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Would you quit fab for a relationship?
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If you met someone outside of fab would you quit for a relationship? Or is it something you couldn't give up and you would only want someone who was into the lifestyle?
Or if you are in a couple and split from your partner, would you carry on the lifestyle alone? Or try to find someone who wasn't into swinging? |
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over a year ago
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"If you met someone outside of fab would you quit for a relationship? Or is it something you couldn't give up and you would only want someone who was into the lifestyle?
Or if you are in a couple and split from your partner, would you carry on the lifestyle alone? Or try to find someone who wasn't into swinging?"
Truth is IF people met here and formed a relationship well then they are so lucky , but a relationship in the real world ? They would have to be very compatible to make it work , here a lot of stuff is by passed , IF a couple meet here they have an awful lot in common already , not everyone is " into " the lifestyle , some are only here for great sex and have no interest in the lifestyle, but I suppose to answer your question l would leave here for a relationship on the outside world if..IF twas the right one for BOTH . |
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I think it would be easy for me to say “oh yes, I’d give it up for my other half” but we met on here and it’s such a part of our lives, not just our relationship, that I can’t see any situation where there would ever be a permanent need or want from either of us to give it up.
It’s just part of who we both are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes if that’s what they wanted and they meant the world to me
But I would sit have a chat with them and see they wanted to
If not then yes I would give it up for the right person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I enjoy my fab life and would not give it up for anyone."
Yes and am sure Fab life enjoys you enjoying it ,it's the way to go if it suits no doubt , we only live once, no regrets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am in a wonderful relationship and together we are swingers but that doesn't mean we put swinging before the importance of our relationship. We'd walk away from swinging if it impacted on our relationship in any way or if our enjoyment of swinging diminished.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you met someone outside of fab would you quit for a relationship? Or is it something you couldn't give up and you would only want someone who was into the lifestyle?
Or if you are in a couple and split from your partner, would you carry on the lifestyle alone? Or try to find someone who wasn't into swinging?"
I did quit fab 8 years ago for a relationship. Now, being single again I am back. Will I quit for the right person again? Definitely. |
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Having been in a relationship with Mr before we discovered fab, if either one of us wanted to stop swinging, yes we would. If we'd met in the lifestyle I'm not sure the answer would be the same.
Mrs TMN x |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
If I met someone outside of fab they would know about fab anyhow from the start. It wouldn't bother me to tell them if they didn't like it or got annoyed over me being on here then we most likely wouldn't be compatible anyhow , most likely because they would have judged me for being on here. While fab isn't a massive part of my day to day life and I rarely do new meets now I'd prefer if I got into a relationship outside of here that the person would be more open minded about sex and exploring things together.
But I don't see it being an issue as I lost interest in conventional relationship's many years ago so I can't see me meeting someone outside of here for one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not a swinger so I wouldn't be giving anything up. I'm not monogamous so hopefully any partner I have understands that. But if it was the choice between "true love" and a website - obvious what I'd choose. |
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Or you can meet someone on FAB and carry on this journey together making fantastic top shelf moments 
We would both give up FAB if one of us wasn’t wanting to carry on though. Our relationship comes first…whilst we met on here, this is just a bonus to us and not vital in our relationship.
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"If you met someone outside of fab would you quit for a relationship? Or is it something you couldn't give up and you would only want someone who was into the lifestyle?
Or if you are in a couple and split from your partner, would you carry on the lifestyle alone? Or try to find someone who wasn't into swinging?"
Yes...if I was serious about relationship and I wanted to give my full undivided attention, but maybe down the road if it was something she was into or want to try. |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
FAB has no impact whatsoever on our swinging lifestyle. Thankfully FAB doesn't own any clubs, and there are so many hot, gorgeous non FAB swingers who attend clubs, so yep if we wanted to leave FAB it's not a problem, we only stay to keep in touch with friends, as can't give our phone number to everyone lol. Xxxxx  Suzi |
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"If you met someone outside of fab would you quit for a relationship? Or is it something you couldn't give up and you would only want someone who was into the lifestyle?
Or if you are in a couple and split from your partner, would you carry on the lifestyle alone? Or try to find someone who wasn't into swinging?"
Well we're happily married and have been swinging together for23 years. Neither of us are looking at anything beyond each other nor would we split.
We can take or leave swinging. It just adds to our relationship, it doesn't define it.
