fab know if I said "I was there" and they said "No she wasn't, I was"?
Obviously in that case the fact two others were would back me up, but otherwise how would Fab know who was lying and who wasn't? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not bothered if I get ghosted....easy to move on!"
Kinda how the thread started, I was just asking has it become a manners thing...I'm seriously not bothered |
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
What would stop the guy that I said no thanks to this morning, who went on to call me a fat cunt, 'reporting' me for ghosting him?
Or me deciding I don't like your post so red ticking you?
It would be absolutely open to abuse, just as name and shame would.
. verification is open to abuse too though ...
I guess in principle it would work like this . You'd have to join the meet list...then if your two phones werent connected by the end of a 24 hour period (or any period really) then the meet would be failed and you'd both get a red tick . Nobody should be able to hide their red ticks like they can their veris .
It is open to abuse - which is why most people don't take it too seriously.
So both people would get a fail if their phones don't meet? How would that work with people like me who invited 5 guys round (all verified profiles) and only 2 turn up. They'd all get one red tick and my profile would be trashed by three?
How would that be fair when I was exactly where I said I would be?
Then again how would Fab know if I said "I was there" and they said "No she wasn't, I was"?
Obviously in that case the fact two others were would back me up, but otherwise how would Fab know who was lying and who wasn't?"
As an app ..easy . There's a feature on some dating sites and snapchat that tells you how close to other users you are .. the same would work for fab . You couldn't blag it . And no your profile wouldn't get trashed only the ghost gets the red tick the person or people who attended wouldnt . |
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
What would stop the guy that I said no thanks to this morning, who went on to call me a fat cunt, 'reporting' me for ghosting him?
Or me deciding I don't like your post so red ticking you?
It would be absolutely open to abuse, just as name and shame would.
. verification is open to abuse too though ...
I guess in principle it would work like this . You'd have to join the meet list...then if your two phones werent connected by the end of a 24 hour period (or any period really) then the meet would be failed and you'd both get a red tick . Nobody should be able to hide their red ticks like they can their veris .
It is open to abuse - which is why most people don't take it too seriously.
So both people would get a fail if their phones don't meet? How would that work with people like me who invited 5 guys round (all verified profiles) and only 2 turn up. They'd all get one red tick and my profile would be trashed by three?
How would that be fair when I was exactly where I said I would be?
Then again how would Fab know if I said "I was there" and they said "No she wasn't, I was"?
Obviously in that case the fact two others were would back me up, but otherwise how would Fab know who was lying and who wasn't?
As an app ..easy . There's a feature on some dating sites and snapchat that tells you how close to other users you are .. the same would work for fab . You couldn't blag it . And no your profile wouldn't get trashed only the ghost gets the red tick the person or people who attended wouldnt . "
How is the app going to know who turned up and who didn’t?
You say “I turned up”, they say “I turned up” how do the app know who was in the meeting place and who wasn’t? |
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"Ghosting isn't right on anyone's part , absolutely no problem if a person isn't the right " type " but don't lead a person on or up the garden path in chatting etc if you know in your heart & soul that you will never meet , it ain't right and it certainly ain't cool.
Not necessarily. We can be talking to someone for weeks and they can say or do something that makes us ghost them. "
Ghosting isn't right or proper , ghosting , to me ,is only when a person doesn't turn up , you can chat away but if you don't reply is just that ..a non reply... ghosting to me is when you have arranged to meet and prepared for such and then nothing , everybody probably had a different take on Ghosting but to me a non reply isn't ghosting cause nothing has been arranged but when a person has agreed to meet and doesn't show without any explanation or thought ..that to me is ghosting. |
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"So you have to tell fab where you are meeting ?
Sure. Or it could be anonymous.
Aslong as the users who agreed to meet and their phones were registered at the same location. "
but if they didn't meet you'd not know who ghosted whom.
