"Sad to see so much of it these days on here.
Even simple threads turn into something that they were never intended to be. Sad times  x
Completely agree
I blame the cats"
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"Sad to see so much of it these days on here.
Even simple threads turn into something that they were never intended to be. Sad times x
Completely agree
I blame the cats
What has the cats ever done to you "
The roads, the aquaducts, the sanitation, the medication, kitty litter. |
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You are right and to be fair it used to bother me a little. Now I totally ignore all those keen to cause issues or are full on with their opinions or aggressive to anyone. A little banter is fine, arguments and negative attitudes are not. Not for me anyway. I come here to distress, have a bit of banter and sometimes learn something useful as often some very knowledgeable and helpful people on here. Obviously not sure exactly what you are referring to but please don't let it bother you. |
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I am a lot more ignorant of negativity on here now, comments that used to rile me are passed over, I did consider if that made me less caring not to stand up for the things I believe in. But then I realise I'm just not partaking in feeding the trolls so I settled down again  |
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"You are right and to be fair it used to bother me a little. Now I totally ignore all those keen to cause issues or are full on with their opinions or aggressive to anyone. A little banter is fine, arguments and negative attitudes are not. Not for me anyway. I come here to distress, have a bit of banter and sometimes learn something useful as often some very knowledgeable and helpful people on here. Obviously not sure exactly what you are referring to but please don't let it bother you. "
Nothing specific, just noticed it in general.
I'm the same as you, got more than enough stuff going on in the RW without getting drawn into an argument with some random stranger x |
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"You are right and to be fair it used to bother me a little. Now I totally ignore all those keen to cause issues or are full on with their opinions or aggressive to anyone. A little banter is fine, arguments and negative attitudes are not. Not for me anyway. I come here to distress, have a bit of banter and sometimes learn something useful as often some very knowledgeable and helpful people on here. Obviously not sure exactly what you are referring to but please don't let it bother you.
Nothing specific, just noticed it in general.
I'm the same as you, got more than enough stuff going on in the RW without getting drawn into an argument with some random stranger x"
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"Sad to see so much of it these days on here.
Even simple threads turn into something that they were never intended to be. Sad times x
Completely agree
I blame the cats"
How dare you! It's the mice that are to blame which cats kindly kill. Bow down to your feline overlords. |
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"I am a lot more ignorant of negativity on here now, comments that used to rile me are passed over, I did consider if that made me less caring not to stand up for the things I believe in. But then I realise I'm just not partaking in feeding the trolls so I settled down again "
I sing to myself...."walk on by" |
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Isn’t that how conversations go in real life tho, you start on one thing and before you know it you are talking about something a million miles away from where you started. People have opinions and they express them here, we might not agree but that happens in real life too  |
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"Isn’t that how conversations go in real life tho, you start on one thing and before you know it you are talking about something a million miles away from where you started. People have opinions and they express them here, we might not agree but that happens in real life too "
I don't mean they go off topic...I meant they turn in an argument that was not intended x |
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"Sad to see so much of it these days on here.
Even simple threads turn into something that they were never intended to be. Sad times x
Completely agree
I blame the cats
What has the cats ever done to you "
They go too fast past all the cyclists. Bad kitty  |
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"Sad to see so much of it these days on here.
Even simple threads turn into something that they were never intended to be. Sad times x
Completely agree
I blame the cats
What has the cats ever done to you
They go too fast past all the cyclists. Bad kitty "
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"Sad to see so much of it these days on here.
Even simple threads turn into something that they were never intended to be. Sad times x"
I have to agree, it's becoming a regular thing and it's not pleasant to read. It's not something I want to be apart of. |
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"Sad to see so much of it these days on here.
Even simple threads turn into something that they were never intended to be. Sad times x
I have to agree, it's becoming a regular thing and it's not pleasant to read. It's not something I want to be apart of."
Glad it's not just me x |
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"Isn’t that how conversations go in real life tho, you start on one thing and before you know it you are talking about something a million miles away from where you started. People have opinions and they express them here, we might not agree but that happens in real life too
I don't mean they go off topic...I meant they turn in an argument that was not intended x"
Yes I know but that’s what happens too |
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"Isn't this thread the very definition of negativity?
In a way yes, all depends how you look at it I guess."
I am not sure it is unless it gets taken over by arguments and disrespectful comments. Thete is a clear fifference between opinion, arguments and abusive comments. Give me opinions any time as I may learn something but keep the rest as I am not here for that. Each to their own I suppose. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I was just saying to someone how the forums used to be funny a lot of the time.
