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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
No it's not about THE Posh
From a minor comment with somebody this morning, which then got me thinking.
Do others think you are posh? Do they feel you come across as it despite being anything but?
Are you posh and they are spot on?
Or even are posh but they think otherwise? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m just a simple country boy, but after I left home at 18 and uni at 21 I moved up to that there London for a job.
After being up this way for most of my adult life now the locals around here still think that I sound like a country bumpkin, but the people back ‘home’ think I’ve gone all posh.
So I can’t win really! |
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I'm not posh, my accent tells you I'm not 
Though when someone describes me as middle class I get a bit offended, coming from a working class family. To be honest I don't really know what defines the different classes anymore. And can you change yours in your own life time? Seems a very British thing does class. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All my colleagues think I'm wealthy
The reason for this - cos I buy clothes from John Lewis
They completely ignore the fact I only shop there when there is a sale on - and most of my work clothes are from Sainsbury's
Never mind, let em get on with it if it makes them happy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been told that I am a bit posh, both in the way I am and my taste.
I don’t particularly see it tho.
Do I have expensive taste? Absolutely . But doesn’t make me posh in any way (like a MIC type) |
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I’m well posh me.
Actually I’m from Manchester. The two things don’t go together 
I can't remember who but someone describes themselves as a posh Scouser which always makes me smile."
Me! But that's because people don't think am as scouse as I am. For some reason. |
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"I’m well posh me.
Actually I’m from Manchester. The two things don’t go together
I can't remember who but someone describes themselves as a posh Scouser which always makes me smile."
Haha I remember that!  . Oxymoron  |
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"People often say they found me posher than expected on the phone, but that's because they expected my accent to be far stronger than it is.
I'm not at all posh."
That's the same with me, and why as Meli says, I say posh scouse. |
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When I was at school I was frequently called posh. I was born in Wolverhampton but my parents weren't, and I have a mix of their accents.
It annoyed me as a child but doesn't bother me now. Though I still am often asked where I'm from. |
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I'm common as muck, but apparently i speak well "
For most people I think this is the case. The way we speak is often at conflict with the way we are in terms of what is considered stereotypical. As said above smoke and mirrors more than anything, but the speaking we'll is not put on, we just naturally are well spoken |
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"Is being posh a bad thing?
It is from where I was brought up, posh kind of equates to snobbery. "
So when a colleague called me "posh totty" it wasn't a compliment .
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I didn't imagine for one minute it was |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"People often say they found me posher than expected on the phone, but that's because they expected my accent to be far stronger than it is.
I'm not at all posh.
That's the same with me, and why as Meli says, I say posh scouse. "
Ah yes it is you! Posh. Scouse. Interesting.
I don't think I'm posh. I sound quite wanky. I've had a kind of wanky/privileged life, especially in the two latter decades. Sometimes people think I am. I think of myself as your standard, cliched chubby Home Counties woman, minus a labrador.
I don't see anything wrong with being posh, on the forums you quite often get inverse snobbery like it's a really bad thing. Never quite understood that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Emmmm not shour
Think I am a posh tart
Let’s see the check list
Drop my knickers for anyone check
Dingy night club toilets or back alley ways yip check
Yip ticked all the boxes definitely am
All jokes aside
Definitely not posh
But I am very polite with very high manners |
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"I'm not posh, my accent tells you I'm not
Though when someone describes me as middle class I get a bit offended, coming from a working class family. To be honest I don't really know what defines the different classes anymore. And can you change yours in your own life time? Seems a very British thing does class. "
It does, and it's full of traps for the unwary.
I was raised in a working class home and still think in a working class way, but I am definitely middle class now, albeit lower middle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People often say they found me posher than expected on the phone, but that's because they expected my accent to be far stronger than it is.
I'm not at all posh.
That's the same with me, and why as Meli says, I say posh scouse.
Ah yes it is you! Posh. Scouse. Interesting.
I don't think I'm posh. I sound quite wanky. I've had a kind of wanky/privileged life, especially in the two latter decades. Sometimes people think I am. I think of myself as your standard, cliched chubby Home Counties woman, minus a labrador.
I don't see anything wrong with being posh, on the forums you quite often get inverse snobbery like it's a really bad thing. Never quite understood that."
I definitely like wanking to your m+s ads   |
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Locally I have a more ‘posh’ accent, but then I’m away from home every seems to think I’m from the valleys and I work in the mines, eating leaks all day. I’m far from posh, and far from a valleys boy too. Guess it comes down ti how posh, or not, the person deciding is…if that makes sense. |
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"People often say they found me posher than expected on the phone, but that's because they expected my accent to be far stronger than it is.
