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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why aren't you able to play"
We’ve got a lot on at the minute, we work opposite shifts, have young kids and our usual babysitter can’t do weekends anymore  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Not it’s totally your choice, socials, lifestyle, sex with singles, couples, full or soft, sake or separate room etc …. but profile is very confusing think you need to be more clear what you are looking for and availability to avoid unwanted attention maybe |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'm a crap swinger too,
I rarely meet anyone anymore
My partner and I have a couple profile and we don't often find people we both want to meet. If we want to meet together, we go to a club.
This is just an extra for us, bit everyone uses fab in a way that works for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say no it dosent make yous shit swingers
It’s up to everyone how they play
If yous just want to be social at clubs and such that’s ok
Some get around the block and back 20-30 times 
Some don’t but dosent make anyone better or worse than the other
It’s what you make off it and enjoy and if yous are injoying your selfs that’s all that matters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not a swinger, except for the odd club visit.
Who cares, you contribute in your own way, and everyone is free to use the site as they wish. Plus my jokes thread would be a poorer place without you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not it’s totally your choice, socials, lifestyle, sex with singles, couples, full or soft, sake or separate room etc …. but profile is very confusing think you need to be more clear what you are looking for and availability to avoid unwanted attention maybe "
If you mean the “looking for” section that’s just so we get all the local updates. We’re nosey like that. Everything else is explained in our bio. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm a crap swinger too,
I rarely meet anyone anymore
My partner and I have a couple profile and we don't often find people we both want to meet. If we want to meet together, we go to a club.
This is just an extra for us, bit everyone uses fab in a way that works for them."
That’s similar to us. We’re very choosy so clubs seem the best option for us. |
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
You’re about average really we know not to expect much from this site. As for guys they’re the most reliable on here when it comes to meets.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would say no it dosent make yous shit swingers
It’s up to everyone how they play
If yous just want to be social at clubs and such that’s ok
Some get around the block and back 20-30 times
Some don’t but dosent make anyone better or worse than the other
It’s what you make off it and enjoy and if yous are injoying your selfs that’s all that matters "
We definitely enjoy ourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m not a swinger, except for the odd club visit.
Who cares, you contribute in your own way, and everyone is free to use the site as they wish. Plus my jokes thread would be a poorer place without you "
We aren’t going anywhere. We’re just curious to see if others “swing” less than us. |
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"I’m not a swinger, except for the odd club visit.
Who cares, you contribute in your own way, and everyone is free to use the site as they wish. Plus my jokes thread would be a poorer place without you
We aren’t going anywhere. We’re just curious to see if others “swing” less than us."
At the moment I'm the shittest of shit swingers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say no it dosent make yous shit swingers
It’s up to everyone how they play
If yous just want to be social at clubs and such that’s ok
Some get around the block and back 20-30 times
Some don’t but dosent make anyone better or worse than the other
It’s what you make off it and enjoy and if yous are injoying your selfs that’s all that matters
We definitely enjoy ourselves."
Well that’s the most important part so don’t let how often yous meet or play at clubs offect yous |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would say no it dosent make yous shit swingers
It’s up to everyone how they play
If yous just want to be social at clubs and such that’s ok
Some get around the block and back 20-30 times
Some don’t but dosent make anyone better or worse than the other
It’s what you make off it and enjoy and if yous are injoying your selfs that’s all that matters
We definitely enjoy ourselves.
Well that’s the most important part so don’t let how often yous meet or play at clubs offect yous "
We’re not bothered by it although we’d love to play more often. We just want to see who else is in the same boat  |
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We play as and when we fell like it. It's an addition to our life rather than the main focus. Like you, we have truly hectic lives, so playtime needs to fit around that and when we feel like it.
We're actively trying to be more active these days, but it's still tough to make time.
So would not say you are a sh1t swinger. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We play as and when we fell like it. It's an addition to our life rather than the main focus. Like you, we have truly hectic lives, so playtime needs to fit around that and when we feel like it.
We're actively trying to be more active these days, but it's still tough to make time.
So would not say you are a sh1t swinger. "
We both said we’d try and be more active this year but the opposite has happened. We’ve got weddings, holidays, gigs, family celebrations all coming up so it’s impossible. After the summer we’ve got a clear schedule so far so hopefully we can have a great end to the year. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not a swinger, except for the odd club visit.
Who cares, you contribute in your own way, and everyone is free to use the site as they wish. Plus my jokes thread would be a poorer place without you
We aren’t going anywhere. We’re just curious to see if others “swing” less than us."
