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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows 
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tell him to piss off, if he can treat you like that on a first date can you imagine what he would be like if you were in a relationship….run and don’t look back, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hugs op definitely put him in the bin
Also you know that happened there
Is friend who you had sex with
As probably talk to him
You know the old
She’s a shour thing and all that bla bla bla
and got a bit ratty when you wouldn’t give it
Up easy like his mate sed
Hugs op x |
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By *amie366Man
over a year ago
doncaster |
"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
What an ass he is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
Carlos would have treated you much better, Carlos is a gentleman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
At least you dodged a bullet right at the start rather than further entangled down the line  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thats a hard pass for you, theres no need for guys to behave like that, if he got arsey cos you slept with someone he knows then hes insecure and while thats an issue for him to sort out, it could likely lead to shit further down the line. And yeah being pushy about going back to yours so soon into things is a red flag. Silver lining is it couldve been worse but luckily it wasnt |
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. "
even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
You deserve better. Fancy leaving you to walk off on your own. Not the actions of a gentleman x |
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much? "
I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though  |
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?
I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though "
Basic manners that I was brought up with, I'm afraid x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Am I the only one to think that mayne he didn't walk you home because you said you didn't want him to come back to yours and didn't want you to feel pressured to change your mind? |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
I'd say you had a lucky escape. On the bus at 10:30!!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?
I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though "
^ this, it can literally be a minefield at times. I’ve genuinely been scorned for simply holding a door open for a woman. I didn’t do it to be chivalrous or misogynistic, I did it as it’s a polite thing to do, and do it for men too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"where is the nice guy bit?
what did you do on the date - any of it good? laugh? good banter? or was he just a nob ."
Met him Wednesday at pub..
We actually got on well, thought the coming back here was banter
He had been out since lunchtime, he wasn't dr*nk though.. |
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?
I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though
^ this, it can literally be a minefield at times. I’ve genuinely been scorned for simply holding a door open for a woman. I didn’t do it to be chivalrous or misogynistic, I did it as it’s a polite thing to do, and do it for men too. "
Oh don’t get me started  . I’d hate to be a man these days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?
I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though
^ this, it can literally be a minefield at times. I’ve genuinely been scorned for simply holding a door open for a woman. I didn’t do it to be chivalrous or misogynistic, I did it as it’s a polite thing to do, and do it for men too. "
I consider myself a feminist, but that’s just a bloody nonsense! Some women really don’t help themselves. And you’re right, it’s basic manners regardless of sex! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"where is the nice guy bit?
what did you do on the date - any of it good? laugh? good banter? or was he just a nob .
Met him Wednesday at pub..
We actually got on well, thought the coming back here was banter
He had been out since lunchtime, he wasn't dr*nk though.."
ah hence the doubt. is he married? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"where is the nice guy bit?
what did you do on the date - any of it good? laugh? good banter? or was he just a nob .
Met him Wednesday at pub..
We actually got on well, thought the coming back here was banter
He had been out since lunchtime, he wasn't dr*nk though..
ah hence the doubt. is he married?"
Nope he isn't married..just had a dog sitter tonight... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I recognise times are for for many but not wanting to pay £10 for a shot at chatting up (and potentially getting naked with) someone you've fancied for ages doesn't seem realistic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"where is the nice guy bit?
what did you do on the date - any of it good? laugh? good banter? or was he just a nob .
Met him Wednesday at pub..
We actually got on well, thought the coming back here was banter
He had been out since lunchtime, he wasn't dr*nk though..
ah hence the doubt. is he married?
Nope he isn't married..just had a dog sitter tonight..."
well seems he got put out cause you weren't going to give him shag.. in which case thats all he wanted so id say not BF material..
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?
I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though "
I'm not insulting your type, but it's my upbringing to make sure that the lass you're out with,gets home safely..if that's wrong, then too bad, I'm damned if I will drop my standards to suit today's modern society. |
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?
I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though I'm not insulting your type, but it's my upbringing to make sure that the lass you're out with,gets home safely..if that's wrong, then too bad, I'm damned if I will drop my standards to suit today's modern society. "
I think you read my comment wrong. I agree with you. I am not one of those types |
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
Lmao moaned over a tenner and never made sure you got home ok first ,think hes up his ass being honest  |
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?
I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though I'm not insulting your type, but it's my upbringing to make sure that the lass you're out with,gets home safely..if that's wrong, then too bad, I'm damned if I will drop my standards to suit today's modern society.
