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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I had a message that had me thinking, the dynamics of … should I come to yours or will you come to mine?
And personally, I find it crazy when guys suggest that I should be the one going to theirs…
When in fact I’m thinking, “no boy, u should be the one bringing the dick!”
I certainly am not bringing you my cat over 
Is this selfish to think so? I mean, in my defence, the only time I’d go to his place, would be if I really know him well, (and ideally if he can drop me back home afterwards ahah!!)… but that’s another story.
But it freaks me out to think about going to a guy’s place that I don’t know well, I mean, in the past Ive put myself in a few sexual situations that if I think back, it gives me goosebumps at how dangerous it could have turned out to be….
Also, I’m always cool meeting half way, say obviously middle ground for a social and then hotel. That’s kinda fair and safe!
So generally speaking, I’d rather them come to me.
What are your thoughts on this girls? And what about you boys?!
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If I ever won the lottery of a women liking me that much I’d rather go back to hers!
For a few reasons
I want her to feel safe & comfortable
I’d rather do the walk of shame as it’s called next day
My living arrangement with a disabled relative = no go anyway
And lastly as some blokes are thinking it
Don’t want her knowing where I live incase she’s crazy/mental lol
Hotels a fair middle ground but hard to get at 2am after a few lemonades  |
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Completely disagree
In the age of keeping women safe at all cost, I’d think it’s safer for you to go to them
You don’t want a potential danger knowing where you live, in your house
But if we are talking about a fwb kinda thing, I still disagree
I believe in equality and the idea of “you bring me the dick” has a hint of entitlement and superiority to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't quite understand your logic for this, Kylie. I've probably gone to theirs or they've gone to mine 50/50. I live with my kids full time so now it's nearly always at the guy's house. I don't have any problem with that. |
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"I had a message that had me thinking, the dynamics of … should I come to yours or will you come to mine?
And personally, I find it crazy when guys suggest that I should be the one going to theirs…
When in fact I’m thinking, “no boy, u should be the one bringing the dick!”
I certainly am not bringing you my cat over
Is this selfish to think so? I mean, in my defence, the only time I’d go to his place, would be if I really know him well, (and ideally if he can drop me back home afterwards ahah!!)… but that’s another story.
But it freaks me out to think about going to a guy’s place that I don’t know well, I mean, in the past Ive put myself in a few sexual situations that if I think back, it gives me goosebumps at how dangerous it could have turned out to be….
Also, I’m always cool meeting half way, say obviously middle ground for a social and then hotel. That’s kinda fair and safe!
So generally speaking, I’d rather them come to me.
What are your thoughts on this girls? And what about you boys?!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Completely disagree
In the age of keeping women safe at all cost, I’d think it’s safer for you to go to them
You don’t want a potential danger knowing where you live, in your house
But if we are talking about a fwb kinda thing, I still disagree
I believe in equality and the idea of “you bring me the dick” has a hint of entitlement and superiority to it. "
I know my house , I don’t know theirs. Obliviously having sort of figure out whether they are somehow sane, I think out of the two prospects, I’d feel safer in my own home than I’d feel in theirs.
Isn’t it kinda like going into a dragon’s lair, if you are really unlucky? |
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By *omer47Man
over a year ago
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"I had a message that had me thinking, the dynamics of … should I come to yours or will you come to mine?
And personally, I find it crazy when guys suggest that I should be the one going to theirs…
When in fact I’m thinking, “no boy, u should be the one bringing the dick!”
I certainly am not bringing you my cat over
Is this selfish to think so? I mean, in my defence, the only time I’d go to his place, would be if I really know him well, (and ideally if he can drop me back home afterwards ahah!!)… but that’s another story.
But it freaks me out to think about going to a guy’s place that I don’t know well, I mean, in the past Ive put myself in a few sexual situations that if I think back, it gives me goosebumps at how dangerous it could have turned out to be….
Also, I’m always cool meeting half way, say obviously middle ground for a social and then hotel. That’s kinda fair and safe!
So generally speaking, I’d rather them come to me.
