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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm listening to Oprah's book, what happened to you.. It is truely fascinating and it is getting my brain excited
It's touching on fulfillment and how to fill your 'reward bucket'
So I'm interested in what you do, where do you get your hit, how do you fill the void inside... Do you use external things to hit those pleasure spots, or do you rely on relationships.. Or something else..
Where do you find your reward??
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Shopaholic  can’t help myself
Really.. Is it a quick hit that needs to be replenished often, or does it sate for a while?
Is it enough? "
Just depends when I feel down it’s a case off so you know what
New dress will feel better heels lingerie never lasts though
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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Travel.
Which is why I was deeply depressed during lockdowns. I get pleasure from travelling. Flying, specifically.
I also put on weight because I started eating more and more sweet treats to compensate.   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Shopaholic can’t help myself
Really.. Is it a quick hit that needs to be replenished often, or does it sate for a while?
Is it enough?
Just depends when I feel down it’s a case off so you know what
New dress will feel better heels lingerie never lasts though
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I use retail therapy for a quick hit too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Travel.
Which is why I was deeply depressed during lockdowns. I get pleasure from travelling. Flying, specifically.
I also put on weight because I started eating more and more sweet treats to compensate. "
Have you got any plans now that the world is starting to reopen?!?
I hear you on the weight front.. I spend my day grazing, which i never used to do. It feels out of control now  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What void?
I'm happy enough.
Not sure I want the added complications of a "relationship""
Oh it was meaning all relationships - friends and family rather than a romantic relationship
But how do you maintain your happiness... You must be 'filling your bucket' somehow.... What do you do? |
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"I comfort eat. Loneliness does that.
I think a lot of people would identify with that... How does it mske you feel? "
I find eating a bar of chocolate makes it go away. My son comes at weekends (he's watching TV as I type this), but otherwise, it's me on my lonesome....oh and the forum x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find I'm far less motivated to do things I used to do.
I'm hoping that's just a phase.
I'd say shopping for me too, especially online. I've bought quite a lot of new sexy clothing recently, I guess it gives me a little lift
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I comfort eat. Loneliness does that.
I think a lot of people would identify with that... How does it mske you feel?
I find eating a bar of chocolate makes it go away. My son comes at weekends (he's watching TV as I type this), but otherwise, it's me on my lonesome....oh and the forum x"
How else do you combat feelings of loneliness? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Gaming hits the immediate dopamine rush but longer term and it started during Lockdown 1 was my gardening hobby. Love it when the veg comes in after growing for a while. |
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"I comfort eat. Loneliness does that.
I think a lot of people would identify with that... How does it mske you feel?
I find eating a bar of chocolate makes it go away. My son comes at weekends (he's watching TV as I type this), but otherwise, it's me on my lonesome....oh and the forum x
How else do you combat feelings of loneliness?"
I go to a swingers club when I can, once a month, but injured my leg, so haven't been for a while. My work colleagues took me out for my birthday last Saturday, but that's very rare. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I find I'm far less motivated to do things I used to do.
I'm hoping that's just a phase.
I'd say shopping for me too, especially online. I've bought quite a lot of new sexy clothing recently, I guess it gives me a little lift
PNG x "
Do you think you'll find more motivation as life starts to return to' normal'? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Gaming hits the immediate dopamine rush but longer term and it started during Lockdown 1 was my gardening hobby. Love it when the veg comes in after growing for a while."
I love this.. You sound very aware  |
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"What void?
I'm happy enough.
Not sure I want the added complications of a "relationship"
Oh it was meaning all relationships - friends and family rather than a romantic relationship
But how do you maintain your happiness... You must be 'filling your bucket' somehow.... What do you do? "
Does it need filling? Does it have to be empty?
I'm very much a solitary person. I don't "need" anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I comfort eat. Loneliness does that.
I think a lot of people would identify with that... How does it mske you feel?
