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"Will complete later. Just ask" Yeah, what does that mean? I bet if you asked if they fancied an afternoon snuggle, you be reported instantly | |||
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"Photos of men holding up dead fish or posing next to a dr*gged tiger. " Or people kissing their cat x | |||
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"Its a nightmare, not one genuine person,and so many catfish profiles " Yep. One photo, usually blurry, and the 'ask me anything line' x | |||
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"People seem to either hound you or completely vanish with little in between . "Send you a message, you respond, never hear from them again. It's a massive ponsi scheme x | |||
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"Married men. Men who ask if I'm 'passionate' thinking they've cleverly disguised the fact they're just looking for sex. " That's code for sex only | |||
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"I'm not on here much, add my Insta "Then i can spam you instead | |||
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"I'm also on a vanilla dating site (the one with the pink heart), and I have a little pet hate. Everyone appears to post pictures of themselves up a mountain or doing some kind of strenuous activity. When do they wash their smalls and clean the toilet? So people, if you're on a vanilla site, what's your pet hate?" I am one of those guys who posts such stuff 
To answer your question, in long expeditions, we have toilet tents which is basically a deep pit where you di your business and cover it with some soil. Personally I find that to be the most challenging part of expeditions.
We are mostly dirty as we don't take a shower. The shower we take once we are back is the most blissful experience. Sorry for giving a serious answer to a fun question  | |||
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"Married men. Men who ask if I'm 'passionate' thinking they've cleverly disguised the fact they're just looking for sex. That's code for sex only" I know.... I figured it out on my own and everything
They always think they're being sneaky because they don't just come out and say sex. Boys are silly. | |||
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"I'm also on a vanilla dating site (the one with the pink heart), and I have a little pet hate. Everyone appears to post pictures of themselves up a mountain or doing some kind of strenuous activity. When do they wash their smalls and clean the toilet? So people, if you're on a vanilla site, what's your pet hate? I am one of those guys who posts such stuff
To answer your question, in long expeditions, we have toilet tents which is basically a deep pit where you di your business and cover it with some soil. Personally I find that to be the most challenging part of expeditions.
We are mostly dirty as we don't take a shower. The shower we take once we are back is the most blissful experience. Sorry for giving a serious answer to a fun question "Yeah, but all appear to be enjoying it. You're suffering for your art | |||
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"Photos of men holding up dead fish or posing next to a dr*gged tiger. Or people kissing their cat x" I'd better remove that one I have then. No wonder I don't get replies  | |||
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"Photos of men holding up dead fish or posing next to a dr*gged tiger. Or people kissing their cat x I'd better remove that one I have then. No wonder I don't get replies "Googling you now...... x | |||
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"Photos of men holding up dead fish or posing next to a dr*gged tiger. Or people kissing their cat x I'd better remove that one I have then. No wonder I don't get replies
Googling you now...... x"I'm wearing more clothes so you may not recognise me... | |||
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"Photos of men holding up dead fish or posing next to a dr*gged tiger. Or people kissing their cat x I'd better remove that one I have then. No wonder I don't get replies
Googling you now...... x
I'm wearing more clothes so you may not recognise me..."In that case, I'll stay here x | |||
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"I used to hate the wasted time. Going on another date only to find that we were incompatible because they’d lied about their intentions or their interests. I had actually decided that my next date would be the last one and then fate sent me Dora. 3 years together now, blissfully happy and getting married in the summer. " Top couple x | |||
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"Bored Married women looking for tittlelation to brighten up there sad lives " I had a friend like that. She needed the attention. | |||
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"Photos of men holding up dead fish or posing next to a dr*gged tiger. " 
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"'Very busy with job, family, friends and life. My life's perfect just missing one thing. No drama.' I always wonder if this means they actually want to hookup; they dont seem to have space for a relationship" I always say, I have kids. It irks me, a week into a chat, and always before the first date, that they say, oh, you have kids! It's on the profile, I've mentioned I'm going to see them in a play etc. I haven't been keeping them secret! Rant over! | |||
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"Bored Married women looking for tittlelation to brighten up there sad lives I had a friend like that. She needed the attention. " Yep loads on for that reason only. | |||
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"Bored Married women looking for tittlelation to brighten up there sad lives I had a friend like that. She needed the attention. " Don't they get seen? | |||
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"Ooh where to start. Why are you on (dating site) when you’re on Fab as well Pics of guys with cars that are meant to impress Pics of guys with dogs - I’m not a dog lover Pics of guys in a group - Guess who Guys just looking for sex - that’s what Fab is for Pics that are out of date - met a guy that was a few stones heavier than his pic then asked why I didn’t want to meet again. To be fair I have met a few guys who were lovely. " Falcon, I'd like to be with someone full time again, one day. Was married for 16 years, and would hate to die alone in a pool of my own piss x | |||
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"Bored Married women looking for tittlelation to brighten up there sad lives I had a friend like that. She needed the attention. " Is she still looking? Asking for a friend . . . | |||
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"I always say, I have kids. It irks me, a week into a chat, and always before the first date, that they say, oh, you have kids! It's on the profile, I've mentioned I'm going to see them in a play etc. I haven't been keeping them secret! Rant over!" I'm pretty sure some people are simply bored and like to chat when they meet someone interested in them who can make a conversation. Then, when it comes to the point of meeting, they make any excuse to quit (or just ghost you) | |||