What are your thoughts on this girls? And what about you boys?!
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i would definitely drive to you if I was lucky enough to even be given a chance of a meet with you. I'd stay in a hotel and whatever you felt comfortable with would be fine with me. I'd never want to put or even feel that anyone I met would feel anything but safe with me. |
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I would say own home or hotel don’t need to worry about getting stright kicked out afterwards
Had it happen to me a couple off times back in my early days on fab
The old I pick you up done the deeds and yip time for you to go ok are you running me home
Nope make your own way |
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" When in fact I’m thinking, “no boy, u should be the one bringing the dick!” I certainly am not bringing you my cat over "
The way you've written this does sound entitled so hopefully that's not the case
There's a safety issue both ways and arguably it's worse if it goes wrong and the other person knows where you live. If I'm going to a woman's house who I don't know well, I give the details to a friend - they enjoy pretending to be horrified at my exploits!  |
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"Completely disagree
In the age of keeping women safe at all cost, I’d think it’s safer for you to go to them
You don’t want a potential danger knowing where you live, in your house
But if we are talking about a fwb kinda thing, I still disagree
I believe in equality and the idea of “you bring me the dick” has a hint of entitlement and superiority to it.
I know my house , I don’t know theirs. Obliviously having sort of figure out whether they are somehow sane, I think out of the two prospects, I’d feel safer in my own home than I’d feel in theirs.
Isn’t it kinda like going into a dragon’s lair, if you are really unlucky? "
In both situations you are alone in a property with a stranger
In one of the situations, the stranger knows where you live
I guess it’s a toss up |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Completely disagree
In the age of keeping women safe at all cost, I’d think it’s safer for you to go to them
You don’t want a potential danger knowing where you live, in your house
But if we are talking about a fwb kinda thing, I still disagree
I believe in equality and the idea of “you bring me the dick” has a hint of entitlement and superiority to it.
I know my house , I don’t know theirs. Obliviously having sort of figure out whether they are somehow sane, I think out of the two prospects, I’d feel safer in my own home than I’d feel in theirs.
Isn’t it kinda like going into a dragon’s lair, if you are really unlucky?
In both situations you are alone in a property with a stranger
In one of the situations, the stranger knows where you live
I guess it’s a toss up "
There really is no totally safe option.
Know your exits and layout well, if you are in trouble and reach out for a friend to come help (assuming the chance is given) they will know exactly where you are. These things are a little less likely in somebody else's home. Hell, they could have a Saw type deal going on in the basement.
Long term though, as you say they know exactly where to find you and that goes a long way to stalker like behaviour, or worse. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Completely disagree
In the age of keeping women safe at all cost, I’d think it’s safer for you to go to them
You don’t want a potential danger knowing where you live, in your house
But if we are talking about a fwb kinda thing, I still disagree
I believe in equality and the idea of “you bring me the dick” has a hint of entitlement and superiority to it.
I know my house , I don’t know theirs. Obliviously having sort of figure out whether they are somehow sane, I think out of the two prospects, I’d feel safer in my own home than I’d feel in theirs.
Isn’t it kinda like going into a dragon’s lair, if you are really unlucky?
In both situations you are alone in a property with a stranger
In one of the situations, the stranger knows where you live
I guess it’s a toss up "
Personally I felt more at risk when meetings them and going back to theirs, than the other way around but maybe that’s just me |
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"Completely disagree
In the age of keeping women safe at all cost, I’d think it’s safer for you to go to them
You don’t want a potential danger knowing where you live, in your house
But if we are talking about a fwb kinda thing, I still disagree
I believe in equality and the idea of “you bring me the dick” has a hint of entitlement and superiority to it.
I know my house , I don’t know theirs. Obliviously having sort of figure out whether they are somehow sane, I think out of the two prospects, I’d feel safer in my own home than I’d feel in theirs.
Isn’t it kinda like going into a dragon’s lair, if you are really unlucky?