However, in a hypothetical situation where one of us took ill or worse, then yes, I suppose the other might continue swinging. There's nothing wrong in enjoying sex.
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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago
Back of Nowhere and Beyond |
"Or you can meet someone on FAB and carry on this journey together making fantastic top shelf moments
We would both give up FAB if one of us wasn’t wanting to carry on though. Our relationship comes first…whilst we met on here, this is just a bonus to us and not vital in our relationship.
K"
This completely.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
Yes I would. I'm more than capable of only having sex with one man. If I'm getting all the sex I need from him, I won't need anyone else.
The chances of it happening are slim though, and I'd still like to go to the forum socials. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you met someone outside of fab would you quit for a relationship? Or is it something you couldn't give up and you would only want someone who was into the lifestyle?
Or if you are in a couple and split from your partner, would you carry on the lifestyle alone? Or try to find someone who wasn't into swinging?"
I carried on the lifestyle alone when I broke up with my ex.
I doubt I could date someone who wanted a fully monogamous relationship because it simply isn’t my way. |
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I’m in a long-established ENM relationship. If that were to end, I’m at a stage in my life where ENM is one of the things I’d be looking for in any future relationship, so in that regard, no I wouldn’t ‘give up’ that aspect of my life.
As for the actual site… again no, but a break every now and then seems to be best! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't stay on here to live my life the way I want to, it's not a vital part of that. I rarely use the site now anyway. I'm not a swinger but anyone that got close would have to be accepting of my lifestyle or we wouldn't be compatible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you met someone outside of fab would you quit for a relationship? Or is it something you couldn't give up and you would only want someone who was into the lifestyle?
Or if you are in a couple and split from your partner, would you carry on the lifestyle alone? Or try to find someone who wasn't into swinging?"
I did quit after we met on here to concentrate on our relationship. We split up a couple of times and I think both of us came back on as singles for a while. Then quit again to concentrate on us.
Now we're tentatively back as a couple. Both of us understand this lifestyle and it's made things easier to come back, possibly without as many restrictions as new couples.
If KG wanted to quit Fab and it just be us, I'd have no issue with that whatsoever but we both know the fun meets can bring.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have done previously for a vanilla relationship, sadly that didn’t work out but yes I would.
I wouldn’t come off of fab straight away, hide profile and leave it be to concentrate on the relationship first.
All going well then I would delete it.
But baby steps an all that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely. I would probably hide my profile for a while, see how things were going with him and if it got more serious then I would away from here in a flash x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely. I would probably hide my profile for a while, see how things were going with him and if it got more serious then I would away from here in a flash x"
Absolutely this xx |
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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago
where the world takes me |
I would probably not enter a relationship with someone who wasn't comfortable with my kinks these days, and part of those kinks need multiple partners.
Mainly because I'm bi and would want fun with all genders.
So would i give up fab? As a website maybe, as a lifestyle with kink, no. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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"Threads like this are very telling as to who is just here for sex and who are actual swingers "
This ^^^ but also are they the same folk that go and come back again time after time?
...once you've opened Pandora's box and all that!?  |
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"I’m not looking for a relationship in conventional terms so no. It’s got nothing to do with me being on Fab. I just don’t want a full on relationship. "
This for me too. No more “proper relationships” for me. Nothing to do with fab though. I’m very happy how my life is and will never want anything other than a FWB (or two).  |
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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago
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"I’m not looking for a relationship in conventional terms so no. It’s got nothing to do with me being on Fab. I just don’t want a full on relationship.
This for me too. No more “proper relationships” for me. Nothing to do with fab though. I’m very happy how my life is and will never want anything other than a FWB (or two). "
I honestly wish i'd discovered fab, and by extension myself and my kinks, way earlier in life. It's opened so many doors and made me so much more confident and comfortable in who i am.
The idea of going back to a "vanilla" world where i surprise part of who i am just seems utterly depressing to me.
The one, big, caveat would be if i found a female led relationship where she decided i was to come off fab as she'd be responsible for finding people for me  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Threads like this are very telling as to who is just here for sex and who are actual swingers "
I think it’s more telling of a fixed vs open mindset.
I’m not looking & not interested but if it happened then absolutely , I’d they fulfil all you need why not? it’s just very unlikely !
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"Threads like this are very telling as to who is just here for sex and who are actual swingers
I think it’s more telling of a fixed vs open mindset.