I think you read my comment wrong. I agree with you. I am not one of those types "
sorry if I read you wrong, maybe my brain was addled by the recent stormy weather |
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?
I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though I'm not insulting your type, but it's my upbringing to make sure that the lass you're out with,gets home safely..if that's wrong, then too bad, I'm damned if I will drop my standards to suit today's modern society.
I think you read my comment wrong. I agree with you. I am not one of those types sorry if I read you wrong, maybe my brain was addled by the recent stormy weather "
Haha. No worries xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How on earth does who you've shagged come up on a first date?
He knows him "
Yeah, but still...
There's that little thing called discretion
You don't just blurt that out mid meet
As others have said aplenty, more red flags than a Chinese military parade |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
Reading |
"I recognise times are for for many but not wanting to pay £10 for a shot at chatting up (and potentially getting naked with) someone you've fancied for ages doesn't seem realistic."
I have seen a female a few times. Each time at my place. I pay for taxis to mine and for her going home.Plus ask her to phone when back home. No sex involved . I respect that female is safe getting to my place and home again. |
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By *o1-NeilMan
over a year ago
northampton |
Never go into a date with any expectations of sex and playing around I say. Never feel as disappointed if there’s good chemistry there and it don’t happen that way.
Shouldn’t have let you walk home along. What a dick |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm he's a cockwomble. Glad you're home safe."
I was going to say "the boys a prick", but I think this man's "cockwomble" sums it up far better! Again glad you're safe, though that's through your doing - not his! |
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Thank your lucky stars he was pushy - otherwise you may have found yourself feeling twice as bad after you had sex and *then* realising what you know now.
You have so many lovely comments in your verifications, think of those. Forget him.  |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
The bus bit is brilliant |
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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago
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Sounds like you had a lucky escape as he sounds like a proper cock. Probably only phoned you to see if you changed your mind and was going to invite him round.... Well rid missus, onwards and upwards  |
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"Haven’t read other opinions OP. But you don’t let a woman walk home alone.
Saudi Arabia have just eased their laws on this.
We'll catch up one day!"
You’d let a woman walk home on her own at 10.30 in the night?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone who is pushy is an instant red flag, I would shut that down. If they are respectful, they will wait as long as it takes until your ready.
The walking home alone thing though? It's our responsibility to get ourselves home safe, can't put that onto a man. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone who is pushy is an instant red flag, I would shut that down. If they are respectful, they will wait as long as it takes until your ready.
The walking home alone thing though? It's our responsibility to get ourselves home safe, can't put that onto a man."
I got a taxi home as usual |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Again, if I had been on a date with a guy and felt like he was a dick, the last thing I would have wanted is for him to walk me home.
Better be alone than in poor company and he seems more like a danger I'd like to avoid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I the only one to think that mayne he didn't walk you home because you said you didn't want him to come back to yours and didn't want you to feel pressured to change your mind? "
Good point. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"How on earth does who you've shagged come up on a first date? "
Oh Bussy, you’re such an innocent! It goes something like this….
“What have you been up to?”
“Me and my mate Dave have been out watching the footie”
“Not Dave Tumble? From Barnsworth?”
“Yeah, that’s him!”
“OMG I’ve shagged him!!!. Nice bloke!”
“Ummmm yeah I guess”
*tumble tumble*
date ends
Or is it just me who does that?   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Update...
He tried ringing at 1:20am...& then sent a message asking if got home OK....
Lol...a little late for that.. "
I'd be pissed off at getting woken in the night.
Does he know you're on here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No need to apologise. It’s a shame to hear your night turned out like that, but you’ve probably got lucky by him showing his true colours.
He appears to have lost out on a wonderful time, however…..bet he’s feeling that now! |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
If a man doesn’t see me to my car, on a bus, on a train, to an airport etc., then he’s not the man for me. I expect a brief kiss and maybe a boob fondle, maximum.
Manners make the the man (and woman) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know ‘some’ men these days have dropped the chivalry as they say ‘well women want yo be equal so we are giving them equal’. But that does not mean you cannot open doors etc, that is common manners. I especially think you should NOT let a woman walk home at night alone, there is far too much sexual assault and that is the reality. By all means share the cost of a meal on a date etc, but some basic human male decency should remain |
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"Tell him to piss off, if he can treat you like that on a first date can you imagine what he would be like if you were in a relationship….run and don’t look back, "
Literally. That's when people are supposed to be on their best behaviour. Madness. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Update...
He tried ringing at 1:20am...& then sent a message asking if got home OK....
Lol...a little late for that..