I find eating a bar of chocolate makes it go away. My son comes at weekends (he's watching TV as I type this), but otherwise, it's me on my lonesome....oh and the forum x
How else do you combat feelings of loneliness?
I go to a swingers club when I can, once a month, but injured my leg, so haven't been for a while. My work colleagues took me out for my birthday last Saturday, but that's very rare. "
Awww happy birthday  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What void?
I'm happy enough.
Not sure I want the added complications of a "relationship"
Oh it was meaning all relationships - friends and family rather than a romantic relationship
But how do you maintain your happiness... You must be 'filling your bucket' somehow.... What do you do?
Does it need filling? Does it have to be empty?
I'm very much a solitary person. I don't "need" anyone. "
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"I comfort eat. Loneliness does that.
I think a lot of people would identify with that... How does it mske you feel?
I find eating a bar of chocolate makes it go away. My son comes at weekends (he's watching TV as I type this), but otherwise, it's me on my lonesome....oh and the forum x
How else do you combat feelings of loneliness?
I go to a swingers club when I can, once a month, but injured my leg, so haven't been for a while. My work colleagues took me out for my birthday last Saturday, but that's very rare.
Awww happy birthday "
Thanks! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me (T) it's gardening. Not only is it so satisfactory to see something beautiful you have grown but there is something very primeval about about eating food you having grown! It is also a good physical workout.
For A it is donning too much lycra and riding very fast on his bike.
Both of us do not understand the others passion!  |
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"What void?
I'm happy enough.
Not sure I want the added complications of a "relationship"
Oh it was meaning all relationships - friends and family rather than a romantic relationship
But how do you maintain your happiness... You must be 'filling your bucket' somehow.... What do you do?
Does it need filling? Does it have to be empty?
I'm very much a solitary person. I don't "need" anyone.
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Apart from my daughter, I definitely need her |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me (T) it's gardening. Not only is it so satisfactory to see something beautiful you have grown but there is something very primeval about about eating food you having grown! It is also a good physical workout.
For A it is donning too much lycra and riding very fast on his bike.
Both of us do not understand the others passion! "
As someone who dabbles with both, i can appreciate the different fulfilment triggers
Both very rewarding and will keep your buckets filled! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What void?
I'm happy enough.
Not sure I want the added complications of a "relationship"
Oh it was meaning all relationships - friends and family rather than a romantic relationship
But how do you maintain your happiness... You must be 'filling your bucket' somehow.... What do you do?
Does it need filling? Does it have to be empty?
I'm very much a solitary person. I don't "need" anyone.
Apart from my daughter, I definitely need her "
Wait...That's a family relationship!
Those are supposed to be the healthiest and strongest means of fulfilment |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me (T) it's gardening. Not only is it so satisfactory to see something beautiful you have grown but there is something very primeval about about eating food you having grown! It is also a good physical workout.
For A it is donning too much lycra and riding very fast on his bike.
Both of us do not understand the others passion!
As someone who dabbles with both, i can appreciate the different fulfilment triggers
Both very rewarding and will keep your buckets filled! "
Ha! Yes he gets fulfilment from KOM's and I get fulfilment from eating raspberries straight from the plant! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me (T) it's gardening. Not only is it so satisfactory to see something beautiful you have grown but there is something very primeval about about eating food you having grown! It is also a good physical workout.
For A it is donning too much lycra and riding very fast on his bike.
Both of us do not understand the others passion!
As someone who dabbles with both, i can appreciate the different fulfilment triggers
Both very rewarding and will keep your buckets filled!
Ha! Yes he gets fulfilment from KOM's and I get fulfilment from eating raspberries straight from the plant!"
I love it!! I once had a QOM!! It was very exciting /fulfilling
Nothing nicer than a sun warmed raspberry |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gaming hits the immediate dopamine rush but longer term and it started during Lockdown 1 was my gardening hobby. Love it when the veg comes in after growing for a while.