I’m not looking & not interested but if it happened then absolutely , I’d they fulfil all you need why not? it’s just very unlikely !
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I think it just tells who would stop fabs for a relationship
I don’t pretend to hold the key to who is and who isn’t a “swinger” by some arbitrary definition I’ve made up in my mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Threads like this are very telling as to who is just here for sex and who are actual swingers
This ^^^ but also are they the same folk that go and come back again time after time?
...once you've opened Pandora's box and all that!? "
I’d love to have a full time swinging relationship, but I want a full time relationship, and finding the right person is more important than swinging for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Threads like this are very telling as to who is just here for sex and who are actual swingers
I think it’s more telling of a fixed vs open mindset.
I’m not looking & not interested but if it happened then absolutely , I’d they fulfil all you need why not? it’s just very unlikely !
I think it just tells who would stop fabs for a relationship
I don’t pretend to hold the key to who is and who isn’t a “swinger” by some arbitrary definition I’ve made up in my mind. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Threads like this are very telling as to who is just here for sex and who are actual swingers
I think it’s more telling of a fixed vs open mindset.
I’m not looking & not interested but if it happened then absolutely , I’d they fulfil all you need why not? it’s just very unlikely !
I think it just tells who would stop fabs for a relationship
I don’t pretend to hold the key to who is and who isn’t a “swinger” by some arbitrary definition I’ve made up in my mind. "
This ^^^
And HC's comment below it.
My relationship is far more important than swinging. Yes, it's fun and it adds to everything else but it's about US at the end of the day.
Everyone will feel slightly different in varying degrees and there's no right or wrong. Just how you feel is right for you
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Threads like this are very telling as to who is just here for sex and who are actual swingers
I think it’s more telling of a fixed vs open mindset.
I’m not looking & not interested but if it happened then absolutely , I’d they fulfil all you need why not? it’s just very unlikely !
I think it just tells who would stop fabs for a relationship
I don’t pretend to hold the key to who is and who isn’t a “swinger” by some arbitrary definition I’ve made up in my mind. "
True.
But I do think people who use words like never and always and less open and free thinking , which is the opposite of what I used to think swingers were ! |
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Yup.
I’m single and use this for the club scene.
I’d give it all up for a relationship and wouldn’t want to swing with someone.
At a push potentially club but only for the vibe and voyeurs- no sex with others.
Wouldn’t bother me giving it up at all Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yup.
I’m single and use this for the club scene.
I’d give it all up for a relationship and wouldn’t want to swing with someone.
At a push potentially club but only for the vibe and voyeurs- no sex with others.
Wouldn’t bother me giving it up at all Xx "
This is exactly how I feel about it too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met on Fab, and while neither of us uses our single profile now for meets, we have no intention of quitting Fab as a couple.
Probably because Ginge is such a pervert |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I'm just here for the sex. I'm not bothered if it's with one person, as long as it's fulfilling.
I don't need multiple partners or clubs full of people who want my body, to satisfy me.
I like the social side that doesn't involve getting naked.
As I prefer one partner at a time and I'm not looking for couples with a bi woman, I don't consider myself a swinger. If I was in a committed relationship I wouldn't be on any site that is for meeting others for sex; not just Fab. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I wouldn't leave the lifestyle as its part of who I am but there's plenty of swingers who aren't on Fab."
My buddy from Facebook has spoken to me about attending a club with him, as he knows someone who DJs there.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I first joined fab with an ex and came back alone after we split. I guess I would leave fab for someone if it was the right person. Then again, I couldnt imagine it being the right person if they weren't sexually "adventurous". And I've always said I could be with someone that didn't want to do swinging. But I couldn't be with someone that would look down on me for having done it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a person left Fab for a relationship, everything about that relationship would have to be right, and l mean everything ,cause it would be regretted if it wasn't right, there's no if or buts it's either right or wrong . |
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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago
Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove |
I wouldn’t leave Fab as there are men on here I’ve chatted to for many years and consider them to be friends.
That said, I wouldn’t meet anyone (whether I’d met them before or not) or engage in conversations with new people
Nor would I have a relationship with anyone off Fab, many people do and it works for them, it wouldn’t work for me |
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No.
I tried vanilla dating and that convicesld me that I didn't want that.
I have made so many friends through this lifestyle and I wouldn't want to lose them.
Im not really interested in a relationship that wouldn't involve swinging.
