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So..a fun and probably stupid dilemma. Had the most stunningly beautiful young man come to our house yesterday to carry out electrical work and despite the age difference (I would guess about 15 years younger) he was lovely to chat to,although Im sure he sees me as a harmless old bat. Nevertheless I felt a very strong physical connection, and Im sure I caught him checking me out (probably my imagination though). I definitely got caught checking him out 
Anyway he is coming back next week on a day when Ill be home alone. Im excited & slightly terrified. Im 90% sure nothing will happen, but my question is this: outwith your porn scenarios(I dont need to know..) has anyone any experience of this situation? Is there a way of approaching it should I be inclined? Have any tradies been approached in this way? Should I just leave it as a fun wee fantasy on my part? I knlw its silly, but I honestly cant stop thinking about him. Ladies if you saw him you would understand.
Anyway..just getting it off my chest more than anything, but any advice (even on how to NOT do anything) would be great. Its like High school all over again.  |
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"So..a fun and probably stupid dilemma. Had the most stunningly beautiful young man come to our house yesterday to carry out electrical work and despite the age difference (I would guess about 15 years younger) he was lovely to chat to,although Im sure he sees me as a harmless old bat. Nevertheless I felt a very strong physical connection, and Im sure I caught him checking me out (probably my imagination though). I definitely got caught checking him out
Anyway he is coming back next week on a day when Ill be home alone. Im excited & slightly terrified. Im 90% sure nothing will happen, but my question is this: outwith your porn scenarios(I dont need to know..) has anyone any experience of this situation? Is there a way of approaching it should I be inclined? Have any tradies been approached in this way? Should I just leave it as a fun wee fantasy on my part? I knlw its silly, but I honestly cant stop thinking about him. Ladies if you saw him you would understand.
Anyway..just getting it off my chest more than anything, but any advice (even on how to NOT do anything) would be great. Its like High school all over again. "
Well, he probably was checking you out as your gorgeous, but be careful. You know nothing about him, and what happens if he comes back for more and you don't want it? His employer might get arsey too. Nothing stopping you flirting though x |
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over a year ago
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In my youthful 20’s I installed door entry systems in a council block and on one occasion I, the tenant liaison and a tenant shared a lift. Long story short…the tenant made a very flirty request and asked if I could sort out her entry phone (emphasis on the entry). Tenant liaison said she’ll consider the request, after the tenant stepped out the lift and flashed a wink. The liaison looked at me and said bluntly you’re not going in her flat |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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Having been a 20 something, back in the day as well as having a job that included working in homes I can say for sure he would have been checking you out.
Don't go there though. It could get him into trouble at work, guys that age are likely to boast about it and his bosses would find out. He could also be the male equivalent of a bunny boiler. |
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Most will say don’t over step the boundaries as
His at work doing a professional job, if you feel
This way I don’t see any harm in a flirt and chat. Maybe after you could express the feeling to him. I don’t really understand why there is such a bad feeling between living out a bit of a fantasy and a thrill. If you feel a connection why should it matter where you met. Only my opinion |
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"Most will say don’t over step the boundaries as
His at work doing a professional job, if you feel
This way I don’t see any harm in a flirt and chat. Maybe after you could express the feeling to him. I don’t really understand why there is such a bad feeling between living out a bit of a fantasy and a thrill. If you feel a connection why should it matter where you met. Only my opinion"
because people should feel that they can go into homes in a professional capacity without being propositioned. |
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"leave it as a fantasy. Don't put him in a compromising position when he's in your home in a professional capacity. If a man had posted this he'd be slaughtered"
Yes. A fair point. I certainly don't want anyone feeling uncomfortable. |
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over a year ago
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"So..a fun and probably stupid dilemma. Had the most stunningly beautiful young man come to our house yesterday to carry out electrical work and despite the age difference (I would guess about 15 years younger) he was lovely to chat to,although Im sure he sees me as a harmless old bat. Nevertheless I felt a very strong physical connection, and Im sure I caught him checking me out (probably my imagination though). I definitely got caught checking him out
Anyway he is coming back next week on a day when Ill be home alone. Im excited & slightly terrified. Im 90% sure nothing will happen, but my question is this: outwith your porn scenarios(I dont need to know..) has anyone any experience of this situation? Is there a way of approaching it should I be inclined? Have any tradies been approached in this way? Should I just leave it as a fun wee fantasy on my part? I knlw its silly, but I honestly cant stop thinking about him. Ladies if you saw him you would understand.
Anyway..just getting it off my chest more than anything, but any advice (even on how to NOT do anything) would be great. Its like High school all over again. "
wear something sexy, he won't not want to sleep with you. |
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You shouldn't worry about the age gap as you have a youthful figure.
Its good that feel attracted.
Ignore age if you feel chemistry.
I assume he has your number?