I love this.. You sound very aware "
Thankyou for the words! It was a tough time back then not even because of the pandemic but it helped me focus on myself and what I can do to help myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Such a great question. I genuinely have no idea whether I am fulfilled. It used to be through sport but this has waned over last year or so. Worrying tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Apart from my youngest making me laugh on a regular basis i have to create joy/release frustration at the newer world since the end of the dark ages of the last couple years by smashing my shoulders into peoples rib cages/legs/hips every week to keep my demons away it dont always work but its all i have to work with its worked quite well got me some impressive achievements it aint what life should have been but it will do |
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I don’t really think I have a void to fill. I’m quite happy with my life. Not saying it’s not hard, for those who know me know it is but I’m never lonely. I have things I really look forward to that would perhaps leave a void if I didn’t have them. I have people I can meet for erm other things when I want to. Great friends, great family. Not a lot of spare time for much else x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t really think I have a void to fill. I’m quite happy with my life. Not saying it’s not hard, for those who know me know it is but I’m never lonely. I have things I really look forward to that would perhaps leave a void if I didn’t have them. I have people I can meet for erm other things when I want to. Great friends, great family. Not a lot of spare time for much else x"
And then you have me |
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"I don’t really think I have a void to fill. I’m quite happy with my life. Not saying it’s not hard, for those who know me know it is but I’m never lonely. I have things I really look forward to that would perhaps leave a void if I didn’t have them. I have people I can meet for erm other things when I want to. Great friends, great family. Not a lot of spare time for much else x
And then you have me "
Ah yeah. And her ^^ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Gaming hits the immediate dopamine rush but longer term and it started during Lockdown 1 was my gardening hobby. Love it when the veg comes in after growing for a while.
I love this.. You sound very aware
Thankyou for the words! It was a tough time back then not even because of the pandemic but it helped me focus on myself and what I can do to help myself. "
I think it made a lot of us search deeper |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Such a great question. I genuinely have no idea whether I am fulfilled. It used to be through sport but this has waned over last year or so. Worrying tbh."
Playing or watching sport? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t really think I have a void to fill. I’m quite happy with my life. Not saying it’s not hard, for those who know me know it is but I’m never lonely. I have things I really look forward to that would perhaps leave a void if I didn’t have them. I have people I can meet for erm other things when I want to. Great friends, great family. Not a lot of spare time for much else x
And then you have me
Ah yeah. And her ^^"
Rude!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Apart from my youngest making me laugh on a regular basis i have to create joy/release frustration at the newer world since the end of the dark ages of the last couple years by smashing my shoulders into peoples rib cages/legs/hips every week to keep my demons away it dont always work but its all i have to work with its worked quite well got me some impressive achievements it aint what life should have been but it will do "
Oh i think you are saying you play rugby!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Such a great question. I genuinely have no idea whether I am fulfilled. It used to be through sport but this has waned over last year or so. Worrying tbh.
Playing or watching sport? "
Playing. Really not enjoying at all any more sadly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Apart from my youngest making me laugh on a regular basis i have to create joy/release frustration at the newer world since the end of the dark ages of the last couple years by smashing my shoulders into peoples rib cages/legs/hips every week to keep my demons away it dont always work but its all i have to work with its worked quite well got me some impressive achievements it aint what life should have been but it will do
Oh i think you are saying you play rugby!? "
i like the graphic way of saying it best lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t really think I have a void to fill. I’m quite happy with my life. Not saying it’s not hard, for those who know me know it is but I’m never lonely. I have things I really look forward to that would perhaps leave a void if I didn’t have them. I have people I can meet for erm other things when I want to. Great friends, great family. Not a lot of spare time for much else x"
That's great Nora...i want to ask about your childhood now, but it might be too personal, so i won't  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Such a great question. I genuinely have no idea whether I am fulfilled. It used to be through sport but this has waned over last year or so. Worrying tbh.