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"I always say, I have kids. It irks me, a week into a chat, and always before the first date, that they say, oh, you have kids! It's on the profile, I've mentioned I'm going to see them in a play etc. I haven't been keeping them secret! Rant over! I'm pretty sure some people are simply bored and like to chat when they meet someone interested in them who can make a conversation. Then, when it comes to the point of meeting, they make any excuse to quit (or just ghost you) " I hear you fella | |||
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"Men with dead fish, men with children, men with dogs, men with boats, men with motorcycles, men with 10 other men so you don't know which one is them. Men who can't take an ordinary bloody selfie round the right way and in focus which isn't cropping off their head. I once saw a profile with the only pic of a radiator. Another of some bin bags by a verge. And they hadn't even added a filter. FFS." Be fair Beryl, the radiator had better abs x | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all?????" Ha! Just read one like that today. Factory produced profiles | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Ha! Just read one like that today. Factory produced profiles" "Looking for my last first date" "seeking my other half"  "looking for my partner in crime". Sigh! | |||
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"Men with dead fish, men with children, men with dogs, men with boats, men with motorcycles, men with 10 other men so you don't know which one is them. Men who can't take an ordinary bloody selfie round the right way and in focus which isn't cropping off their head. I once saw a profile with the only pic of a radiator. Another of some bin bags by a verge. And they hadn't even added a filter. FFS." | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all?????" Country walks and pub lunches | |||
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"Men with dead fish, men with children, men with dogs, men with boats, men with motorcycles, men with 10 other men so you don't know which one is them. Men who can't take an ordinary bloody selfie round the right way and in focus which isn't cropping off their head. I once saw a profile with the only pic of a radiator. Another of some bin bags by a verge. And they hadn't even added a filter. FFS. Be fair Beryl, the radiator had better abs x" Bit pasty... | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Country walks and pub lunches ""Own hair, own teeth, own house" | |||
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Pics with their kids. Not appropriate.
The lies. Just be honest and let the person decide.
The entitlement from most men thinking that because they have messaged you must reply immediately
I could write a book on the disasters I've had over the years. | |||
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"Photos of men holding up dead fish or posing next to a dr*gged tiger. " How about living fish? | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Country walks and pub lunches
"Own hair, own teeth, own house" "Own car and good job too! I'm a catch, clearly! | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Ha! Just read one like that today. Factory produced profiles "Looking for my last first date" "seeking my other half" "looking for my partner in crime". Sigh!"Jesus, it is a ponsi scheme. Some out if work sitcom writer is knocking these out like a production line. | |||
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"I always say, I have kids. It irks me, a week into a chat, and always before the first date, that they say, oh, you have kids! It's on the profile, I've mentioned I'm going to see them in a play etc. I haven't been keeping them secret! Rant over! I'm pretty sure some people are simply bored and like to chat when they meet someone interested in them who can make a conversation. Then, when it comes to the point of meeting, they make any excuse to quit (or just ghost you) " I had the opposite. Nothing on females profile about kids. In fact very few details about her. During a conversation she asked about me having children . I have none of my own . Did say even at my age yes would like if possible. I asked then if seeing each other was still on for weekend. She replied have to check if mom will look after children. I said that she had never mentioned before. Her reply was , I had not asked. Which was correct. Yes did see each other that weekend and a few times since . A bit difficult due to children etc . Message each other most days. | |||
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"When they tell you how to use the site. It giveth me the rage!!'" Woah there Beryl. If you're getting angry, I want to be there when your top rips open x | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Country walks and pub lunches
"Own hair, own teeth, own house"
Own car and good job too!
I'm a catch, clearly!"And I thought my disease riddled gums were my best feature | |||
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"When they tell you how to use the site. It giveth me the rage!!' Woah there Beryl. If you're getting angry, I want to be there when your top rips open x"Nah I just don't go on the sites very often | |||
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"When they tell you how to use the site. It giveth me the rage!!' Woah there Beryl. If you're getting angry, I want to be there when your top rips open x
Nah I just don't go on the sites very often "Good. I have exclusive viewing rights here then x | |||
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"im a professional. wtf does that mean" Villain? Safe cracker? Dog groomer? Dentist? Covers so many bases | |||
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"im a professional. wtf does that mean" Means you're trustworthy and is usually accompanied by "genuine". | |||
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"im a professional. wtf does that mean Means you're trustworthy and is usually accompanied by "genuine". "Ah, I wear a suit and tie Beryl. From that, could you deduce that I like going to swingers clubs? I guess adding professional is saying, in a posh way, you are employed and I'm not looking to leach off you. It's still a possibility scheme x | |||
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"im a professional. wtf does that mean Means you're trustworthy and is usually accompanied by "genuine". "tony blair once cited he was professional  | |||
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"im a professional. wtf does that mean Means you're trustworthy and is usually accompanied by "genuine".
tony blair once cited he was professional "Technically he was, he was paid to fcuk lots of Iraqis | |||
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"im a professional. wtf does that mean Means you're trustworthy and is usually accompanied by "genuine".
