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"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside?? "I'm so sorry to hear this.. Sending you lots of love. X | |||
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"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside?? "So sorry for your loss. I'm not surprised you feel numb as you will be in shock. It is a very normal reaction. Talking about how you feel is a good way to deal with it. Sending you a hug x | |||
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"Why do I feel numb inside?? "Because you are experiencing a sad bereavement
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"So sorry for your news. I buried my friend at the beginning of this week who passed from bowel cancer at the age of 42. It’s just so devastating. Grief will take you on a wave of emotions and the only advice I can give is to ride with them. As someone has said before me, talking about it always helps. Sending you love " So sorry to hear this, life can be so bloody cruel. Sending love and hugs to you  | |||
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"So sorry for your news. I buried my friend at the beginning of this week who passed from bowel cancer at the age of 42. It’s just so devastating. Grief will take you on a wave of emotions and the only advice I can give is to ride with them. As someone has said before me, talking about it always helps. Sending you love So sorry to hear this, life can be so bloody cruel. Sending love and hugs to you "Thank you x | |||
"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside?? "Truly sorry to hear this fella
Hope you feel a little better soon too | |||
"Can you write her a goodbye letter and burn it? I'm sure the smoke takes the message up to heaven. Xx "What a beautiful idea love this. | |||
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"So sorry for your news. I buried my friend at the beginning of this week who passed from bowel cancer at the age of 42. It’s just so devastating. Grief will take you on a wave of emotions and the only advice I can give is to ride with them. As someone has said before me, talking about it always helps. Sending you love " I've never had to process a death before, I'm sorry for your loss too x | |||
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"Can you write her a goodbye letter and burn it? I'm sure the smoke takes the message up to heaven. Xx "I'm actually going to take this idea on board after I've processed what it is I should be feeling...its a quite beautiful idea. Thank you | |||
"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside?? "Oh nooo I'm so sorry to read this
I'm not surprised you feel numb, your world is ripped apart. I would say allow yourself time to grieve and allow the emotion to flow through you, don't fight it.. it might be helpful to talk to other people who knew him too, as they will also be experiencing the same shock
Definitely hug something /someone if you can and have some quiet moments of reflection where you allow yourself to think about happy memories
Sending love
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"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside?? "Because it’s just too much to handle all at once so your brain shuts out all emotions for survival. I’m Sorry man. Xxxxx | |||
"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside?? "I messaged my bestie via messenger. I know he’ll never see it, but we spoke everyday, so it just felt right that instead of saying my usual goodnight, I also told him goodbye. It’s not for everyone, as I said, we react in different ways, but for me, at that moment, it felt right xx | |||
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"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside?? "You feel numb because you loved him. I have taken some time to myself to say goodbye in my head and remembered the good times, the bad times, the times we laughed and had a rather too much to drink. I still do that and everytime it brings a smile to my face. | |||
"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside??
I messaged my bestie via messenger. I know he’ll never see it, but we spoke everyday, so it just felt right that instead of saying my usual goodnight, I also told him goodbye. It’s not for everyone, as I said, we react in different ways, but for me, at that moment, it felt right xx "I did that to
I still go back and read his jokes and messages | |||
"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside??
I messaged my bestie via messenger. I know he’ll never see it, but we spoke everyday, so it just felt right that instead of saying my usual goodnight, I also told him goodbye. It’s not for everyone, as I said, we react in different ways, but for me, at that moment, it felt right xx
I did that to
I still go back and read his jokes and messages "I still message him, tell him what’s happening in my life, I’m not ready to let him go yet, and I told someone that, and they reassured me that it’s ok. I think reading their messages etc keeps them with you, and if it makes you smile, even when it makes you cry, it can’t be a bad thing xx | |||
"Can you write her a goodbye letter and burn it? I'm sure the smoke takes the message up to heaven. Xx
I'm actually going to take this idea on board after I've processed what it is I should be feeling...its a quite beautiful idea. Thank you "I did this years after my dad passed when I realised I hadn’t fully processed his loss & found it really cathartic. So sorry for your loss OP, sending hugs. | |||
"So sorry for your news. I buried my friend at the beginning of this week who passed from bowel cancer at the age of 42. It’s just so devastating. Grief will take you on a wave of emotions and the only advice I can give is to ride with them. As someone has said before me, talking about it always helps. Sending you love " Life can be so cruel. Sorry for your loss. x | |||
"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside??