Playing or watching sport?
Playing. Really not enjoying at all any more sadly. "
Oh that's sad.. Have you thought about getting into coaching / helping youth teams it can give you a new spark for something you love and stop that stale feeling? |
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"I don’t really think I have a void to fill. I’m quite happy with my life. Not saying it’s not hard, for those who know me know it is but I’m never lonely. I have things I really look forward to that would perhaps leave a void if I didn’t have them. I have people I can meet for erm other things when I want to. Great friends, great family. Not a lot of spare time for much else x
That's great Nora...i want to ask about your childhood now, but it might be too personal, so i won't "
It’s fine. I answer most things. Unless it’s where I work, where I live or who I meet  x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Apart from my youngest making me laugh on a regular basis i have to create joy/release frustration at the newer world since the end of the dark ages of the last couple years by smashing my shoulders into peoples rib cages/legs/hips every week to keep my demons away it dont always work but its all i have to work with its worked quite well got me some impressive achievements it aint what life should have been but it will do
Oh i think you are saying you play rugby!? i like the graphic way of saying it best lol "
I had to read it several times i think sports teams are good support networks for keeping your bucket filled |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t really think I have a void to fill. I’m quite happy with my life. Not saying it’s not hard, for those who know me know it is but I’m never lonely. I have things I really look forward to that would perhaps leave a void if I didn’t have them. I have people I can meet for erm other things when I want to. Great friends, great family. Not a lot of spare time for much else x
That's great Nora...i want to ask about your childhood now, but it might be too personal, so i won't
It’s fine. I answer most things. Unless it’s where I work, where I live or who I meet how much i love licking the soles of feet and fisting anus x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm listening to Oprah's book, what happened to you.. It is truely fascinating and it is getting my brain excited
It's touching on fulfillment and how to fill your 'reward bucket'
So I'm interested in what you do, where do you get your hit, how do you fill the void inside... Do you use external things to hit those pleasure spots, or do you rely on relationships.. Or something else..
Where do you find your reward??
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What about you midnight? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm listening to Oprah's book, what happened to you.. It is truely fascinating and it is getting my brain excited
It's touching on fulfillment and how to fill your 'reward bucket'
So I'm interested in what you do, where do you get your hit, how do you fill the void inside... Do you use external things to hit those pleasure spots, or do you rely on relationships.. Or something else..
Where do you find your reward??
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Music. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Where do you find your reward??
What about you midnight?"
Hmmm i have an addictive personality so i have to be careful. I'm 1000% or nothing... Consequently i have a lot of fillers, some more successful than others .. Currently i listen to books, walk, gym.. All fairly solitary activities, so they don't really help combat loneliness.. which i think comes from my feeling through childhood and into adult life that I'm not enough.
I am thinking about getting a dog maybe.. Or finding a lunchtime fuckboy  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm listening to Oprah's book, what happened to you.. It is truely fascinating and it is getting my brain excited
It's touching on fulfillment and how to fill your 'reward bucket'
So I'm interested in what you do, where do you get your hit, how do you fill the void inside... Do you use external things to hit those pleasure spots, or do you rely on relationships.. Or something else..
Where do you find your reward??
Music."
Oh during the first phase of lockdown i was plugged into Spotify during every waking hour ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I easily survive as a lone wolf, yes I've done long relationships, two of them in excess of 10+ years but I never found the need to find them the reward of life rather spiritually or sexually. I get my "hit" I suppose on a daily basis of being the best possible version of me without compromise
And coffee |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Family.
Writing music.
Creating art.
Gaming.
