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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
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…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you? |
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over a year ago
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you? "
Can I be your friend please? Also could you please pass the peas?  |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you? "
Maybe they send them to replace the winks you claim to ignore?
They may be too anxious to send the first message so this is a wink replacement to show interest.
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Because they are nosey & just want to have a perv
I posted the same last week & actually removed all my friends only photos, popping them in private seemed to stop all the friend requests "
Haha I don’t have any friends pictures or it would make sense to get requests. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But I'm not in Tesco, although I probably would smile at someone when I was doing my shopping.
I'm dreadfully nosy and a bit cheeky and quite often send out random friend requests. Maybe I get away with it because I'm female.  |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
Maybe they send them to replace the winks you claim to ignore?
They may be too anxious to send the first message so this is a wink replacement to show interest.
C"
Fair point. We all handle our profiles as we see for for our needs  |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
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"But I'm not in Tesco, although I probably would smile at someone when I was doing my shopping.
I'm dreadfully nosy and a bit cheeky and quite often send out random friend requests. Maybe I get away with it because I'm female. "
Oh I like this, we don’t smile enough at each other outside in the real world do we? I love your cheeky style |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
Can I be your friend please? Also could you please pass the peas? "
Would you like petit pois or garden variety? |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Trying their luck OP. I'm sure it work for them sometimes."
I suppose it must do. I just find it odd. But some peoples comments have given me more insight into why they do it. Thank you for your participation |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I assume it’s so they can access friends only photos, or get updated if you post new ones.
Or maybe they just don’t understand.
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I don’t have friends pictures. Maybe they pressed the wrong button? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
Can I be your friend please? Also could you please pass the peas?
Would you like petit pois or garden variety? "
Surprise me. So that friendship?   |
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"I assume it’s so they can access friends only photos, or get updated if you post new ones.
Or maybe they just don’t understand.
I don’t have friends pictures. Maybe they pressed the wrong button?"
Me neither yet I still get loads of requests. Weird |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Doesn't really bother me, I've had a few very good meets from random requests.
So you message them after they send a request?
I have done yes"
That’s lovely that you had nice times. A lot of the requests I get are pictureless or penis’  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Leave it pending wait till they offline accept look at they friends stuff then remove it just look like you have declined it 
I have done this before
C"
I do it as well ha ha only if it’s a random one out the blue |
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Some maybe born window lickers with no respect or common sense or give a flying fuck they are acting like a conplete fuckwitt
Do you? "
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"I assume it’s so they can access friends only photos, or get updated if you post new ones.
Or maybe they just don’t understand.
I don’t have friends pictures. Maybe they pressed the wrong button?
Me neither yet I still get loads of requests. Weird "
It’s those delectable legs I think, they all want a closer look |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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I just assume it’s because they think that’s what you do, before even messaging. If you accept, they feel they can then message? I don’t think there’s any written rules. Same as on other social media, it’s a way of making contact for whatever reason.
Personally I don’t send or accept them without a discussion first but that’s just my way of doing it. Nothing to say its right or wrong. |
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you? "
Some maybe born window lickers with no respect or common sense or give a flying fuck they are acting like a conplete fuckwitt. Resent as i had a brain fart and missed the bloody quotes in brackets crap  |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
Can I be your friend please? Also could you please pass the peas?
Would you like petit pois or garden variety?
Surprise me. So that friendship? "
Almost, but only if I can call you my pickle |
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"Leave it pending wait till they offline accept look at they friends stuff then remove it just look like you have declined it
I have done this before
C
I do it as well ha ha only if it’s a random one out the blue "
Guilty of this too  |
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
Some maybe born window lickers with no respect or common sense or give a flying fuck they are acting like a conplete fuckwitt. Resent as i had a brain fart and missed the bloody quotes in brackets crap "
Window lickers   |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"I just assume it’s because they think that’s what you do, before even messaging. If you accept, they feel they can then message? I don’t think there’s any written rules. Same as on other social media, it’s a way of making contact for whatever reason.
Personally I don’t send or accept them without a discussion first but that’s just my way of doing it. Nothing to say its right or wrong. "
This is an interesting thought. I never really thought of it as a consent to opening communication. Normally it’s the other way for me. Thanks |
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"I assume it’s so they can access friends only photos, or get updated if you post new ones.
Or maybe they just don’t understand.
I don’t have friends pictures. Maybe they pressed the wrong button?
Me neither yet I still get loads of requests. Weird
It’s those delectable legs I think, they all want a closer look "
Haha. Thanks x |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
Some maybe born window lickers with no respect or common sense or give a flying fuck they are acting like a conplete fuckwitt. Resent as i had a brain fart and missed the bloody quotes in brackets crap
Window lickers "
Ah bless ya I was just reading your last comment. Those pesky quote boxes are naughty x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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“Holds hands up” When we first had our profile on here I was horribly guilty of this a couple of times. It was genuine naivety.
Abby soon told me it wasn’t the done thing.
Fast forward a few years and I do have some sympathy with newbies but certainly not longer standing profiles.