I'm not at all posh.
That's the same with me, and why as Meli says, I say posh scouse. "
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"I'm not posh, my accent tells you I'm not
Though when someone describes me as middle class I get a bit offended, coming from a working class family. To be honest I don't really know what defines the different classes anymore. And can you change yours in your own life time? Seems a very British thing does class.
It does, and it's full of traps for the unwary.
I was raised in a working class home and still think in a working class way, but I am definitely middle class now, albeit lower middle."
Same definitely middle class but with a working class mindset. But with a Welsh accent I don't think anyone is going to mistake me for posh lol |
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"Is being posh a bad thing?"
I don't think so.
I do find it vulgar when someone's entire conversation revolves around the money they have and the things they own, but that's not being posh to me anyway.
Poshness is in the eye of the beholder, and what one person considers posh another will consider horribly déclassé. |
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"No it's not about THE Posh
From a minor comment with somebody this morning, which then got me thinking.
Do others think you are posh? Do they feel you come across as it despite being anything but?
Are you posh and they are spot on?
Or even are posh but they think otherwise?"
Absolutely not. I'd be horrified!  |
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"Is being posh a bad thing?"
Really depends where you are from and your experiences with ‘posh’ people, just as some would reverse it and look down on those deemed to be ‘working’ class, bottom of the ladder.
Stereotype thoughts still exist, but it’s just someone’s perception of how they think someone is because they have this or that, a different accent, type of job, etc without giving them the opportunity to get to know you |
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Is being posh a bad thing?
I don't think so.
I do find it vulgar when someone's entire conversation revolves around the money they have and the things they own, but that's not being posh to me anyway.
Poshness is in the eye of the beholder, and what one person considers posh another will consider horribly déclassé."
Indeed. To me it is is more about the way one acts and talks (some will ridicule it) but in a refined way, without the snobbery attitude.
Most just auto associate posh and snobbery as the same thing because they often do come together anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went to a prep school and at secondary school, which was local comp, I used to get it. I don’t think am at all. Definitely not after my secondary experience
I think we use posh as a synonym for middle class but I don’t know that they should be synonymous? It’s an interesting one. Lots of thoughts but I’ll spare you the essay
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I went to a prep school and at secondary school, which was local comp, I used to get it. I don’t think am at all. Definitely not after my secondary experience
I think we use posh as a synonym for middle class but I don’t know that they should be synonymous? It’s an interesting one. Lots of thoughts but I’ll spare you the essay
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Go for it. I like the forum used for respectful discussion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For years I tried not to be posh. I went to private school. Parents are very well to do!!
I resisted it for so long.
Now I realise there’s nothing wrong with being posh. I’m just me. I like what I like. Always been a rebel and always slightly posh.
A total gentleman on the streets and a freak in the sheets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s all complex isn’t it. Makes me think of Bourdieu- habitus, capital etc.
Personally I think being posh is mostly things we present outwards? Behaviours, attitudes, voice, language, tastes but how we outwardly present them. Maybe also about the spaces you’re socialised in and the behaviours you understand and reproduce as a result? I would completely reject the idea that I’m posh and would definitely not fit in amongst ‘posh’ people. But I think lots about my life, education, family wealth, language, attitudes, behaviours lead people to make fair assessments of what social class I would belong to.
Not to make everything about race but I think race can play a part in that. I don’t know it’s complex. Interesting reading the thoughts of others on this too. Great thread. |
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"I went to a prep school and at secondary school, which was local comp, I used to get it. I don’t think am at all. Definitely not after my secondary experience
I think we use posh as a synonym for middle class but I don’t know that they should be synonymous? It’s an interesting one. Lots of thoughts but I’ll spare you the essay
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I had the opposite experience to you I think. I went to a rough as a badger's arsehole primary school, but then went to a ridiculously snobby grammar school where I was the poor kid and was bullied mercilessly for it.
People from my primary school class would definitely consider me posh now, if for no other reason than I've never been arrested (ooh, posh girl). People from my secondary school class never would. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Rude.
How dare this not be about me.
Sorry! Did you think it was though when you saw the title? "
I would have, obviously, because I am clearly that important 
But someone sent me a screenshot of the OP so I already knew it wasn't  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I went to a prep school and at secondary school, which was local comp, I used to get it. I don’t think am at all. Definitely not after my secondary experience
I think we use posh as a synonym for middle class but I don’t know that they should be synonymous? It’s an interesting one. Lots of thoughts but I’ll spare you the essay
I had the opposite experience to you I think. I went to a rough as a badger's arsehole primary school, but then went to a ridiculously snobby grammar school where I was the poor kid and was bullied mercilessly for it.
