FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Splitting the bill!

Splitting the bill!

Jump to: Newest in thread

By *ynda1978 OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in Liverpool

If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Usually one of us pays for meals /one for hotels

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rooperRedMan over a year ago

Littlehampton

Normally I prefer to be the one who pays, but since I went broke it's become an embarrassment so should the highly hypothetical situation arise, I'd avoid it or suck it up. What I've learnt is that poverty isn't sexy.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ighty_tightyMan over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

I'm more than happy paying, especially a first meet.

I'm not sure why. I don't think I'm trying to show off or be the gentleman. I just like to.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tbh i find it very awkward splitting bills, id sooner just pick the bill up and if theres a repeat meet then they can next time.

If they've payed for the room id get the food bill.

Nothing embarrasses me more than splitting a food bill

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ighty_tightyMan over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Tbh i find it very awkward splitting bills, id sooner just pick the bill up and if theres a repeat meet then they can next time.

If they've payed for the room id get the food bill.

Nothing embarrasses me more than splitting a food bill

The odd time someone has offered to split I've done the same, and they've paid the next time.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ikesEmBigMan over a year ago

Herts

Equal opportunities and all that

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

If it’s a social in a bar then take it in turns getting rounds.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *uperjackMan over a year ago

Bristol

I’m sure some will get offended by this but I’m just a bit old school here. I cant let the woman pay. I got brought up that way. It’s not stealing equality or anything like that, just something I struggle with. I’d feel super uncomfortable.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

It’s usually only a drink anyway when I have a social. Usually they get it and I get the next one. I’d be too embarrassed to offer the money for my cup of coffee

. If someone can’t buy me a coffee or I can’t buy them one it’s not a great start

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d pay the full bill and then remind them constantly about it until they eventually put out.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't care who pays. Its never an issue. Depends on who I'm meeting. Can be any combination. I only meet similarly minded people. Can't be doing with those that worry about splitting bills... I remember someone once getting a calculator out to add up what they owed. Oh please! Shoot me now!!!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *uperjackMan over a year ago

Bristol

"I’d pay the full bill and then remind them constantly about it until they eventually put out."

Ha ha. Or this.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don't care who pays. Its never an issue. Depends on who I'm meeting. Can be any combination. I only meet similarly minded people. Can't be doing with those that worry about splitting bills... I remember someone once getting a calculator out to add up what they owed. Oh please! Shoot me now!!! "

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I always make sure the conversation is had before the bill arrives. I like to pay my own share or pay for something else to make it up.

I’d hate to think I was putting someone out financially because of tradition.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d pay the full bill and then remind them constantly about it until they eventually put out."

I'm buying the coffee

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d pay the full bill and then remind them constantly about it until they eventually put out.

I'm buying the coffee"

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ighty_tightyMan over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"I’m sure some will get offended by this but I’m just a bit old school here. I cant let the woman pay. I got brought up that way. It’s not stealing equality or anything like that, just something I struggle with. I’d feel super uncomfortable. "

See I'd say that too but I'm not sure I was every brought up that way. Yep, it was how things used to be and was expected but I've never been "taught" it.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That’s a tad over the top of them

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

See I'd say that too but I'm not sure I was every brought up that way. Yep, it was how things used to be and was expected but I've never been "taught" it."

Always pick up the bill. I know it's not the done thing these days, but it seems to me to be the right thing to do.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *akbearMan over a year ago

Newbury

Would always offer to pay, and judge the situation from there.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haha made me laugh, please say what happened next.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haha made me laugh, please say what happened next."

I settled the bill at the bar whilst "going to the loo" and moved on

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"Normally I prefer to be the one who pays, but since I went broke it's become an embarrassment so should the highly hypothetical situation arise, I'd avoid it or suck it up. What I've learnt is that poverty isn't sexy."

I'm very up front about it. I simply say I don't have spare cash for such things so I'll pay for myself thankyouverymuch and stick to a coffee.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always pay. Doesn't feel right the woman should pay especially first time round

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

You have money!