Ah, I wear a suit and tie Beryl. From that, could you deduce that I like going to swingers clubs? I guess adding professional is saying, in a posh way, you are employed and I'm not looking to leach off you. It's still a possibility scheme x"I think on here and anywhere else saying you're a professional is meaningless! You could be one and still not be employed... | |||
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"im a professional. wtf does that mean Means you're trustworthy and is usually accompanied by "genuine".
Ah, I wear a suit and tie Beryl. From that, could you deduce that I like going to swingers clubs? I guess adding professional is saying, in a posh way, you are employed and I'm not looking to leach off you. It's still a possibility scheme x
I think on here and anywhere else saying you're a professional is meaningless! You could be one and still not be employed..."On dating sites, I think it means, and I paraphrase here, I'm full of shit, but trying to make myself seem superior to you. Does that sound about right Beryl? X | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Ha! Just read one like that today. Factory produced profiles "Looking for my last first date" "seeking my other half" "looking for my partner in crime". Sigh!
Jesus, it is a ponsi scheme. Some out if work sitcom writer is knocking these out like a production line."What's a ponsi scheme? | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Ha! Just read one like that today. Factory produced profiles "Looking for my last first date" "seeking my other half" "looking for my partner in crime". Sigh!
Jesus, it is a ponsi scheme. Some out if work sitcom writer is knocking these out like a production line.
What's a ponsi scheme? "Basically, you sell something fir money, that people never receive. You keep reusing the new money to resell the product, and nobody actually gets anything, but loses all their money | |||
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"im a professional. wtf does that mean Means you're trustworthy and is usually accompanied by "genuine".
Ah, I wear a suit and tie Beryl. From that, could you deduce that I like going to swingers clubs? I guess adding professional is saying, in a posh way, you are employed and I'm not looking to leach off you. It's still a possibility scheme x
I think on here and anywhere else saying you're a professional is meaningless! You could be one and still not be employed...
On dating sites, I think it means, and I paraphrase here, I'm full of shit, but trying to make myself seem superior to you. Does that sound about right Beryl? X"I guess I think men do it to seem more dateable to women who value money and status. Just my take. | |||
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"im a professional. wtf does that mean Means you're trustworthy and is usually accompanied by "genuine".
Ah, I wear a suit and tie Beryl. From that, could you deduce that I like going to swingers clubs? I guess adding professional is saying, in a posh way, you are employed and I'm not looking to leach off you. It's still a possibility scheme x
I think on here and anywhere else saying you're a professional is meaningless! You could be one and still not be employed...
On dating sites, I think it means, and I paraphrase here, I'm full of shit, but trying to make myself seem superior to you. Does that sound about right Beryl? X" | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Ha! Just read one like that today. Factory produced profiles "Looking for my last first date" "seeking my other half" "looking for my partner in crime". Sigh!
Jesus, it is a ponsi scheme. Some out if work sitcom writer is knocking these out like a production line.
What's a ponsi scheme?
Basically, you sell something fir money, that people never receive. You keep reusing the new money to resell the product, and nobody actually gets anything, but loses all their money"Oh but instead of money it's lust and attraction? | |||
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"Group photos. You know they're always going to be the least attractive one, trying to lure you in with their good looking pals "I don't have groups of friends to take photos with so can't get away with that  | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Ha! Just read one like that today. Factory produced profiles "Looking for my last first date" "seeking my other half" "looking for my partner in crime". Sigh!
Jesus, it is a ponsi scheme. Some out if work sitcom writer is knocking these out like a production line.
What's a ponsi scheme?
Basically, you sell something fir money, that people never receive. You keep reusing the new money to resell the product, and nobody actually gets anything, but loses all their money
Oh but instead of money it's lust and attraction? "No, it's hard cash! They charge according to gender. So for me (straight, fella), I'm stung for £19.99 per month. From that, I've had the sum total of two dates over the past five months. Had to sign up for six months, finishes next month. Then I'm just staying on here. | |||
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"Group photos. You know they're always going to be the least attractive one, trying to lure you in with their good looking pals "What about the ones where they're hugging a fella? Hello....what are you trying to tell me here? At least on fab, a group meet is advertised x | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Ha! Just read one like that today. Factory produced profiles "Looking for my last first date" "seeking my other half" "looking for my partner in crime". Sigh!
Jesus, it is a ponsi scheme. Some out if work sitcom writer is knocking these out like a production line.
What's a ponsi scheme?
Basically, you sell something fir money, that people never receive. You keep reusing the new money to resell the product, and nobody actually gets anything, but loses all their money
Oh but instead of money it's lust and attraction?
No, it's hard cash! They charge according to gender. So for me (straight, fella), I'm stung for £19.99 per month. From that, I've had the sum total of two dates over the past five months. Had to sign up for six months, finishes next month. Then I'm just staying on here."But that's on you, not them. Try harder lol there not selling you a date, they're selling you access to profiles. They've delivered their end of the bargain | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Ha! Just read one like that today. Factory produced profiles "Looking for my last first date" "seeking my other half" "looking for my partner in crime". Sigh!
