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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
Probably not for someone that far away, unless I've known them a long time and trust they will be there, and it's the person in the photos.
I don't like travelling alone, so he would have to be pretty special to me to make the journey.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles!  "
It's a tricky one
Sometimes the connection you think you have just doesn't translate when you do meet
Sometimes it does though
I would keep the communication open but wouldn't go out of my way to meet until the situation was mutually agreeable / convenient |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I am very clear with anyone who messages me I can't do distance. I can't travel much or far and I can't afford hotels. So there is no point chatting. I am a realistic person. |
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I used to do 220 miles each way...thankfully now down to just over 100 odd. If the connection is there and feels right then to me, distance is not an obstacle. For me I love it because as each mile passes I get more excited and my butterflies go haywire knowing where my journey leads and what is in store x |
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If the connection was there then I absolutely would go for it.
I'm in the privileged position of having few commitments, being able to travel weekends and book hotels whenever wanted, so distance isn't a deciding factor for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles! "
Depends
Do you want shit - average sex? Or amazing mind blowing unforgettable sex?
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think I would travel that far to meet anyone. If by chance I was going to be in that area anyhow that's different but no I wouldn't travel that far for a meet off here no matter how well we got on and I wouldn't expect anyone to do it for me either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had a guy fly to meet me before (not a Fabber). We had a great weekend, but it is quite a pressured situation. I can remember the fear of disappointing, as he had gone to so much effort and expense. Thankfully he wasn’t disappointed, but I don’t think I’d do it again. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Personally it wouldn't be for me
As Bussy said above sometimes the connection isn't anywhere near as strong in real life and I'd never travel too far unless I could be 100% sure that they are who they say and wouldn't ghost me.
I prefer locals as we can meet for a no pressure social first and then arrange another meet if we want to after that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"300miles pffft.
Try different continents "
Unless the 3 time gym goer doesn’t bench press my body weight and leave with you.
Relatively safe bet.
A) he can’t.
B) you don’t go to the gym. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"300miles pffft.
Try different continents
Unless the 3 time gym goer doesn’t bench press my body weight and leave with you.
Relatively safe bet.
A) he can’t.
B) you don’t go to the gym."
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles! "
Wish we could invest in that sort of distance.
We simply cant travel that sort of distance for anyone and don't expect others to travel to us either.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Theres someone ive been speaking to who lives in scotland and im all the way down in south wales. The distance is a problem but we will meet half way when the time comes. And theres too much chemistry not to meet simply due to the distance
Distance is always an issue for me as nearly everyone who is interested in meeting me is fucking miles away |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a guy fly to meet me before (not a Fabber). We had a great weekend, but it is quite a pressured situation. I can remember the fear of disappointing, as he had gone to so much effort and expense. Thankfully he wasn’t disappointed, but I don’t think I’d do it again."
I've had that go wrong
Despite chatting for months beforehand, within minutes of meeting I knew it wasn't right - and that feeling was evidently mutual
The most awkward weekend of my life
I think 'politely awkward' is the best way of putting it
I shudder just thinking about it now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a guy fly to meet me before (not a Fabber). We had a great weekend, but it is quite a pressured situation. I can remember the fear of disappointing, as he had gone to so much effort and expense. Thankfully he wasn’t disappointed, but I don’t think I’d do it again.
I've had that go wrong
Despite chatting for months beforehand, within minutes of meeting I knew it wasn't right - and that feeling was evidently mutual
The most awkward weekend of my life
I think 'politely awkward' is the best way of putting it
I shudder just thinking about it now"
Oh God, Bussy, what a freaking nightmare. It just goes to show that real life chemistry is everything.
And at the end of the day, distance just isn’t practical. |
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"I’ve had a guy fly to meet me before (not a Fabber). We had a great weekend, but it is quite a pressured situation. I can remember the fear of disappointing, as he had gone to so much effort and expense. Thankfully he wasn’t disappointed, but I don’t think I’d do it again.
I've had that go wrong
Despite chatting for months beforehand, within minutes of meeting I knew it wasn't right - and that feeling was evidently mutual
The most awkward weekend of my life
I think 'politely awkward' is the best way of putting it
I shudder just thinking about it now"
Oh god I had a similar situation once, ended with me wanking while he lay next to me playing candy crush on his phone. He'd only flown from the Isle of Man to Liverpool but I could hardly wait for his flight back home again.