It's rare I go out with anybody to eat or drink, I live on less than 16k a year with a mortgage so if I do, I'll pay for what I've had, nothing else.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have money!

It's rare I go out with anybody to eat or drink, I live on less than 16k a year with a mortgage so if I do, I'll pay for what I've had, nothing else."

I don't go out when I can't afford it. Simple. Trust me my life isn't that different.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *UGGYBEAR2015Man over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I always insist that she pays, it’s an equality thing.

I wouldn’t want to disrespect her.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

You have money!

It's rare I go out with anybody to eat or drink, I live on less than 16k a year with a mortgage so if I do, I'll pay for what I've had, nothing else.

I don't go out when I can't afford it. Simple. Trust me my life isn't that different."

I won't miss out on friends and family though.

I've got a wealthy brother that pays for everything and I watch my sibs order with impunity, knowing he has secretly put everything on his tab.

It make me squirm so I prepay for my coffee.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I offer to pay. If he says no, we settle it with a duel

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I offer to pay. If he says no, we settle it with a duel "

I'll bring my sword

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *erfectman122Man over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I would pay the bill

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes it's 2022 I feel its fair

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I offer to pay. If he says no, we settle it with a duel

I'll bring my sword

You may need some protective clothing too

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would always offer regardless to who I was out with.

Fab or non Fab....

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *sBlueWoman over a year ago

Up North

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

First time yes after that depend

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, I always do xx

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *uperjackMan over a year ago

Bristol

"I offer to pay. If he says no, we settle it with a duel

I'll bring my sword

You may need some protective clothing too"

Tricky dualing with your sword sheathed, but essential nonetheless!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *uperjackMan over a year ago

Bristol

"I offer to pay. If he says no, we settle it with a duel

I'll bring my sword

You may need some protective clothing too

Tricky dualing with your sword sheathed, but essential nonetheless!"

That dastardly spell check. “Dueling”!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I offer to pay. If he says no, we settle it with a duel

I'll bring my sword

You may need some protective clothing too"

I've got cricket gloves and pads .... and no I won't be naked but those

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustamanMan over a year ago

weymouth

I don't have a problem either way

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Usually one of us pays for meals /one for hotels "

Forward thinking, I like what you did there

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Usually I found that he offers for the meal and after I’d be the one offering a drink or two x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My socials are coffee only. I get my own before they arrive.

If someone offers to "spoil" me and pay for food, I cancel the meet.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

I went on a date just over a week ago and I paid for the meal.There will be a 2nd date in a couple of weeks she already has said we should split the meal and the hotel room. I feel this is fair as neither of us can accommodate.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to insist on paying as I always thought the guy was expected to.

These days going dutch is the way to go unless it was something minor like a coffee, then I would insist you pay

Joking, I'll take the tab for that

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it's just a social I would make sure I'm there first and buy my own coffee. If food is involved, I'll split the bill. I wouldn't expect anyone paying for me x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"My socials are coffee only. I get my own before they arrive.

If someone offers to "spoil" me and pay for food, I cancel the meet.

Even if we split a 99p cheeseburger?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *B69Woman over a year ago

Wiltshire

I always offer to pay, hate splitting bills, if they get the first drink I will always get the second

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Splitting the bill is a mood killer, I have no problem paying and will always offer too.

If he insists then I insist it's my turn next time

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rincess PhoenixWoman over a year ago

Southampton

"If it's just a social I would make sure I'm there first and buy my own coffee. If food is involved, I'll split the bill. I wouldn't expect anyone paying for me x"

That's exactly what I do too

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 06/03/22 18:41:42]

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

I'm happy to split.

Though if it's literally a coffee social and they expect me to pay then I'll do. Just the once

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Splitting the bill is a mood killer, I have no problem paying and will always offer too.

If he insists then I insist it's my turn next time

That's fair. I'll always pick up the tab x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really dislike awkwardness regarding paying, I am more than happy to pay a bill for a meal or hotel. I am equally happy to split the bill, go in rounds for drinks etc

NBVN x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Usually one of us pays for meals /one for hotels "

Same

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *itygamesMan over a year ago

i'm old school , happy to pay for everything

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like to pay the bill if it is a social coffee. If it was to go further then I would like to think that an agreement where we split the difference or as other have said pay for one thing then they pay for something else. I am easy either way to be honest.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My socials are coffee only. I get my own before they arrive.

