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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yet another thread on dating apps.
Do you openly mention that you are kinky or you are into swinging on dating apps? Is there a subtle way of telling this so that vanilla people won't notice it easily?
I have seen one woman's profile that says vanilla is only good for food  Got any other ideas? |
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"Yet another thread on dating apps.
Do you openly mention that you are kinky or you are into swinging on dating apps? Is there a subtle way of telling this so that vanilla people won't notice it easily?
I have seen one woman's profile that says vanilla is only good for food Got any other ideas?"
I've seen similar. Vanilla isn't the only flavour of ice cream. |
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"Yet another thread on dating apps.
Do you openly mention that you are kinky or you are into swinging on dating apps? Is there a subtle way of telling this so that vanilla people won't notice it easily?
I have seen one woman's profile that says vanilla is only good for food Got any other ideas?"
Tried it on Badoo. Got banned  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yet another thread on dating apps.
Do you openly mention that you are kinky or you are into swinging on dating apps? Is there a subtle way of telling this so that vanilla people won't notice it easily?
I have seen one woman's profile that says vanilla is only good for food Got any other ideas?
Tried it on Badoo. Got banned "
What? That's unfair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I put 'ethically non-monogamous' but found I had to explain it loads!
I’d say that’s pretty self explanatory "
In a world where common sense is no longer common it appeared it isn't  |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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Nope, I don't mention it at all. I find it complicates things even more. Its hard enough to get a match with someone.. mentioning I'm into the swinging world would be like the final nail in the coffin so to speak |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I put 'ethically non-monogamous' but found I had to explain it loads! "
I used to put this too but had the same problem. As for the kinky side "vanilla is for ice cream" always makes me giggle but I tend to find it easy enough to drop in to conversation early on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Nope, I don't mention it at all. I find it complicates things even more. Its hard enough to get a match with someone.. mentioning I'm into the swinging world would be like the final nail in the coffin so to speak "
I hear you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That you enjoy pineapples and have recently bought a hot tub."
Interesting. I have seen many women who made a big deal about how they like pineapple over pizza. Does that mean....?  |
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I'd been swinging long before I'd heard the term vanilla so I'm not sure that people outside of the lifestyle would necessarily understand it without explanation
& ethically non monogamous is another term I've only come across in the last few years & that I think many won't have come across |
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By (user no longer on site)
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On OKC people are really open about saying that they’re kinky or kink friendly. Some will put domme or sub in profiles too. Plus you can select ENM as an option in your profile.  |
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"I put 'ethically non-monogamous' but found I had to explain it loads!
I’d say that’s pretty self explanatory
In a world where common sense is no longer common it appeared it isn't "
I think it is very easy for people to think that gender and relationship related phrases are understood by everyone. They aren’t. Just because your friends or social media feeds talk about it doesn’t mean that is representative of wider understanding.
I consider myself to be well rounded but there are a lot of phrases I don’t understand that others think are in wide parlance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I put 'ethically non-monogamous' but found I had to explain it loads!
I’d say that’s pretty self explanatory
In a world where common sense is no longer common it appeared it isn't
I think it is very easy for people to think that gender and relationship related phrases are understood by everyone. They aren’t. Just because your friends or social media feeds talk about it doesn’t mean that is representative of wider understanding.
I consider myself to be well rounded but there are a lot of phrases I don’t understand that others think are in wide parlance."
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Honestly anything like that on dating apps will just net you loads of people looking for a quick vanilla one and done meet.
Because sadly people think kink = easy
So you’ll get loads of people saying oh yeah I’m into kink let’s meet
11 minutes of missionary later you’ll never see them again |
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