In both situations you are alone in a property with a stranger
In one of the situations, the stranger knows where you live
I guess it’s a toss up
Personally I felt more at risk when meetings them and going back to theirs, than the other way around but maybe that’s just me "
But if things get weird or uncomfortable you either
Leave theirs
Or
Ask them to leave and hope they don’t say no
Dunno, everyone different but I don’t wanna be stuck in my house with a creep. I’d prefer the opportunity to know where the exits are and just run if I need to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a message that had me thinking, the dynamics of … should I come to yours or will you come to mine?
And personally, I find it crazy when guys suggest that I should be the one going to theirs…
When in fact I’m thinking, “no boy, u should be the one bringing the dick!”
I certainly am not bringing you my cat over
Is this selfish to think so? I mean, in my defence, the only time I’d go to his place, would be if I really know him well, (and ideally if he can drop me back home afterwards ahah!!)… but that’s another story.
But it freaks me out to think about going to a guy’s place that I don’t know well, I mean, in the past Ive put myself in a few sexual situations that if I think back, it gives me goosebumps at how dangerous it could have turned out to be….
Also, I’m always cool meeting half way, say obviously middle ground for a social and then hotel. That’s kinda fair and safe!
So generally speaking, I’d rather them come to me.
What are your thoughts on this girls? And what about you boys?!
"
You should NEVER go to a hotel room that he has booked ..never , who knows who is waiting in the room or who he will leave in after ye are in the room .. bottom line is NEVER go to a hotel room unless you know the guy really well. Just my opinion. |
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"I had a message that had me thinking, the dynamics of … should I come to yours or will you come to mine?
And personally, I find it crazy when guys suggest that I should be the one going to theirs…
When in fact I’m thinking, “no boy, u should be the one bringing the dick!”
I certainly am not bringing you my cat over
Is this selfish to think so? I mean, in my defence, the only time I’d go to his place, would be if I really know him well, (and ideally if he can drop me back home afterwards ahah!!)… but that’s another story.
But it freaks me out to think about going to a guy’s place that I don’t know well, I mean, in the past Ive put myself in a few sexual situations that if I think back, it gives me goosebumps at how dangerous it could have turned out to be….
Also, I’m always cool meeting half way, say obviously middle ground for a social and then hotel. That’s kinda fair and safe!
So generally speaking, I’d rather them come to me.
What are your thoughts on this girls? And what about you boys?!
You should NEVER go to a hotel room that he has booked ..never , who knows who is waiting in the room or who he will leave in after ye are in the room .. bottom line is NEVER go to a hotel room unless you know the guy really well. Just my opinion."
Even if he says he has puppies in there! Fallen for that one a few times |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I had a message that had me thinking, the dynamics of … should I come to yours or will you come to mine?
And personally, I find it crazy when guys suggest that I should be the one going to theirs…
When in fact I’m thinking, “no boy, u should be the one bringing the dick!”
I certainly am not bringing you my cat over
Is this selfish to think so? I mean, in my defence, the only time I’d go to his place, would be if I really know him well, (and ideally if he can drop me back home afterwards ahah!!)… but that’s another story.
But it freaks me out to think about going to a guy’s place that I don’t know well, I mean, in the past Ive put myself in a few sexual situations that if I think back, it gives me goosebumps at how dangerous it could have turned out to be….
Also, I’m always cool meeting half way, say obviously middle ground for a social and then hotel. That’s kinda fair and safe!
So generally speaking, I’d rather them come to me.
What are your thoughts on this girls? And what about you boys?!
You should NEVER go to a hotel room that he has booked ..never , who knows who is waiting in the room or who he will leave in after ye are in the room .. bottom line is NEVER go to a hotel room unless you know the guy really well. Just my opinion."
Go to a hotel room that we both agreed to book, potentially on my name or whatever
Going to his hotel room would be the same as going to his house.. really
God knows what’s there waiting for me |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I had a message that had me thinking, the dynamics of … should I come to yours or will you come to mine?
And personally, I find it crazy when guys suggest that I should be the one going to theirs…
When in fact I’m thinking, “no boy, u should be the one bringing the dick!”