If someone offers to "spoil" me and pay for food, I cancel the meet.

Even if we split a 99p cheeseburger?"

Joey doesn't share food!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always forget my purse and make the man pay and then I reward him with my warm vagina.

#independentwoman

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I always forget my purse and make the man pay and then I reward him with my warm vagina.

#independentwoman"

That's a bargain x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

Depends if I like them

If I do I’ll pick it up

If not we split

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depends if I like them

If I do I’ll pick it up

If not we split"

Savaaaaaageeeee

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"Depends if I like them

If I do I’ll pick it up

If not we split

Savaaaaaageeeee

Not gonna pay for half of someone stuff I don’t like. Split and then politely go our own ways

If I like them there’s bound to be a 2nd which is their turn to pick it up

Equal opportunities

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’ll always look to pay…not because of old fashioned values but because I hate the ‘well you had an extra drink so you should pay more’ ‘yeah but I didn’t order the lobster for starter’ arguments

I’d rather I paid and then they paid for something else.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would always want to treat the lady but at best would split the bill if they insisted. I'm just old school

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see a lot of men saying they like to pay because its how they were brought up, but as a female i would want to split the first meet so that i did not feel beholden in any way

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, I'd split everything halves.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *uckOfTheBayMan over a year ago

Mold

"I see a lot of men saying they like to pay because its how they were brought up, but as a female i would want to split the first meet so that i did not feel beholden in any way

I'll offer to pay, but it's all part of the discussion over the evening isn't it

Usually you'll come to a mutually agreed outcome

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I see a lot of men saying they like to pay because its how they were brought up, but as a female i would want to split the first meet so that i did not feel beholden in any way

Oh, that's a viewpoint I hadn't thought about, but, I'd always have no preconceptions x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whenever I’ve dated, the guy has generally picked up the bill on the first date. And then I pay on the second, etc.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I normally like to pay all the bills unless my parter really insists..

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Whenever I’ve dated, the guy has generally picked up the bill on the first date. And then I pay on the second, etc."

.....gets wallet filled

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *stbury DavenportMan over a year ago

Nottingham

"What I've learnt is that poverty isn't sexy."

Ain't this the fucking truth.

Personally I think the person in the strongest financial position should pay, but apparently that's not a popular idea.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

I'm happy to pay the bill.

Splitting it can be an arseache so I'd rather pay.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

I've saved so much money not going on dates its unbelievable.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"I normally like to pay all the bills unless my parter really insists.."

What I really don't like is being argued with when I go to pay for a drink.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"I've saved so much money not going on dates its unbelievable. "

Think of all the sex you've missed out on

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would always pick the bill up old fashioned but right x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"I've saved so much money not going on dates its unbelievable.

Think of all the sex you've missed out on

hahh .. with look like mine you don't need wine.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oobyHotwifeWoman over a year ago

Thurrock

I wouldn't expect the guy to pay if that's what your asking

You may as well just ask him to leave money by the bed as he leaves

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Whenever I’ve dated, the guy has generally picked up the bill on the first date. And then I pay on the second, etc.

.....gets wallet filled

I’ll be on hand with my moth-catcher

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Whenever I’ve dated, the guy has generally picked up the bill on the first date. And then I pay on the second, etc.

.....gets wallet filled

I’ll be on hand with my moth-catcher

Yorkshireman living in Scotland. Thrifty, I thank you

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I see a lot of men saying they like to pay because its how they were brought up, but as a female i would want to split the first meet so that i did not feel beholden in any way

I really don't feel beholden just because they bought me a drink or dinner

there's no need if you're clear a social is just that. Gee whiz.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I see a lot of men saying they like to pay because its how they were brought up, but as a female i would want to split the first meet so that i did not feel beholden in any way

I really don't feel beholden just because they bought me a drink or dinner

there's no need if you're clear a social is just that. Gee whiz. "

I think if you go into a social thinking you're off for a jolly right there and then, you'll be disappointed. Be a gent, act like a gent, it'll be right x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What I've learnt is that poverty isn't sexy.