Good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say no it dosent make yous shit swingers
It’s up to everyone how they play
If yous just want to be social at clubs and such that’s ok
Some get around the block and back 20-30 times
Some don’t but dosent make anyone better or worse than the other
It’s what you make off it and enjoy and if yous are injoying your selfs that’s all that matters
We definitely enjoy ourselves.
Well that’s the most important part so don’t let how often yous meet or play at clubs offect yous
We’re not bothered by it although we’d love to play more often. We just want to see who else is in the same boat "
Awww ok I got yous I thought maybe yous we’re a bit down in the dumps about how often yous do meet and such so was just lifting your spirt a bit |
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
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Our last proper meet was back in November and we aren't getting another until the end of March. Things get in the way that doesn't make it shit though. Its not all about numbers, its about enjoying the whole lifestyle and making friends for us. Most good things are worth the wait. |
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By *l6789Man
over a year ago
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
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I’ve been on and off this site for years never actually meet anyone from here only meet someone I knew before I joined who also is a member. I wouldn’t get disheartened op it’s just most people online are pretty flakey. The most fun I have on fab is reading the forums tbh :D |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m not a swinger, except for the odd club visit.
Who cares, you contribute in your own way, and everyone is free to use the site as they wish. Plus my jokes thread would be a poorer place without you
We aren’t going anywhere. We’re just curious to see if others “swing” less than us.
Good "
I’m that used to your status updates being jokes that I’ve been reading your current one for about 3 minutes thinking I’ve missed something  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
Our last proper meet was back in November and we aren't getting another until the end of March. Things get in the way that doesn't make it shit though. Its not all about numbers, its about enjoying the whole lifestyle and making friends for us. Most good things are worth the wait. "
Very true |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
I’ve been on and off this site for years never actually meet anyone from here only meet someone I knew before I joined who also is a member. I wouldn’t get disheartened op it’s just most people online are pretty flakey. The most fun I have on fab is reading the forums tbh :D"
The last month or 2 hasn’t been for a lack of trying. I think clubs are best and just use fab for the social side |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey there. Don’t think that makes you shit anything? It’s good to be choosey and it’s healthy that you have other things going on in life beyond sharing eachother.
I haven’t had a meet since before Xmas and Have never been to a club so you’re ahead of me x |
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
I’ve been on and off this site for years never actually meet anyone from here only meet someone I knew before I joined who also is a member. I wouldn’t get disheartened op it’s just most people online are pretty flakey. The most fun I have on fab is reading the forums tbh :D
The last month or 2 hasn’t been for a lack of trying. I think clubs are best and just use fab for the social side "
At least with a club you can plan ahead, arrange babysitter etc. Meets are more, at least for us, quicker setups |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
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No course your not, you have a real life before swinging. We only meet every few months when the mood takes us. We would get bored very quickly if we did it every week. Love K and B x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
I’ve been on and off this site for years never actually meet anyone from here only meet someone I knew before I joined who also is a member. I wouldn’t get disheartened op it’s just most people online are pretty flakey. The most fun I have on fab is reading the forums tbh :D
The last month or 2 hasn’t been for a lack of trying. I think clubs are best and just use fab for the social side
At least with a club you can plan ahead, arrange babysitter etc. Meets are more, at least for us, quicker setups"
We usually make a weekend of it and book a hotel and go out for food. So it’s not just a club for us. It’s some quality time just the two of us |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m probably the shittiest. I couldn’t think of anything worse than swinging (personally!)
I quite like it here though so I shall keep my comfy seat "
The forums are probably the best bit of swinging anyway |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
No course your not, you have a real life before swinging. We only meet every few months when the mood takes us. We would get bored very quickly if we did it every week. Love K and B x"
I’ve never really thought about it like that. I suppose it would get boring if it was a weekly occurrence. |
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I rarely go out and on here mainly for the forums now. I do try and make an effort occasionally, but winter doesn’t help and some personal relationships are making getting dressed up harder now.
So I’m not much of a Tgirl currently  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’re the same but hey that’s life. We have 3 young children who we struggle to find babysitters for and also have work/studies.
Not shit swingers at all, that’s just real life x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on and off fab for close to 10yrs I think...definitely More than 6yrs, can't honestly remember. Anyway, however long in all that time I've only met two women.
Not a good average considering. I put it down to preferring evening meets over day meets. Bit then it could be I just fit the bill more times than not. And now I'm 58 I'm in that age bracket where I'm outside most of the profiles I like and so nothing on the horizon.