I certainly am not bringing you my cat over
Is this selfish to think so? I mean, in my defence, the only time I’d go to his place, would be if I really know him well, (and ideally if he can drop me back home afterwards ahah!!)… but that’s another story.
But it freaks me out to think about going to a guy’s place that I don’t know well, I mean, in the past Ive put myself in a few sexual situations that if I think back, it gives me goosebumps at how dangerous it could have turned out to be….
Also, I’m always cool meeting half way, say obviously middle ground for a social and then hotel. That’s kinda fair and safe!
So generally speaking, I’d rather them come to me.
What are your thoughts on this girls? And what about you boys?!
You should NEVER go to a hotel room that he has booked ..never , who knows who is waiting in the room or who he will leave in after ye are in the room .. bottom line is NEVER go to a hotel room unless you know the guy really well. Just my opinion."
The same could apply to if a woman booked it. Not dismissing your point because it's good but eventually it just leads to the point of, where the fuck do you fuck then!
Can't go to yours, can't go to theirs, don't trust anyone to book a room.
Rule of life DTA... Don't trust anyone and have a wank instead! |
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"Completely disagree
In the age of keeping women safe at all cost, I’d think it’s safer for you to go to them
You don’t want a potential danger knowing where you live, in your house
But if we are talking about a fwb kinda thing, I still disagree
I believe in equality and the idea of “you bring me the dick” has a hint of entitlement and superiority to it.
I know my house , I don’t know theirs. Obliviously having sort of figure out whether they are somehow sane, I think out of the two prospects, I’d feel safer in my own home than I’d feel in theirs.
Isn’t it kinda like going into a dragon’s lair, if you are really unlucky?
In both situations you are alone in a property with a stranger
In one of the situations, the stranger knows where you live
I guess it’s a toss up
There really is no totally safe option.
Know your exits and layout well, if you are in trouble and reach out for a friend to come help (assuming the chance is given) they will know exactly where you are. These things are a little less likely in somebody else's home. Hell, they could have a Saw type deal going on in the basement.
Long term though, as you say they know exactly where to find you and that goes a long way to stalker like behaviour, or worse. "
Bloody hell. So glad I don’t meet randomly.  . Dunno how people relax enough to enjoy it! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Completely disagree
In the age of keeping women safe at all cost, I’d think it’s safer for you to go to them
You don’t want a potential danger knowing where you live, in your house
But if we are talking about a fwb kinda thing, I still disagree
I believe in equality and the idea of “you bring me the dick” has a hint of entitlement and superiority to it.
I know my house , I don’t know theirs. Obliviously having sort of figure out whether they are somehow sane, I think out of the two prospects, I’d feel safer in my own home than I’d feel in theirs.
Isn’t it kinda like going into a dragon’s lair, if you are really unlucky?
In both situations you are alone in a property with a stranger
In one of the situations, the stranger knows where you live
I guess it’s a toss up
Personally I felt more at risk when meetings them and going back to theirs, than the other way around but maybe that’s just me
But if things get weird or uncomfortable you either
Leave theirs
Or
Ask them to leave and hope they don’t say no
Dunno, everyone different but I don’t wanna be stuck in my house with a creep. I’d prefer the opportunity to know where the exits are and just run if I need to "
I wouldn’t have a problem calling the po-po if something happened, at mine.
Maybe I had a couple of experiences in my late teens where I didn’t totally use my brain, and it could have turned out dangerous x or I did feel on edge
And thinking back, after carefully checking a few things first, I still feel more comfortable in my own place
Obviously social first is the best, and still even then, I’d probably be
We going back to mine? |
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"I had a message that had me thinking, the dynamics of … should I come to yours or will you come to mine?
And personally, I find it crazy when guys suggest that I should be the one going to theirs…
When in fact I’m thinking, “no boy, u should be the one bringing the dick!”
I certainly am not bringing you my cat over
Is this selfish to think so? I mean, in my defence, the only time I’d go to his place, would be if I really know him well, (and ideally if he can drop me back home afterwards ahah!!)… but that’s another story.