People from my primary school class would definitely consider me posh now, if for no other reason than I've never been arrested (ooh, posh girl). People from my secondary school class never would."
Haha, never been arrested? Go you! Interesting, sorry you had a tough secondary experience.
I think interesting because although others may assert that you are x class or so posh, the real tell is in whether you actually ‘fit in’ or how and on what basis you are excluded from that group. |
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"I'm here looking for the Waitrose shoppers
How many times in a lifetime does one need to shop at Waitrose to be considered a Waitrose shopper? "
Just park in the carpark & use the toilets - Waitrose shopper. |
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I'm here looking for the Waitrose shoppers
How many times in a lifetime does one need to shop at Waitrose to be considered a Waitrose shopper?
Just park in the carpark & use the toilets - Waitrose shopper."
Shit... I guess I'm a Waitrose shopper |
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over a year ago
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"I'm here looking for the Waitrose shoppers
How many times in a lifetime does one need to shop at Waitrose to be considered a Waitrose shopper?
Just park in the carpark & use the toilets - Waitrose shopper.
Shit... I guess I'm a Waitrose shopper"
Me too.. Its ok, they don't ask to see your pedigree heritage if you slip in really quietly, behind security |
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"I'm here looking for the Waitrose shoppers
How many times in a lifetime does one need to shop at Waitrose to be considered a Waitrose shopper?
Just park in the carpark & use the toilets - Waitrose shopper.
Shit... I guess I'm a Waitrose shopper
Me too.. Its ok, they don't ask to see your pedigree heritage if you slip in really quietly, behind security "
Slipping in quietly behind security? Oh hello |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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I'm Scottish so I can't be posh, we just can't do the voice, unless you come from certain parts of big cities - Edinburgh or Glasgow.
I get called a snob because I now have a job where I don't get filthy everyday and can go to work in fairly decent clothes that don't need to be covered by overalls.
If even had it because of how much I spend in some of my clothes. They may be fairly expensive but they last me for years and they keep their shape, and colour to some extent.
I'm not sure how much of a thing it is else where in the UK but in some parts of Scotland people don't like to see you improving yourself and striving for a better life than you had growing up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I occasionally get told I’m posh but that’s because I have a non descript middle England accent. I had a privileged childhood & have travelled lots but my parents were from working class backgrounds.
But I class myself as normal, shop in Aldi & swear like a sailor! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, not at all. I've had a few comments saying I am well spoken, but I don't think anyone has ever thought I'm posh. I'm as common as they come and I think most people who speak to me can see that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am not posh, but where I live is posh.
So one could say that I’m all fur coat, no knickers
Essex girl "
You wish 
I did actually used to live there though, and my first two children were born in Essex. I loved it and miss the weather! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am not posh, but where I live is posh.
So one could say that I’m all fur coat, no knickers
Essex girl
You wish
I did actually used to live there though, and my first two children were born in Essex. I loved it and miss the weather! X"
Lol true
Lot warmer down hear than up north
Coming from Liverpool
Only in Chelmsford
Had to do a coarse in London last week
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some people say I'm posh but it's because of things I like and don't like I.e. i don't like eating pinics on the grass, I like to eat out in pubs and restaurants (hate cooking and work long hours) and like a tidy home. To me this isn't posh at all but to some it is. These are a few examples
Louisea |
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"I am a posh Aussie. 
Oxymoron
Or foxymoron if you watch Kath & Kim
Australia still has a class system..."
It certainly has! Very nepotistic, Kings School or nowhere else if you are to make it to Canberra. |
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"I am a posh Aussie.
Oxymoron
Or foxymoron if you watch Kath & Kim
Australia still has a class system...
It certainly has! Very nepotistic, Kings School or nowhere else if you are to make it to Canberra. "
My da went to Scotch College. Only became a doctor.  |
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"I am a posh Aussie.
Oxymoron
Or foxymoron if you watch Kath & Kim
Australia still has a class system...
It certainly has! Very nepotistic, Kings School or nowhere else if you are to make it to Canberra.
My da went to Scotch College. Only became a doctor. "
Quite, leafy Bellevue Hill doth not a Prime Minister make. . . . |
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"I am a posh Aussie.
