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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"“Not being a knob” is always a reassuring opening to any sentence.
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Well not after sympathy, ex army blunt maybe to blunt not one of those" oh I can't meet " how is my profile bollocks, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t mean to be a cunt but what sort of disabilities we talking.
Anything that affects their ability to make a reasonable decision is a flat out no for me.
Anything else I just treat them like I would any other |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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disabilities Come in all forms some can’t even be seen
Some can be physical
Some can be mental
Some can be learning
And to the question
Yes I would to all 3 if I liked the person
Being physical meataly or learning disability shouldn’t stop people from meeting or likeing people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not being a knob, curious on how anyone feels about meeting anyone with disabilities x"
Physical disability isn't an issue. If you click you click however if the disability compromises their capacity to consent then it's not something I'd be comfortable with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not being a knob, curious on how anyone feels about meeting anyone with disabilities x
Physical disability isn't an issue. If you click you click however if the disability compromises their capacity to consent then it's not something I'd be comfortable with. "
Mentally its Ptsd, and if nervous can be anxious, I should have worded the post better, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not being a knob, curious on how anyone feels about meeting anyone with disabilities x
Physical disability isn't an issue. If you click you click however if the disability compromises their capacity to consent then it's not something I'd be comfortable with.
Mentally its Ptsd, and if nervous can be anxious, I should have worded the post better, "
Depends on the ptsd from my opinion and experience and whether I can trigger it or not.If I can then heavily depends on the circumstances but it is a likely no from me.If I have no relation to it then what happens is between consenting parties. |
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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago
land of make believe |
"Not being a knob, curious on how anyone feels about meeting anyone with disabilities x
Physical disability isn't an issue. If you click you click however if the disability compromises their capacity to consent then it's not something I'd be comfortable with.
Mentally its Ptsd, and if nervous can be anxious, I should have worded the post better, "
I have CPTSD amongst other things and don't have a problem finding meets ,I do only meet people who will be understanding & reassuring even though I don't usually divulge my diagnosis until after we have met if at all.
Good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not being a knob, curious on how anyone feels about meeting anyone with disabilities x
Physical disability isn't an issue. If you click you click however if the disability compromises their capacity to consent then it's not something I'd be comfortable with.
Mentally its Ptsd, and if nervous can be anxious, I should have worded the post better, "
Just anxious? Maybe explain that in your profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not being a knob, curious on how anyone feels about meeting anyone with disabilities x"
I'll be honest as most won't be. I likely wouldn't meet them.
Doesn't mean that you or I are bad people. We're just not compatible.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not being a knob, curious on how anyone feels about meeting anyone with disabilities x
I'll be honest as most won't be. I likely wouldn't meet them.
Doesn't mean that you or I are bad people. We're just not compatible. "
Thanks for your honesty x |
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I have a few limitations due to a few issues that I have both physically and mentally… and tbh… 99% of people won’t know unless I tell them.. and people do seem quite shocked when I tell them if I can’t do something quite as easily and the reason why… as someone here mentioned… most disabilities are hidden.
I think 99.9% of the population has some form of physical or mental health issue they deal with … and I would never ever judge someone on that or not decide to meet them over it |
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I've no issues with meeting anyone, if we're matched. Most disabilities are invisible and thus we typically engage with people without knowing anything.
For a meet, possibly consider how long is best for you to get to know someone, before meeting. You can indicate that type of detail, without much greater exposure. until the right time seems there, for you to share whatever may be right for you.
Most people are respectful and will want the best experience for you and themselves. If choice of venue, how they may be able to support you, in having the best time etc, could help, then that could be a good angle to direct things from too. Sometimes the practical aspects of our engagements can be very easily understood and readily accommodated by the right partners.
You will probably face the same difficulties that other single men do here too, so be wary of impacts on your self esteem etc. It is really tough for single men to get established here. Your challenge may go in parallel with this.
If you're able to experience fab socials, in the environments that they may be in they may be useful ways to get to know other people too. There'll likely be some trial and error, though you'll likely have managed to have already gained some benefit from that type of exploration, since rejoining civilian life.
There are lots of wonderful people in this world, so you will not be unsupported nor not having many who will want the best for you. There are lots of us who have disabilities, so you're in good company. |
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