I'd be pissed off at getting woken in the night.
Does he know you're on here?"
I was
Yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
Sounds a classy guy  |
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
I do care that you didn't enjoy the date or it didn't go as you expected. What were you expecting ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Update...
He tried ringing at 1:20am...& then sent a message asking if got home OK....
Lol...a little late for that..
I'd be pissed off at getting woken in the night.
Does he know you're on here?
I was
Yes. "
If it was me I'd forgive him for asking about sex because he knows you're on here and a sexual person.. unless he kept asking then I'd be pissed off at him being pushy and not taking no for an answer. Also that he was arsey about other people you've shagged before as that's none of his business.
I'd assume his 1.20am call was to try and change your mind and ask him round for a shag or to get some wank chat. I'd bin him off. |
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"I know ‘some’ men these days have dropped the chivalry as they say ‘well women want yo be equal so we are giving them equal’. But that does not mean you cannot open doors etc, that is common manners. I especially think you should NOT let a woman walk home at night alone, there is far too much sexual assault and that is the reality. By all means share the cost of a meal on a date etc, but some basic human male decency should remain "
These days ?
If someone offered to walk me to my bus stop and it was in the opposite direction to him.... I'd turn him round and walk him to his bus stop.
I always make sure I know how to get home from anywhere.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry
I do care that you didn't enjoy the date or it didn't go as you expected. What were you expecting ?
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I met him Wednesday when I was out & we said we would have a date Friday, we got on well,until he kept on about coming back here despite me saying "No" thought it was just banter, but then he said if he couldn't he was catching the bus at 10:30pm home as wasn't paying £10 for a taxi..
Also said he was disappointed I had sex with someone he knows, despite that been a year ago..
Personally I think he is a bit immature & insecure.. |
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry
I do care that you didn't enjoy the date or it didn't go as you expected. What were you expecting ?
I met him Wednesday when I was out & we said we would have a date Friday, we got on well,until he kept on about coming back here despite me saying "No" thought it was just banter, but then he said if he couldn't he was catching the bus at 10:30pm home as wasn't paying £10 for a taxi..
Also said he was disappointed I had sex with someone he knows, despite that been a year ago..
Personally I think he is a bit immature & insecure.."
That makes it much more clear. Don't be sad over it. It was a night out and you kept your self respect. His night was about HIM. Nothing more. |
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"Anyone who is pushy is an instant red flag, I would shut that down. If they are respectful, they will wait as long as it takes until your ready.
The walking home alone thing though? It's our responsibility to get ourselves home safe, can't put that onto a man."
A man perhaps not but a gentleman who has been brought up right “always” |
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The last time someone left me to get home safely on my own (in a city that I didn't know), I knew it was over. I was scared and luckily had the nicest person drive 2hrs to get me.
This sort of behaviour makes me shudder |
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"The last time someone left me to get home safely on my own (in a city that I didn't know), I knew it was over. I was scared and luckily had the nicest person drive 2hrs to get me.
This sort of behaviour makes me shudder"
Shocking, glad you got home safe x |
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Think alot of you are missing the key point - what did the friend say about her? He came to the date with a preconceived notion that it was a “done deal” but didn’t like the result of having to put in more than a evenings work to have her company at night… he move desperately and realised his mistake once he got home with only his dick in his hand
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
Dodge him, seems like a stone cold loser. |
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"The last time someone left me to get home safely on my own (in a city that I didn't know), I knew it was over. I was scared and luckily had the nicest person drive 2hrs to get me.
This sort of behaviour makes me shudder
Shocking, glad you got home safe x"
Me too. |
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?
I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though
^ this, it can literally be a minefield at times. I’ve genuinely been scorned for simply holding a door open for a woman. I didn’t do it to be chivalrous or misogynistic, I did it as it’s a polite thing to do, and do it for men too. "
Even though I'm an independent strong woman I think all the chivalry stuff is really lovely. We have court vans come into work which we have to climb up into and check - there are 2 drivers that always take my hand to help me up and then to help me down (they don't do it for my male colleagues) a third queried if it was still socially acceptable to do that so gave me a fist bump instead |
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"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?
I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though
^ this, it can literally be a minefield at times. I’ve genuinely been scorned for simply holding a door open for a woman. I didn’t do it to be chivalrous or misogynistic, I did it as it’s a polite thing to do, and do it for men too.