Wow, you sound very talented, does the creativity come easily? "
Sometimes. But not always. Music more so than art. Art I always have a struggle coming up with compositions. So I spend my time practicing technique, ideas often come from that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My bucket's a bit depleted atm. I guess quality time with my kids especially outside. Walks with my dog. Taking photos always fills me up again. "
When your bucket is draining it's hard to refill it
I imagine your children bring a lot of joy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I easily survive as a lone wolf, yes I've done long relationships, two of them in excess of 10+ years but I never found the need to find them the reward of life rather spiritually or sexually. I get my "hit" I suppose on a daily basis of being the best possible version of me without compromise
And coffee "
oh yeah, coffee.. Where would we be without our caffeine hit  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Family.
Writing music.
Creating art.
Gaming.
Wow, you sound very talented, does the creativity come easily?
Sometimes. But not always. Music more so than art. Art I always have a struggle coming up with compositions. So I spend my time practicing technique, ideas often come from that."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My bucket's a bit depleted atm. I guess quality time with my kids especially outside. Walks with my dog. Taking photos always fills me up again.
When your bucket is draining it's hard to refill it
I imagine your children bring a lot of joy "
Joy and worry in equal measure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I easily survive as a lone wolf, yes I've done long relationships, two of them in excess of 10+ years but I never found the need to find them the reward of life rather spiritually or sexually. I get my "hit" I suppose on a daily basis of being the best possible version of me without compromise
And coffee
oh yeah, coffee.. Where would we be without our caffeine hit "
Oh how the deep and meaningful spilling of my emotional rift was undone with one word...and yet in Midnight's world it was the only word that mattered |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My bucket's a bit depleted atm. I guess quality time with my kids especially outside. Walks with my dog. Taking photos always fills me up again.
When your bucket is draining it's hard to refill it
I imagine your children bring a lot of joy
Joy and worry in equal measure "
Oh yeah, wait... i meant the dog.. The dog probably brings lots of joy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I easily survive as a lone wolf, yes I've done long relationships, two of them in excess of 10+ years but I never found the need to find them the reward of life rather spiritually or sexually. I get my "hit" I suppose on a daily basis of being the best possible version of me without compromise
And coffee
oh yeah, coffee.. Where would we be without our caffeine hit
Oh how the deep and meaningful spilling of my emotional rift was undone with one word...and yet in Midnight's world it was the only word that mattered "
Soz |
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Bloody hell, this is taking some introspection. At the minute, everything just feels like it's going to quickly day to day for anything to feel fulfilling. I work, I go to the gym, I watch a bit of TV, I do chores on the Saturday, meal prep and gym on the Sunday. It all feels like everything I do is to get through the day, week, month for the purpose of getting to the next.
I suppose lots of stuff helps in the short term such as watching TV, eating naughty foods etc. but feel these are merely silver linings compared to genuine fulfillment |
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"I easily survive as a lone wolf, yes I've done long relationships, two of them in excess of 10+ years but I never found the need to find them the reward of life rather spiritually or sexually. I get my "hit" I suppose on a daily basis of being the best possible version of me without compromise
And coffee
oh yeah, coffee.. Where would we be without our caffeine hit
Oh how the deep and meaningful spilling of my emotional rift was undone with one word...and yet in Midnight's world it was the only word that mattered
Soz "
Dave! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Bloody hell, this is taking some introspection. At the minute, everything just feels like it's going to quickly day to day for anything to feel fulfilling. I work, I go to the gym, I watch a bit of TV, I do chores on the Saturday, meal prep and gym on the Sunday. It all feels like everything I do is to get through the day, week, month for the purpose of getting to the next.
I suppose lots of stuff helps in the short term such as watching TV, eating naughty foods etc. but feel these are merely silver linings compared to genuine fulfillment"
Oh sorry i was convinced I'd replied... Its quite tough isn't it, confronting yourself.. It sounds to me as though you are existing rather than thriving at the moment? |
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I try to do something different and interesting every month, to escape the mundane. The last couple of months have been weekends or nights away so they were expensive but they don't have to be. This month's is going on a yoga retreat day. Next month a caravan holiday with family.
