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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi,
Yes I think it's given for the majority of guys ,that if a unknown lady smiles at us we think we're in let alone if she randomly chats to us.
Question 1-- How do guys gauge honestly if the lady is simply being friendly / polite or genuinely interested?
Question 2 -- Is this aspect purely a male misjudgement or do women equally misread friendliness from guys as interest ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have studied this and feet play a big part girl's naturally point there feet to who they are attracted to..... I know this will bring abuse but try it out it is true"
Nooooo ??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very chatty and friendly in real life, and it's got me into situations where men think it means I'm interested.
I'm not, I'm just talkative.
I would never presume a man smiling at me meant he was interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I get a smile I will interact.
If there’s a conversation then I will judge the conversation by how it flows really.
Never walk into anything with an expectation of more and if there is anything more it’s a bonus. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t ever read anything into a smile.. unless I’m told straight I don’t know.
I don’t smile at random men either.. I’m more likely to pinch someone I fancy.
This scenario doesn’t work for me  "
Pinch their bum as they walk past and say oi oi, gorgeous?
OP, I smile at lots of people I don't know, male and female, doesn't mean they're in, I'm just a friendly person (which I know is very much at odds with my firm belief that people are c#nts)
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I had this conversation with my friends today. How do you let a man now you’re interested? Having been monogamous for 25 years I find this hard but would think It’s the subtle things. Eye contact, touching my lips, body language (facing towards), touching the other person, laughing. A smile does not count, but a smile with a lingering look is different! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t ever read anything into a smile.. unless I’m told straight I don’t know.
I don’t smile at random men either.. I’m more likely to pinch someone I fancy.
This scenario doesn’t work for me "
I’ve seen this fact for my self that you are allergic to smiling  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They’re only attracted to you, if they throw a marshmallow at you, and scratch their left ear, followed by a coquettish burp…
Although, my marshmallow days are over now, so it could be that it was the right ear?
Seriously though, I am crap at telling of people are flirting with me, so assume everyone is being friendly, so women can be just as bad at reading signals. A guy following my social media complained that I was crap at being flirted with, and was abusive when I said that’s because I have no interest in flirting with him. I took general chit chat as being friendly, and thanking him publicly for his compliments on my posts as being the same, he took it as an opening to see if I was single xx |
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"I don’t ever read anything into a smile.. unless I’m told straight I don’t know.
I don’t smile at random men either.. I’m more likely to pinch someone I fancy.
This scenario doesn’t work for me
I’ve seen this fact for my self that you are allergic to smiling "
Oi!!!! I laugh a lot.. but I keep my smile well hidden!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t ever read anything into a smile.. unless I’m told straight I don’t know.
I don’t smile at random men either.. I’m more likely to pinch someone I fancy.
This scenario doesn’t work for me
I’ve seen this fact for my self that you are allergic to smiling
Oi!!!! I laugh a lot.. but I keep my smile well hidden!!! "
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"I don’t ever read anything into a smile.. unless I’m told straight I don’t know.
I don’t smile at random men either.. I’m more likely to pinch someone I fancy.
This scenario doesn’t work for me
Pinch their bum as they walk past and say oi oi, gorgeous?
OP, I smile at lots of people I don't know, male and female, doesn't mean they're in, I'm just a friendly person (which I know is very much at odds with my firm belief that people are c#nts)
Mr"
Ha ha see I’m the pan faced version that’s clearly saying stay away because most humans are c#nts… I only smile at dogs. I love dogs. This is why I don’t go out… |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t ever read anything into a smile.. unless I’m told straight I don’t know.
I don’t smile at random men either.. I’m more likely to pinch someone I fancy.
This scenario doesn’t work for me "
I can imagine you pinching someone and giving them the Saff look |
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"I don’t ever read anything into a smile.. unless I’m told straight I don’t know.
I don’t smile at random men either.. I’m more likely to pinch someone I fancy.