Jesus, it is a ponsi scheme. Some out if work sitcom writer is knocking these out like a production line.
What's a ponsi scheme?
Basically, you sell something fir money, that people never receive. You keep reusing the new money to resell the product, and nobody actually gets anything, but loses all their money
Oh but instead of money it's lust and attraction?
No, it's hard cash! They charge according to gender. So for me (straight, fella), I'm stung for £19.99 per month. From that, I've had the sum total of two dates over the past five months. Had to sign up for six months, finishes next month. Then I'm just staying on here.
But that's on you, not them. Try harder lol there not selling you a date, they're selling you access to profiles. They've delivered their end of the bargain "Mute point. | |||
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"I’ve found Tnder easier for meeting for casual sex than here tbh. People are more up front with what they like here but I think most are on here for an ego boost" Or swinging is more than a hook up after a night on the town? | |||
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Ha! Just read one like that today. Factory produced profiles "Looking for my last first date" "seeking my other half" "looking for my partner in crime". Sigh!
Jesus, it is a ponsi scheme. Some out if work sitcom writer is knocking these out like a production line.
What's a ponsi scheme?
Basically, you sell something fir money, that people never receive. You keep reusing the new money to resell the product, and nobody actually gets anything, but loses all their money
Oh but instead of money it's lust and attraction?
No, it's hard cash! They charge according to gender. So for me (straight, fella), I'm stung for £19.99 per month. From that, I've had the sum total of two dates over the past five months. Had to sign up for six months, finishes next month. Then I'm just staying on here.
But that's on you, not them. Try harder lol there not selling you a date, they're selling you access to profiles. They've delivered their end of the bargain
Mute point."Moot?! Or are you trying to tell me to shut up
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"Women that post- Like nights out, nights in. City breaks, holidays. Well don’t we all????? Ha! Just read one like that today. Factory produced profiles "Looking for my last first date" "seeking my other half" "looking for my partner in crime". Sigh!
Jesus, it is a ponsi scheme. Some out if work sitcom writer is knocking these out like a production line.
What's a ponsi scheme?
Basically, you sell something fir money, that people never receive. You keep reusing the new money to resell the product, and nobody actually gets anything, but loses all their money
Oh but instead of money it's lust and attraction?
No, it's hard cash! They charge according to gender. So for me (straight, fella), I'm stung for £19.99 per month. From that, I've had the sum total of two dates over the past five months. Had to sign up for six months, finishes next month. Then I'm just staying on here.
But that's on you, not them. Try harder lol there not selling you a date, they're selling you access to profiles. They've delivered their end of the bargain
Mute point.
Moot?! Or are you trying to tell me to shut up
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"Photos of men holding up dead fish or posing next to a dr*gged tiger. Or people kissing their cat x" . I would add to that people kissing their dogs or cats and dogs laying about on the family sofa how disgusting is that. | |||
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"A message just saying 'hi' or 'hello'. Sorry, but if I message someone first, I like to make an effort! Not even the time or energy to hold "shirt" for first letter. "Takes a few moments to construct a decent sentence. | |||
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"Looking for a knight in shining armour, not a twat in tin foil"
"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best"
"I love to laugh!" (who fucking doesn't??)
"Looking for a real man who can handle a real woman"
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"Profile headline - Carpe diem
"Looking for a knight in shining armour, not a twat in tin foil"
"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best"
"I love to laugh!" (who fucking doesn't??)
"Looking for a real man who can handle a real woman"
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"Profile headline - Carpe diem
"Looking for a knight in shining armour, not a twat in tin foil"
"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best"
"I love to laugh!" (who fucking doesn't??)
"Looking for a real man who can handle a real woman"
Are you looking at the same site " it's on all the sites, across the board....I swear there's a manual out there somewhere, like Online Dating for Dummies or summink | |||
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"Profile headline - Carpe diem
"Looking for a knight in shining armour, not a twat in tin foil"
"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best"
"I love to laugh!" (who fucking doesn't??)
"Looking for a real man who can handle a real woman"
Are you looking at the same site
it's on all the sites, across the board....I swear there's a manual out there somewhere, like Online Dating for Dummies or summink "One I see is, not interested in money etc. Then says ideal first date. Fine dining with champagne ? | |||
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" .... Cheaters/liars don't message me. As though cheaters/liars will stop messaging after they see that on their profiles." I always respect those requests. | |||
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"Bored Married women looking for tittlelation to brighten up there sad lives I had a friend like that. She needed the attention. Don't they get seen?" I did wonder that myself. I think the attention out-weighed the flak with getting seen by someone he knew. All his friends are married so shouldn't be on there anyway. | |||
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"Profile headline - Carpe diem
"Looking for a knight in shining armour, not a twat in tin foil"
"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best"
"I love to laugh!" (who fucking doesn't??)