Oxymoron
Or foxymoron if you watch Kath & Kim
Australia still has a class system...
It certainly has! Very nepotistic, Kings School or nowhere else if you are to make it to Canberra.
My da went to Scotch College. Only became a doctor.
Quite, leafy Bellevue Hill doth not a Prime Minister make. . . ."
Shall tell him of my disappointment in the morning ... |
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"I am a posh Aussie.
Oxymoron
Or foxymoron if you watch Kath & Kim
Australia still has a class system...
It certainly has! Very nepotistic, Kings School or nowhere else if you are to make it to Canberra.
My da went to Scotch College. Only became a doctor.
Quite, leafy Bellevue Hill doth not a Prime Minister make. . . .
Shall tell him of my disappointment in the morning ..."
Doubt he would give a rats arse! |
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I was taught to adapt to the social situation. So at school we had elocution lessons to ensure we spoke well.
Mostly RP I suppose. However I soon learned once I left school to modulate and mimic my accent and overall language vocabulary.
So the breadth of vocabulary and pronunciation I use with my local builder is significantly different from what I might use with my GP.
I let them speak first, then I assess and modulate / mirror accordingly.
We all have different voices, don’t we ?
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I am a posh Aussie.
Oxymoron
Or foxymoron if you watch Kath & Kim
Australia still has a class system...
It certainly has! Very nepotistic, Kings School or nowhere else if you are to make it to Canberra. "
It’s nothing like the U.K.. non existent in places like west QLD , WA and NT, millionaire farm and land owners and workers are pretty much the same people, dress the same, drink in the same bars, fight each other over the same women. |
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"I am a posh Aussie.
Oxymoron
Or foxymoron if you watch Kath & Kim
Australia still has a class system...
It certainly has! Very nepotistic, Kings School or nowhere else if you are to make it to Canberra.
It’s nothing like the U.K.. non existent in places like west QLD , WA and NT, millionaire farm and land owners and workers are pretty much the same people, dress the same, drink in the same bars, fight each other over the same women. "
I wasn't claiming it was like the UK, just that class does still exist in Oz. I'm from Victoria. |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"I knew I wasn't posh after I'd gone to a friend's house after school and her after school snack was mussels in white wine sauce.  "
I scoff at you’re “posh” friend. Mussels are for plebs and gym bunnies. Only oysters and caviar for snacking darling.
And dunnae mention Prosecco. |
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"I am a posh Aussie.
Oxymoron
Or foxymoron if you watch Kath & Kim
Australia still has a class system...
It certainly has! Very nepotistic, Kings School or nowhere else if you are to make it to Canberra.
It’s nothing like the U.K.. non existent in places like west QLD , WA and NT, millionaire farm and land owners and workers are pretty much the same people, dress the same, drink in the same bars, fight each other over the same women.
I wasn't claiming it was like the UK, just that class does still exist in Oz. I'm from Victoria. "
Think Melbourne is a bit more 'old school' than Sydney, that's a real fur coat and no knickers city - Dieu would fit right in! |
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over a year ago
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Being just outside Glasgow but coming from the Highlands my accent is very different and people mistake it for an Edinburgh accent, I’m ex forces and always got the piss taken out of me for sounding posh |
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
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Is it being part of the jolly hockey-sticks brigade? 
I played hockey for many years at school. Never understood this association with posh! "
I always assumed it was a a mistaken identy with a polo mallet |
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Is it being part of the jolly hockey-sticks brigade?
I played hockey for many years at school. Never understood this association with posh!
I always assumed it was a a mistaken identy with a polo mallet "
Now polo IS posh! |
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Is it being part of the jolly hockey-sticks brigade?
I played hockey for many years at school. Never understood this association with posh!
I always assumed it was a a mistaken identy with a polo mallet "
Ah, that must be it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nowt wrong with being posh I reckon.
I love it when you get mixed. Like Kenneth Williams.
Very eloquent but then switches to common. Cool as fuck!
I spelled eloquent right. Does that make me posh? |
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"Nowt wrong with being posh I reckon.
I love it when you get mixed. Like Kenneth Williams.
Very eloquent but then switches to common. Cool as fuck!
I spelled eloquent right. Does that make me posh? "
No but your autocorrect is |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nowt wrong with being posh I reckon.
I love it when you get mixed. Like Kenneth Williams.
Very eloquent but then switches to common. Cool as fuck!
I spelled eloquent right. Does that make me posh?
No but your autocorrect is "
How dare you!! I don't have autocorrect on my PC so ner!!!
I do have Google though |
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