Viv |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We agree and accept no such requests and block them instantly. If they are that poorly skilled at human interaction then they aren't for us. Mind you, I have had this done to me a couple of times in public and it is quite creepy and it is only my personality that has protected me. I did try it once at a house party and the other was really freaked out until mutual friends explained I was doing it to test if it was weird or just me. x |
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I rarely check friend requests! Unless they've messaged with a face pic and I want to chat more, then I'll friend them because my face is in friends only pics.
So I wouldn't accept a random invite |
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
Some maybe born window lickers with no respect or common sense or give a flying fuck they are acting like a conplete fuckwitt. Resent as i had a brain fart and missed the bloody quotes in brackets crap
Window lickers
Ah bless ya I was just reading your last comment. Those pesky quote boxes are naughty x"
Those blighters get me every time |
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I dont pay attention to them. If we havent chatted or planned on meeting i largely ignore. For some reason i get a lot of them from the UK and the chace of getting across the water any time soon are extremely slim |
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
Some maybe born window lickers with no respect or common sense or give a flying fuck they are acting like a conplete fuckwitt. Resent as i had a brain fart and missed the bloody quotes in brackets crap
Window lickers "
You thoughtvi wrote fanny lickers then admit it lol. |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"“Holds hands up” When we first had our profile on here I was horribly guilty of this a couple of times. It was genuine naivety.
Abby soon told me it wasn’t the done thing.
Fast forward a few years and I do have some sympathy with newbies but certainly not longer standing profiles.
Viv "
Ahh that’s sweet, maybe I’m too harsh on newbies? I do try sometimes with messages to be receptive to newbies, we were all new once right! |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"We agree and accept no such requests and block them instantly. If they are that poorly skilled at human interaction then they aren't for us. Mind you, I have had this done to me a couple of times in public and it is quite creepy and it is only my personality that has protected me. I did try it once at a house party and the other was really freaked out until mutual friends explained I was doing it to test if it was weird or just me. x"
Really?? You’ve had people in real life do this?? That is a bit weird |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"I rarely check friend requests! Unless they've messaged with a face pic and I want to chat more, then I'll friend them because my face is in friends only pics.
So I wouldn't accept a random invite "
I think those are good boundaries, we have to be safe especially in this world  |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"I dont pay attention to them. If we havent chatted or planned on meeting i largely ignore. For some reason i get a lot of them from the UK and the chace of getting across the water any time soon are extremely slim"
You have a very inviting profile picture 
But it is a bit silly of them not to pay attention to distance, unless they have a private helicopter or jet. |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
Some maybe born window lickers with no respect or common sense or give a flying fuck they are acting like a conplete fuckwitt. Resent as i had a brain fart and missed the bloody quotes in brackets crap
Window lickers
You thoughtvi wrote fanny lickers then admit it lol. "
I did lol that’s what too so long to read! I couldn’t believe my eyes |
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"Thinking of frequenting the ice cream aisle at Tesco now for some new friends "
I've pulled at Tesco, Lidl and Morrisons.
I think it must be my smiling nature and the fact that I obviously don't have a wife or kids to bequeath my shopping bags and debit card to. They can tell that from what I buy.
One might suspect they have an eye to the future when initiating a supermarket friends request! |
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you? "
I don’t and I don’t accept them either.
Most of my main pictures are in there for starters and of course it’s a bit rude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wait until they're offline, nosey at the pics and unfriend again
Oooh you naughty devil
Serves them right for sending requests unsolicited "
Do you deliberately fab a friend only pic so they know? |
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"I just assume it’s because they think that’s what you do, before even messaging. If you accept, they feel they can then message? I don’t think there’s any written rules. Same as on other social media, it’s a way of making contact for whatever reason.
Personally I don’t send or accept them without a discussion first but that’s just my way of doing it. Nothing to say its right or wrong. "
Yeah I think this is the case, it's definitely a Facebook type thing, you get a friend request off someone, see if they have any mutual friends or interesting pics, then decide if you wanna add them, I'd never throw a hissy fit for getting a friend request on either platform, but then again, I'm a bloke.
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"I wait until they're offline, nosey at the pics and unfriend again
Oooh you naughty devil
Serves them right for sending requests unsolicited
Do you deliberately fab a friend only pic so they know?"
Oooh like a calling card good idea! You're not offline yet so I can't try it |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"Thinking of frequenting the ice cream aisle at Tesco now for some new friends
I've pulled at Tesco, Lidl and Morrisons.
I think it must be my smiling nature and the fact that I obviously don't have a wife or kids to bequeath my shopping bags and debit card to. They can tell that from what I buy.
One might suspect they have an eye to the future when initiating a supermarket friends request!"
lol you do have a smiley profile picture |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wait until they're offline, nosey at the pics and unfriend again
Oooh you naughty devil
Serves them right for sending requests unsolicited
Do you deliberately fab a friend only pic so they know?