"Looking for a real man who can handle a real woman"
Are you looking at the same site
it's on all the sites, across the board....I swear there's a manual out there somewhere, like Online Dating for Dummies or summink
One I see is, not interested in money etc. Then says ideal first date. Fine dining with champagne ? "Or "I like to be spoiled". I've seen profiles on here who have that too. | |||
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"Last time I ventured on the Bee site there were several guys with anti-vax profiles - the whole profile was a rant. "It's also prevalent on here Beryl. Got blocked by two ladies because I'd been vaxxed x | |||
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"They just want sex. Where’s the romance gone eh." The dead, dying embers have been sold x | |||
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"Last time I ventured on the Bee site there were several guys with anti-vax profiles - the whole profile was a rant.
It's also prevalent on here Beryl. Got blocked by two ladies because I'd been vaxxed x"An excellent filter in my view! | |||
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It's also prevalent on here Beryl. Got blocked by two ladies because I'd been vaxxed x
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"The damn fish!!!! Women are not impressed by your fishing skills! " Frankly, I'm amazed that catching fish just to photograph and let them go again hasn't been outlawed years ago on the grounds of unnecessary cruelty. I don't think that sentient men would bait hooks to catch birds or cats for the 'sport' of it. Fish,of course, can't squawk so that is one reason the practice continues. The main reason, though, is that it is a multi million £ industry. I was fascinated when I first learned from female users that fishing shots were so popular among male suitors. Looking like the food provider is all well and good if we are talking about catching edibly popular species but it seems that in most instances that is not the case! | |||
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"I used to be on a couple. I bet if I were to go back on Match now, it would be the same sea of faces and with their photos unchanged in all these years." Being on Match myself, until next month, I see the same faces too. Should just stay on here x | |||
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"Hate the unwritten 'rules', no snogging on first date, maybe a quick feel on the second, jeez, it's like being back at school. No it's not, that was fun!" I’ve honestly never heard of that. | |||
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"Oh god I joined a couple the other day, I swiftly deleted them after a few hours. Men posing with fish is up there, up a mountain, in a swimming pool and the one that pissed me off the most (this was on Facebook dating) is a profile picture of an inspirational quote or a power ranger (I kid you not) OR. A pfp with their kids, I get it, they have kids but seems a bit wrong to have them plastered all over your dating profile. Danish x" I used to have a gag on my profile about people up mountains. I then realised that every profile had a picture up a mountain. I'm convinced they all live in a commune in the hills x | |||
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"Hate the unwritten 'rules', no snogging on first date, maybe a quick feel on the second, jeez, it's like being back at school. No it's not, that was fun! I’ve honestly never heard of that." Lot more direct with Fab. . . . | |||
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"The damn fish!!!! Women are not impressed by your fishing skills! Frankly, I'm amazed that catching fish just to photograph and let them go again hasn't been outlawed years ago on the grounds of unnecessary cruelty. I don't think that sentient men would bait hooks to catch birds or cats for the 'sport' of it. Fish,of course, can't squawk so that is one reason the practice continues. The main reason, though, is that it is a multi million £ industry. I was fascinated when I first learned from female users that fishing shots were so popular among male suitors. Looking like the food provider is all well and good if we are talking about catching edibly popular species but it seems that in most instances that is not the case! " So much yes to all of this!!! To me it's as unsexy as posing next to a dr*gged up wild animal - what about unnecessary cruelty and exploitation is it you think we find attractive..??? | |||
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"Oh god I joined a couple the other day, I swiftly deleted them after a few hours. Men posing with fish is up there, up a mountain, in a swimming pool and the one that pissed me off the most (this was on Facebook dating) is a profile picture of an inspirational quote or a power ranger (I kid you not) OR. A pfp with their kids, I get it, they have kids but seems a bit wrong to have them plastered all over your dating profile. Danish x" Photos of children really don't belong on dating sites, if they're yours we can tell from reading your profile, if they're not yours you're just coming off as a creep! | |||
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"It is all very deflating and leaves me feeling crap and ugly. God knows what you men are actually looking for, I assume it's a model, gym bunny who doesn't speak and cleans whilst giving blow jobs. " dont be deflated you aint ugly at all in the end you will find a win remember every loss brings you closer to victory | |||
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"It is all very deflating and leaves me feeling crap and ugly. God knows what you men are actually looking for, I assume it's a model, gym bunny who doesn't speak and cleans whilst giving blow jobs. dont be deflated you aint ugly at all in the end you will find a win remember every loss brings you closer to victory" Shh you, I'm wallowing, don't ruin it haha | |||
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"It is all very deflating and leaves me feeling crap and ugly. God knows what you men are actually looking for, I assume it's a model, gym bunny who doesn't speak and cleans whilst giving blow jobs. dont be deflated you aint ugly at all in the end you will find a win remember every loss brings you closer to victory Shh you, I'm wallowing, don't ruin it haha " as you wish | |||
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"It is all very deflating and leaves me feeling crap and ugly. God knows what you men are actually looking for, I assume it's a model, gym bunny who doesn't speak and cleans whilst giving blow jobs. " Don’t forget is always impeccable well presented and wearing nice lingerie. Doesn’t poop or fart, snd makes sure dinner is on the table at 5:30pm sharp! | |||
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"It is all very deflating and leaves me feeling crap and ugly. God knows what you men are actually looking for, I assume it's a model, gym bunny who doesn't speak and cleans whilst giving blow jobs. dont be deflated you aint ugly at all in the end you will find a win remember every loss brings you closer to victory Shh you, I'm wallowing, don't ruin it haha " Stop wallowing alone then xx | |||
