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Are the fab forums clicky?

By *assing Fancies x OP Couple over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

We are on the fence with this... we have had socials with people from fab and the subject of the forums being cilcky has arose a few times. Now for us no matter thread it is, everyone has a equal voice and chance to reply.

Yes there are people that interact with eachother much more than others on the threads but surely that's there choice. Maybe these people have personal relationships and longlasting friendships or maybe they just like interactions with certain people

To be honest we can see why some may think that as on certain threads we pretty much know the script before it happens but on the otherhand we all speak or flirt with who ever we want (us included)....

Now this isn't ment to be a bitchy thread... more of just wanting people's HONEST opinions on how you guys think the forums are.

For us we pretty much just float around and get involved if we see something we want to comment on but we completely understand how others may perceive things... what do you guys think?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

Yes, yes they are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I don’t think they are.

It’s a bit like a pub. You get groups of people who know each other, and so they chat and banter more, but lots of people are inclusive on here, and the community changes all the time.

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By *ancer36Woman over a year ago

Stirling

I’m a regular forum user, sometimes I take part for the shits and giggles, sometimes I fancy a perv, sometimes I like to get my tuppence worth in on a more serious topic and others I’m just plain nosey..it’s an escapism and for me lighthearted fun.

I enjoy it for the most part and have connected with some people I perhaps wouldn’t have in terms of location - my last few meets have been with forum users and one of which I’m beyond happy to have found not just sexually but in terms of friendship

I don’t see cliques maybe because I don’t consider myself cliquey I’m the same way with everyone regardless if they post often or are a newcomer to the forum - basically I’m too chilled to give a shit xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep. Very much so I find

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, I don’t think they are.

It’s a bit like a pub. You get groups of people who know each other, and so they chat and banter more, but lots of people are inclusive on here, and the community changes all the time. "

I think it’s a fair analogy, sometimes there are the absolute regulars and they will sometimes dominate a thread in terms of amount of content etc. But many whom welcome new people too.

I think socials through forums can also appear that way as well.

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By *ighty_tightyMan over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

I've only been a forum user a few weeks and as far as forums go this is a pretty standard place, nothing overtly cliquey

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By *assing Fancies x OP Couple over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

"Yes, yes they are"
100% respect you opinion... would you care to elaborate on why and your perspective on things on the forums?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dunno, I’m just here to twat around a bit and hopefully bring a giggle or two to serious discussion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are on the fence with this... we have had socials with people from fab and the subject of the forums being cilcky has arose a few times. Now for us no matter thread it is, everyone has a equal voice and chance to reply.

Now this isn't ment to be a bitchy thread... more of just wanting people's HONEST opinions on how you guys think the forums are.

For us we pretty much just float around and get involved if we see something we want to comment on but we completely understand how others may perceive things... what do you guys think?

I have honestly found it really friendly, welcoming and inclusive.

Some of the posters are a bit cheerleader-ish with each other. I can see why people might find it mildly annoying, I suppose, but it’s to be expected. And it doesn’t bother me.

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By *cttMan over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

For me it's the better part of the site, better than the chat rooms

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman over a year ago

Thurrock

There's definitely threads where certain people will comment and those comments will get acknowledged & replied to & most other comments ignored, but I think that's more that people just know each other (virtually) so their names /comments stand out more

I feel like otherwise they are quite inclusive anyone can start a thread/comment etc & generally everyone plays nice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes it is. "

No it's not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes it is.

No it's not. "

Sorry - wrong thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now this isn't ment to be a bitchy thread... more of just wanting people's HONEST opinions on how you guys think the forums are.

For us we pretty much just float around and get involved if we see something we want to comment on but we completely understand how others may perceive things... what do you guys think?

I have honestly found it really friendly, welcoming and inclusive.

Some of the posters are a bit cheerleader-ish with each other. I can see why people might find it mildly annoying, I suppose, but it’s to be expected. And it doesn’t bother me."

Chearleader-ish. I like it.

Gimme a K

Gimme an E

Gimme a Y

…

You know the rest.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

No. I just make it my own forum and that's all that others have too.