My best approach is to have a way of manually reporting ghosting. But you only get an amber flag after 5 reports. Red after 10. And different ppl. |
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Deal with pre-meet interaction here as tentative, investigation. Most of us are not compatible, so chats die. Understand the fab terms and accept them.
For involved relationships, I don't think it's right to drop people. But things like danger etc, may make it necessary. |
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"So you have to tell fab where you are meeting ?
Sure. Or it could be anonymous.
Aslong as the users who agreed to meet and their phones were registered at the same location. but if they didn't meet you'd not know who ghosted whom.
My best approach is to have a way of manually reporting ghosting. But you only get an amber flag after 5 reports. Red after 10. And different ppl. "
That's a pretty wise idea . |
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I don't really understand what ghosting is.. I'm pretty busy so I'm a flakey replier at best, but i usually catch up and then have a little spurt before becoming flakey again
The breadcrumbing threads definitely made me pull back from messaging in case people feel that I'm leading them on  |
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"I don't really understand what ghosting is.. I'm pretty busy so I'm a flakey replier at best, but i usually catch up and then have a little spurt before becoming flakey again
The breadcrumbing threads definitely made me pull back from messaging in case people feel that I'm leading them on "
Breadcrumbers can be seen to lead people on ok but it's best to state if a person wants things to develop further , least you know if a person is genuinely interested. |
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Maybe not name and shame them on the forum ..but a feature similair to the verification one could work . Green tick for veris . Red tick for ghosties
What would stop the guy that I said no thanks to this morning, who went on to call me a fat cunt, 'reporting' me for ghosting him?
Or me deciding I don't like your post so red ticking you?
It would be absolutely open to abuse, just as name and shame would."
Agreed. People would just delete their account and start again.
Positive enforcement means people stay, negative means they will work a way round it.
Anywho, time to ghost this thread |
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"So you have to tell fab where you are meeting ?
Sure. Or it could be anonymous.
Aslong as the users who agreed to meet and their phones were registered at the same location. "
But the whole point is that when you're ghosted or let down at least one phone won't be at the location.
The phones will never be at the same location so how will Fab work out who deserves the red tick? |
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"So you have to tell fab where you are meeting ?
Sure. Or it could be anonymous.
Aslong as the users who agreed to meet and their phones were registered at the same location.
But the whole point is that when you're ghosted or let down at least one phone won't be at the location.
The phones will never be at the same location so how will Fab work out who deserves the red tick?"
. Its not a hard concept to grasp I don't know if you're just willingly being ignorant or not.. you have Snapchat ? Check out the user map .. it shows you where you and your phone are ... And it shows you where other users are .. the principle is not hard to understand. You'd set the location of the meet into the app.. then once you'd arrive at the location you'd not get a red tick ... The one who doesn't arrive "ghosts" ...then gets an automatic red tick which they can't hide from |
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"So you have to tell fab where you are meeting ?
Sure. Or it could be anonymous.
Aslong as the users who agreed to meet and their phones were registered at the same location.
But the whole point is that when you're ghosted or let down at least one phone won't be at the location.
The phones will never be at the same location so how will Fab work out who deserves the red tick?. Its not a hard concept to grasp I don't know if you're just willingly being ignorant or not.. you have Snapchat ? Check out the user map .. it shows you where you and your phone are ... And it shows you where other users are .. the principle is not hard to understand. You'd set the location of the meet into the app.. then once you'd arrive at the location you'd not get a red tick ... The one who doesn't arrive "ghosts" ...then gets an automatic red tick which they can't hide from "
Errr there's no way I'm turning my location on! |
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"So you have to tell fab where you are meeting ?
Sure. Or it could be anonymous.
Aslong as the users who agreed to meet and their phones were registered at the same location.
But the whole point is that when you're ghosted or let down at least one phone won't be at the location.