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"Oh god I joined a couple the other day, I swiftly deleted them after a few hours. Men posing with fish is up there, up a mountain, in a swimming pool and the one that pissed me off the most (this was on Facebook dating) is a profile picture of an inspirational quote or a power ranger (I kid you not) OR. A pfp with their kids, I get it, they have kids but seems a bit wrong to have them plastered all over your dating profile. Danish x Photos of children really don't belong on dating sites, if they're yours we can tell from reading your profile, if they're not yours you're just coming off as a creep! " I saw a cute guy today but he had 4 pics with nieces. Nope. | |||
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"Oh god I joined a couple the other day, I swiftly deleted them after a few hours. Men posing with fish is up there, up a mountain, in a swimming pool and the one that pissed me off the most (this was on Facebook dating) is a profile picture of an inspirational quote or a power ranger (I kid you not) OR. A pfp with their kids, I get it, they have kids but seems a bit wrong to have them plastered all over your dating profile. Danish x Photos of children really don't belong on dating sites, if they're yours we can tell from reading your profile, if they're not yours you're just coming off as a creep! I saw a cute guy today but he had 4 pics with nieces. Nope." Dud they do that thing where they black or blur their face out? X | |||
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"I am still confused how come there are so many men holding a big fish on vanilla dating sites? Where did they get the fish from?" Its actually plastic ... they share it around | |||
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"Oh god I joined a couple the other day, I swiftly deleted them after a few hours. Men posing with fish is up there, up a mountain, in a swimming pool and the one that pissed me off the most (this was on Facebook dating) is a profile picture of an inspirational quote or a power ranger (I kid you not) OR. A pfp with their kids, I get it, they have kids but seems a bit wrong to have them plastered all over your dating profile. Danish x Photos of children really don't belong on dating sites, if they're yours we can tell from reading your profile, if they're not yours you're just coming off as a creep! I saw a cute guy today but he had 4 pics with nieces. Nope. Dud they do that thing where they black or blur their face out? X" Nope! | |||
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"Oh god I joined a couple the other day, I swiftly deleted them after a few hours. Men posing with fish is up there, up a mountain, in a swimming pool and the one that pissed me off the most (this was on Facebook dating) is a profile picture of an inspirational quote or a power ranger (I kid you not) OR. A pfp with their kids, I get it, they have kids but seems a bit wrong to have them plastered all over your dating profile. Danish x Photos of children really don't belong on dating sites, if they're yours we can tell from reading your profile, if they're not yours you're just coming off as a creep! I saw a cute guy today but he had 4 pics with nieces. Nope. Dud they do that thing where they black or blur their face out? X Nope! "  | |||
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" How do folk manage to juggle being on other sites aswell as here??!
Heck, the craziness of Fab is enough!? "I gave up pretty quickly. Full of wasters. Just waiting until my membership expires next month, then I'm just on here x | |||
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" How do folk manage to juggle being on other sites aswell as here??!
Heck, the craziness of Fab is enough!? "It's simple. I get little to no action on here, I get little to know action on vanilla sites either lol | |||
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"Not getting a single match in four years on any of the sites I'm on. There's obviously something wrong with me, but I've still no idea what. " Wow, you make me look good! | |||
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"No pic no reply from a profile with zero pics on it " Ah, the ninjas inhibit there, as well as here | |||
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Y nearly passed me by as I had shade's on and a picture of me and the hound, so a pointer there guy's! | |||
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"When I'm looking at guys in their 40s and 50s, there is a preponderance of Lycra. One pic on yer bike is enough. Just saying. "No lycra here Beryl. Lycra is fir flashdance x | |||
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"When I'm looking at guys in their 40s and 50s, there is a preponderance of Lycra. One pic on yer bike is enough. Just saying.
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"No pic no reply from a profile with zero pics on it " Same on here... | |||
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Text that’s says something like ‘only genuine guys need to apply’ I’m sure that would definitely put off the chancers
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"Not getting a single match in four years on any of the sites I'm on. There's obviously something wrong with me, but I've still no idea what. Wow, you make me look good!" Hooray! We've found my use! | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all." | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all." I don't see what's wrong with saying "independent strong woman" - looking for a partner doesn't make anyone less so. And YOU were on a dating site too! And kids come first. If a man said that I'd respect him for it. You're putting women down for it. | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all. "Sorry but it's true. The research is out there %90 of women all go after the same %10 of men. It's a numbers game and men are onto a loser on dating sites. They can pick and choose as they are so out numbered by the men. So unless you look like Chris Hemsworth you're not going to get anywhere lol. They have unrealistic expectations then complain there's no good men when they "refuse to settle". | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all. I don't see what's wrong with saying "independent strong woman" - looking for a partner doesn't make anyone less so. And YOU were on a dating site too! And kids come first. If a man said that I'd respect him for it. You're putting women down for it. "I was on a dating site yes. For about 3 days. What a shock that was. On the point about kids. Yes I agree. However, don't stick it in a guys face before you've even spoken. That's not going to attract anyone. | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all. I don't see what's wrong with saying "independent strong woman" - looking for a partner doesn't make anyone less so. And YOU were on a dating site too! And kids come first. If a man said that I'd respect him for it. You're putting women down for it.