There were still arsey people and a few haters, but they didn't ruin every thread with their negativity (yes, I'm aware this is a negative comment).
I think people come here to vent their spleen now.
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Time runs differently in the forums.
'Oh I remember when it was always fun' probably refers to 1 week a couple of months ago. Having not had a look here for months it's pretty much the same as it ever was
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"I was just saying to someone how the forums used to be funny a lot of the time.
There were still arsey people and a few haters, but they didn't ruin every thread with their negativity (yes, I'm aware this is a negative comment).
I think people come here to vent their spleen now.
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I had the same conversation with a fellow fab member yesterday.
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"Sad to see so much of it these days on here.
Even simple threads turn into something that they were never intended to be. Sad times x"
Depends on who comments on them l suppose, forums should be fun , life should be fun , people should be able to log on here for fun , if l see what l think are negative comments l just pass them by ..life's too short.  |
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"We used 2 av good times together
But now I feel them slip away
So sad 2 watch good love go bad x
Thanks for the earworm now  x
Wots an earworm .,?x "
When someone mentions lines from a song, you then get it stuck in your head x |
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"I think what some may see as negativity, some may see it as people expressing themselves.
Life isn't all sunshine and roses unfortunately "
Agreed. I was going more along the lines when people start getting personal. |
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"We used 2 av good times together
But now I feel them slip away
So sad 2 watch good love go bad x
Thanks for the earworm now x
Wots an earworm .,?x
When someone mentions lines from a song, you then get it stuck in your head x"
So u know the sung and who sang it x |
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It never used to be like this; back in the day. Before the advent of Soshal Meedja and the anonymity of facepage, Shitter, SickTok etc when people had to be negative in person it was a far more civil world (give or take a few wars).
But we cannot live in the past. There may have been a time when people were allowed to hold differing views but now there is only right and wrong - and if they don't agree with you; they are WRONG. |
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"It never used to be like this; back in the day. Before the advent of Soshal Meedja and the anonymity of facepage, Shitter, SickTok etc when people had to be negative in person it was a far more civil world (give or take a few wars).
But we cannot live in the past. There may have been a time when people were allowed to hold differing views but now there is only right and wrong - and if they don't agree with you; they are WRONG. "
I disagree. |
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"We used 2 av good times together
But now I feel them slip away
So sad 2 watch good love go bad x
Thanks for the earworm now x
Wots an earworm .,?x
When someone mentions lines from a song, you then get it stuck in your head x
So u know the sung and who sang it x "
Yes x |
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By *l6789Man
over a year ago
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If I was to guess it’s a lot to do with social change in interaction. 30 years ago we spoke in person or on a phone call. Now it’s a culture of ghosting, blocking, trolling, cat fishing, scamming to pick on a few negatives.
But years ago we wouldn’t be exposed to that and less likely to build these negative associations with social media, apps, websites etc. it’s a power for good and for bad bit all is negative and you can see some remarkable influences being used to spread good.
But like many things we remember the painful experiences and they live in us |
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By *l6789Man
over a year ago
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"My take is - it is what it is.
I take breaks when it gets too much.
You must love a KitKat then
I do but it has to be the 4 finger ones "
Depends if it’s a chunky I’ve been told girth is import |
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"It never used to be like this; back in the day. Before the advent of Soshal Meedja and the anonymity of facepage, Shitter, SickTok etc when people had to be negative in person it was a far more civil world (give or take a few wars).
But we cannot live in the past. There may have been a time when people were allowed to hold differing views but now there is only right and wrong - and if they don't agree with you; they are WRONG.
I disagree."
You are wrong then!  |
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"My take is - it is what it is.
I take breaks when it gets too much.
You must love a KitKat then
I do but it has to be the 4 finger ones
Depends if it’s a chunky I’ve been told girth is import "
I've only got a little....mouth |
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The last two years have been doom, gloom and stress for most of us. A lot of people have changed and have suffered quite a lot. I know it's not right to take frustrations out on others but I understand a lot of negativity comes from that.
We all need to be a little compassionate and kind to each other even more so when it's clear that person is in pain. We never know what someone's going through so take a breath, step back and don't pour petrol on the fire. |
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Fairground Attraction have just appeared on my Spotify. Feel quite nice now. Eating Jaffa cakes with a brew on my dinner. Perfect.