I mostly stay for the forums now and hope that may get lucky some time. |
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Those are rookie numbers
You gotta get those numbers up if you want to be a real swinger
Every swinger knows it’s 6 meets a month minimum or your swingers card gets revoked
Sorry I don’t make the rules |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't had a meet in years
That said I haven't really tried either
If I get a message it's never off anyone I fancy and I don't send messages to those I do fancy
I am not a shit swinger, I am a disinterested one - and, if it comes to it, super fussy too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We’re the same but hey that’s life. We have 3 young children who we struggle to find babysitters for and also have work/studies.
Not shit swingers at all, that’s just real life x"
It’s was so easy with one. Everyone wanted to babysit. Now we’ve got two and all those people have went quiet. It must be a nightmare with three. |
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
I’ve been on and off this site for years never actually meet anyone from here only meet someone I knew before I joined who also is a member. I wouldn’t get disheartened op it’s just most people online are pretty flakey. The most fun I have on fab is reading the forums tbh :D
The last month or 2 hasn’t been for a lack of trying. I think clubs are best and just use fab for the social side
At least with a club you can plan ahead, arrange babysitter etc. Meets are more, at least for us, quicker setups
We usually make a weekend of it and book a hotel and go out for food. So it’s not just a club for us. It’s some quality time just the two of us "
Yeah, we book an overnight hotel for clubs. Saves a long drive home and you do get personal time mixed around the club time |
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
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Not at all.
We had a couple account on here for ages and never met anyone. We had loads of fun, but mainly with friends and locals. Things happen, you can't help it. Life is just mad for everyone atm. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Those are rookie numbers
You gotta get those numbers up if you want to be a real swinger
Every swinger knows it’s 6 meets a month minimum or your swingers card gets revoked
Sorry I don’t make the rules "
Loving The Wolf of Wallstreet reference |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I haven't had a meet in years
That said I haven't really tried either
If I get a message it's never off anyone I fancy and I don't send messages to those I do fancy
I am not a shit swinger, I am a disinterested one - and, if it comes to it, super fussy too "
Being fussy is good. It means you’re not here to sleep with anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been here eight months and had a meet with one guy. Plus several socials that went nowhere. Plus countless chats with time wasters.
If I am honest I think the site is a huge waste of time for most people, so may as well enjoy the chats and make friends.  |
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"I've been here eight months and had a meet with one guy. Plus several socials that went nowhere. Plus countless chats with time wasters.
If I am honest I think the site is a huge waste of time for most people, so may as well enjoy the chats and make friends. "
I think your right. We actually tried to meet about a month back. 3 meets arranged and ghosted all 3 times. These were well verified accounts with recent veris. My guess is we were backups. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been here eight months and had a meet with one guy. Plus several socials that went nowhere. Plus countless chats with time wasters.
If I am honest I think the site is a huge waste of time for most people, so may as well enjoy the chats and make friends.
I think your right. We actually tried to meet about a month back. 3 meets arranged and ghosted all 3 times. These were well verified accounts with recent veris. My guess is we were backups."
Yep. The last two meets I had setup with guys here - they did the same. And a guy I met on Feeld has just done the same after a very good first date. So...I give up. I have no more expectations of the site. Seems easier! |
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"I've been here eight months and had a meet with one guy. Plus several socials that went nowhere. Plus countless chats with time wasters.
If I am honest I think the site is a huge waste of time for most people, so may as well enjoy the chats and make friends.
I think your right. We actually tried to meet about a month back. 3 meets arranged and ghosted all 3 times. These were well verified accounts with recent veris. My guess is we were backups."
Sometimes I start thinking it's me, I hope you don't do that. People who cancel and ghost are just crap. |
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"I've been here eight months and had a meet with one guy. Plus several socials that went nowhere. Plus countless chats with time wasters.
If I am honest I think the site is a huge waste of time for most people, so may as well enjoy the chats and make friends.
I think your right. We actually tried to meet about a month back. 3 meets arranged and ghosted all 3 times. These were well verified accounts with recent veris. My guess is we were backups."
It sounds crazy but hand you tried tinder?
I’ve met more couples from tinder then on here. It’s just better for meets in my opinion. Just post a few nice body pics, no face, and put what you want in your bio
If your willing to pay £3 a month (I think) tinder even has a feature so that you won’t show to anyone unless you swipe yes to them 1st
So it’s completely discreet
Worth a shot. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've been here eight months and had a meet with one guy. Plus several socials that went nowhere. Plus countless chats with time wasters.
If I am honest I think the site is a huge waste of time for most people, so may as well enjoy the chats and make friends.
I think your right. We actually tried to meet about a month back. 3 meets arranged and ghosted all 3 times. These were well verified accounts with recent veris. My guess is we were backups.