I was on a dating site yes. For about 3 days. What a shock that was.
On the point about kids. Yes I agree. However, don't stick it in a guys face before you've even spoken. That's not going to attract anyone."And by the way. Don't play those games. Just because I find some women detestable doesn't mean I don't like any of them. Don't put words or sentiments in my mouth thanks | |||
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"im a professional. wtf does that mean" Think it mean one of two things .. 1.they have a job and can't show pics incase caught out! 2.or they are professional fabber Either way am not so sure to be honest! | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all. I don't see what's wrong with saying "independent strong woman" - looking for a partner doesn't make anyone less so. And YOU were on a dating site too! And kids come first. If a man said that I'd respect him for it. You're putting women down for it. "Agreed. And hopefully the kids will outlive their parents so they will be around forever. Granted they're a lot less demanding on your time and resources as adults but I would always expect a partner to put their kids before me. Even adult children. Each to their own but it's probably best for those who feel differently to not date people with children. | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all. I don't see what's wrong with saying "independent strong woman" - looking for a partner doesn't make anyone less so. And YOU were on a dating site too! And kids come first. If a man said that I'd respect him for it. You're putting women down for it.
Agreed. And hopefully the kids will outlive their parents so they will be around forever. Granted they're a lot less demanding on your time and resources as adults but I would always expect a partner to put their kids before me. Even adult children. Each to their own but it's probably best for those who feel differently to not date people with children. "OK let me give you a little insight. When I say they won't be around forever I mean they will eventually move out and have lives of their own. I'm a father. I'm also in a relationship. Have been for over a decade. I don't disclose that for reasons I won't go into on here I'm not derailing the thread. But I have never ever considered my partner or my son to be in some sort of ranking of importance. To me that's a terrible thing to do. And anyone that does that to me is a terrible person. That's my feeling on the matter. Make of it what you will but I'm never going to change how I feel. | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all." The strong independent woman thing I've always thought to mean they have their own place, own car and own money so they're not looking for a man to bank roll them. I might be wrong but I've found it's an attractive prospect finding a woman who wants you and likes you for who you are not just for what you can materialisticly provide for her. | |||
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"OK let me give you a little insight. When I say they won't be around forever I mean they will eventually move out and have lives of their own. I'm a father. I'm also in a relationship. Have been for over a decade. I don't disclose that for reasons I won't go into on here I'm not derailing the thread. But I have never ever considered my partner or my son to be in some sort of ranking of importance. To me that's a terrible thing to do. And anyone that does that to me is a terrible person. That's my feeling on the matter. Make of it what you will but I'm never going to change how I feel." You do realise the kids come first thing is for the early parts of the relationship right? They have an obligation and responsibility to their kids, not some random person they may begin dating early on. And they are making sure every entitled prick knows it. Yeah it's cringy to read but so what, it's a fact. It is making it clear that they have kids and what they need will come before any kinds of demands for a date or attention from "you". If their kids need something then a date will be cancelled etc Eventually down the line as a potentially partner "you" will have an equal priority to their kids, but until that time comes a potential partner should always be second priority. Christ if a parent put me before their kids, or even equal before we had been dating a good solid amount of time, I'd be questioning their parenting qualities and would probably break it off with them anyway for that very reason. | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all. I don't see what's wrong with saying "independent strong woman" - looking for a partner doesn't make anyone less so. And YOU were on a dating site too! And kids come first. If a man said that I'd respect him for it. You're putting women down for it.
Agreed. And hopefully the kids will outlive their parents so they will be around forever. Granted they're a lot less demanding on your time and resources as adults but I would always expect a partner to put their kids before me. Even adult children. Each to their own but it's probably best for those who feel differently to not date people with children.
OK let me give you a little insight.
When I say they won't be around forever I mean they will eventually move out and have lives of their own.
I'm a father. I'm also in a relationship. Have been for over a decade. I don't disclose that for reasons I won't go into on here I'm not derailing the thread. But I have never ever considered my partner or my son to be in some sort of ranking of importance.
