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"How important is it for you to have a fair few shared interests with a potential loved one..."
I thought this went without saying? Although it’s nice to do your own thing and have alternative likes/interests. There’s something I like that he doesn’t x |
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I believe it is important to have some shared interests but if the personalities clash and there is no mutual understanding and give and take, the shared interests will play no significance in the survival of the relationship. |
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"How important is it for you to have a fair few shared interests with a potential loved one..."
Id say pretty important compersion, i need to click with the other person and generally that means sharing interests. however i do believe as you grow in a relationship you grow together and make the effort to get envolved in eachothers interests.  |
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"How important is it for you to have a fair few shared interests with a potential loved one...
I thought this went without saying? Although it’s nice to do your own thing and have alternative likes/interests. There’s something I like that he doesn’t x"
Not always, some relationships have only a few shared interests, but their personality compatability is the main reason of why it works so well  |
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"I believe it is important to have some shared interests but if the personalities clash and there is no mutual understanding and give and take, the shared interests will play no significance in the survival of the relationship."
Personality is very important |
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"How important is it for you to have a fair few shared interests with a potential loved one...
Id say pretty important compersion, i need to click with the other person and generally that means sharing interests. however i do believe as you grow in a relationship you grow together and make the effort to get envolved in eachothers interests. "
Could you get involved if there were only a few shared interests, hoping that both of you may find new likes |
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"How important is it for you to have a fair few shared interests with a potential loved one...
Id say pretty important compersion, i need to click with the other person and generally that means sharing interests. however i do believe as you grow in a relationship you grow together and make the effort to get envolved in eachothers interests.
Could you get involved if there were only a few shared interests, hoping that both of you may find new likes "
Yes i think so, you explore eachothers interests and explore new ones. My ex got me into horse racing, i got her into shooting, she came on afew track days with me but that wasnt really her thing and thats fine, i dont think you have to share every interest |
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"How important is it for you to have a fair few shared interests with a potential loved one...
Id say pretty important compersion, i need to click with the other person and generally that means sharing interests. however i do believe as you grow in a relationship you grow together and make the effort to get envolved in eachothers interests.
Could you get involved if there were only a few shared interests, hoping that both of you may find new likes
Yes i think so, you explore eachothers interests and explore new ones. My ex got me into horse racing, i got her into shooting, she came on afew track days with me but that wasnt really her thing and thats fine, i dont think you have to share every interest "
I agree
I have a few important friendships where we only share a handful of interests, but we enjoy each others company regardless |
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It is important share some interests but also for each person to have their own. My FWB and I seem to have the same kind of personality, since day 1 we have clicked in that department. I love hearing about the things he is into which I'm not x |
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"It is important share some interests but also for each person to have their own. My FWB and I seem to have the same kind of personality, since day 1 we have clicked in that department. I love hearing about the things he is into which I'm not x"
That is lovely, even though it's not your interest, showing support to his interest is  |
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By *hrisy69Man
over a year ago
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"How important is it for you to have a fair few shared interests with a potential loved one...
I thought this went without saying? Although it’s nice to do your own thing and have alternative likes/interests. There’s something I like that he doesn’t x"
I would love to know what you like that he does not. Send me a message if you don’t want to reply on here |
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Ideally it’s there because I need to be able to have conversation with substance
Having great chemistry so that you can just gaze into each other’s eyes and giggle at nonsense because you wanna fuck eachothers brains out is great, but it’s not gonna stand the test of time |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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It's very important, just as it is very important to have extremely different interests. Being able to share things about what we like with somebody is a great feeling.
I also like to have people tell me about their interests, the passion they have for something that I may have zero idea about anything involved with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How important is it for you to have a fair few shared interests with a potential loved one..."
Very important , if you don't it's a waste of each others time . |
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over a year ago
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To have some things in common but doesn’t have to be everything. I think a general alignment in how you see the world is more important. I personally like having things just for me…  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My husband and I didn't share a great amount of interests but we had connecting personalities which overcome that, we had a lot of laughs and the chemistry was there. |
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I think it's important otherwise you'll spend all your time either compromising or apart pursuing your separate interests. Plus, I love being able to geek out together over something we both love.
Having said that, I think having some differing interests is important too, in the interests of not living in each others pockets.
But, more important in my opinion is having the same outlook on life in general, similar politics, morals etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't share a lot of interests with my partner
It is actually nice to share some things together, but have time out for individual interests
Most importantly for me is emotional and (to a lesser degree) sexual compatability and a sharing of values |
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"Values much more than interests."
Agree with this. We have various individual interests which don't involve us both and a few that do. It's important not to lose the sense of self in a relationship. |
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We had quite a similar personality and senses of humour and our interests were not that way out that they weren’t acceptable to both of us 
