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Whos told vanilla friends about their lifestyle.
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On a night out with vanilla friends, we were chatting and we told them we were swinger's. Their reaction was positive and they grateful that we told them. A few questions on the lifestyle and a lot of laughs, though nothing has changed between the four of us and we are still very good friend's.
Have you told someone and got the same reaction as us or have you lost friends because you told them the truth. |
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Only my close inner circle and they only know the bare bones of it. Vanilla monogamous people can be very distrustful of sexually sharing activities, often the old stealing husbands view rears its head |
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One of my best friends know and I shared quite a bit with them - he found it funny but then he randomly told me that he was going to sleep with a girl, behind his partners back and asked my opinion 
I think he thought that as we sleep with others that my morals would be different and I’d be supportive…I wasn’t and told him what a dick he was.
There’s a massive difference between doing it with your partners consent and doing it behind their back…so it’s skewered our friendship 
K |
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"Yes I have two close friends iv told. Both very positive, one rather jealous - in a good supportive way! Wished her husband would suggest it so I told her she should! "
Yes I think she should, most husband's would be happy with the idea I would imagine. |
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"One of my best friends know and I shared quite a bit with them - he found it funny but then he randomly told me that he was going to sleep with a girl, behind his partners back and asked my opinion
I think he thought that as we sleep with others that my morals would be different and I’d be supportive…I wasn’t and told him what a dick he was.
There’s a massive difference between doing it with your partners consent and doing it behind their back…so it’s skewered our friendship
K"
Totally agree with you on this.  |
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I told my oldest friend, after she told me she was a hard-ass Domme.
We were both surprised - neither of us suspected each other. It just goes to show, it's always the quiet ones to look out for! 
C |
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Most of my vanilla friends know, along with work colleagues and some of my family! I don't hide it or announce it, if someone asks the question I'll always answer it truthfully! Most people guessed to be honest! |
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My friends know and think its great that I've got something to do - they were a bit worried about me for a while after I split from my ex, so they're very supportive and intrigued by it. Obviously they only know I do it in general, no breach of discretion at all. |
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only one of my closest friends knows but they only know that we are on this site and they aren't bothered by it. They were a bit curious about it at first though. |
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I told one VERY good friend that I had an open mind and did not want a partner. The conversation also got around to me confiding that I didn't judge people on the kind of sex they preferred and that barely anything was a no go.
Unfortunately this was interpreted as ' You can do fucking anything to me I don't mind' .......
You guessed.... it was a bloke. I was disappointed. Mind you , so was he when I wtf'd almost all his predilections.
Goes to show that over excited pups hear what they want to hear. |
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Both of our very close friends know, my female friend is fascinated and tells me she is living her dreams through me.
Mr NBVN's mates occasionally tease us but in fairness never want details and respect our choices.
NBVN x |
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No. We keep this lifestyle completely separate from friends and family.
We’d never cross the line with anyone we know, it could get horribly messy.
Some things are better kept private. |
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"No. We keep this lifestyle completely separate from friends and family.
We’d never cross the line with anyone we know, it could get horribly messy.
Some things are better kept private."
Totally get this too, though just telling a trusted friend felt so great. |
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Totally get this too, though just telling a trusted friend felt so great."
That’s not to say I’ve never been tempted. My friends/family probably view me as a very straight laced middle aged prim and proper lady. I often think “If only you knew!”
Perhaps the deliciousness of those thoughts is why I don’t!
 Viv |
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Totally get this too, though just telling a trusted friend felt so great.
That’s not to say I’ve never been tempted. My friends/family probably view me as a very straight laced middle aged prim and proper lady. I often think “If only you knew!”
Perhaps the deliciousness of those thoughts is why I don’t!
Viv"
Yes family would definitely be a no for us too. |
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Most of my friends and some family know about my kink, to different degrees. Most of my close friends I met through kink. Told the odd work colleagues down the years and no major reactions
Few friends know I am on here but not many |
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What do singles tell friends exactly? You have the occasional one night stand? You are on a site that others hook up on? Isnt that what a lot of single people do one way or another anyway?
Doesn't quite have the same edge to it as couples who full swap... does it? I class singles as shaggers |
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"What do singles tell friends exactly? You have the occasional one night stand? You are on a site that others hook up on? Isnt that what a lot of single people do one way or another anyway?
Doesn't quite have the same edge to it as couples who full swap... does it? I class singles as shaggers "
Yes never thought of it like that. |
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I've told my neighbour after a few drinks.
I don't regret it and she was fascinated but I'm not sure I would tell any other friends. I like to keep the equilibrium I have with them and they don't really need to know my sexual kinks. Sex is not something we generally talk about anyway
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My mum and dad know thanks to some idiot from fab tracking me down on fb then finding my mum and telling her and sending screen shots of me , luckily for me my mum and dad just take the piss out of me and find it funny. |
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"My mum and dad know thanks to some idiot from fab tracking me down on fb then finding my mum and telling her and sending screen shots of me , luckily for me my mum and dad just take the piss out of me and find it funny. "
My god. Why do people feel the need to do things like this??
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"My mum and dad know thanks to some idiot from fab tracking me down on fb then finding my mum and telling her and sending screen shots of me , luckily for me my mum and dad just take the piss out of me and find it funny.
My god. Why do people feel the need to do things like this??
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because some people leed sad Lives and enjoy trying to humiliate others, simple fix I don't have pics on show now. |
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"My mum and dad know thanks to some idiot from fab tracking me down on fb then finding my mum and telling her and sending screen shots of me , luckily for me my mum and dad just take the piss out of me and find it funny. "
Surely they have broken laws sending theses photo's of you? |
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"Only my close inner circle and they only know the bare bones of it. Vanilla monogamous people can be very distrustful of sexually sharing activities, often the old stealing husbands view rears its head "
Same here only close friends know we have done thos before and are rejoining this together. The old stealing bf/hubby/gf/wife view is still thought of when you mention swinging. |
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They like to know the details.lol.
She borrowed my phone to upload some work photos up and the webpage was open 