Then remind him he has it and maybe ask if you can call him if you "need him for anything".
Flirt, and be open but non threatening.
Good luck. He is a lucky guy
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably best not to over step the mark but if wanting a suttle way off finding out
Is he self employed or dose he work for a big company
If self employed
You can lean out with would you like parsal payment in kind
If big company
You could lead with
Would you like a tip in kind
Basically in kind is referring to a bj or sex for service done
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This reminds me of the thread where a man with a van ended up going to hell for breaking GDPR by texting Kyle.
If this guy is self employed as many (most?) people are, and the flirt happens on both sides, the ‘professional capacity’ side seems like it can happily be set aside - just make sure he finishes the job first, and is already paid!
Once that happens, get sweaty for me if you both want it, as consenting individuals with no reason not to other than the forum tutting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe wear something slightly suggestive and flirt a little whilst hes doing the work, if he gives as much ad he gets see if he makes a move once the job is done. Why the hell not? Could be fun, might be a let down bit either way you won't have to see him again. X |
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So reverse this. Woman in her mid twenties is working in the home of a man who is 15 years older. He stares he "thinks" she has looked at him. What should he do when she comes back next week? After all it's harmless fun and all his mates would understand if they saw her... |
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"So reverse this. Woman in her mid twenties is working in the home of a man who is 15 years older. He stares he "thinks" she has looked at him. What should he do when she comes back next week? After all it's harmless fun and all his mates would understand if they saw her..."
But if she flirts with him and he doesn't flirt back it wouldn't go any further. If it was the other way around and it was a older gent that was flirting the woman would either say back off or flirt back. I don't see the issue, of its clear hes intrested then whats the problem? |
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"So reverse this. Woman in her mid twenties is working in the home of a man who is 15 years older. He stares he "thinks" she has looked at him. What should he do when she comes back next week? After all it's harmless fun and all his mates would understand if they saw her...
But if she flirts with him and he doesn't flirt back it wouldn't go any further. If it was the other way around and it was a older gent that was flirting the woman would either say back off or flirt back. I don't see the issue, of its clear hes intrested then whats the problem? "
Apart from any other consideration I don't think anyone should be put in the position of having to ask an employer to back off from flirting. Just because it's in your home makes you no less an employer than if you were in an office or shop. |
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"So reverse this. Woman in her mid twenties is working in the home of a man who is 15 years older. He stares he "thinks" she has looked at him. What should he do when she comes back next week? After all it's harmless fun and all his mates would understand if they saw her..."
yeah you made your point. Thanks
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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"So reverse this. Woman in her mid twenties is working in the home of a man who is 15 years older. He stares he "thinks" she has looked at him. What should he do when she comes back next week? After all it's harmless fun and all his mates would understand if they saw her...yeah you made your point. Thanks"
I have a toolbox, with pliers and screwdrivers and I have wired a plug before now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This was just meant to be a bit of fun and I was in no way intending to proposition anyone. Ive asked Admin to delete the thread. "
Aww, I’m sorry to hear this x |
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By *amie366Man
over a year ago
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"This was just meant to be a bit of fun and I was in no way intending to proposition anyone. Ive asked Admin to delete the thread. "
100% flirt with him. I’m a tradesman and can’t wait for this day myself. Flirting never hurt anyone. Leave some subtle hints around too |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
maidenhead |
"So..a fun and probably stupid dilemma. Had the most stunningly beautiful young man come to our house yesterday to carry out electrical work and despite the age difference (I would guess about 15 years younger) he was lovely to chat to,although Im sure he sees me as a harmless old bat. Nevertheless I felt a very strong physical connection, and Im sure I caught him checking me out (probably my imagination though). I definitely got caught checking him out
Anyway he is coming back next week on a day when Ill be home alone. Im excited & slightly terrified. Im 90% sure nothing will happen, but my question is this: outwith your porn scenarios(I dont need to know..) has anyone any experience of this situation? Is there a way of approaching it should I be inclined? Have any tradies been approached in this way? Should I just leave it as a fun wee fantasy on my part? I knlw its silly, but I honestly cant stop thinking about him. Ladies if you saw him you would understand.
Anyway..just getting it off my chest more than anything, but any advice (even on how to NOT do anything) would be great. Its like High school all over again. "
Banter goes a long way. If it looks like a good response to it then for me you need to drop the biggest hint.
Most people working for you won’t make the first move as they are there in a professional manner. |
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"So reverse this. Woman in her mid twenties is working in the home of a man who is 15 years older. He stares he "thinks" she has looked at him. What should he do when she comes back next week? After all it's harmless fun and all his mates would understand if they saw her..."