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

At times the forums appear cliquey, yes. It's kind of hard at times for such things not to be.

People get familiar with each other, friendships form, friendly dynamics and banter evolves. Sometimes these things take front and centre.

A clique intentionally excludes any and all of those outside of the clique. I've very rarely witnessed actual exclusion whenever the clique is referenced.

Diagreements and dislikes among people but never exclusion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now this isn't ment to be a bitchy thread... more of just wanting people's HONEST opinions on how you guys think the forums are.

For us we pretty much just float around and get involved if we see something we want to comment on but we completely understand how others may perceive things... what do you guys think?

I have honestly found it really friendly, welcoming and inclusive.

Some of the posters are a bit cheerleader-ish with each other. I can see why people might find it mildly annoying, I suppose, but it’s to be expected. And it doesn’t bother me.

Chearleader-ish. I like it.

Gimme a K

Gimme an E

Gimme a Y

…

You know the rest."

Shaking my pom-poms at you …

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think it is. I’ve only been using the forums for a couple of months and haven’t noticed it.

There’s people that talk to each other more and have inside jokes but these are usually people that post more frequently.

I do find there are different types of forumites though and they usually gravitate towards each other. The wind ups, the fence sitters, the controversial ones, the jokers and a few more.

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By *eacupsbearCouple over a year ago

York

If something in a thread takes my interest, I'll answer or comment

People can choose to respond or not, it's their right.

If they do... To quote Bricktop.. "goody gumdrops" if not, fair enough.

I don't think forums are intentionally cliquey..

It's just like life, everyone needs time to get used to and comfortable with each other.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Yes, yes they are 100% respect you opinion... would you care to elaborate on why and your perspective on things on the forums?

No elaboration, I just think they are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Life is clicky, there's no getting away from

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

New members are constantly reminded of people who used to frequent this parish but have left for various reasons and the new arrivals just don't measure up. If it was really just a group of friends they would have their private conversations elsewhere and they wouldn't need the forums for the inside jokes and less than subtle lamppost pissing.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At times the forums appear cliquey, yes. It's kind of hard at times for such things not to be.

People get familiar with each other, friendships form, friendly dynamics and banter evolves. Sometimes these things take front and centre.

A clique intentionally excludes any and all of those outside of the clique. I've very rarely witnessed actual exclusion whenever the clique is referenced.

Diagreements and dislikes among people but never exclusion."

I agree with this x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We can be part of cliques and not even realize it, or we can pass judgement on cliques we're not part off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think I’m cliquey but if anyone has observed differently, please feel free to let me know!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They can be very clique to some and not to others. It's all about individual perception.

Often people who are on the forums have known each other for years so when someone new comes around and might have an argument with a regular forum user, their forum friends may come and attack him. Obviously that's wrong thing to do but I think people would act the same way in real life when defending their friends.

I do find that forums are more judgemental than clique per say.

You often have the same users shaming other people for their kinks and preferences time and time again. Whenever a new thread is started by someone who's new to the forums they jump on it and try to either derail it or shame their users for liking certain things.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think they are, I’ve just discovered them and don’t feel excluded.

I find it fun seeing the connections between others that have been here longer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just poste what’s on my mind unfiltered on the subject

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By *anilla switchWoman over a year ago

Hampshire

I like the forums as I feel it’s a good place to share problems, gain advice the lifestyle etc. I

Enjoy most of the posts and I like reading what the regular posters have to say.

I do keep chipping away, but feel it’s more a place to make an opinion, share something funny. I don’t think it’s a place to make friends as such. Going out to clubs is a way of getting to know people on more person level.

It’s like any other social media platform really, not everyone will respond, post reply as we’re all busy doing shit at different times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They can be very clique to some and not to others. It's all about individual perception.

I do find that forums are more judgemental than clique per say.

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes yes they are and I think there are groups of people the only interact with each other but on the whole I think the forums are quite inclusive.

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist."

I partially do agree with this. The old members thing is one that I've never really thought of, but that is indeed true. "the good ol' days" comments are certainly very clique focused but only one aspect of the clique traits.