Ain't this the fucking truth.

Personally I think the person in the strongest financial position should pay, but apparently that's not a popular idea. "

I wouldn't think twice about it if a guy asked me to pay because of finances.

Tbf if I suggest drinks or dinner then that means I am willing to pay for it also.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its been too long since I've been presented with this kind of situation.

Two's up sounds good though

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I see a lot of men saying they like to pay because its how they were brought up, but as a female i would want to split the first meet so that i did not feel beholden in any way

I went on a date recently and she said the number of guys who get the bill thinking it entitled them to sex is shocking. So I made a point to split the bill so as not to offend her. I did this once a few years ago with a very wealthy woman and was told in her culture it’s the biggest single insult a man can do, I said good, I’m pleased you’re offended, it was intended - she was the rudest, greediest most selfish person I’ve ever dated!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *amie HantsWoman over a year ago

Atlantis

I would love to pay I just always accidentally forget my purse

so annoying.

I don’t mind picking up the bill or letting them pay. The other can pick up the tab next time

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *.L.0460.Woman over a year ago

Bognor Regis

It sounds as if you've had a difficult time but don't think a decent woman would be put off just because you're not flashing the cash!!

In 2022, alot of women would rather hold their own financially!

I hope things start looking up for you

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Greggs and McDonald's isnt that expensive

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I insist on paying for my own orders. Otherwise it makes me feel like I owe something to them.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I insist on paying for my own orders. Otherwise it makes me feel like I owe something to them."
bj for a brew seems about right

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *il sub princessWoman over a year ago

West Midlands

Call me old fashioned but if I have to pay or split the bill my vagina dries up

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

If someone buys me a drink or a coffee I never feel like I owe them anything!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *uperjackMan over a year ago

Bristol

"Call me old fashioned but if I have to pay or split the bill my vagina dries up "

Always look after your sub.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *uperjackMan over a year ago

Bristol

"If someone buys me a drink or a coffee I never feel like I owe them anything!"

Because you don’t!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If someone buys me a drink or a coffee I never feel like I owe them anything!

Because you don’t!

Exactly x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I insist on paying for my own orders. Otherwise it makes me feel like I owe something to them.bj for a brew seems about right

. Imagine what you’d have got if you’d bought me that Big Mac

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ifsomeone bought me a coffee, id offer to buy them one back next time. Because i'd owe them a coffee.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I expect a blowie if I buy them a house salad

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Keep things as equal as possible, so that you avoid any situation where anyone could feel unease or pressured etc.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Split. We are all equal.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I insist on paying for my own orders. Otherwise it makes me feel like I owe something to them.bj for a brew seems about right

. Imagine what you’d have got if you’d bought me that Big Mac

"
at the least your bumhole in the carpark

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

Sorry to hear you’re struggling my lovely.

Until recently I was flat broke (recently started a new job thank goodness). If I was invited for drinks, dinner or a hotel (by someone I know in the latter case - not a first meet) I’d apologise and explain my financial embarrassment and suggest that we reschedule when I have the funds. Some guys (who I assume are also on a low wage) would wait to reschedule - some would offer to pay.

Generally speaking I believe you should split the costs according to your means. I’ve met people who are hard up and paid the whole bill - I’ve also had friends who are very wealthy and I’ve ‘fought’ to be allowed to pay for breakfast the next day.

If I’m ever loaded (probably in an alternate universe) then I’ll happily foot the bill every time.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

"Call me old fashioned but if I have to pay or split the bill my vagina dries up "

Out of curiosity - is this just the initial social or do you expect every gut to pay for you at all times?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

If it's just a social I'd take turns at buying coffee or whatever I usually don't meet anyone new for meals.If it's someone I meet regularly I tend to pay every other time for meals and hotel rooms I'd split the bill.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

"Call me old fashioned but if I have to pay or split the bill my vagina dries up

Out of curiosity - is this just the initial social or do you expect every gut to pay for you at all times? "

*guy

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Usually on a coffee meet l pay for everything , if lm lucky to meet and need to book an hotel l do it also, it's not being " a guy " thing but if a lady gives me her time well then it's the least l can do .

