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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.
Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get why you feel this way but unless you discussed being exclusive he hasn’t done anything wrong.
It’s up to you if you want to see him again but I probably wouldn’t mention it if you want to continue seeing him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it’s not a locked off relationship then people are free to meet who they want and as meny as they want
I don’t see a problem with it as long as they not standing you up and stuff in place off someone else now that I would have a problem with
When it comes to fab my golden rule is to expect everyone to have just had sed with someone else
I know that not all but if you expect it then can’t be bumed out thay someone has
Also would it be any different that pulling someone on a Friday night out a club and then they pull on the Saturday night |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d ask for details, they love that. As long as it’s safe sex I’d definitely meet again.
I’ve had guys get upset if I meet other guys it’s a red flag for me x
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.
Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "
What was it about him having sex with someone else so soon after you that puts you off? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem with using sites 'like' this is that you can feel there is an exclusivity that exists when, in reality, it doesn't
It sometimes comes as a shock when it becomes apparent that that isn't the case
I have seen both men and women get upset when it transpires that their favourite fucks elsewhere |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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OP, if it put you off, it put you off. Yes, you shouldn't expect exclusivity on a site like this but everyone has different things they are comfortable with - it might be the proximity to him meeting you that left you feeling a bit... meh.
And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is. |
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"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.
Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "
This is a swinging site and we enjoy swinging so no.
So maybe it's different for us as a couple. We both meet together and separately. Fact is, my wife likes me playing more alone than she does on her own (not that she's averse to it) so if it was going to be an issue, it would have been an issue a long long time ago. We don't care.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, if it put you off, it put you off. Yes, you shouldn't expect exclusivity on a site like this but everyone has different things they are comfortable with - it might be the proximity to him meeting you that left you feeling a bit... meh.
And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is. "
Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night  obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style
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"OP, if it put you off, it put you off. Yes, you shouldn't expect exclusivity on a site like this but everyone has different things they are comfortable with - it might be the proximity to him meeting you that left you feeling a bit... meh.
And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is.
Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style
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In the non swinging world I've had two dates in the same day, does that make me bad as well? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.
Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "
I think someone already answered , if it puts u off, it puts u off.
I’ve spoken to many who are on the same line, and personally, maybe it wouldn’t put me off completely, but it’d annoy me … and id rather not know tbf x but yeah we are all different I guess |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"OP, if it put you off, it put you off. Yes, you shouldn't expect exclusivity on a site like this but everyone has different things they are comfortable with - it might be the proximity to him meeting you that left you feeling a bit... meh.
And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is.
Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style
In the non swinging world I've had two dates in the same day, does that make me bad as well?"
It doesn't make either you or someone who doesn't do it the way you do bad. It just makes you incompatible. |
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"OP, if it put you off, it put you off. Yes, you shouldn't expect exclusivity on a site like this but everyone has different things they are comfortable with - it might be the proximity to him meeting you that left you feeling a bit... meh.
And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is.
Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style
In the non swinging world I've had two dates in the same day, does that make me bad as well?"
Who said it was bad?
I've arranged a meet for the same evening by text while someone else was fucking me and I don't really care what anyone thinks of that lol o had a great time. |
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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago
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If you were in a club, it might have been in the next half hour not next evening.
I take it he wants to see you again, which must be a positive sign he enjoyed his time with you. He has also clearly been honest and upfront to tell you he has been with someone else. I would suggest you build on the positives and have open honest conversations with him.
If this is not what you want then it might be time to reappraise using a swinger site to meet people. If it’s only a minor irk, that feeling in many people goes away as they see the advantages of the lifestyle |
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"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.
Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "
No.. this is a swinging site.
In clubs people frequently have sex with sex with several people on the same night, and you would have no way of knowing.
If you're seeking more exclusivity, Fab is probably not the site for you. |
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"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.
Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "
I've felt similar in the past, that's my own insecurity rearing it's head.
In a club or whatnot it wouldn't fuss me, however when it's been a 1-1 meet I've kinda felt like "oh, I didn't do it for him coz he's still got sexual energy to expend" if they've had another meet either the same day or a day or 2 later. So yeah, it's put me off because I've felt like I haven't scratched his itch so why bother repeating if it ain't good enough?
Yes, I know that's not necessarily true from his perspective. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It sounds like you want him all to yourself OP. Unless you want to talk to him about being exclusive with him, I'd let him do what he wants and practice safe sex with him x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, if it put you off, it put you off. Yes, you shouldn't expect exclusivity on a site like this but everyone has different things they are comfortable with - it might be the proximity to him meeting you that left you feeling a bit... meh.
And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is.
Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style
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It would put me off him.
How did you know he fucked someone else? |
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"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.
Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "
If it's a swinging meet then no.
Some people chat shit on here make you feel like their whole world, when in reality it's just a means to an end..an orgasm if they are up to the task  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, if it put you off, it put you off. Yes, you shouldn't expect exclusivity on a site like this but everyone has different things they are comfortable with - it might be the proximity to him meeting you that left you feeling a bit... meh.
And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is. "
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It wouldn’t bother me.
Some don’t get much free time, so arrangements with those they are talking with may fall on the same weekend, as that is when both free or else wait another month.
If it’s not for you then say do, be clear, although that’s probably already done for you if he sees this thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a swinging site so no it definitely wouldn't put me off. I understand that swingers can have sex with many people day after day if that's what they want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, if it put you off, it put you off. Yes, you shouldn't expect exclusivity on a site like this but everyone has different things they are comfortable with - it might be the proximity to him meeting you that left you feeling a bit... meh.
And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is.
Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style
In the non swinging world I've had two dates in the same day, does that make me bad as well?"
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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It’s always bothered me, even as a swinger but I never really did anything about it until this year. It’s not just the physical side , if I’m seeing someone for sex it’s a quite big deal and like a few days before to focus on them not others |
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If you feel put off by it then you feel put off by it.
You don’t have to have a swinger mentality to be here.
Depending on the build up to your meet, I’d feel a bit miffed too, if I was single and you’d both built it up.
If you’ve had a fantastic time together and you’ve been back and forth reliving it to then be told they are meeting someone else later on, it would make me feel a bit meh.
I don’t class myself as a swinger though and shows we are all on here with different thoughts on what we’d find acceptable.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess it depends on my connection to them.
If it's purely sex, then no it wouldn't bother me. But if we had become good friends, enjoyed each others company and wanted to see each other regularly I wouldn't like that I would be one of many. I'd always make this clear before fucking them though, just so we are on the same page.
I know it's a swinging site but if you're not OK with something that's absolutely fine. I totally get why you wouldn't like it. |
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