I still don't think there is a big overlording clique, the forum mafia as it were. But certainly aspects of cliqueness.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist."

I would say that is a pretty fair analyses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like any other forum, those considered part of the clique will express friendships have developed and therefore are more likely to understand one another's ways and banter, so more likely to converse together over the forums.

Those that aren't considered part of the clique may suggest that yes there is a clique as there are forum users that are more likely to converse together, ignoring other users.

In their own ways, both are correct.

Forums will always feel this way to some.

Just keep posting and find your own tribe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think it's cliquey because I've felt included.

There's a nightly thread that says explicitly newbies are welcome here....not sure how much more inclusive that can be.

Sometimes people can get overlooked, but I don't think that's intentional, just maybe more that certain people are more entertaining, got better jokes and have more, subjectivity, interesting things to say..or something...

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"They can be very clique to some and not to others. It's all about individual perception.

I do find that forums are more judgemental than clique per say.

Well said

Another good point.

I actually think it's a combination of this, and what Realitybites said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it."

Your posts are awesome I do love reading them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are little cliques. A certain handful of people who will band together to bash someone or gang up to push their opinion / agenda. Some forums regulars who get on well. But take away what you will, just be yourself and you will find lovely like minded folk to chat to. Just remember it is healthy to be exposed to opinions that are different to yours. Echo chambers are bad places, so dont let the shouty minority turn the forums into that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

Your posts are awesome I do love reading them

You’ve really lifted my heart with that comment, Natalie. Thank so much, you beautiful human xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They can be very clique to some and not to others. It's all about individual perception.

I do find that forums are more judgemental than clique per say.

Bareback being a particular trigger here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They can be very clique to some and not to others. It's all about individual perception.

I do find that forums are more judgemental than clique per say.

Another fair analysis

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it."

I've noticed you around.

I find you very attractive.

Would you go to bed with me?

*Name the song!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

Your posts are awesome I do love reading them

You’ve really lifted my heart with that comment, Natalie. Thank so much, you beautiful human xx"

I am glad I could and your welcome and awww thank you so much

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think it's cliquey because I've felt included.

There's a nightly thread that says explicitly newbies are welcome here....not sure how much more inclusive that can be.

I think you are referring to the nocturnal thread and yes that is a specific thread that is aimed at inclusivity. I don't believe every thread should be inclusive because they don't have to be. I do find some threads You can almost predict who will be responded to and who won't. I don't necessarily see that problem as there are lots of inclusive threads.

The nocturnal thread is quite a good example of an inclusive thread but is also really hard work to keep up with at times so I don't believe it's practical for every thread to be inclusive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time.

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By *assing Fancies x OP Couple over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

"Yes, yes they are 100% respect you opinion... would you care to elaborate on why and your perspective on things on the forums?

No elaboration, I just think they are."
oki doki no worries

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

I've noticed you around.

I find you very attractive.

Would you go to bed with me?

*Name the song!

Would You?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are lots of arguments - my advice, ignore the spats and avoid the click bait, spread love +leg

Some days good people are just having a bad day and caught off guard

Others are caught up in the giddiness of attention but may be fighting their own demons

Love + peace

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

I've noticed you around.

I find you very attractive.

Would you go to bed with me?

*Name the song!

Superman - Black Lace

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time."

I'm sorry you feel that way and I think even people who post really regularly get ignored a lot of the time because often on a thread a post doesn't need a reply, I can see why you would take it as being ignored but it's probably more a case of not feeling the need to comment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time."

Aww hugs you feel that was well let’s make this the point 1% your not hopefully you had a good Saturday

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say yes but it’s not as bad as it used to be.

I also think that the perception is a lot greater than it actually is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time."

Bet your inbox is overflowing with messages from people wanting to chat or meet though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am someone who posts quite a lot here, starts threads and joins in. There are still times here when I feel overlooked or excluded. But I don't think it's deliberate.