What’s everyone else’s nice thoughts? |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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Perhaps if people stopped bringing others down with negative comments on how other people chose to run there profiles there wouldn’t be so much negativity here, every other day there’s a thread about what’s acceptable to show and not show and the comments seem to come in the form of judgement - pisses me right off!
Just because you wouldn’t do something or you don’t share the same kinks/thoughts or what not doesn’t warrant a bitchy comment aimed at another poster, plenty of room for all kinds here!
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"The last two years have been doom, gloom and stress for most of us. A lot of people have changed and have suffered quite a lot. I know it's not right to take frustrations out on others but I understand a lot of negativity comes from that.
We all need to be a little compassionate and kind to each other even more so when it's clear that person is in pain. We never know what someone's going through so take a breath, step back and don't pour petrol on the fire. "
Exactly. Branding it negativity because it's a differing view is the actual negativity. Also; quite often it's just stuck on any view that someone doesn't agree with. A way of silencing.
I've seen lots of posts made by various posters that are disparaging of others. You can't really ask for compassion, understanding that you have things going on in the real world and not afford that to others. Well, you can.
And yes, there were the halcyon days - be part of bringing that back. Inject some humour. Show compassion. Understand we're all different.
(This isn't targeted at anyone, you know? Just general you, general musings, generally.) |
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"Perhaps if people stopped bringing others down with negative comments on how other people chose to run there profiles there wouldn’t be so much negativity here, every other day there’s a thread about what’s acceptable to show and not show and the comments seem to come in the form of judgement - pisses me right off!
Just because you wouldn’t do something or you don’t share the same kinks/thoughts or what not doesn’t warrant a bitchy comment aimed at another poster, plenty of room for all kinds here!
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Agreed! To much of that! Although it washes over me! X |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I think what some may see as negativity, some may see it as people expressing themselves.
Life isn't all sunshine and roses unfortunately "
Expressing by constantly moaning sounds negative to me (yes, another negative comment). |
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"The last two years have been doom, gloom and stress for most of us. A lot of people have changed and have suffered quite a lot. I know it's not right to take frustrations out on others but I understand a lot of negativity comes from that.
We all need to be a little compassionate and kind to each other even more so when it's clear that person is in pain. We never know what someone's going through so take a breath, step back and don't pour petrol on the fire.
Exactly. Branding it negativity because it's a differing view is the actual negativity. Also; quite often it's just stuck on any view that someone doesn't agree with. A way of silencing.
I've seen lots of posts made by various posters that are disparaging of others. You can't really ask for compassion, understanding that you have things going on in the real world and not afford that to others. Well, you can.
And yes, there were the halcyon days - be part of bringing that back. Inject some humour. Show compassion. Understand we're all different.
(This isn't targeted at anyone, you know? Just general you, general musings, generally.)"
I don't think we're talking about people having differing opinions. That's a debate, not negativity.
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"I was just saying to someone how the forums used to be funny a lot of the time.
There were still arsey people and a few haters, but they didn't ruin every thread with their negativity (yes, I'm aware this is a negative comment).
I think people come here to vent their spleen now.
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I agree it is much less funny. Can't remember when I last laughed out loud but it used to happen regularly. |
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By *eliWoman
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"Also; quite often it's just stuck on any view that someone doesn't agree with. A way of silencing.
I don't think we're talking about people having differing opinions. That's a debate, not negativity.
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I said quite often it's stuck on differing views. Yes, there are posters who are talking explicitly about negativity. These threads tend to crop up when there's a "cause" in another thread or two.
I do think that people as a whole are more prone to negativity with everything that's gone on - the fora are a reflection of the general zeitgeist so it's not surprising. I think that given the cyclic nature of them, things will be on the up one day. Maybe. |
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Just to be clear the negativity I was referring too was when things get personal. Prime example of a thread yesterday, the OP became quite derogatory towards others re looks and what not.....that's the kind of negativity I mean. |
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"Just to be clear the negativity I was referring too was when things get personal. Prime example of a thread yesterday, the OP became quite derogatory towards others re looks and what not.....that's the kind of negativity I mean."
I didn't see that thread.
I know I can have a dark sense of humour at times but attacking someone's looks just seems juvenile.
Love and hugs
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"Just to be clear the negativity I was referring too was when things get personal. Prime example of a thread yesterday, the OP became quite derogatory towards others re looks and what not.....that's the kind of negativity I mean.
I didn't see that thread.
I know I can have a dark sense of humour at times but attacking someone's looks just seems juvenile.
Love and hugs
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To fair the people in question involved "seemed" to handle it well but you never know the power your words have to a person when throwing personal insults x |
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