Sometimes I start thinking it's me, I hope you don't do that. People who cancel and ghost are just crap. "
Without sounding big headed I just think it’s their loss. I like to think we’re both fun and we’ve never had any complaints, in fact quite the opposite so they’re missing out. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've been here eight months and had a meet with one guy. Plus several socials that went nowhere. Plus countless chats with time wasters.
If I am honest I think the site is a huge waste of time for most people, so may as well enjoy the chats and make friends.
I think your right. We actually tried to meet about a month back. 3 meets arranged and ghosted all 3 times. These were well verified accounts with recent veris. My guess is we were backups.
It sounds crazy but hand you tried tinder?
I’ve met more couples from tinder then on here. It’s just better for meets in my opinion. Just post a few nice body pics, no face, and put what you want in your bio
If your willing to pay £3 a month (I think) tinder even has a feature so that you won’t show to anyone unless you swipe yes to them 1st
So it’s completely discreet
Worth a shot. "
I didn’t know about that feature. I’ll look into it. |
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"I've been here eight months and had a meet with one guy. Plus several socials that went nowhere. Plus countless chats with time wasters.
If I am honest I think the site is a huge waste of time for most people, so may as well enjoy the chats and make friends.
I think your right. We actually tried to meet about a month back. 3 meets arranged and ghosted all 3 times. These were well verified accounts with recent veris. My guess is we were backups.
It sounds crazy but hand you tried tinder?
I’ve met more couples from tinder then on here. It’s just better for meets in my opinion. Just post a few nice body pics, no face, and put what you want in your bio
If your willing to pay £3 a month (I think) tinder even has a feature so that you won’t show to anyone unless you swipe yes to them 1st
So it’s completely discreet
Worth a shot.
I didn’t know about that feature. I’ll look into it."
It’s part of tinder gold I believe, a feature brought in so that people could cheat easier. Their partners friends/family wouldn’t see their account that way
Not loads of couples on there, but if your looking for guys or girls to join in you’ll find loads
Tinder also comes with the requirement of a phone number to have an account. So there’s much less fakes on there, less time wasters too |
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I don’t class myself as a swinger at all, never been to a club for example. Do enjoy the social side and the people you wouldn’t normally cross paths with. I meet 1-2-1 generally but with individuals I’ve already met socially, needs to be planned due to limited free time.
There are some possible firsts in the pipeline, but I can’t see them changing how I generally go about things. |
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"I've been here eight months and had a meet with one guy. Plus several socials that went nowhere. Plus countless chats with time wasters.
If I am honest I think the site is a huge waste of time for most people, so may as well enjoy the chats and make friends.
I think your right. We actually tried to meet about a month back. 3 meets arranged and ghosted all 3 times. These were well verified accounts with recent veris. My guess is we were backups.
Sometimes I start thinking it's me, I hope you don't do that. People who cancel and ghost are just crap.
Without sounding big headed I just think it’s their loss. I like to think we’re both fun and we’ve never had any complaints, in fact quite the opposite so they’re missing out."
After seeing your pic definitely their loss. |
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"I've been here eight months and had a meet with one guy. Plus several socials that went nowhere. Plus countless chats with time wasters.
If I am honest I think the site is a huge waste of time for most people, so may as well enjoy the chats and make friends.
I think your right. We actually tried to meet about a month back. 3 meets arranged and ghosted all 3 times. These were well verified accounts with recent veris. My guess is we were backups.
Sometimes I start thinking it's me, I hope you don't do that. People who cancel and ghost are just crap.
Without sounding big headed I just think it’s their loss. I like to think we’re both fun and we’ve never had any complaints, in fact quite the opposite so they’re missing out.
After seeing your pic definitely their loss. "
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over a year ago
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"Ive not even had a threesome.. the most vanilla of all swinger activities. I feel your shitness  "
I feel like there could be a fab sister site called shit swingers. They could even make platinum site supporters for the shittest swingers. |
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"I don’t class myself as a swinger at all, never been to a club for example. Do enjoy the social side and the people you wouldn’t normally cross paths with. I meet 1-2-1 generally but with individuals I’ve already met socially, needs to be planned due to limited free time.
There are some possible firsts in the pipeline, but I can’t see them changing how I generally go about things. "
Fingers crossed they all work out |
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over a year ago
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"Anything less than 52 meets a year and their Swinger membership card should be revoked.  "
I think our blockbuster card gets more use than our swinger membership card |
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"I’m particularly shot as not only do I not get up to sexual shenanigans, I’m pretty boring too. 