I spent some time just reading threads before I even commented. I still do now, just to gauge what the dynamics are like and how people interact. To get a sense of friendships and long-held feuds. Who likes to argue, kink shame or nitpick. I don't get the sense that many who first start a thread or comment actually do that. They start a thread making some daft statement or complaining and that's their intro. Then they get piled on and view it as a clique.

I think if you take the time to learn about a community and have a lot of 1:1 chats - you will feel included. Most of the time. I haven't actually met anyone in person so there are times I still feel out of it.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Define "clicky" OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think it's cliquey because I've felt included.

There's a nightly thread that says explicitly newbies are welcome here....not sure how much more inclusive that can be.

The nocturnal thread is quite a good example of an inclusive thread but is also really hard work to keep up with at times so I don't believe it's practical for every thread to be inclusive. "

Yeah, exactly, responding to every comment would be hard work....just like replying to every message!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

I've noticed you around.

I find you very attractive.

Would you go to bed with me?

*Name the song!

Would You?

[Serious face]

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find that the clubs are more clique than the forums lol

I never used to use the forums much (but since I started it’s very much this one I use) I have a knack of offending people unintentionally as what I say/type/write doesn’t come across well (happens on FB A LOT!) but I’ve had nice conversations with nice people on here..

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist."

and its as plain to see as the nose on your face.

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By *ickshawedCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

All I've really seen is people who are already friends making jokes with each other. I tend to avoid the contentious threads so can't say I've seen any ganging up. I'm here for amusement and giggles so gravitate to those who make me laugh. I can only imagine others do similar things.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are lots of arguments - my advice, ignore the spats and avoid the click bait, spread love +leg

Some days good people are just having a bad day and caught off guard

Others are caught up in the giddiness of attention but may be fighting their own demons

Love + peace

Agreed. But when you that someone is behind the scenes spreading shit to others and others believing it it, it can be difficult.

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By *ormorantMan over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Accusers will accuse.

Deniers will deny.

Who gives a toss, it’s a niche Social Media platform with little or no relevance in the realities of life…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time.

Aww hugs you feel that was well let’s make this the point 1% your not hopefully you had a good Saturday "

I did, thanks. I don't take it personally. I still go on the forums and comment when I feel like it. Hope you had a good saturday too xx

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By *ubal1Man over a year ago

Newry Down

In all walks of life, cliques do exist; it's an inevitable part of being human as we are naturally hard-wired to form small intimate groups with members of our tribe.

In the past, cliques formed from being close in physical terms; in the modern online lives we lead we form a connection with like-minded people.

Those who feel excluded from one clique will feel perfectly at home in another; it's a matter of investing sufficient time and skilful effort to make contact with your own online modern tribe.

Life has changed, but we as sociable cooperative human animals have not!

Work hard to form your own clique; you will then become the magnet, attracting people, rather than feeling you are being pushed away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d like to know what cliques there are and who people think are in them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh, it absolutely is, but the trick is to not really give a crap.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very rarely does anyone comment on my posts, I don't post looking for replies.

I couldn't care to be honest, I just enjoy talking nonsense or sense sometimes.

Needy people look for inclusion, just my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time.

Yes maybe. Not always the case but that I can't make them comment. Their decision x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think it's cliquey because I've felt included.

There's a nightly thread that says explicitly newbies are welcome here....not sure how much more inclusive that can be.

The nocturnal thread is quite a good example of an inclusive thread but is also really hard work to keep up with at times so I don't believe it's practical for every thread to be inclusive.

Yeah, exactly, responding to every comment would be hard work....just like replying to every message! "

Definitely it's very time consuming. My fiance is one of the hosts and I often joke that on a Tuesday through to Thursday I become a nocturnal widow.

I will also add it can be very difficult to constantly come up with something interesting to say to every poster but I definitely think it's a thread that is valued within the forum community. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time.

Bet your inbox is overflowing with messages from people wanting to chat or meet though

Maybe. Mainly from people wanting to meet right now or people who haven't read my profile so they don't correspond to what I'm looking for x

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By *usman 199Man over a year ago

Stockport

Not clickey for me . Great people on here. I like to include everyone . . Great to see and here everyone's points of view.