Would be interesting to meet someone in the lifstyle and see how things could work as a couple. But right now I love being a unicorn and living my life how I want.  |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
Tricky 1 this!!
If we meet off fab then yes round quit fab
If met on Fab hmm! We would need to discuss that, either we both stay or we both leave  .
Can't have 1 partner on & the other off wouldn't work for me |
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Yes. I chose to play exclusively with someone from here for the last 9 months or so. Gave up going to clubs etc for him. Now I think it's all over though without so much as a discussion. Just ghosting me. |
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If my wife actually showed some interest in sex with me then definitely yes. However he knows I'm on here and has no problem so if it spiced up our sex life together them I'd stay even if it was just chatting. |
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I started to date someone who lives in Spain 10 months ago. He doesn't know about fab but I don't feel guilty as I host parties, I don't play so don't see it as cheating. But if I move to Spain then 100% I'd give it up
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I think that whether or not someone can or is willing to be monogamous for a particular relationship depends on whether they understand non monogamy as being part of their identity or rather whether it’s something that they may or may not choose to do
I could do either but I’m just here for the forums as I’m currently in a monogamous relationship. This isn’t a conflict with my core needs. I have a couple of friends for whom being non monogamous is part of their identity so they wouldn’t make the same decision |
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"Yes. I chose to play exclusively with someone from here for the last 9 months or so. Gave up going to clubs etc for him. Now I think it's all over though without so much as a discussion. Just ghosting me. "
 I'm really sorry to hear that |
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At this point in time I’m not looking for a 24/7 relationship. However - in my years on fab I’ve met one or two people who’ve knocked my metaphorical socks off both physically and mentally so - if things developed - who knows?
What I wouldn’t do is give up the friends I’ve met along the way and the social side of swinging. I also wouldn’t lie about who I am and what I’ve been up to these past years - I’m a shit liar anyway!
I’d like to think there’s someone special out there - though in what form of relationship I’ve no idea. I’d be open to swinging as a couple but if they wanted monogamy and I loved them - then monogamy it would be! |
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"At this point in time I’m not looking for a 24/7 relationship. However - in my years on fab I’ve met one or two people who’ve knocked my metaphorical socks off both physically and mentally so - if things developed - who knows?
What I wouldn’t do is give up the friends I’ve met along the way and the social side of swinging. I also wouldn’t lie about who I am and what I’ve been up to these past years - I’m a shit liar anyway!
I’d like to think there’s someone special out there - though in what form of relationship I’ve no idea. I’d be open to swinging as a couple but if they wanted monogamy and I loved them - then monogamy it would be! "
You’d totally hang up your fab knickers for a life with me peachlette! |
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"At this point in time I’m not looking for a 24/7 relationship. However - in my years on fab I’ve met one or two people who’ve knocked my metaphorical socks off both physically and mentally so - if things developed - who knows?
What I wouldn’t do is give up the friends I’ve met along the way and the social side of swinging. I also wouldn’t lie about who I am and what I’ve been up to these past years - I’m a shit liar anyway!
I’d like to think there’s someone special out there - though in what form of relationship I’ve no idea. I’d be open to swinging as a couple but if they wanted monogamy and I loved them - then monogamy it would be!
You’d totally hang up your fab knickers for a life with me peachlette! "
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Oddly no.
Think fab release’s unfettered sex and we wouldn’t want to go back to restraint sex of “smack me on the bottom with the woman’s weekly” type of relationships.
Just our thoughts.
Plus make you wonder who lives in woman’s weekly world’s. |
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"At this point in time I’m not looking for a 24/7 relationship. However - in my years on fab I’ve met one or two people who’ve knocked my metaphorical socks off both physically and mentally so - if things developed - who knows?
What I wouldn’t do is give up the friends I’ve met along the way and the social side of swinging. I also wouldn’t lie about who I am and what I’ve been up to these past years - I’m a shit liar anyway!
I’d like to think there’s someone special out there - though in what form of relationship I’ve no idea. I’d be open to swinging as a couple but if they wanted monogamy and I loved them - then monogamy it would be!
You’d totally hang up your fab knickers for a life with me peachlette!
The profile text looks a tad familiar! "
That’s not a no!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was in a couple, discovered this together. Had fun meets then we split over something unrelated to fab. After a grace period I signed up again. If I caught feelings for someone who wasn't into swinging then I would probably give it up. Not a deal breaker for me really, I have no issue keeping my dick in my trousers |
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