I exercise a lot. I love ticking of goals and achievements. And I read a book every week. |
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"I’m definitely just existing recently. "
It takes quite a lot of change to thrive... What do you think you could do differently to start slowly tipping the balance? |
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over a year ago
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"I try to do something different and interesting every month, to escape the mundane. The last couple of months have been weekends or nights away so they were expensive but they don't have to be. This month's is going on a yoga retreat day. Next month a caravan holiday with family.
I exercise a lot. I love ticking of goals and achievements. And I read a book every week. "
Those are great goals.. Do you feel fulfilled? |
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"I’m definitely just existing recently.
It takes quite a lot of change to thrive... What do you think you could do differently to start slowly tipping the balance? "
I’ve genuinely no idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Gaming? It mostly just fills the space between work and work though but I think that says more about my current workload. Its hard to truly switch off these days. Rugby always used to be the preferred outlet but games these days aren't as frequent unfortunately. |
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Running usually helps me clear my mind but its not been quite so succesful of late!
Reading the latest Girl with the Dragon Tattoo book is sort of working for me  |
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"I try to do something different and interesting every month, to escape the mundane. The last couple of months have been weekends or nights away so they were expensive but they don't have to be. This month's is going on a yoga retreat day. Next month a caravan holiday with family.
I exercise a lot. I love ticking of goals and achievements. And I read a book every week.
Those are great goals.. Do you feel fulfilled? "
Yes! I absolutely love life. I also keep a gratitude journal. And I walk and spend time in nature. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m definitely just existing recently.
It takes quite a lot of change to thrive... What do you think you could do differently to start slowly tipping the balance?
I’ve genuinely no idea. "
Time spent in nature! Maybe start to keep a gratitude journal? And try yoga! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m definitely just existing recently.
It takes quite a lot of change to thrive... What do you think you could do differently to start slowly tipping the balance?
I’ve genuinely no idea. "
Walking is a great regulator, especially in nature. Free +easy to do? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gaming? It mostly just fills the space between work and work though but I think that says more about my current workload. Its hard to truly switch off these days. Rugby always used to be the preferred outlet but games these days aren't as frequent unfortunately. "
I hear you with work.. I'm totally overwhelmed at the moment.. I feel like i finish work then eat, sleep, repeat 
How about finding a youth club to coach /mentor?? |
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"Running usually helps me clear my mind but its not been quite so succesful of late!
Reading the latest Girl with the Dragon Tattoo book is sort of working for me "
Do you run solo, or with a group /club? You might find a club more sociable /fulfilling? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I try to do something different and interesting every month, to escape the mundane. The last couple of months have been weekends or nights away so they were expensive but they don't have to be. This month's is going on a yoga retreat day. Next month a caravan holiday with family.
I exercise a lot. I love ticking of goals and achievements. And I read a book every week.
Those are great goals.. Do you feel fulfilled?
Yes! I absolutely love life. I also keep a gratitude journal. And I walk and spend time in nature. "
Oh those are also great things.. You are very self aware |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m definitely just existing recently.
It takes quite a lot of change to thrive... What do you think you could do differently to start slowly tipping the balance?
I’ve genuinely no idea.
Time spent in nature! Maybe start to keep a gratitude journal? And try yoga! "
Yessss!! I echo!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Running, motorcycle, meditation and mind blowing kisses. One of the four isn’t easy to find. "
Oh yeah, motorcycles are difficult to find now
Those are good things |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gaming? It mostly just fills the space between work and work though but I think that says more about my current workload. Its hard to truly switch off these days. Rugby always used to be the preferred outlet but games these days aren't as frequent unfortunately.
I hear you with work.. I'm totally overwhelmed at the moment.. I feel like i finish work then eat, sleep, repeat
How about finding a youth club to coach /mentor?? "
Coaching is a great outlet, I'm a bowling coach for the local cricket colts team and can't wait to get into the nets in March to offer advice and my experience to there game |
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"Bloody hell, this is taking some introspection. At the minute, everything just feels like it's going to quickly day to day for anything to feel fulfilling. I work, I go to the gym, I watch a bit of TV, I do chores on the Saturday, meal prep and gym on the Sunday. It all feels like everything I do is to get through the day, week, month for the purpose of getting to the next.