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By *ENGUYMan over a year ago

Hull

"I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist."

I fully agree with this.

The problem can tend to be akin to being a Clique, from what I've seen in over 12 years on here and repeated trips into the Forum pages.

There have been, as well as current persons, who can on occasions get so wrapped up with each other and dominate a conversation to the exclusion of others who post comments, but get totally

ignored.

Over the years I've not posted on certain threads because I know there's no point in trying to fit in with a response as I'm not "one of the few who matter!"

There are others who regularly pop up, start their threads and occasionally lose track of the sheer volume of responses, but they do catch up in time.

But the Cliques do exist; all I have learnt is to recognise them and not involve myself. It makes life easier.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time.

Aww hugs you feel that was well let’s make this the point 1% your not hopefully you had a good Saturday

I did, thanks. I don't take it personally. I still go on the forums and comment when I feel like it. Hope you had a good saturday too xx"

Your welcome and yes I have had and good good you had a good one x

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

Very few people go to the pub on their own and spend their evening trying to catch the attention of groups of friends.

As others have already said there are people who know each other through socials or clubs and they tend to get caught up in their own conversations and others feel left out. I don't have an issue with that.

I do however have an issue with those that are guilty of bullying by exclusion or making snidey remarks at others expense.

As I've said before I've been on fab for 5 years and using the forums for 3 years and if it wasn't for the Irish forums I would have given up long ago.

I posted regularly in the lounge for 18 months without a single reply or acknowledgement but stuck at it out of determination to have a voice more than anything.

I don't know enough about anyone here to determine how well they may know others but everything I have described is equally prevalent across all forums here.

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By *ancer36Woman over a year ago

Stirling

"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset. "

100% agree with this

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By *offiaCoolWoman over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Not clickey for me . Great people on here. I like to include everyone . . Great to see and here everyone's points of view.

You are very inclusive on your threads

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People tend to gravitate to others who think the same as themselves, it's far healthier not to though.

To take in other peoples points of view wether you agree or not stops idiology setting in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset. "

You say that but there are groups off fab where that has happened.

I guess because they become friends and if one person in that group doesn't like someone the others in that group then avoid that person. I don't think it happens as often as some would suggest but it definitely happens.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They certainly can be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I mean I'm very inclusive I will argue with you if I disagree with your point whether you are my friend or not.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple over a year ago

Merseyside

I like the forums I think they connect people that may not be noticed otherwise. I feel there are lots of fun and interesting topics covered.

It comes across in a clique way as some people chat to others more than some but I only see inclusion really.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset.

You say that but there are groups off fab where that has happened.

It definitely does. Which is why I always refuse to join any kind of group chat off of here. I did once and it was horrendous. Never again. Ever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset.

You say that but there are groups off fab where that has happened.

This was what I was going to say. In the opposite side of someone likes someone then other members in that group will also like them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset.

You say that but there are groups off fab where that has happened.

It definitely does. Which is why I always refuse to join any kind of group chat off of here. I did once and it was horrendous. Never again. Ever. "

I will add not all groups and probably most of them are not like that I just thought it was fair to say that we all know that this has happened.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not read the rest but, yes and it ebbs and flows.

People form friendship groups, some pair up, it can be cliquey.

Dont let it stop you though, been here a very long time, and its nice to see fresh faces x

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By *usman 199Man over a year ago

Stockport

"Not clickey for me . Great people on here. I like to include everyone . . Great to see and here everyone's points of view.

You are very inclusive on your threads

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Thank you my friend

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By *assing Fancies x OP Couple over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Thank you to the 3 people that inboxed us correcting our grammar on the thread heading

will you all please accept our deepest apologies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you to the 3 people that inboxed us correcting our grammar on the thread heading

will you all please accept our deepest apologies

That’ll be the grammar clique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you to the 3 people that inboxed us correcting our grammar on the thread heading

will you all please accept our deepest apologies

Oh i hate it when people do that and happens to me a fair bit as I don't proofread.