On the other end of the spectrum I flew several hundred miles out of my way to stay with someone I'd been chatting to in America and that was completely amazing. I also had an american FB who used to fly to London for work, I'd get the train down there and we'd have the most glorious weekends together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a guy fly to meet me before (not a Fabber). We had a great weekend, but it is quite a pressured situation. I can remember the fear of disappointing, as he had gone to so much effort and expense. Thankfully he wasn’t disappointed, but I don’t think I’d do it again.
I've had that go wrong
Despite chatting for months beforehand, within minutes of meeting I knew it wasn't right - and that feeling was evidently mutual
The most awkward weekend of my life
I think 'politely awkward' is the best way of putting it
I shudder just thinking about it now
Oh god I had a similar situation once, ended with me wanking while he lay next to me playing candy crush on his phone. "
Oh that's had me howling 
I think that may have been preferable tbh |
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"I’ve had a guy fly to meet me before (not a Fabber). We had a great weekend, but it is quite a pressured situation. I can remember the fear of disappointing, as he had gone to so much effort and expense. Thankfully he wasn’t disappointed, but I don’t think I’d do it again.
I've had that go wrong
Despite chatting for months beforehand, within minutes of meeting I knew it wasn't right - and that feeling was evidently mutual
The most awkward weekend of my life
I think 'politely awkward' is the best way of putting it
I shudder just thinking about it now
Oh god I had a similar situation once, ended with me wanking while he lay next to me playing candy crush on his phone.
Oh that's had me howling
I think that may have been preferable tbh"
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I once did a surprise visit to a friend I knew via online video chat room & the phone, 270 miles from Scunthorpe to Stranraer, rang them once i'd arrived to meet them, total disaster! We did meet up but was driving back home 15 mins later and we barely spoke again. Lesson learnt!
Have had some good pre-arranged long distance meetings with previously un-met friends though. |
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By *l6789Man
over a year ago
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles! "
I had a great relationship with a woman for a year she lived in Lisbon, we made time and saw each other regularly. Distance is only an obstacle if you can’t make time for one another |
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"I used to do 220 miles each way...thankfully now down to just over 100 odd. If the connection is there and feels right then to me, distance is not an obstacle. For me I love it because as each mile passes I get more excited and my butterflies go haywire knowing where my journey leads and what is in store x"
I'm with you on this, Sparkle, excitement and not expectation, a few saucy messages or sneaky photos makes the journey pass that much more quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles! "
No. I wouldn't even be chatting to them. |
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"I’ve had a guy fly to meet me before (not a Fabber). We had a great weekend, but it is quite a pressured situation. I can remember the fear of disappointing, as he had gone to so much effort and expense. Thankfully he wasn’t disappointed, but I don’t think I’d do it again."
Dieu, you never leave your postcode! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles!
I had a great relationship with a woman for a year she lived in Lisbon, we made time and saw each other regularly. Distance is only an obstacle if you can’t make time for one another "
Distance is an obstacle if you can't afford the travel or the time to see the person. Some of us have families and commitments. My money goes to my kids' needs not mine. |
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles!
I had a great relationship with a woman for a year she lived in Lisbon, we made time and saw each other regularly. Distance is only an obstacle if you can’t make time for one another
Distance is an obstacle if you can't afford the travel or the time to see the person. Some of us have families and commitments. My money goes to my kids' needs not mine. "
I appreciate I'm in a privileged position and I never assume other people are in the same situation. |
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By *ig Baps OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"I used to do 220 miles each way...thankfully now down to just over 100 odd. If the connection is there and feels right then to me, distance is not an obstacle. For me I love it because as each mile passes I get more excited and my butterflies go haywire knowing where my journey leads and what is in store x"
Love this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles!
I had a great relationship with a woman for a year she lived in Lisbon, we made time and saw each other regularly. Distance is only an obstacle if you can’t make time for one another
Distance is an obstacle if you can't afford the travel or the time to see the person. Some of us have families and commitments. My money goes to my kids' needs not mine.
I appreciate I'm in a privileged position and I never assume other people are in the same situation."