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ynda1978 OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in Liverpool

Interesting comments from you all, I asked as I saw the same question raised on Facebook earlier so thought I'd see what FAB thought

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ehindHerEyesCouple over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I'm happy to split, or if one pays the other pays the next time.

Tg x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rispyDuckMan over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Social would just stick to drink no food ok maybe nibbles

And just take turns buying rounds simple

I believe my time & effort is just as important as yours

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

A mutual thing. It kinda sounds like you’re buying her if you put it that way. I’d never expect anyone to pay for a hotel. I’d always insist on paying half of that, that’s different to a coffee for a couple of quid.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ich_ChesterMan over a year ago

Chester

Generally I'd offer to pay or just pay without asking or thinking about it.

Normally find that we then take it in turn to pay for next round etc

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *aughty but nice...Man over a year ago

Staffs

I'm probably a little old fashioned here and would just pay for drinks or a meal without even thinking about it.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I prefer to pay ( independent woman and all that) but if i was seeing someone regular I'd spilt the bill.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *inx.x3Woman over a year ago

Bath

I’d prefer to have 1 person pay one time and the other pays the next time but I’m also happy to just split 50/50.

No calculators are allowed to come out though. I find that utterly embarrassing. I have a friend that does that when we go out in a group and I cringe every time.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would always pay my share. Whether that's splitting the bill for lunch 50/50; or buying the second round of drinks; or one buys drinks, the other buys food.

I wouldn't get into fisticuffs over it but I would make clear I prefer to contribute. I know some guys feel weird about it but a social isn't a 'date' date.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *echnosonic_BrummieMan over a year ago

Willenhall

I'm probably being a bit old-fashioned here, but...

If you can't run very fast, you'd better have brought your best washing-up marigolds with you!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I have invited a person for a meal, drinks, or stay in a hotel I'd be assuming I'm paying, unless otherwise decided, more than happy to split the bill if other person insisted.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *yclindaveMan over a year ago

Leicester

I don't have any preference at all.

If I go to meet someone I fully expect that I have to pay for myself and I may possibly have to pay for them. That doesn't bother me personally, however I will say I'm perhaps lucky in my situation that the cost of an extra meal, drink, coffee isn't going to bother me in the slightest.

As a preference if a single lady I like to pay, traditional gentleman type stuff, however saying that I do like an offer to split even if I'll refuse, I like the offer of equals.

If meeting a couple same as above, I think they are inviting me a stranger into their lives offering dinner, drinks, coffee is the least I can do. If offering to split I like the keeping of equals.

Judge each and every scenario on the people who you meet and judge and evaluate the 'room' make sure that those you meet are comfortable and not under financial pressure or strain, it is quite easy to tell.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm probably being a bit old-fashioned here, but...

If you can't run very fast, you'd better have brought your best washing-up marigolds with you!"

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

If a woman insists on the guy paying I get a bad vibe

“My time is automatically more valuable than yours, so you have to pay to even spend some time with me”

Comes with a level of entitlement and superiority

I like a woman that can provide for herself

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd pay for myself

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I personally find splitting Bill's awkward, I prefer to get my own

Mrs C

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm very up front about it. I simply say I don't have spare cash for such things so I'll pay for myself thankyouverymuch and stick to a coffee."

This for me too. It sucks being skint

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If its just a social she's paying her own. If we are playing after it I'd gladly split the bill

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One can get coffee other cake , one pays for champagne other for hotel. We stay at yours I'll get take away. And so on. Not splitting calculating pennies, but some sort of sensible arrangement. Works for me.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ablo minibar123Woman over a year ago

"I always insist that she pays, it’s an equality thing.

