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You have been chatting for a while and there is an undeniable chemistry and intense desire to meet.
The meet is imminent and you can barely contain your excitement!
What, if any concerns or worries do you tend to have.
Concerned they won't turn up?
They may not look like their pics?
Or, is it something about yourself that you worry about?
Guys, well... getting an erection under what could feel like a need to perform...is that ever a concern?
For me...I suppose I'd hate to feel like I was in some way a disappointment!
But then I remind myself it's about the 'whole' experience. As long as the vibe has been good and we have shared a few laughs, then it's all good. |
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over a year ago
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That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.
Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.
I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.
That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.
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"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.
Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.
I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.
That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.
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Still   you. You’re bloody amazing! |
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"You have been chatting for a while and there is an undeniable chemistry and intense desire to meet.
The meet is imminent and you can barely contain your excitement!
What, if any concerns or worries do you tend to have.
Concerned they won't turn up?
They may not look like their pics?
Or, is it something about yourself that you worry about?
Guys, well... getting an erection under what could feel like a need to perform...is that ever a concern?
For me...I suppose I'd hate to feel like I was in some way a disappointment!
But then I remind myself it's about the 'whole' experience. As long as the vibe has been good and we have shared a few laughs, then it's all good."
Definitely the disappointment and performance issues for me |
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"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.
Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.
I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.
That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.
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Oh my word...that is so out of order of anybody!
I can imagine how that may play on your mind but that person was obviously just horrid x
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over a year ago
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I always worry that I will get there, car troubles/traffic/meteorites etc. If all that's ok I hope Im not a dissapointment too and can chat as well as we had done over messages. Im not the best speaker when flustered just Get me into bed quick  |
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By *nnCeeWoman
over a year ago
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"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.
Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.
I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.
That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.
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Well that was just really horrible. I'm sorry you had that experience. Some people are just jeans x |
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"Only two worry’s
One they will not turn up
And two I will not live up to they expectations off me
But other than that I don’t really worry to much x"
After all the effort it takes to get ready, a no show would bang out of order.
I can worry sometimes about expectations, no matter how much prep I've done xx
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over a year ago
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"Only two worry’s
One they will not turn up
And two I will not live up to they expectations off me
But other than that I don’t really worry to much x
Exactly this  "
Yes always my biggest worry is I am not anuff for them |
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I've never actually worried someone wouldn't turn up, or wouldn't be as expected. I'm generally too focused on convincing myself they'll hate me/won't fancy me/any number of other things will be wrong with me and getting myself up to high doe.
I'll shake like a leaf and have a nervous lip and eye twitch for about the first 30mins of meeting before I get a grip of myself and just have fun. Sexy, huh   ? |
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"You have been chatting for a while and there is an undeniable chemistry and intense desire to meet.
The meet is imminent and you can barely contain your excitement!
What, if any concerns or worries do you tend to have.
Concerned they won't turn up?
They may not look like their pics?
Or, is it something about yourself that you worry about?
Guys, well... getting an erection under what could feel like a need to perform...is that ever a concern?
For me...I suppose I'd hate to feel like I was in some way a disappointment!
But then I remind myself it's about the 'whole' experience. As long as the vibe has been good and we have shared a few laughs, then it's all good.
Definitely the disappointment and performance issues for me"
Yes...I get you. |
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"Only two worry’s
One they will not turn up
And two I will not live up to they expectations off me
But other than that I don’t really worry to much x
After all the effort it takes to get ready, a no show would bang out of order.
I can worry sometimes about expectations, no matter how much prep I've done xx
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Yes definitely would be
And me as well I think we’re or own biggest crittics when it comes to things like that |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I've never actually worried someone wouldn't turn up, or wouldn't be as expected. I'm generally too focused on convincing myself they'll hate me/won't fancy me/any number of other things will be wrong with me and getting myself up to high doe.
I'll shake like a leaf and have a nervous lip and eye twitch for about the first 30mins of meeting before I get a grip of myself and just have fun. Sexy, huh ? "
Yes, I'm exactly the same! It's not about them, all my worries are focused on me being a disappointing heffalump, sounding weird, being dull... But I'm also excited. It's a peculiar contradiction of feelings.
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over a year ago
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"Never mind all that you are beautiful x
Well thank you...but is that really enough!
I just wanted to put that out there that’s all
In that case...thank you x"
You know me darling and you bowled me over |
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"I've never actually worried someone wouldn't turn up, or wouldn't be as expected. I'm generally too focused on convincing myself they'll hate me/won't fancy me/any number of other things will be wrong with me and getting myself up to high doe.
I'll shake like a leaf and have a nervous lip and eye twitch for about the first 30mins of meeting before I get a grip of myself and just have fun. Sexy, huh ?
Yes, I'm exactly the same! It's not about them, all my worries are focused on me being a disappointing heffalump, sounding weird, being dull... But I'm also excited. It's a peculiar contradiction of feelings.
