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I think anyone who is insecure or takes rejection hard, this isn't the lifestyle for them. Otherwise we are all different and get different things from the lifestyle, personality is irrelevant. |
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"Hi just wondered if anybody has any views on whether swinging suits some personality types more than others?"
Hi op. Well I’ve been around 8 years now. From what I’ve found - those who are ‘good’ at swinging can easily separate amazing sex and love (can be harder than you think if the person you fuck is a fantastic person to boot) - can become attached enough to meets to create amazing sexual connection - but not so attached as to create hurt afterwards - and can accept that no matter how amazing the experience you had with someone is/was - days, weeks or months they’re going to meet someone else and every detail will be on a verification for all to see - including you!
I think it’s absolutely amazing and wonderful that - in spite of all the above - some people meet and fall in love on here. 
On the downside I’ve come across many people in my near decade who are total emotional fuckwits - who are either completely incapable of making the smallest emotional connection (hence look only for ‘instafuck’ ) or who - after a great meet - convince themselves that that person is ‘the one’ and pursue/stalk them relentlessly.
Fab can be absolutely amazing and work for many (#whyi’mstillhere) who want a connection but not a relationship (until someone comes along and they knock each other’s socks off - of course!) - or for couples who adore each other but want to broaden their sexual horizons.
It can also bring out jealousy, unpleasantness, bitchiness, excessive competition, massive insecurities and a whole world of hurt. It can also be a haven for sex addicts - particularly female ones as vaginas are top trumps on here. I’ve come across women in the past who’ve openly admitted to having several meets a day and doing pretty much nothing else (fortunately they sought help in the end.)
Effectively it’s a minefield that needs to be navigated - and it takes a strong person to navigate it.
I think that may be why many of us meet far less after many years on here and focus on friendships rather than ‘just’ the sex.  |
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would be perfect for it 