Even though I'm an independent strong woman I think all the chivalry stuff is really lovely. We have court vans come into work which we have to climb up into and check - there are 2 drivers that always take my hand to help me up and then to help me down (they don't do it for my male colleagues) a third queried if it was still socially acceptable to do that so gave me a fist bump instead "
I agree. Oh I’m totally independent and have never relied on a man for anything and never would but I like a gentleman. The fact that he had to query if it was acceptable makes me sad but I understand why he did x |
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Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here
You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?
In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.
Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation? |
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"Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here
You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?
In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.
Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation? "
I thought the same, it might look a bit creepy but if he explained that it was simply to ensure she got through town safely, I know I'd appreciate it very much. If I was somewhere familiar and it was safe, I'd happily go on my own.
I guess each situation is different
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"Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here
You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?
In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.
Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation?
I thought the same, it might look a bit creepy but if he explained that it was simply to ensure she got through town safely, I know I'd appreciate it very much. If I was somewhere familiar and it was safe, I'd happily go on my own.
I guess each situation is different
PNG x "
Yeah just feels like a bit of a minefield
“Then he offered to walk me home when I clearly says he’s not coming back to mine! Trying to play his luck, what a loser”
“Then he just let me walk home alone, not a gentlemen at all!”
Genuinely have no idea what to do in this world these days and there’s seems to be very little room for error |
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"Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here
You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?
In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.
Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation?
I thought the same, it might look a bit creepy but if he explained that it was simply to ensure she got through town safely, I know I'd appreciate it very much. If I was somewhere familiar and it was safe, I'd happily go on my own.
I guess each situation is different
PNG x
Yeah just feels like a bit of a minefield
“Then he offered to walk me home when I clearly says he’s not coming back to mine! Trying to play his luck, what a loser”
“Then he just let me walk home alone, not a gentlemen at all!”
Genuinely have no idea what to do in this world these days and there’s seems to be very little room for error "
I think if he made it clear he'd just get her through town for safety then that's good.
It's the way you put your words across.
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"Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here
You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?
In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.
Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation? "
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"Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here
You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?
In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.
Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation?
I thought the same, it might look a bit creepy but if he explained that it was simply to ensure she got through town safely, I know I'd appreciate it very much. If I was somewhere familiar and it was safe, I'd happily go on my own.
I guess each situation is different
PNG x
Yeah just feels like a bit of a minefield
“Then he offered to walk me home when I clearly says he’s not coming back to mine! Trying to play his luck, what a loser”
“Then he just let me walk home alone, not a gentlemen at all!”
Genuinely have no idea what to do in this world these days and there’s seems to be very little room for error "
She said let her walk into town alone . He could have walked with her to the taxi rank. ( in the thread she says she got a taxi home). He would have come across as a more genuine guy and as she got in the taxi she could have made up her own mind what she wanted to happen next, just as she says. |
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Sounds like he was throwing his toys out of the pram about not being invited back & what may potentially happen after, especially after hearing about his friend (not that that should be an issue, we all have history)
If he was invited back he'd be happy to make sure you get home safe & pay £10 for his taxi later, no invite means sex is definitely off the cards so not point wasting any more time or money on this date
Sounds like you had a lucy escape, maybe the mate is still single, he sounds like a decent bloke not blabbing to his mates about who he's slept with x |
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over a year ago
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
It sounds like it wuld habe been a one off shag to me also he let you walk home by yourself?
He got upset at the fact you have had sex with someone he knows anoher red flag i'm afraid he sounds pushy and potential controller.
Dump and run don't look back |
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Also might add, who goes out and does not make sure they have getting home money ?
You can't rely on the last bus
Maybe he thought that you were a shoe in for a stay over?
Not saying you are but some guys think like that! |
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Sounds like you did right to ditch him OP
Incidentally…..
I’m a very self confident female, I don’t need a man to protect me but .. if some one offered to walk you home to ensure you got home safely wouldn’t it make sense?
Would you blame him if you got attacked? Or yourself for declining his offer?
Even if i made it clear there was nothing beyond it I would accept the offer for my own piece of mind |
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"Sounds like you did right to ditch him OP
Incidentally…..
I’m a very self confident female, I don’t need a man to protect me but .. if some one offered to walk you home to ensure you got home safely wouldn’t it make sense?
Would you blame him if you got attacked? Or yourself for declining his offer?
Even if i made it clear there was nothing beyond it I would accept the offer for my own piece of mind "
I would offer, and expect nothing. Just the way I was brought up x |
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry "
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"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...
He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.
He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..
I say want to see how things go..
Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..
He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows
He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..
Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..
Just feel need to vent..sorry
Have you heard from him since? "
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Sounds like you had a lucky escape