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And slightly addictive, despite the state I get myself in! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always worry that I wouldn’t blow my own trumpet enough and possibly end up underselling myself.
Then they’ll end up being even more nervous because I’m this massive big deal and so much better in person.
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over a year ago
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"I always worry that I wouldn’t blow my own trumpet enough and possibly end up underselling myself.
Then they’ll end up being even more nervous because I’m this massive big deal and so much better in person.
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Undersell and overdeliver. Smart |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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I always worry about unforseen traffic and being late so usually end up way too early.
Even if a social I worry about lack of chemistry and if there may be any awkward silences.
I always feel awkward as to how to end a social, peck on the cheek, hand shake, kiss on the lips, hand on the waist, hand on the neck, just too many options.
Finally I worry about being matched for dress sense, I would hate to turn up and be my normal smart casual and someone is impeccably dressed for the red carpet. |
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I've never really been worried about anything in a meet - if they don't turn up, so what? I haven't lost anything I already had and more often than not I've actually experienced the butterflies and heightened anticipation feelings so in effect got more than I had.
Performance wise I always give as good as I can so if it's not good enough - I wouldn't have been able to do it any better.
I also understand that it's absolutely all about a full click for 4 people so beating yourself up if all 4 don't click is just daft - statistically the odds are against ya
Bad Bitch was proper nervous before we had our first foray so I get that it's a thing - I guess I'm just lucky that it's just not a thing I suffer with |
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"Never mind all that you are beautiful x
Well thank you...but is that really enough!
I just wanted to put that out there that’s all
In that case...thank you x
You know me darling and you bowled me over "
I do that...hope you know the feeling is mutual |
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General nerves but over the years it's less about me and more about them.
I'm not over confident or cocky but I am perfectly happy with who I am. If they do or don't like me is something out of my control. I'm less sure about what they will be like, whether they've fibbed a little etc.
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"You have been chatting for a while and there is an undeniable chemistry and intense desire to meet.
The meet is imminent and you can barely contain your excitement!
What, if any concerns or worries do you tend to have.
Concerned they won't turn up?
They may not look like their pics?
Or, is it something about yourself that you worry about?
Guys, well... getting an erection under what could feel like a need to perform...is that ever a concern?
For me...I suppose I'd hate to feel like I was in some way a disappointment!
But then I remind myself it's about the 'whole' experience. As long as the vibe has been good and we have shared a few laughs, then it's all good."
Before a first meet I’m always an absolute bag of nerves…
I’m worried they won’t like me
I’m worried they won’t turn up
I’m worried I won’t be good enough for them
I’m worried they won’t be as advertised..
Somehow I still manage to go through with meets though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never mind all that you are beautiful x
Well thank you...but is that really enough!
I just wanted to put that out there that’s all
In that case...thank you x
You know me darling and you bowled me over
I do that...hope you know the feeling is mutual "
We will chat  |
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I sometimes worry I might be a disapointment (especially if the other party is experienced) but its never been an issue, usually having a few drinks and a laugh loosens everyone up and the fun can occur organically. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.
Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.
I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.
That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.
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That’s an awful thing to have happened to you x I hope it was just nervous/awkward laughter on her part, but a total bitch move if not.
I remember doing the deed with a guy I’d been seeing for a while and fancied like mad. His was a micro penis, like absolutely tiny. I never would have laughed. I can only imagine how I’d feel if someone did that to me  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Going back to the original question, I never worry that they won’t turn up. Only because I only ever meet those with whom I’ve struck up a rapport beforehand, and I know they wouldn’t do that.
It hasn’t happened yet anyway. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I worry about what they will do with me if I cark it during sex. That’s not a joke, I genuinely do think about that, believe it or not.
You can never control someone else’s perception of you but I suppose if I ever had the feeling someone was disappointed in me in some way - body, personality, height - whatever, then that wouldn’t be a pleasant feeling.
Thighs. I always worry about what they will make of my thighs. |
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"I worry about what they will do with me if I cark it during sex. That’s not a joke, I genuinely do think about that, believe it or not.
You can never control someone else’s perception of you but I suppose if I ever had the feeling someone was disappointed in me in some way - body, personality, height - whatever, then that wouldn’t be a pleasant feeling.
Thighs. I always worry about what they will make of my thighs. "
Thick thighs save lives |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I worry about what they will do with me if I cark it during sex. That’s not a joke, I genuinely do think about that, believe it or not.
You can never control someone else’s perception of you but I suppose if I ever had the feeling someone was disappointed in me in some way - body, personality, height - whatever, then that wouldn’t be a pleasant feeling.
Thighs. I always worry about what they will make of my thighs.