Plus I can’t even post a message without turning shit into shot. "
At least you took your shit.
Wait.. |
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
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Yes you are, now get your knickers off |
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"I’ve had more bans this year than I’ve had sex in the last 2.
Not the best brag I’m aware."
We’ve had more bans than meets this year. Remind me not to join a Prince Andrew thread again |
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
Yes you are, now get your knickers off "
If they come off she’s getting the strap on out  |
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"I’m particularly shot as not only do I not get up to sexual shenanigans, I’m pretty boring too.
Plus I can’t even post a message without turning shit into shot. "
You know football though |
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
Yes you are, now get your knickers off
If they come off she’s getting the strap on out "
A standard swingers night  |
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"Anything less than 52 meets a year and their Swinger membership card should be revoked.
I think our blockbuster card gets more use than our swinger membership card "
Disgrace! |
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"I met with a couple who said I was their 7th attempt to get a single male to meet them! Don't think you are doing anything wrong o/p."
Not at all. We have only actually tried to arrange meets on a handful of occasions. We keep the sex talk to a minimum, make sure they’re verified, preferably recently and make sure we’re all on the same wavelength. Once the meet is arranged we try not to message back and forth too much but just enough to make sure we’re all still happy to go ahead.
The only downside is we have something specific we want to try but make sure it’s agreed before a meet is arranged.
If anyone can see any real problems with this approach we’d be happy to hear what you think |
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You aren't great swingers but who cares,as long as you're happy. It's your lives to live how you wish.
My husband and I really struggle to meet others together for the first 5 months of the year, and I find it very difficult to meet on my own in that time, but not impossible. We do state this in our profiles to make it clear to people who may be checking us out. |
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"I met with a couple who said I was their 7th attempt to get a single male to meet them! Don't think you are doing anything wrong o/p.
Not at all. We have only actually tried to arrange meets on a handful of occasions. We keep the sex talk to a minimum, make sure they’re verified, preferably recently and make sure we’re all on the same wavelength. Once the meet is arranged we try not to message back and forth too much but just enough to make sure we’re all still happy to go ahead.
The only downside is we have something specific we want to try but make sure it’s agreed before a meet is arranged.
If anyone can see any real problems with this approach we’d be happy to hear what you think "
Sounds good to me.
When we meet as a couple I always speak to the woman on the phone to prove I exist and to make sure she is aware and happy about the meeting.
Also it seems to help single men (especially when meeting them as a couple) as I can calm their nerves and discuss boundaries. I don't do sex chat either- it puts the wanking ones off.
I ask if there's anything they want to do/ try but I keep it 'factual'. I'm great at making sex chat not sexy at all.
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"I met with a couple who said I was their 7th attempt to get a single male to meet them! Don't think you are doing anything wrong o/p.
Not at all. We have only actually tried to arrange meets on a handful of occasions. We keep the sex talk to a minimum, make sure they’re verified, preferably recently and make sure we’re all on the same wavelength. Once the meet is arranged we try not to message back and forth too much but just enough to make sure we’re all still happy to go ahead.
The only downside is we have something specific we want to try but make sure it’s agreed before a meet is arranged.
If anyone can see any real problems with this approach we’d be happy to hear what you think
Sounds good to me.
When we meet as a couple I always speak to the woman on the phone to prove I exist and to make sure she is aware and happy about the meeting.
Also it seems to help single men (especially when meeting them as a couple) as I can calm their nerves and discuss boundaries. I don't do sex chat either- it puts the wanking ones off.
I ask if there's anything they want to do/ try but I keep it 'factual'. I'm great at making sex chat not sexy at all.
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I’m really bad for turning any sex chat into a joke. Given my love of dad jokes it’s probably not even funny. |
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If you play with other people - no matter how infrequently- then I think you can say are a swinger.
If you are shit at it probably depends on whether the sex is any good rather than how often you meet IMHO. |
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
We’ve been to clubs loads but only play with others occasionally.
Since New Years Eve we haven’t done anything and won’t be able to until at least April but more than likely it’ll be late summer.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
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I've not done the swinging scene. But if I did I'd have to really like the folks. No rush. As they say 'quality time not quantity'. |
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"We’ve been on here for 4 years and have only ever actually had one meet.
Are we shit swingers? Are we even swingers? Is anyone worse at this than us?
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3.5 year as a couple account never met just enjoyed eachother infront of others... as a single ive met many for socials, im a shit swinger, im not a swinger, ive been a 3rd wheel with a couple that havnt been on here..
Yay for shit swingers  |
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