Ah I know. I guess I find it frustrating that so many men have tried to argue with me about distance over the last couple of years. I am really clear when they contact me if they're too far away. And then they start negotiating about MY boundaries. |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
I’ve done it. First meet both of us drove halfway. After that we drove to each other’s homes. Me more often because I could get the time off easier. We also met up a few times in other cities for weekends away. I loved it seeing the sites and some rather hot sex. I’d do it again for the right person. I don’t mind travelling, it’s fun |
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles! "
It's a train ride or a flight so sit back, relax, and let the excitement build, absolutely love it. |
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By *ig Baps OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles!
Depends
Do you want shit - average sex? Or amazing mind blowing unforgettable sex?
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Definitely the mind blowing! Which I know it will be! |
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles!
Depends
Do you want shit - average sex? Or amazing mind blowing unforgettable sex?
Definitely the mind blowing! Which I know it will be! "
Woohoo, you go for it! |
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"I used to do 220 miles each way...thankfully now down to just over 100 odd. If the connection is there and feels right then to me, distance is not an obstacle. For me I love it because as each mile passes I get more excited and my butterflies go haywire knowing where my journey leads and what is in store x
I'm with you on this, Sparkle, excitement and not expectation, a few saucy messages or sneaky photos makes the journey pass that much more quickly."
We build up through the week with phonecalls etc, by the time it comes to see him his slightest touch sets me off x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles!
Depends
Do you want shit - average sex? Or amazing mind blowing unforgettable sex?
Definitely the mind blowing! Which I know it will be! "
Worth it then |
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"I used to do 220 miles each way...thankfully now down to just over 100 odd. If the connection is there and feels right then to me, distance is not an obstacle. For me I love it because as each mile passes I get more excited and my butterflies go haywire knowing where my journey leads and what is in store x
I'm with you on this, Sparkle, excitement and not expectation, a few saucy messages or sneaky photos makes the journey pass that much more quickly.
We build up through the week with phonecalls etc, by the time it comes to see him his slightest touch sets me off x"
Now that is what I call aroused, you must be a dead giveaway on the train on the way there. . . . |
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"I used to do 220 miles each way...thankfully now down to just over 100 odd. If the connection is there and feels right then to me, distance is not an obstacle. For me I love it because as each mile passes I get more excited and my butterflies go haywire knowing where my journey leads and what is in store x
I'm with you on this, Sparkle, excitement and not expectation, a few saucy messages or sneaky photos makes the journey pass that much more quickly.
We build up through the week with phonecalls etc, by the time it comes to see him his slightest touch sets me off x
Now that is what I call aroused, you must be a dead giveaway on the train on the way there. . . . "
I drive....its quicker  x |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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My sub lives 200 miles away.
We make time to see each other at least once a month, either in hotels and visiting clubs or by staying here with us.
Its totally worth it for the right person and connection.
Sure we wish the distance was smaller, but we make it work. |
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"I used to do 220 miles each way...thankfully now down to just over 100 odd. If the connection is there and feels right then to me, distance is not an obstacle. For me I love it because as each mile passes I get more excited and my butterflies go haywire knowing where my journey leads and what is in store x
I'm with you on this, Sparkle, excitement and not expectation, a few saucy messages or sneaky photos makes the journey pass that much more quickly.
We build up through the week with phonecalls etc, by the time it comes to see him his slightest touch sets me off x
Now that is what I call aroused, you must be a dead giveaway on the train on the way there. . . .
I drive....its quicker x"
And a fair few speeding tickets worth it when you have such a delicious time with the very fortunate chap. |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles! "
I love to travel. If there is a connection sure I’ll give it a go combining with some sightseeing |
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over a year ago
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles!
Depends
Do you want shit - average sex? Or amazing mind blowing unforgettable sex?
Definitely the mind blowing! Which I know it will be!
Worth it then "
Exactly!!
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"I used to do 220 miles each way...thankfully now down to just over 100 odd. If the connection is there and feels right then to me, distance is not an obstacle. For me I love it because as each mile passes I get more excited and my butterflies go haywire knowing where my journey leads and what is in store x
I'm with you on this, Sparkle, excitement and not expectation, a few saucy messages or sneaky photos makes the journey pass that much more quickly.
We build up through the week with phonecalls etc, by the time it comes to see him his slightest touch sets me off x
Now that is what I call aroused, you must be a dead giveaway on the train on the way there. . . .