We can spin this every way that seems most suitable for our opinion, so let’s take gender out of it, a person has done some work for another person who is a different age and one of them likes the other and thinks the other likes them. They must never speak to each other again because money once exchanged hands and regulation 13b subsection 9 states that any non formal human contact must only take place in approved public areas with good ventilation, CCTV and toilets with escape sized windows.
Where’s the human touch here? When did covering our backs become more important than behaving like humans. |
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"This was just meant to be a bit of fun and I was in no way intending to proposition anyone. Ive asked Admin to delete the thread. "
Dont be daft , think most seen it for what it was. Fun |
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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"So..a fun and probably stupid dilemma. Had the most stunningly beautiful young man come to our house yesterday to carry out electrical work and despite the age difference (I would guess about 15 years younger) he was lovely to chat to,although Im sure he sees me as a harmless old bat. Nevertheless I felt a very strong physical connection, and Im sure I caught him checking me out (probably my imagination though). I definitely got caught checking him out
Anyway he is coming back next week on a day when Ill be home alone. Im excited & slightly terrified. Im 90% sure nothing will happen, but my question is this: outwith your porn scenarios(I dont need to know..) has anyone any experience of this situation? Is there a way of approaching it should I be inclined? Have any tradies been approached in this way? Should I just leave it as a fun wee fantasy on my part? I knlw its silly, but I honestly cant stop thinking about him. Ladies if you saw him you would understand.
Anyway..just getting it off my chest more than anything, but any advice (even on how to NOT do anything) would be great. Its like High school all over again. "
As a young joiner I would often fantasise about women who's house I was working in would approach me and make me and offer. Needless to say it never happened but it was good to imagine it |
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As a woman in the opposite situation. The worst two years of my life were chasing tradesmen to turn up, then to have the discomfort of them becoming inappropriately suggestive when they did. Women giving tradesmen the come on, can perpetuate some tradesmens thoughts that this is what bored housewives really want. I am not having a pop at you personally OP, just my experience. |
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"As a woman in the opposite situation. The worst two years of my life were chasing tradesmen to turn up, then to have the discomfort of them becoming inappropriately suggestive when they did. Women giving tradesmen the come on, can perpetuate some tradesmens thoughts that this is what bored housewives really want. I am not having a pop at you personally OP, just my experience. "
Yes Ive asked if admin can delete. Genuinely sorry I brought it up. |
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Bah sorry you've felt the need to have the thread deleted. It was a lighthearted post and I couldn't see any issue with it, i've been in a similar situation in the past and it was great fun, infact we still chat to eachother most weeks *hugs* keep smiling sweetie. I went to message you but saw you had hidden your profile, I really hope that nobody sent you horrid messages xxx Mrs P xxx |
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"As a woman in the opposite situation. The worst two years of my life were chasing tradesmen to turn up, then to have the discomfort of them becoming inappropriately suggestive when they did. Women giving tradesmen the come on, can perpetuate some tradesmens thoughts that this is what bored housewives really want. I am not having a pop at you personally OP, just my experience. "
Exactly this!! |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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As a tradesman and also having been in this situation I can say I have never felt intimidated or anything but flattered when I've felt a bit of flirting was happening, I have never initiated it but don't feel uncomfortable with it. That said sadly we are living in times of people feeling hurt, threatened and unsafe, moreso the younger generation so me being of a mature age am more old school and thick skinned. I do get what people are saying about keeping things professional but what harm is there about asking his relationship status, hobbies, general chat and even if he would like to meet outside of work hours for a drink, surely there can be no harm in that if you feel comfortable to do so, he would have no grounds to complain for you asking a simple question. If however you crept up behind him and slid your hands down his jeans maybe so but asking a simple question? I never fail to be amazed at some of the judgemental and narrow minded comments I see on a swingers site. |
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If u felt it then sure he did 2 ! Have had it happen!but u will have to drop first hint as he won't it being his job and all if he read it wrong! Worst case being u feel stupid if u got it wrong ! X |
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"As a woman in the opposite situation. The worst two years of my life were chasing tradesmen to turn up, then to have the discomfort of them becoming inappropriately suggestive when they did. Women giving tradesmen the come on, can perpetuate some tradesmens thoughts that this is what bored housewives really want. I am not having a pop at you personally OP, just my experience.
Yes Ive asked if admin can delete. Genuinely sorry I brought it up. "
It was a valid question that you asked. You asked for people's opinions. I wasn't having a pop at you at all, just giving my experience and my view |
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"leave it as a fantasy. Don't put him in a compromising position when he's in your home in a professional capacity. If a man had posted this he'd be slaughtered"
My first thought too
Or even a woman posting about a tradie approaching her
Recalling Kylie's thread the other week (different, yet similar)
That guy was hung, drawn, quartered and put out to dry by a baying mob of both men and women alike |
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I would say go for it !! It’s the Ultimate fantasy of mine that the lady of the house I’m working in take advantage of me wow 