This scenario doesn’t work for me
I can imagine you pinching someone and giving them the Saff look "
Can you now… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No matter how hard I try I can’t help being really nice to people when I meet them. This ‘phone’ voice happens and I can’t stop it.
I wouldnt notice anyone giving me the eye. I’d just think
I’d got something on my face. Drops of blood still ny chin or somat
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t ever read anything into a smile.. unless I’m told straight I don’t know.
I don’t smile at random men either.. I’m more likely to pinch someone I fancy.
This scenario doesn’t work for me
I can imagine you pinching someone and giving them the Saff look
Can you now… "
I’m
Imagining right now |
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"I don’t ever read anything into a smile.. unless I’m told straight I don’t know.
I don’t smile at random men either.. I’m more likely to pinch someone I fancy.
This scenario doesn’t work for me
I can imagine you pinching someone and giving them the Saff look
Can you now…
I’m
Imagining right now "
Put your pants back on   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t ever read anything into a smile.. unless I’m told straight I don’t know.
I don’t smile at random men either.. I’m more likely to pinch someone I fancy.
This scenario doesn’t work for me
I can imagine you pinching someone and giving them the Saff look
Can you now…
I’m
Imagining right now
Put your pants back on "
Hands are busy at the mo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm very chatty and friendly in real life, and it's got me into situations where men think it means I'm interested.
I'm not, I'm just talkative.
I would never presume a man smiling at me meant he was interested. "
Me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you mean oon fab
Instinct but a few things id say is if she is overly flirty with a strategy asking how far i am away directly asking but i tend to wait for women to come to me im in no rush to empty my nut sack and im awkward as hell and limited on appointment times or urgency unless my inner cave man is awakened |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you mean oon fab
Instinct but a few things id say is if she is overly flirty with a strategy asking how far i am away directly asking but i tend to wait for women to come to me im in no rush to empty my nut sack and im awkward as hell and limited on appointment times or urgency unless my inner cave man is awakened"
Appointment times?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you mean oon fab
Instinct but a few things id say is if she is overly flirty with a strategy asking how far i am away directly asking but i tend to wait for women to come to me im in no rush to empty my nut sack and im awkward as hell and limited on appointment times or urgency unless my inner cave man is awakened
Appointment times? "
yes can squeeze you in on most tuesdays |
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"Hi,
Yes I think it's given for the majority of guys ,that if a unknown lady smiles at us we think we're in let alone if she randomly chats to us.
Question 1-- How do guys gauge honestly if the lady is simply being friendly / polite or genuinely interested?
Question 2 -- Is this aspect purely a male misjudgement or do women equally misread friendliness from guys as interest ?
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1. Why is there a need for the guy to read more in to the meeting ?
Man A meets Woman B.
They chat.
They both go their separate ways.
2. I would suggest that being a patriarchal and aggressive male-dominated society, women learn from a very early age how to try and ensure their own safety, and part of this is to ensure they do not mis-signal to men.
Essentially instead of meeting women on an even footing, they are already on the defensive. That's what we, in general as men, have done, and I'm not proud of that one little bit.
And the very fact you ask how to tell if the woman is just being friendly or is more interested belies the programming men receive both at a genetic level but also a societal level.
The good news is, it is entirely possible to break that programming and control what society expects of you, and what your loins demand as well.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you mean oon fab
Instinct but a few things id say is if she is overly flirty with a strategy asking how far i am away directly asking but i tend to wait for women to come to me im in no rush to empty my nut sack and im awkward as hell and limited on appointment times or urgency unless my inner cave man is awakened
Appointment times? yes can squeeze you in on most tuesdays "
Isn't that meant to be the other way around |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you mean oon fab
Instinct but a few things id say is if she is overly flirty with a strategy asking how far i am away directly asking but i tend to wait for women to come to me im in no rush to empty my nut sack and im awkward as hell and limited on appointment times or urgency unless my inner cave man is awakened
Appointment times? yes can squeeze you in on most tuesdays
Isn't that meant to be the other way around "
a squeezin for a squeezin got to be equal opportunity with these things |
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