I wouldn’t want to disrespect her. "

Ha ha I'd rather that then the big man insisting he pay for me, makes me feel less like I'm being bought.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If its just a social she's paying her own. If we are playing after it I'd gladly split the bill

Ermmmm why? This doesn't sit right with me.... fuck me and I'll pay or fuck off and buy your own. Standards are standards regardless of weather shes letting you in her knickers or not. Urghhhhh.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *he_Last_TitanMan over a year ago

Bristol

Split.

I like to know the other party is not simply there for a free lunch / dinner.

Never seems to be a problem or indeed awkward.

Besides, there are enough single male tariffs out there.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If its just a social she's paying her own. If we are playing after it I'd gladly split the bill

Ermmmm why? This doesn't sit right with me.... fuck me and I'll pay or fuck off and buy your own. Standards are standards regardless of weather shes letting you in her knickers or not. Urghhhhh. "

Actually it was fuck me and we can split the bill

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Split.

I like to know the other party is not simply there for a free lunch / dinner.

Never seems to be a problem or indeed awkward.

Besides, there are enough single male tariffs out there. "

Free lunch is not too bad. There are more interesting 'game players' out there. Like borrowing money and then going off to see other people. Standards eh.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *onkeynutWoman over a year ago

somewhere

Splitting is always a pain so typically one of us will pay, usually him. If he pays one time then I will pay the next.

The one time I did split the bill was when I went for lunch with someone and we ended up still there at 11pm with a very large food and drink bill!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If its just a social she's paying her own. If we are playing after it I'd gladly split the bill

Ermmmm why? This doesn't sit right with me.... fuck me and I'll pay or fuck off and buy your own. Standards are standards regardless of weather shes letting you in her knickers or not. Urghhhhh.

Actually it was fuck me and we can split the bill

Ohhh ok, what a deal of a life time, that's ok then, well with that in mind I'd definitely like to meet you

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *he_Last_TitanMan over a year ago

Bristol

"Splitting is always a pain so typically one of us will pay, usually him. If he pays one time then I will pay the next.

The one time I did split the bill was when I went for lunch with someone and we ended up still there at 11pm with a very large food and drink bill!"

I don’t see why splitting is a pain - just throw both cards on the plate. If it’s not even, one party pays slightly more (typically me unless she insists - which some women do).

Hardly rocket science.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

- where are you going for a meal anyway? Costa or a Michelin star restaurant?

usually its the "I'll get it" syndrome where your arguing to pay.. I'll get it, naw I'll get it.. look you put your wallet away its my shout!"

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If its just a social she's paying her own. If we are playing after it I'd gladly split the bill

Ermmmm why? This doesn't sit right with me.... fuck me and I'll pay or fuck off and buy your own. Standards are standards regardless of weather shes letting you in her knickers or not. Urghhhhh.

Actually it was fuck me and we can split the bill

Ohhh ok, what a deal of a life time, that's ok then, well with that in mind I'd definitely like to meet you

If we met you would 100% be paying for your own. Just because your husband treats you all the time doesn't meant every other man out there is going to.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If its just a social she's paying her own. If we are playing after it I'd gladly split the bill

Ermmmm why? This doesn't sit right with me.... fuck me and I'll pay or fuck off and buy your own. Standards are standards regardless of weather shes letting you in her knickers or not. Urghhhhh.

Actually it was fuck me and we can split the bill

Ohhh ok, what a deal of a life time, that's ok then, well with that in mind I'd definitely like to meet you

If we met you would 100% be paying for your own. Just because your husband treats you all the time doesn't meant every other man out there is going to. "

Quality, my husband doesn't keep me, because its 2022 and I have standards, I spoil my husband and don't financially rely on him in any way. I will take you out, pay the bill, have you returned home in a private car after letting you do anything you want to me, is that ok for you?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *xploring_FunWoman over a year ago

Coventry

If it’s just a drink I don’t mind the guy insisting on paying the first one and I’ll get the second one.

If it’s a meal then I insist on paying half the first time. If there are repeat meals then taking turns is fine.