The phones will never be at the same location so how will Fab work out who deserves the red tick?. Its not a hard concept to grasp I don't know if you're just willingly being ignorant or not.. you have Snapchat ? Check out the user map .. it shows you where you and your phone are ... And it shows you where other users are .. the principle is not hard to understand. You'd set the location of the meet into the app.. then once you'd arrive at the location you'd not get a red tick ... The one who doesn't arrive "ghosts" ...then gets an automatic red tick which they can't hide from
Errr there's no way I'm turning my location on! "
It's all hypothetical anyway. Like one poster before said ..the apple store won't host apps that are related to sex . So it's all irrelevant anyway . Just a thought |
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"So you have to tell fab where you are meeting ?
Sure. Or it could be anonymous.
Aslong as the users who agreed to meet and their phones were registered at the same location.
But the whole point is that when you're ghosted or let down at least one phone won't be at the location.
The phones will never be at the same location so how will Fab work out who deserves the red tick?. Its not a hard concept to grasp I don't know if you're just willingly being ignorant or not.. you have Snapchat ? Check out the user map .. it shows you where you and your phone are ... And it shows you where other users are .. the principle is not hard to understand. You'd set the location of the meet into the app.. then once you'd arrive at the location you'd not get a red tick ... The one who doesn't arrive "ghosts" ...then gets an automatic red tick which they can't hide from "
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"So you have to tell fab where you are meeting ?
Sure. Or it could be anonymous.
Aslong as the users who agreed to meet and their phones were registered at the same location.
But the whole point is that when you're ghosted or let down at least one phone won't be at the location.
The phones will never be at the same location so how will Fab work out who deserves the red tick?. Its not a hard concept to grasp I don't know if you're just willingly being ignorant or not.. you have Snapchat ? Check out the user map .. it shows you where you and your phone are ... And it shows you where other users are .. the principle is not hard to understand. You'd set the location of the meet into the app.. then once you'd arrive at the location you'd not get a red tick ... The one who doesn't arrive "ghosts" ...then gets an automatic red tick which they can't hide from "
so you do have to tell the app where you are meeting ? |
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"So you have to tell fab where you are meeting ?
Sure. Or it could be anonymous.
Aslong as the users who agreed to meet and their phones were registered at the same location.
But the whole point is that when you're ghosted or let down at least one phone won't be at the location.
The phones will never be at the same location so how will Fab work out who deserves the red tick?. Its not a hard concept to grasp I don't know if you're just willingly being ignorant or not.. you have Snapchat ? Check out the user map .. it shows you where you and your phone are ... And it shows you where other users are .. the principle is not hard to understand. You'd set the location of the meet into the app.. then once you'd arrive at the location you'd not get a red tick ... The one who doesn't arrive "ghosts" ...then gets an automatic red tick which they can't hide from "
I’m 40. I don’t have Snapchat.
And of those that I know do have it I don’t know any who allow it to track their location.
People on here often don’t use their names, never mind allow the app to track their location. |
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"So you have to tell fab where you are meeting ?
Sure. Or it could be anonymous.
Aslong as the users who agreed to meet and their phones were registered at the same location.
But the whole point is that when you're ghosted or let down at least one phone won't be at the location.
The phones will never be at the same location so how will Fab work out who deserves the red tick?. Its not a hard concept to grasp I don't know if you're just willingly being ignorant or not.. you have Snapchat ? Check out the user map .. it shows you where you and your phone are ... And it shows you where other users are .. the principle is not hard to understand. You'd set the location of the meet into the app.. then once you'd arrive at the location you'd not get a red tick ... The one who doesn't arrive "ghosts" ...then gets an automatic red tick which they can't hide from so you do have to tell the app where you are meeting ? "
And obviously the honest ghosters would never change that, or claim the location had been changed… |
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Yeah I've literally just been ghosted on a dating app.
Had a date arranged for Saturday. He messaged last night too asking me to talk on the phone before our date.
Checked this morning, his messages deleted and profile gone. Weird. |
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"Just don't invest too much into people... Self preservation!
I find men (some, not all) often come creeping back after a month or so."
Someone came creeping back after 8 months recently and was surprised I said nope!  |
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