I suppose lots of stuff helps in the short term such as watching TV, eating naughty foods etc. but feel these are merely silver linings compared to genuine fulfillment
Oh sorry i was convinced I'd replied... Its quite tough isn't it, confronting yourself.. It sounds to me as though you are existing rather than thriving at the moment? "
Awww it's no problem, thank you for reviving the thread haha. You could say that. It is because of personal circumstances as well and while I try to think it's not going to be like this in X amount later, it's increasingly difficult not to get too bigged down in the present |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Gaming? It mostly just fills the space between work and work though but I think that says more about my current workload. Its hard to truly switch off these days. Rugby always used to be the preferred outlet but games these days aren't as frequent unfortunately.
I hear you with work.. I'm totally overwhelmed at the moment.. I feel like i finish work then eat, sleep, repeat
How about finding a youth club to coach /mentor??
Coaching is a great outlet, I'm a bowling coach for the local cricket colts team and can't wait to get into the nets in March to offer advice and my experience to there game"
Oh i love this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Being able to fully embrace and sink into my kinks is my reward.
To lose myself and purely indulge is bliss "
It sounds heavenly.. Do you get to do it regularly enough to keep you fulfilled? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Bloody hell, this is taking some introspection. At the minute, everything just feels like it's going to quickly day to day for anything to feel fulfilling. I work, I go to the gym, I watch a bit of TV, I do chores on the Saturday, meal prep and gym on the Sunday. It all feels like everything I do is to get through the day, week, month for the purpose of getting to the next.
I suppose lots of stuff helps in the short term such as watching TV, eating naughty foods etc. but feel these are merely silver linings compared to genuine fulfillment
Oh sorry i was convinced I'd replied... Its quite tough isn't it, confronting yourself.. It sounds to me as though you are existing rather than thriving at the moment?
Awww it's no problem, thank you for reviving the thread haha. You could say that. It is because of personal circumstances as well and while I try to think it's not going to be like this in X amount later, it's increasingly difficult not to get too bigged down in the present"
Hmm it sounds as though you need an intentional plan.. Walking is excellent for the soul, i can recommend it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gaming? It mostly just fills the space between work and work though but I think that says more about my current workload. Its hard to truly switch off these days. Rugby always used to be the preferred outlet but games these days aren't as frequent unfortunately.
I hear you with work.. I'm totally overwhelmed at the moment.. I feel like i finish work then eat, sleep, repeat
How about finding a youth club to coach /mentor?? "
Yeah thats pretty much my life these days. Still finally managed to hire a new guy for my team (if he takes the offer) so I should be able to do my job a bit more instead of two peoples that I'm currently doing.
Not sure I'd be a great coach... not exactly the best player but I like to waddle around the park when I can |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gaming? It mostly just fills the space between work and work though but I think that says more about my current workload. Its hard to truly switch off these days. Rugby always used to be the preferred outlet but games these days aren't as frequent unfortunately.
I hear you with work.. I'm totally overwhelmed at the moment.. I feel like i finish work then eat, sleep, repeat
How about finding a youth club to coach /mentor??
Coaching is a great outlet, I'm a bowling coach for the local cricket colts team and can't wait to get into the nets in March to offer advice and my experience to there game"
If I thought I'd be halfway decent I would. Rugby has always been more of a social activity for me. Good effort on you though my man! |
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"Running usually helps me clear my mind but its not been quite so succesful of late!
Reading the latest Girl with the Dragon Tattoo book is sort of working for me
Do you run solo, or with a group /club? You might find a club more sociable /fulfilling? "
Both. Depends on my mood to be honest..... |
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