But it freaks me out to think about going to a guy’s place that I don’t know well, I mean, in the past Ive put myself in a few sexual situations that if I think back, it gives me goosebumps at how dangerous it could have turned out to be….
Also, I’m always cool meeting half way, say obviously middle ground for a social and then hotel. That’s kinda fair and safe!
So generally speaking, I’d rather them come to me.
What are your thoughts on this girls? And what about you boys?!
"
Completely agree with you! I’d never just turn up at a random guy’s place! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think this all depends on whether it is a random or someone you've got to know over a period of time and you've met beforehand. I don't meet randoms.
I give details to a friend beforehand and a time when I will message them again or they call the police. We can all take steps to protect ourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a message that had me thinking, the dynamics of … should I come to yours or will you come to mine?
And personally, I find it crazy when guys suggest that I should be the one going to theirs…
When in fact I’m thinking, “no boy, u should be the one bringing the dick!”
I certainly am not bringing you my cat over
Is this selfish to think so? I mean, in my defence, the only time I’d go to his place, would be if I really know him well, (and ideally if he can drop me back home afterwards ahah!!)… but that’s another story.
But it freaks me out to think about going to a guy’s place that I don’t know well, I mean, in the past Ive put myself in a few sexual situations that if I think back, it gives me goosebumps at how dangerous it could have turned out to be….
Also, I’m always cool meeting half way, say obviously middle ground for a social and then hotel. That’s kinda fair and safe!
So generally speaking, I’d rather them come to me.
What are your thoughts on this girls? And what about you boys?!
You should NEVER go to a hotel room that he has booked ..never , who knows who is waiting in the room or who he will leave in after ye are in the room .. bottom line is NEVER go to a hotel room unless you know the guy really well. Just my opinion.
The same could apply to if a woman booked it. Not dismissing your point because it's good but eventually it just leads to the point of, where the fuck do you fuck then!
Can't go to yours, can't go to theirs, don't trust anyone to book a room.
Rule of life DTA... Don't trust anyone and have a wank instead! "
I understand your point my friend but only book a hotel room IF you know the person involved already , then it does not matter who books it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"1 quite simple rule my way or the highway i rarely if ever go out of my way to change my rules
And what’s your way, sir? "
i wont accom i would rather have a horse kick me in the balls than do a club i only meet when i want how i want im one awkward mother fucker to pin down |
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"1 quite simple rule my way or the highway i rarely if ever go out of my way to change my rules
And what’s your way, sir? i wont accom i would rather have a horse kick me in the balls than do a club i only meet when i want how i want im one awkward mother fucker to pin down "
He loves to go out and eat in a posh restaurant though ^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"1 quite simple rule my way or the highway i rarely if ever go out of my way to change my rules
And what’s your way, sir? i wont accom i would rather have a horse kick me in the balls than do a club i only meet when i want how i want im one awkward mother fucker to pin down
He loves to go out and eat in a posh restaurant though ^^ "
if its not maccies or greggs its not worth doing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"1 quite simple rule my way or the highway i rarely if ever go out of my way to change my rules
And what’s your way, sir? i wont accom i would rather have a horse kick me in the balls than do a club i only meet when i want how i want im one awkward mother fucker to pin down
He loves to go out and eat in a posh restaurant though ^^ "
Does he pay for the lady as well or |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"1 quite simple rule my way or the highway i rarely if ever go out of my way to change my rules
And what’s your way, sir? i wont accom i would rather have a horse kick me in the balls than do a club i only meet when i want how i want im one awkward mother fucker to pin down
He loves to go out and eat in a posh restaurant though ^^
Does he pay for the lady as well or "
my god no do i look like the prince of saudi arabia  |
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"Completely disagree
In the age of keeping women safe at all cost, I’d think it’s safer for you to go to them
You don’t want a potential danger knowing where you live, in your house
But if we are talking about a fwb kinda thing, I still disagree
I believe in equality and the idea of “you bring me the dick” has a hint of entitlement and superiority to it. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only ever had 3 friends at mine that a seen before hand definitely got to be careful but then I do meet social then hotel never get in to a man's car only if u know them Simple if the man wants u he be a gentleman and at the end of the day man wants come and play life. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"1 quite simple rule my way or the highway i rarely if ever go out of my way to change my rules