Thick thighs save lives"
And they can crack walnuts |
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I worry they won't like the look of me. I worry they'll be put off by my pubic hair. I always worry that we'll get a call from the school or nursery that a child is sick and we'll have to cancel. The further away they're traveling from the more that bothers me. I'd hate someone to have a wasted journey because of us. |
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My biggest worry is they will not like the look of me
I'm no Adonis I'm slim but with a middle age spread ,quite tall geeky looking with glasses
I know I'm not selling myself to well but I am what I am
I try to get by with my personality alone  |
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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago
Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’ |
Will she turn up? The biggest concern...
Will she be a good enough kisser?
Will I?
Will she turn up then make an excuse & sod off like you see in dating programs without telling me cos she's had a change of mind/cold feet?
Will talking between us be awkward or easy?
I don't drink alcohol anymore - so can't steady myself with a bit of Dutch courage... arghhhhhhh!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.
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"I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.
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I’d have kicked his arse for you. Fool.
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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago
Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’ |
"I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.
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Awwww. That's his loss!
I'd have been rubbing my hands like old man Steptoe & grinning. Whilst being heard to say "Phwaaaaa!"
Nothing wrong with your pics! As you were private ... |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
If they are disappointed during or following a meet then thats likely on them for not communicating what they were after.
Its unlikely we would be getting naked with someone we hadn’t struck up a rapport with, so while it can always be intimidating the first time, its not something we have run into. |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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"I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.
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I hope you directed a few choice Aussie words towards him. |
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"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.
Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.
I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.
That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.
That’s an awful thing to have happened to you x I hope it was just nervous/awkward laughter on her part, but a total bitch move if not.
I remember doing the deed with a guy I’d been seeing for a while and fancied like mad. His was a micro penis, like absolutely tiny. I never would have laughed. I can only imagine how I’d feel if someone did that to me xx"
Awww, Dieu, you promised never to mention that! |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"My biggest worry is they will not like the look of me
I'm no Adonis I'm slim but with a middle age spread ,quite tall geeky looking with glasses
I know I'm not selling myself to well but I am what I am
I try to get by with my personality alone "
Most of us have negative thoughts about ourselves on some way or other. Maybe whoever you are going to meet will have the same thoughts and feelings and be just as nervous as you. |
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over a year ago
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I haven't had a social in years and I'm hopefully going on one next week with a view to having sex (obviously!) One moment I'm fine and getting all turned on and then I think "but what if he doesn't fancy me" "what if he doesn't show and I've made an effort for nothing!" The pressure is real.
I'm sure it will be fine lol.
It's fine, it's fine!
Danish x |
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I don’t really worry about anything now but there is always bit of nerves/frisson of excitement.
If I had a niggling thought in the back of my mind before the meet it would be about cumming too quickly - but that is soon forgotten when we meet. |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.
Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.
I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.
That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.
That’s an awful thing to have happened to you x I hope it was just nervous/awkward laughter on her part, but a total bitch move if not.
I remember doing the deed with a guy I’d been seeing for a while and fancied like mad. His was a micro penis, like absolutely tiny. I never would have laughed. I can only imagine how I’d feel if someone did that to me xx"
By doing the deed I take it you mean the buying and selling of a house of flat!
But why would you need to see his boaby for that?  |
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I don’t get concerns or worried as the chemistry is there and I see the meet as a continuation of what you have built up.
Whatever happens during the meet is down to how you get on but there’s never any pressure.
We enjoy meeting new people regardless but when the connection is there, there’s a lot of fun to be had 
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"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.
Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.
I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.
That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.
That’s an awful thing to have happened to you x I hope it was just nervous/awkward laughter on her part, but a total bitch move if not.
I remember doing the deed with a guy I’d been seeing for a while and fancied like mad. His was a micro penis, like absolutely tiny. I never would have laughed. I can only imagine how I’d feel if someone did that to me xx
By doing the deed I take it you mean the buying and selling of a house of flat!
But why would you need to see his boaby for that? "
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"I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.
I’d have kicked his arse for you. Fool.
X"
TY Dieu - I stupidly stayed and kept a smile plastered on my face  |
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"I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.
Awwww. That's his loss!
I'd have been rubbing my hands like old man Steptoe & grinning. Whilst being heard to say "Phwaaaaa!"
Nothing wrong with your pics! As you were private ... "
I will always think of Steptoe when I see you on here now Thank you |
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I just worry I won't recognise them and I'll be saying hello to the wrong person.
I don't care if they don't turn up, I always have a back up plan. My first meet is always a social so there's zero sexual tension. |
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"I've never actually worried someone wouldn't turn up, or wouldn't be as expected. I'm generally too focused on convincing myself they'll hate me/won't fancy me/any number of other things will be wrong with me and getting myself up to high doe.
I'll shake like a leaf and have a nervous lip and eye twitch for about the first 30mins of meeting before I get a grip of myself and just have fun. Sexy, huh ? "
I go through the exact same thing |
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