I messaged my bestie via messenger. I know he’ll never see it, but we spoke everyday, so it just felt right that instead of saying my usual goodnight, I also told him goodbye. It’s not for everyone, as I said, we react in different ways, but for me, at that moment, it felt right xx
I did that to
I still go back and read his jokes and messages
I still message him, tell him what’s happening in my life, I’m not ready to let him go yet, and I told someone that, and they reassured me that it’s ok. I think reading their messages etc keeps them with you, and if it makes you smile, even when it makes you cry, it can’t be a bad thing xx "I went back and read her messages at lunchtime and how she was more concerned about my wellbeing over herself regardless of what she was going through eventho I asked her every day how she was, what she'd been doing, had she eaten | |||
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"Can you write her a goodbye letter and burn it? I'm sure the smoke takes the message up to heaven. Xx
What a beautiful idea love this. "Love this… | |||
"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside??
I messaged my bestie via messenger. I know he’ll never see it, but we spoke everyday, so it just felt right that instead of saying my usual goodnight, I also told him goodbye. It’s not for everyone, as I said, we react in different ways, but for me, at that moment, it felt right xx
I did that to
I still go back and read his jokes and messages
I still message him, tell him what’s happening in my life, I’m not ready to let him go yet, and I told someone that, and they reassured me that it’s ok. I think reading their messages etc keeps them with you, and if it makes you smile, even when it makes you cry, it can’t be a bad thing xx
I went back and read her messages at lunchtime and how she was more concerned about my wellbeing over herself regardless of what she was going through eventho I asked her every day how she was, what she'd been doing, had she eaten "She sounds like an amazing woman, and friend. Give yourself time to adapt, and please don’t worry if you struggle at times. Loss is hard, and when someone is as special, as she obviously was to you, then it may take a little longer. From what you’ve said, the greatest gift she gave you, besides her love and friendship, is making sure you looked after you too, so that’s what you need to hold onto. You need to be kind to yourself, and look after yourself xx | |||
"Can you write her a goodbye letter and burn it? I'm sure the smoke takes the message up to heaven. Xx
What a beautiful idea love this.
Love this…"Sorry for your loss x Writing a goodbye letter really does help I did this when my dad died  | |||
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"Remember you can always say goodbye by yourself, they just can’t say it back. So get your phone, and send them the message you would want them to hear if they could, the one that you’d stumble over, forget bits of, not do justice to, and get it right, say all the controversial stuff, all the sad stuff, all the happy stuff, and save it in your phone. Re read it a few times if it helps, reword, add bits, change bits etc, and then at some point you just..send it. Bonus points for sending it from their favourite pub bench, the gym you went to together, the place you last saw each other, or the first. Make that moment one just for you, so you know you did your friend justice in this small way. " This , exactly this... | |||
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"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside?? "Big hugs. Your friend is now at peace and suffers no more | |||
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"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside?? "I'm so sorry for your loss. You are grieving because you didn't get to say goodbye. Take time to process and speak to her brother. You can be there for him in his grief too. I'm thinking of you x | |||
"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside?? "So sorry to hear this. Sounds like it's still sinking in for you. There's no right way to grieve, take your time and be kind to yourself. Lots of love to you, fella | |||
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"A dear close friend of mine passed away last night after a long battle with liver cancer. I found out this morning when her brother messaged me. Its a sad loss at the age of 45, but I'm struggling to process it due to the fact I never got the opportunity to say "goodbye" Why do I feel numb inside?? "I’d hazard a guess it’s shock. Take time to process the information. And I’m very sorry you’ve lost your friend. | |||