And what’s your way, sir? i wont accom i would rather have a horse kick me in the balls than do a club i only meet when i want how i want im one awkward mother fucker to pin down
He loves to go out and eat in a posh restaurant though ^^
Does he pay for the lady as well or my god no do i look like the prince of saudi arabia "
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"1 quite simple rule my way or the highway i rarely if ever go out of my way to change my rules
And what’s your way, sir? i wont accom i would rather have a horse kick me in the balls than do a club i only meet when i want how i want im one awkward mother fucker to pin down
He loves to go out and eat in a posh restaurant though ^^
Does he pay for the lady as well or "
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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There’s no perfect option, if the guy comes to you, then you get the secure feeling of being at home, but then they know where you live, and there’s the awkwardness of getting them to leave when you just don’t want them there anymore. If you go to them, you can leave whenever you want, but maybe you feel less safe being at someone else’s house. Hotels are ok, they have people nearby just in case and some people love the feeling of being in a hotel but ultimately they are bland and impersonal, and clubs have plenty of people nearby but are rarely comfortable and relaxing, so pick whichever is the least bad option for you! |
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Always a hotel or preferably a club first. Struggling to think of one time where I've gone to someone's house on the first meet. Heard far too many horror stories to trust someone I've only spoken to online |
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I'm with you on this Mrs. Grealish. I did it once and got messed around something rotten. Although, as I'm persistent, I got there eventually with a passion level lower than a centipedes gonads.
Different once you know someone very well I agree. But I have since stuck with my lesson learnt. |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"Always a hotel or preferably a club first. Struggling to think of one time where I've gone to someone's house on the first meet. Heard far too many horror stories to trust someone I've only spoken to online "
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Total opposite. I much prefer going to them. I don’t want someone I don’t know well, knowing where I live.
My home is my safe place, the place I’m most comfortable. It takes a special person to be invited into that space.
I prefer being able to leave when I want to and being in control of that aspect. Someone in my home takes away that control. |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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I'm in agreement with the Op. While I spend the 2 hours getting ready to meet a guy, he's probably laid on his bed having a play then will jump in the shower for 5 minutes and if I'm lucky will put a clean T shirt on.
Surly it's better that he travels while I'm getting ready? A lot of guys expect me to do all the work including travelling for a 10 minute blow Job. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Total opposite. I much prefer going to them. I don’t want someone I don’t know well, knowing where I live.
My home is my safe place, the place I’m most comfortable. It takes a special person to be invited into that space.
I prefer being able to leave when I want to and being in control of that aspect. Someone in my home takes away that control."
I find usually a gentle nudge for them to leave, to be enough anyway . But generally, the over stayers were always much appreciated and wanted them to stay x
I don’t know personally, I can’t get comfortable in somebody else’s place unless it’s obviously someone I’m comfortable and trust then yes. Maybe it’s to do with previous experiences where I’d be on edge when meeting guys at their places. I mean, I was wild back then x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1 quite simple rule my way or the highway i rarely if ever go out of my way to change my rules
And what’s your way, sir? i wont accom i would rather have a horse kick me in the balls than do a club i only meet when i want how i want im one awkward mother fucker to pin down
He loves to go out and eat in a posh restaurant though ^^
Does he pay for the lady as well or
Hell no!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After a couple of worrying forays to other folks homes, I decided that I'd always accom
I can cope with a nutter in my own space whereas, on their turf, the odds are stacked in their favour
I think the guy that locked me in and turned off every fkin light in the house was the most worrying
I felt like Jodie Foster in the last 10 minutes of Silence of the Lambs |
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"Completely disagree
In the age of keeping women safe at all cost, I’d think it’s safer for you to go to them
You don’t want a potential danger knowing where you live, in your house
But if we are talking about a fwb kinda thing, I still disagree
I believe in equality and the idea of “you bring me the dick” has a hint of entitlement and superiority to it.
