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How do you discuss limits?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Before a meet, we tend to use bdsm-limits.com as a way to start discussions about limits and consent. It's a bit over the top but we find it reveals kinks we all share  and it helps us quickly rule out hard limits people don't remember off the top of their heads.
Not everyone will be as nerdy as us, but does anyone else do this? Maybe with a different site? Any other approaches that work well for you? |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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You might want to edit your post OP as you aren't meant to mention or link to other sites that arent on the safe list.
As for discussing limits, we don’t use a site.
We have used check lists in the past, but tend to find a discussion works best.
We discuss what they want to experience, and then we try and keep to that.
We aren’t going to do suprise buttseks if the person has only mentioned that they want a paddling.
We also don’t play hard with people on a first meet as its too risky. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest I don't discuss limits as it's easier to just get on with having fun and see where it goes. If something comes up that I don't enjoy then I am very good at redirecting the flow.
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"Before a meet, we tend to use bdsm-limits.com as a way to start discussions about limits and consent. It's a bit over the top but we find it reveals kinks we all share and it helps us quickly rule out hard limits people don't remember off the top of their heads.
Not everyone will be as nerdy as us, but does anyone else do this? Maybe with a different site? Any other approaches that work well for you?"
I'm going to get you guys Cards Against Humanity: BDSM Edition for your birthday.
Few hours of that and boundaries will be clearly marked, safe words/codes/signals will be memorised AND it's just fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I say, “see those fingers, that dildo and your tongue… keep them away from my arse and we’ll be good”
Succinct. I'm stealing that. Ta!  "
Might get that tattooed on my backside |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say, “see those fingers, that dildo and your tongue… keep them away from my arse and we’ll be good”
Succinct. I'm stealing that. Ta!
Might get that tattooed on my backside
No entry sign? "
That would probably be a cheaper tattoo. |
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"I say, “see those fingers, that dildo and your tongue… keep them away from my arse and we’ll be good”
Succinct. I'm stealing that. Ta!
Might get that tattooed on my backside
No entry sign?
That would probably be a cheaper tattoo."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've never come across this before but looks like a good idea tbh thanks OP"
It's really good for promoting discussion pre-meet - e.g. "oh yeh, I like face-fucking but not deep-throating" or "actually I don't really enjoy people going down on me, but it's not a limit".
Doesn't replace discussion, of course - but it can enhance it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm going to get you guys Cards Against Humanity: BDSM Edition for your birthday.
Few hours of that and boundaries will be clearly marked, safe words/codes/signals will be memorised AND it's just fun "
..does that really exist? That would be awesome |
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"I'm going to get you guys Cards Against Humanity: BDSM Edition for your birthday.
Few hours of that and boundaries will be clearly marked, safe words/codes/signals will be memorised AND it's just fun
..does that really exist? That would be awesome "
...upon further research and GoogleBoogling, I have discovered that I, in fact, dreamed it one time.
Let's patent it. Consent Against Humanity. Nerds need defined lines too.   |
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I'm very open about what I'm looking for and what I don't like.
If a guy then strays into my dislikes I am quite clear that I don't want to do whatever it is he's doing.
I don't have a formal list or site I use, but I do like a good bit of chat before I meet so I've never needed more. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm going to get you guys Cards Against Humanity: BDSM Edition for your birthday.
Few hours of that and boundaries will be clearly marked, safe words/codes/signals will be memorised AND it's just fun
..does that really exist? That would be awesome
...upon further research and GoogleBoogling, I have discovered that I, in fact, dreamed it one time.
Let's patent it. Consent Against Humanity. Nerds need defined lines too. "
Seems like an excellent ice-breaker for a kinky camping weekend |
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