I actually find it quite telling when you get to that point. The reaction to my not being comfortable, or willing, to let a guy pay for everything is often what puts me off meeting some guys.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

If she insists well then that a completely different matter altogether , if half is what she wants , who am l to argue , it's what she wants , there's no point in saying otherwise but women here are in control , wether they know it or not , they decide on who they meet or play with , and offering to pay for an hotel etc is not " kinda sounds like you're buying her " she is there because she wants to be there.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rReyMan over a year ago

Fleet

I will always offer to pay for the first drink or pay for the meal, I think it's polite. But I don't insist, we generally come to an agreement of I'll get this, you get the next.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *estSussexGuy76Man over a year ago

copthorne

I'm always happy to pay the bill. Even if the connection isn't there and nothing is going to happen. Its just nice to be polite - Happy meals are only£3 so it's not going to break the bank

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do not feel awkward just because a guy wants to pay etc , it is NOT him thinking " well l have paid for everything she better play " it is NOT my way of thinking ..NEVER was ..NEVER will be , l would be the same in the real world , if the lady insisted on splitting the bill , l would NOT argue , but l would offer to pay in the first place.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with? "

I am only saying if a meet takes place , nothing else, a meet takes place , Coffee etc simply because BOTH want to be there , it's like walking into a shoe shop , you don't have to buy the shoes , same way with a meet it could end there and then , it could end before it even starts, the eyes tell it all.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with?

I just don’t agree with the women are in control bit. Maybe it’s because the men I’ve met are more selective I don’t know, but they’re definitely in control of who they meet and play with.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with? "

At the end of the day NO meet or play will happen unless the Woman wants to, a guy can paint it anyway he wants to but it ONLY happens if the lady wants it to happen, for instance ,a guy can try and charm you but a meet will only take place if YOU decide it will, stop me when lm wrong .

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

I may pay for it all one time and the next the other person will pay. Splitting it is also an option.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with?

But it won’t happen if a man doesn’t want to.

Stop then. I think you’re wrong

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with?

I just don’t agree with the women are in control bit. Maybe it’s because the men I’ve met are more selective I don’t know, but they’re definitely in control of who they meet and play with. "

A meet only took place because YOU decided to meet those guys..if you decided not to , those meets would never have taken place.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with?

It only happens if the man wants it to happen too. You act like all men are out there chasing - we are not. And while we may be the minority there are still a large number of us who are in control of our own decisions and will say no to the advances of a woman.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with?

I just don’t agree with the women are in control bit. Maybe it’s because the men I’ve met are more selective I don’t know, but they’re definitely in control of who they meet and play with.

A meet only took place because YOU decided to meet those guys..if you decided not to , those meets would never have taken place."

A meet only took place because HE wanted to meet me. If he didn’t the meet wouldn’t have taken place.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with?

But it won’t happen if a man doesn’t want to.

Stop then. I think you’re wrong "

No problem at all , we both have a different opinion on it , we'll agree to disagree ..great legs btw.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *irthandgirthMan over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"Do not feel awkward just because a guy wants to pay etc , it is NOT him thinking " well l have paid for everything she better play " it is NOT my way of thinking ..NEVER was ..NEVER will be , l would be the same in the real world , if the lady insisted on splitting the bill , l would NOT argue , but l would offer to pay in the first place."

I have known ladies on here who have had a social with a guy who thought that him paying for a meal would entitle him to more. And I have known one lady who actually felt pressured enough to go back to a guys hotel where she was sexually assaulted.

(Feeling pressured/obligated isn't 100% consensual.. there are words for that)

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with?

I just don’t agree with the women are in control bit. Maybe it’s because the men I’ve met are more selective I don’t know, but they’re definitely in control of who they meet and play with.

A meet only took place because YOU decided to meet those guys..if you decided not to , those meets would never have taken place."

That mentality is why your in the position your in

Do you think Tom Hardy isn’t in control of the women he wants to meet?

Do you think dicaprio isn’t in control when he invites his 3rd 22 year old supermodel of the day on to his yacht?

Women (anyone) only have control if your desperate enough to give it to them

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *xploring_FunWoman over a year ago

Coventry

You’ve clearly not been on many meets, or dates, with men.