I know my house , I don’t know theirs. Obliviously having sort of figure out whether they are somehow sane, I think out of the two prospects, I’d feel safer in my own home than I’d feel in theirs.
Isn’t it kinda like going into a dragon’s lair, if you are really unlucky?
In both situations you are alone in a property with a stranger
In one of the situations, the stranger knows where you live
I guess it’s a toss up
Personally I felt more at risk when meetings them and going back to theirs, than the other way around but maybe that’s just me
But if things get weird or uncomfortable you either
Leave theirs
Or
Ask them to leave and hope they don’t say no
Dunno, everyone different but I don’t wanna be stuck in my house with a creep. I’d prefer the opportunity to know where the exits are and just run if I need to "
I've had that issue with someone who wouldn't leave, because he was d*unk and his car was outside. I chucked 20 quid at him to get a taxi home in the end. V scary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does it not freak you out them coming to yours? Unless you know them well?"
I have met probably 70-80 guys at mine over the years
I've never had an issue with anyone being arsey or over familiar afterwards, except one guy who climbed over my back wall to get in when I didn't answer the door (I was in the shower) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After a couple of worrying forays to other folks homes, I decided that I'd always accom
I can cope with a nutter in my own space whereas, on their turf, the odds are stacked in their favour
I think the guy that locked me in and turned off every fkin light in the house was the most worrying
I felt like Jodie Foster in the last 10 minutes of Silence of the Lambs "
how did you get away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After a couple of worrying forays to other folks homes, I decided that I'd always accom
I can cope with a nutter in my own space whereas, on their turf, the odds are stacked in their favour
I think the guy that locked me in and turned off every fkin light in the house was the most worrying
I felt like Jodie Foster in the last 10 minutes of Silence of the Lambs
how did you get away."
By being compliant basically |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"Does it not freak you out them coming to yours? Unless you know them well?
I have met probably 70-80 guys at mine over the years
I've never had an issue with anyone being arsey or over familiar afterwards, except one guy who climbed over my back wall to get in when I didn't answer the door (I was in the shower) "
He was keen! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does it not freak you out them coming to yours? Unless you know them well?
I have met probably 70-80 guys at mine over the years
I've never had an issue with anyone being arsey or over familiar afterwards, except one guy who climbed over my back wall to get in when I didn't answer the door (I was in the shower)
He was keen! "
Ah well, he made up for the one that took one look and drove off |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"After a couple of worrying forays to other folks homes, I decided that I'd always accom
I can cope with a nutter in my own space whereas, on their turf, the odds are stacked in their favour
I think the guy that locked me in and turned off every fkin light in the house was the most worrying
I felt like Jodie Foster in the last 10 minutes of Silence of the Lambs
how did you get away.
By being compliant basically "
Thats what I mean!!! So scary tho |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd never have a meet at my house, once they have your address they could turn up the next time they are horny.
Neither do i go theirs though.
Club meets only, much, much safer, private rooms if wanted. |
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"Completely disagree
In the age of keeping women safe at all cost, I’d think it’s safer for you to go to them
You don’t want a potential danger knowing where you live, in your house
But if we are talking about a fwb kinda thing, I still disagree
I believe in equality and the idea of “you bring me the dick” has a hint of entitlement and superiority to it.
I know my house , I don’t know theirs. Obliviously having sort of figure out whether they are somehow sane, I think out of the two prospects, I’d feel safer in my own home than I’d feel in theirs.
Isn’t it kinda like going into a dragon’s lair, if you are really unlucky? "
Can be dangerous both ways to be honest. If one of you are psycho do you really think his or her place makes a difference? Assaults, stalking etc can happen anywhere by any gender |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t want to get murdered in my sleep by a hot girl in my own home.
I also don’t want to be held against my will and tied to a bed in her house indefinitely, obviously there’s some caveats to that one.
Who knew meeting strangers online off a sex site would be so risky. |
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