I drive....its quicker x
And a fair few speeding tickets worth it when you have such a delicious time with the very fortunate chap. "
I know where all the speed cameras are now lol x |
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles!
Depends
Do you want shit - average sex? Or amazing mind blowing unforgettable sex?
Definitely the mind blowing! Which I know it will be!
Worth it then
Exactly!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I might meet someone who's a distance away if I have time on my hands for a wee adventure
But I'm only likely to have connected on a fairly superficial level "
Plane or train?  |
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"I used to do 220 miles each way...thankfully now down to just over 100 odd. If the connection is there and feels right then to me, distance is not an obstacle. For me I love it because as each mile passes I get more excited and my butterflies go haywire knowing where my journey leads and what is in store x
I'm with you on this, Sparkle, excitement and not expectation, a few saucy messages or sneaky photos makes the journey pass that much more quickly.
We build up through the week with phonecalls etc, by the time it comes to see him his slightest touch sets me off x
Now that is what I call aroused, you must be a dead giveaway on the train on the way there. . . .
I drive....its quicker x
And a fair few speeding tickets worth it when you have such a delicious time with the very fortunate chap.
I know where all the speed cameras are now lol x"
You do think of everything! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did and its fantastic.. But managing to get our calendars to align and be within 300 miles of each other is a real challenge
I guess you need to be realistic about your needs and really think carefully about whether it'll work for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles! "
I personally wouldn't travel that far but if your happy travelling that diastance I'd say there's no harm in continuing to pursue it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me personally I would be willing to travel anywhere for the correct meet, especially when it’s a regular meet with great friendship, connection and trust.
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This is the fab curse isn't it? Because you're kinda forced to keep up building that intimacy online - until if you can and will meet. So it builds extra pressure and expectation as you're less likely to travel across the country for a swift, 1hr coffee.. but if the chemistry is there in person then it'll be amazing!!
More of a risk but definitely worth it I say |
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"This is the fab curse isn't it? Because you're kinda forced to keep up building that intimacy online - until if you can and will meet. So it builds extra pressure and expectation as you're less likely to travel across the country for a swift, 1hr coffee.. but if the chemistry is there in person then it'll be amazing!!
More of a risk but definitely worth it I say "
Says the woman in Great Yarmouth, if the chemistry was there I'd fly to Norwich as long as you promise. . . . .to pick me up at the Airport. Let the rest follow as we find it! |
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"No sorry I wouldn't. I wouldn't bother chatting too long to them as I would be concerned about whether or not they were just winding me up x"
From where? Great Yarmouth is a challenge but Glesca is just down the road |
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"No sorry I wouldn't. I wouldn't bother chatting too long to them as I would be concerned about whether or not they were just winding me up x"
And with that jacket potato awaiting, the suitors will be crashing your door down. . . |
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"No sorry I wouldn't. I wouldn't bother chatting too long to them as I would be concerned about whether or not they were just winding me up x
And with that jacket potato awaiting, the suitors will be crashing your door down. . ."
I wish... |
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"No sorry I wouldn't. I wouldn't bother chatting too long to them as I would be concerned about whether or not they were just winding me up x
And with that jacket potato awaiting, the suitors will be crashing your door down. . .
I wish... "
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles! "
It's 300 miles to the place or 300 miles round trip ? either way it's a long way BUT if both click well why not ..it's a yes from me |
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"So you are chatting to someone and get a connection! It's the distance! Do you persevere and see what happens? It's like over 300 miles!
It's 300 miles to the place or 300 miles round trip ? either way it's a long way BUT if both click well why not ..it's a yes from me "
300 miles from Northumberland has you dating a fish! Or someone in Cornwall. . . .jeez, he must have something awesome for you. |
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"No sorry I wouldn't. I wouldn't bother chatting too long to them as I would be concerned about whether or not they were just winding me up x
And with that jacket potato awaiting, the suitors will be crashing your door down. . .
I wish...
You make it and bake it, I'll take it! "
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"No sorry I wouldn't. I wouldn't bother chatting too long to them as I would be concerned about whether or not they were just winding me up x
And with that jacket potato awaiting, the suitors will be crashing your door down. . .
I wish...
You make it and bake it, I'll take it!
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