You may not be thinking that and you may not argue, but many do.

Why are you telling women what other men are thinking or not thinking when many, many women (myself included) can tell stories of men who absolutely think paying for drinks or dinner entitles them to sex?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with?

exactly it should happen because both want it to.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ittlekinks38Woman over a year ago

outside belfast x

Well if it includes a hotel room I'd be splitting the hotel and food/drinks bill! If someone insisted to pay hotel I'd buy the food and drink .... if they insist to pay for it all which is highly unlikely I'd feel like a prostitute being paid for! So it would be a no from me...

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rReyMan over a year ago

Fleet

Crikey, this went off...

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ittlekinks38Woman over a year ago

outside belfast x

"I would love to pay I just always accidentally forget my purse

so annoying.

I don’t mind picking up the bill or letting them pay. The other can pick up the tab next time "

What I'd they forget their wallet or purse too what then? That would be my worst nightmare coffee,lunch or dinner! I'd always make sure I had money on me no matter what! Unless you mean it as a joke?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have never let a date pay for a meal, goes against my standards

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well if it includes a hotel room I'd be splitting the hotel and food/drinks bill! If someone insisted to pay hotel I'd buy the food and drink .... if they insist to pay for it all which is highly unlikely I'd feel like a prostitute being paid for! So it would be a no from me..."

Same.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I prefer splitting the bill. If a guy has a problem with that then it's a red flag tbh.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m old fashioned so I will always pay the bill

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I like to pay my own way x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You’ve clearly not been on many meets, or dates, with men.

You may not be thinking that and you may not argue, but many do.

That was is their way , l can only speak for myself here , what other guys do ..what other ladies do ..is completely up to themselves , do NOT assume that l speak for everyone here cause l certainly do not.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d offer to pay because that’s how I was raised and I believe it to be gentlemanly.

I wouldn’t offer to pay because I expect anything in return.

If a girl wants to pay half that’s entirely up to her, I wouldn’t ask or expect it though.

If however, I, by some unfortunate turn of events ended up on a date with some fucking crazy feminist that took offence to me offering to pay a coffee bill then she can a) pay half, b) open her own door and c) fuck off.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I rest my case.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are meeting for a social and it involves food and/or drinks should you split the bill?

Not really as you’re giving your time too. It’s

So men don’t decide who they meet and play with?

I just don’t agree with the women are in control bit. Maybe it’s because the men I’ve met are more selective I don’t know, but they’re definitely in control of who they meet and play with.

A meet only took place because YOU decided to meet those guys..if you decided not to , those meets would never have taken place.

That mentality is why your in the position your in

Do you think Tom Hardy isn’t in control of the women he wants to meet?

Do you think dicaprio isn’t in control when he invites his 3rd 22 year old supermodel of the day on to his yacht?

Women (anyone) only have control if your desperate enough to give it to them "

What position is that ? I'm really interested to know how a complete stranger to me knows " what position " I'm only replying to the question asked ? And for your info ,Tom Hardy or Leo Di Caprio ? .you can be who ever you like in this World but a meet will not take place unless the Woman wants it ,the " 3rd 22 yr old "as you say is only there cause she wants to be there , you can paint it up whatever way you like but it will always be my opinion that a meet will not take place unless BOTH want it to happen , l know tons of guys who wanted to fuck but the lady didn't..did it happen ? Not a hope because she didn't want to ...BOTH must want it to happen ..

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d offer to pay because that’s how I was raised and I believe it to be gentlemanly.

I wouldn’t offer to pay because I expect anything in return.

If a girl wants to pay half that’s entirely up to her, I wouldn’t ask or expect it though.

..Huge Salute to you .

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I prefer splitting the bill. If a guy has a problem with that then it's a red flag tbh."

Have absolutely no problem with that but l will offer to pay first off without having hidden agenda's , a lady's well being and safety and having a good time while having a coffee or bite to eat is imperative.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I rest my case."

Not sure what your case was.

You’re a crazy feminist or you don’t like coffee?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll always offer to pay my share. x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)