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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What would you do in my situation..
A close friend has recently started dating lovely lady they seem a perfect match. But you find out and have seen the proof that’s she’s an escort starting off out of the area. Do you tell him and break his heart or have a word with her to come clean or say nothing?.
It’s a cluster however you look at it.. as we all know sometimes the messenger gets the blame.
Also 100% her no doubt there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"He maybe knows and is respecting her privacy by not telling his friends.
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. Nope I can guarantee he doesn’t were close that tbh this would be a taboo convo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Would you tell him if she was a butcher?"
Completely different don’t you think? I take it you don’t have friends you wouldn’t want to see hurt emotionally? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Be a good friend and tell him
I’d want to know if I was in his position "
It’s the right thing regardless of the backlash. I’d want to know roles reversed. |
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"Be a good friend and tell him
I’d want to know if I was in his position
It’s the right thing regardless of the backlash. I’d want to know roles reversed."
Backlash? If he’s your bro there won’t be any
“Oh I already know but thanks for looking out for me mate”
That’s it. Worse case is he has no idea and thanks you for telling him |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Escorts can still have relationships.
Are you worried that she may be trying to deceive him somehow? If so, what gives you that impression? "
Not the profession atall, but emotions involved and him being none the wiser that would hurt later down the line. I’d personally like to know early on. Nothing worse than sex and secrets in a relationship when it has a chance to come to light.
No need to hide who you are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Be a good friend and tell him
I’d want to know if I was in his position
It’s the right thing regardless of the backlash. I’d want to know roles reversed.
Backlash? If he’s your bro there won’t be any
It’s being the burden of bad news. Not a position anyone wants to be in. Appreciate the chat everyone. Seeing him at 10.
Cheers all
“Oh I already know but thanks for looking out for me mate”
That’s it. Worse case is he has no idea and thanks you for telling him "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I’d stay out of it.
I found out my friends girlfriend had cheated on him so I told him. He asked her, she lied, he believed her and I lost a good friend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you tell him if she was a butcher?
Completely different don’t you think? I take it you don’t have friends you wouldn’t want to see hurt emotionally? "
Quite a presumption.
It’s her job, doesn’t mean she is having sex with people, maybe she just goes to dinner with lonely widows? Or party’s as a +1 with people who couldn’t find a date.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Stay out of it, I’m friends with people that have been escorts, the job took a lot out of them emotionally to the point where they felt worthless- to the point they didn’t even feel like they deserved friendship. If someone’s found a bit of happiness in their lives, then let them have that. Being an escort is a big thing and I’m sure if she’s serious, she’ll them your friend sooner or later. |
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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago
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"He maybe knows and is respecting her privacy by not telling his friends.
. Nope I can guarantee he doesn’t were close that tbh this would be a taboo convo"
If you are that close you owe it to him if you think it would be something he would want to know.
Although I would worry that maybe she just feels she can't trust him enough to be totally open yet,we all keep parts of ourselves hidden in the beginning of a relationship. |
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"What would you do in my situation..
A close friend has recently started dating lovely lady they seem a perfect match. But you find out and have seen the proof that’s she’s an escort starting off out of the area. Do you tell him and break his heart or have a word with her to come clean or say nothing?.
It’s a cluster however you look at it.. as we all know sometimes the messenger gets the blame.
Also 100% her no doubt there."
Difficult decision but one that needs to be based on your personal values and your relationship with your mate.
I’d urge trying to be careful not to be (or come across as) shaming her because of her work.
Also you might want to consider how you answer the obvious follow up question “how do you know?”. There aren’t many convincing answers which don’t lead to you either going looking for this information or going looking for sex workers and accidentally coming across this person’s identity. |
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