Oooh like a calling card good idea! You're not offline yet so I can't try it "
I'll block you before I log off so you can't |
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over a year ago
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"I wait until they're offline, nosey at the pics and unfriend again
Oooh you naughty devil
Serves them right for sending requests unsolicited
Do you deliberately fab a friend only pic so they know?
Oooh like a calling card good idea! You're not offline yet so I can't try it
I'll block you before I log off so you can't "
You bugger! |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
I don’t and I don’t accept them either.
Most of my main pictures are in there for starters and of course it’s a bit rude."
You have nice pictures and polite manners too  |
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over a year ago
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"I wait until they're offline, nosey at the pics and unfriend again
Oooh you naughty devil
Serves them right for sending requests unsolicited
Do you deliberately fab a friend only pic so they know?
Oooh like a calling card good idea! You're not offline yet so I can't try it
I'll block you before I log off so you can't
You bugger! "
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"I just assume it’s because they think that’s what you do, before even messaging. If you accept, they feel they can then message? I don’t think there’s any written rules. Same as on other social media, it’s a way of making contact for whatever reason.
Personally I don’t send or accept them without a discussion first but that’s just my way of doing it. Nothing to say its right or wrong.
Yeah I think this is the case, it's definitely a Facebook type thing, you get a friend request off someone, see if they have any mutual friends or interesting pics, then decide if you wanna add them, I'd never throw a hissy fit for getting a friend request on either platform, but then again, I'm a bloke.
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I’m just as bad on Facebook for accepting as I am on here. |
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
Some maybe born window lickers with no respect or common sense or give a flying fuck they are acting like a conplete fuckwitt. Resent as i had a brain fart and missed the bloody quotes in brackets crap
Window lickers
You thoughtvi wrote fanny lickers then admit it lol.
I did lol that’s what too so long to read! I couldn’t believe my eyes "
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you? "
I find it's far more successful in Waitrose. Must be something about the clientele... |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
cognito |
"I wait until they're offline, nosey at the pics and unfriend again
Oooh you naughty devil
Serves them right for sending requests unsolicited
Do you deliberately fab a friend only pic so they know?
Oooh like a calling card good idea! You're not offline yet so I can't try it "
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
I find it's far more successful in Waitrose. Must be something about the clientele... "
A particular aisle or anyone will do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"*wants to press the button *
Do it, do it, do it,
No 
Don’t do it, Don’t do it, Don’t do it!
Ok I won't
You did!!!
Did what? 
You know "
There is a button you can press to counter it |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
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"*wants to press the button *
Do it, do it, do it,
No
Don’t do it, Don’t do it, Don’t do it!
Ok I won't
You did!!!
Did what?
You know
There is a button you can press to counter it "
No can do. My list for that is already full |
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"*wants to press the button *
Do it, do it, do it,
No
Don’t do it, Don’t do it, Don’t do it!
Ok I won't
You did!!!
Did what?
You know
There is a button you can press to counter it
No can do. My list for that is already full "
Damn |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It’s worse when they add you as a friend without talking and even when given the benefit of the doubt.... they don’t reply to a message but still watch new vids and pics.... what’s up with that? "
Yeah that’s just plain rude of them. Better go find friends in Sainsburys instead |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually this thread has got me thinking about why I send out random friend requests. I don't know why men do it to you if you have no pics though. I think I'm hoping that I'll see a face pic. Then if there is one and I don't fancy them, I can just slink off and I don't have to awkwardly yet and disentangle myself from a conservation. |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"I hadn't realised people feel so strongly about this.
I think some do, some don’t. That’s what makes us all special "
I just ignore them it doesn’t bother me but there are plenty of people it does annoy. You’d think that, as you can with with fabs, the site could offer the choice to turn off the option for your profile to receive friend requests and winks too. |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I hadn't realised people feel so strongly about this.
I think some do, some don’t. That’s what makes us all special
I just ignore them it doesn’t bother me but there are plenty of people it does annoy. You’d think that, as you can with with fabs, the site could offer the choice to turn off the option for your profile to receive friend requests and winks too. "
There’s quite a few options that are missing from fab like that but these things take time for someone to write the code then test it and release it and I don’t know if they have anyone doing development work like that. I can’t imagine it’d be cheap to get someone to do it. |
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"…understand why people send friend requests when they’ve never made an effort to talk to you first? You don’t randomly go up to people in the freezer section of Tesco (other supermarkets are available) and request them to be friends with you…
Do you?
I find it's far more successful in Waitrose. Must be something about the clientele...
A particular aisle or anyone will do?"
Definitely the wine aisle!! |
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"Because they are nosey & just want to have a perv
I posted the same last week & actually removed all my friends only photos, popping them in private seemed to stop all the friend requests
Haha I don’t have any friends pictures or it would make sense to get requests. "
I hid all mine thinking it would stop them... But no! |
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If they have no friends only photos then they get ignored, if I like what I've seen already then I will accept because I like to perv but only if they have friends only photos. Can't say I'd ever send a request to someone I haven't spoken to though and I usually ask first |
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