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Ok when is something affair and when it it not?
Ok when your seeing some one and when it is your not seeing them?
Fuck bud friends with benfits ok when you are married other half dont know about your seeing some one els fuck bud friends with benfits mistress sub or master or what ever When is it not affair and when is it affair
Cos I cant see a differeance my self
if you are seeing someone your seeing them what ever
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We both play separately and we both know when the other plays separately and with whom.
In 25 years romantic feelings have never come into it and we've always openly communicated.
You see, it depends on what your perspective is. As far as we are concerned, we've built a life, family and home together. That is what is most important to us. Swinging is just something extra we enjoy.
It's obviously never happened but the second that communication and openness we have stops, then the swinging stops.
If feelings ever come into it (never have so far) then it stops.
I really cant explain it to you but we've been on the same page for 25 years. The idea of an "affair" is just...alien to us both at this point. Sure we can go hook up with others but it just wont compare to what we have with each other.
Objectively speaking, when we meet couples how's it different from when we both meet singles?
Like I said, 25 years. We know who and where we are with it and are fine. We get it if others dont think or feel like us but we are quite content and not worried about anything.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I’m with somebody and somebody else out their dick in them without my say so or I put my dick in somebody else without her say so then that to me is cheating.
Each to their own but I’m not one for all the meeting separately shenanigans.
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
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I use a very simplistic approach to it...an affair is when you have more than one sexual encounter with another person, but you are not exclusively dating...so it can be something casual, a fwb relationship, something that can lead to a relationship, you are in an open relationship with someone else, or you are cheating on someone...all of these are affairs. The word affair shouldn't be perceived as negative...the context of it might make it negative though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Too complicated to even think about. I don’t have to luckily. If I’m having sex with someone I will just be having sex with them, whether it be fab, real life or whatever. I like an easy life  "
Pretty much this for me. Serial monogamy’s the word |
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"I use a very simplistic approach to it...an affair is when you have more than one sexual encounter with another person, but you are not exclusively dating...so it can be something casual, a fwb relationship, something that can lead to a relationship, you are in an open relationship with someone else, or you are cheating on someone...all of these are affairs. The word affair shouldn't be perceived as negative...the context of it might make it negative though "
You're not wrong actually.
The very definition of "affair" in the dictionary is "a sexual relationship between two people, one or both of whom are married to someone else".
So technically speaking, if you are married, by swinging you are having affairs.
But this isn't really the reality of the situation as many swingers will see it. I assume many swingers would see the word "affair" as synonymous with "cheating". At least that's our experience over the years.
Way I see it is, if you're not doing anything behind your partners back, everything is open, communicated and all parties are happy with the situation, there's no issue and it's not worth worrying about. Thats what's worked for us for 25 years but we appreciate others are not us. |
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"When you have to hide phones etc... When I've been in a relationship, my partner has always had access to it x"
But that's not compulsory, is it? Your choice to allow your partner access to your phone. I wouldn't but it doesn't mean I am cheating. I never have. |
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"When you have to hide phones etc... When I've been in a relationship, my partner has always had access to it x
But that's not compulsory, is it? Your choice to allow your partner access to your phone. I wouldn't but it doesn't mean I am cheating. I never have. "
I don't think it's compulsory. I think trust is when you leave your phone/diary/emails etc open or laying about in the knowledge that your partner wouldn't even think of looking at them. They trust you, you trust them. |
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"When you have to hide phones etc... When I've been in a relationship, my partner has always had access to it x
But that's not compulsory, is it? Your choice to allow your partner access to your phone. I wouldn't but it doesn't mean I am cheating. I never have. "
I didn't say it was compulsory. I simply used it as one of a thousand examples. |
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"When you have to hide phones etc... When I've been in a relationship, my partner has always had access to it x
But that's not compulsory, is it? Your choice to allow your partner access to your phone. I wouldn't but it doesn't mean I am cheating. I never have.
I didn't say it was compulsory. I simply used it as one of a thousand examples."
I was just asking the question. |
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"When you have to hide phones etc... When I've been in a relationship, my partner has always had access to it x
But that's not compulsory, is it? Your choice to allow your partner access to your phone. I wouldn't but it doesn't mean I am cheating. I never have.
I didn't say it was compulsory. I simply used it as one of a thousand examples.
I was just asking the question. "
Answered. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are sneaking around behind your partners back, secret phone calls, messages, secret hotel meets etc if your partner is unaware then that is cheating.If you are emotionally involved and again your partner knows nothing about it that is total betrayal.. |
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