To me that's a terrible thing to do. And anyone that does that to me is a terrible person. That's my feeling on the matter. Make of it what you will but I'm never going to change how I feel."I didn't say you had to change how you feel. I have encountered people who believe that by being in a relationship with someone they should be the most important person in their life, including above their children. I know people for who it has been a common source of conflict so I can understand why they feel the need to put it on their profile to filter those people out. | |||
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"OK let me give you a little insight. When I say they won't be around forever I mean they will eventually move out and have lives of their own. I'm a father. I'm also in a relationship. Have been for over a decade. I don't disclose that for reasons I won't go into on here I'm not derailing the thread. But I have never ever considered my partner or my son to be in some sort of ranking of importance. To me that's a terrible thing to do. And anyone that does that to me is a terrible person. That's my feeling on the matter. Make of it what you will but I'm never going to change how I feel. You do realise the kids come first thing is for the early parts of the relationship right? They have an obligation and responsibility to their kids, not some random person they may begin dating early on. And they are making sure every entitled prick knows it. Yeah it's cringy to read but so what, it's a fact. It is making it clear that they have kids and what they need will come before any kinds of demands for a date or attention from "you". If their kids need something then a date will be cancelled etc Eventually down the line as a potentially partner "you" will have an equal priority to their kids, but until that time comes a potential partner should always be second priority. Christ if a parent put me before their kids, or even equal before we had been dating a good solid amount of time, I'd be questioning their parenting qualities and would probably break it off with them anyway for that very reason. " Honestly I kinda feel like it shouldn't be totally equal. Obviously over time you gain increased priority but if it really comes down to it I think the kids should be first. Obviously if you're very frequently being flaked on in non-emergency situations because they're disorganised and inconsiderate then it's shitty but I think that's a different issue not specific to having children. Obviously it's about how you handle it though. If it's a shared custody situation and they get a rare opportunity to spend extra time with them or attend something important to the kids, I'm not going to want to deny them that even if it means cancelling plans. | |||
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"When I'm looking at guys in their 40s and 50s, there is a preponderance of Lycra. One pic on yer bike is enough. Just saying.
Very funny - and I seen same profiles lol
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all. I don't see what's wrong with saying "independent strong woman" - looking for a partner doesn't make anyone less so. And YOU were on a dating site too! And kids come first. If a man said that I'd respect him for it. You're putting women down for it.
I was on a dating site yes. For about 3 days. What a shock that was.
On the point about kids. Yes I agree. However, don't stick it in a guys face before you've even spoken. That's not going to attract anyone.
And by the way. Don't play those games. Just because I find some women detestable doesn't mean I don't like any of them. Don't put words or sentiments in my mouth thanks "I think you're managing fine on your own. How you can find that level of offence in my words bemuses me. | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all. I don't see what's wrong with saying "independent strong woman" - looking for a partner doesn't make anyone less so. And YOU were on a dating site too! And kids come first. If a man said that I'd respect him for it. You're putting women down for it.
Agreed. And hopefully the kids will outlive their parents so they will be around forever. Granted they're a lot less demanding on your time and resources as adults but I would always expect a partner to put their kids before me. Even adult children. Each to their own but it's probably best for those who feel differently to not date people with children.
OK let me give you a little insight.
When I say they won't be around forever I mean they will eventually move out and have lives of their own.
I'm a father. I'm also in a relationship. Have been for over a decade. I don't disclose that for reasons I won't go into on here I'm not derailing the thread. But I have never ever considered my partner or my son to be in some sort of ranking of importance.
To me that's a terrible thing to do. And anyone that does that to me is a terrible person. That's my feeling on the matter. Make of it what you will but I'm never going to change how I feel."I think you've made a lot of assumptions about some women after 3 days on a dating site. As a single mother looking for a man to date of course my kids take priority. Because they're not adults and for 3 of them I am their primary parent as they don't see their dad. So if a guy takes offence because I say they come first - okay. And btw your assumption about womens expectations of Chris Hemsworth or nothing - YOUR assumption. My last partner was bald, with a beer belly and bow legged. One of the best men I know. | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all." . I’m all those things. | |||
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""I'm a strong independent woman" Why are you on a dating site then? Are you not aware of the word interdependent? "I'm a bitch" things of that nature. Well done, you've just put most of us off. If I want combat I'll join the army. "My children will always come first" While I appreciate the sentiment. They won't be around forever and you'll be left with me who you consider 2nd place, no thanks. The worst though. The very worst. Is when they write out a huge laundry lost of things they want, but then say absolutely nothing about themselves. I'd avoid dating sites altogether to be honest. Full of vapid, shallow women. And to be honest that fact that most of them are single really isn't any surprise at all. I don't see what's wrong with saying "independent strong woman" - looking for a partner doesn't make anyone less so. And YOU were on a dating site too! And kids come first. If a man said that I'd respect him for it. You're putting women down for it.
Agreed. And hopefully the kids will outlive their parents so they will be around forever. Granted they're a lot less demanding on your time and resources as adults but I would always expect a partner to put their kids before me. Even adult children. Each to their own but it's probably best for those who feel differently to not date people with children.
OK let me give you a little insight.
When I say they won't be around forever I mean they will eventually move out and have lives of their own.
I'm a father. I'm also in a relationship. Have been for over a decade. I don't disclose that for reasons I won't go into on here I'm not derailing the thread. But I have never ever considered my partner or my son to be in some sort of ranking of importance.
To me that's a terrible thing to do. And anyone that does that to me is a terrible person. That's my feeling on the matter. Make of it what you will but I'm never going to change how I feel.
I think you've made a lot of assumptions about some women after 3 days on a dating site. As a single mother looking for a man to date of course my kids take priority. Because they're not adults and for 3 of them I am their primary parent as they don't see their dad. So if a guy takes offence because I say they come first - okay. And btw your assumption about womens expectations of Chris Hemsworth or nothing - YOUR assumption. My last partner was bald, with a beer belly and bow legged. One of the best men I know. "Beryl, did really have to tell everyone what looked like x | |||
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