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over a year ago
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I know it sounds cliché but time really is a great healer.
But while you wait I suggest indulging yourself, whether it pampering yourself, or doing stiff you love, be selfish, look after yourself but also cry if you need too, don't suppress the sadness, you need to break in order to build yourself again.
Spend time with Girlfriends, just do what you feel and be kind to yourself.
I promise in time you will feel better  |
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"What is the best way to get over someone?
Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully received"
well basically the love of my life cheated on me 18 years ago so ill tell you how to get over it whenever I do |
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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago
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"What is the best way to get over someone?
Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully received"
I'm going through this too OP.. I was blindsided when he ended it..
No contact, concentrate on yourself.. I have had my hair, nails and eyebrows done just to make myself feel better. Feel free to DM me if you need someone to understand xx |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"What is the best way to get over someone?
Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully received"
Grab your friends and enjoy as much time together enjoying yourselves bouncing off each other it's a great distraction.as they say time is a healer |
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When our hearts break it is often easiest to live in denial and to give in to hope, to delay one’s life, thinking, without reason, that they will come to their senses and that they will return to us.
This denial and hope delays the healing process, we imagine the scenarios that they may return to us, we play them out, we catch breath and dwell within ourselves. No amount of time will heal you if you do this.
Accept that your heart is broken, and that there is no return to that path. Grieve and then draw a line, truly accept that it is gone and you will begin to heal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is the best way to get over someone?
Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully receivedwell basically the love of my life cheated on me 18 years ago so ill tell you how to get over it whenever I do "
Aww, my lovely CC xxx |
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"What is the best way to get over someone?
Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully receivedwell basically the love of my life cheated on me 18 years ago so ill tell you how to get over it whenever I do
Aww, my lovely CC xxx"
thanks Dieu xxxx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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youl know better than others but time and distractions. i would say embrace it this was part of your life, acept it and move on. easier said than done though and this takes time. |
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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago
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Block. No contact.
Have a good cry.
Then distract yourself over and over again with anything you enjoy, go out, see friends, gym, hobbies etc.
Find a new box set to focus on.
He will pop into your head less and less and then one day he won’t be the first thing you think about when you wake up.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t buy into the time healing thing, all it seems to do is rob you of chances to pursue other avenues.
Cleanse them from your life.
Lean on your friends for pep talks.
Distract yourself with something new, be it a trip, a hobby, exercise.
Have something else to do when you feel you might just sit around thinking about him.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Biggest cliché of them all, but time is a healer.
Hope you’re ok and not hurting x"
This plus give it time there will be someone else in future always look to future forget about the past x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Distraction is key. Spend time doing things you really enjoy, try and find pleasure in simple things and go easy on yourself.
Don't think that you can't feel sad and sit and cry because you totally are allowed to, but once you finish crying, straighten your crown and put some happy music on and sing. It doesn't matter how many times you cry or feel sad, as long as you keep remembering to do something that makes you feel a bit happier.
I hope you can move on and find happiness.
Take care. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like others have said, time is a healer. Took me a whole year to get over my ex! I practiced a lot of self care during that time and worked on myself, boosting my own confidence and getting to a good place mentally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is the best way to get over someone?
Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully received"
Weigh up the pro and cons of the person
What’s the best attributes
What’s the worse attributes
Does the worst outweigh the best ?
What does your head say ?
What does your heart know ?
Do you trust this person ?
What does your instincts say ?
Why do you have to get over them ?
What kind of person do you want for your future xxx
What’s lessons have you learnt from the experience with this person xxx
Xxxx
Wish you all the love women to women xxxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Heartbreak is grief.
There's no cure for grief and everyone copes differently.
This..but I would block them close all contact "
I’d agree with this, my ex kept contacting me and it made it much worse, I blocked him in the end. |
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"Heartbreak is grief.
There's no cure for grief and everyone copes differently.
This..but I would block them close all contact
I’d agree with this, my ex kept contacting me and it made it much worse, I blocked him in the end. "
Absolutely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just take away all reminders. Numbers off phones/whattsapp. Unfriend on social media so you dont keep getting glimpses of them. Soon you will realise the days get longer in between thinking about them and it doesnt hurt so much anymore. Keep remembering all the shitty things about them, and there must have been some. And love yourself the most. Xx |
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Agree with the person who said heartbreak is grief.
Stop contact if possible. Occupy your mind with something else. A new hobby, go out with friends, go watch some entertainment (live music, shows, anything). Include some physical activity (running, gym, anything where you can physically unload your emotions, pain, grief) and give it time. |
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Keep yourself busy, be sociable, see friends, write down things that make you happy, have a pamper, make yourself feel good, new underwear. Also focus on the positive things only. Each day gets easier is all I can say. X |
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Occupy your mind with other thoughts and give yourself time
Time is the greatest healer
Although it was the right thing to do I was truly heartbroken after my divorce but now I'm ok with it.
I didnt have any magic cure I just felt a little bit better month after month after the event . |
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"Distraction is key. Spend time doing things you really enjoy, try and find pleasure in simple things and go easy on yourself.
Don't think that you can't feel sad and sit and cry because you totally are allowed to, but once you finish crying, straighten your crown and put some happy music on and sing. It doesn't matter how many times you cry or feel sad, as long as you keep remembering to do something that makes you feel a bit happier.
I hope you can move on and find happiness.
Take care."
Totally this and just take it day by day, take care xx |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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Keep yourself busy but allow yourself time to process - don’t beat yourself up for being upset or questioning why, but remember you may never have the answers. One day you will wake up and the hollow feeling inside will Begin to feel whole again, you will see something or hear something that reminds you of that person and you will no longer cry or feel anger you will smile at the happier times and be thankful you had them, it may take a while to get to that realisation but you get there - surround yourself with the people and things that make you happy - take a girls trip, do something totally selfish for you until the cracks begin to heal and time passes without you realising because you somehow managed to have fun again  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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Time only becomes a healer when you've been able to conquer what it is that can distract you the coping strategies help and it gets easier any other time your more like to move before they do music is a wonderful therapy none of the sloppy stuff go up a gear |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Finding a hobby and getting out and about is definitely the way to help the healing process. I know its easy to say and a bit of a cliché but its true. The process of being down is the first step to finding your feet again OP. Hopefully you'll find your mojo again soon  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't read the replies , I just saw your opening post.
For me, getting under another is a no.
Be gentle with yourself, your feelings matter. Give yourself time, and don't be bitter, it won't help you in the long run. Don't focus on what the other person is doing/has been doing ,make yourself the focus.
More than anything, time helps.
Hope you're ok op x |
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I still wake sometimes wondering why my first fiance is not next to me, when it is heading towards 40 years since she broke it off between us. I don't think that these sort of relationships are ever truly over, it's just that the ruins of them eventually become a part of your identity. The experiences lie mostly dormant but occasionally will surface and leave you devastated for a short while. |
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