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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
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"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
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Don't think so. My parents were straight laced and essentially stopped having sex after I was born (so my dad d*unkenly told me once). |
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"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
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Never had a single conversation about it with my folks so if I've got it from them it will be more nature than nurture. But like most of our values and behaviours I'm sure we learn from either loving or hating what we experience as youngsters. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
Don't think so. My parents were straight laced and essentially stopped having sex after I was born (so my dad d*unkenly told me once)."
What made you head in this direction? Rebelling against the straight-laced family model, a long held feeling that this is who you are, or something else? |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
Never had a single conversation about it with my folks so if I've got it from them it will be more nature than nurture. But like most of our values and behaviours I'm sure we learn from either loving or hating what we experience as youngsters. "
I've never had a conversation with the parents about sex (other than get married, or else!) but my sibling and I have both been sexually adventurous in our time. Our father never had a problem getting a woman to... who knows? He's still in demand in his late 80s. |
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"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
Never had a single conversation about it with my folks so if I've got it from them it will be more nature than nurture. But like most of our values and behaviours I'm sure we learn from either loving or hating what we experience as youngsters.
I've never had a conversation with the parents about sex (other than get married, or else!) but my sibling and I have both been sexually adventurous in our time. Our father never had a problem getting a woman to... who knows? He's still in demand in his late 80s."
Lucky dad!
I think there is element of chance... Circumstances that open doors... Much like why people like vegetables or sports or culture etc.... I'd always been highly sexually motivated... But im still learning about myself as to why that has been the case. |
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"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
Don't think so. My parents were straight laced and essentially stopped having sex after I was born (so my dad d*unkenly told me once).
What made you head in this direction? Rebelling against the straight-laced family model, a long held feeling that this is who you are, or something else?"
Oh, good question. A very curious mind about clubs when I was younger. Sex was made to feel dirty in our house, so as soon as I could, I was off exploring. Got invited to a club when I was 20, and I was sold.
Off scene when married, and been on and off here for last seven years. Still love a club. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
Never had a single conversation about it with my folks so if I've got it from them it will be more nature than nurture. But like most of our values and behaviours I'm sure we learn from either loving or hating what we experience as youngsters.
I've never had a conversation with the parents about sex (other than get married, or else!) but my sibling and I have both been sexually adventurous in our time. Our father never had a problem getting a woman to... who knows? He's still in demand in his late 80s.
Lucky dad!
I think there is element of chance... Circumstances that open doors... Much like why people like vegetables or sports or culture etc.... I'd always been highly sexually motivated... But im still learning about myself as to why that has been the case. "
Enjoy the exploration.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
Don't think so. My parents were straight laced and essentially stopped having sex after I was born (so my dad d*unkenly told me once).
What made you head in this direction? Rebelling against the straight-laced family model, a long held feeling that this is who you are, or something else?
Oh, good question. A very curious mind about clubs when I was younger. Sex was made to feel dirty in our house, so as soon as I could, I was off exploring. Got invited to a club when I was 20, and I was sold.
Off scene when married, and been on and off here for last seven years. Still love a club."
What is it about clubs that hits you in that special spot?
I miss going to clubs, but I know I am in higher demand when I go with a man and I don't have one.
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Definitely not in my case. I lost my dad 35 years ago and my mum 7 years ago and she never so much as looked at another man in those intervening years.
I wasn't adventurous at all due to circumstances and didn't have sex until my mid 20s.
I didn't start exploring until I was 50 so there was nothing genetic about my decisions. Just a newly discovered me. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"My sexual idol was my aunt, I admired the way she led her life and how happy she looked, looking back I realised she was an ethical slut and I admired her for it  "
That's a brilliant role model to have. I hope you're doing her proud.
I have wondered about being more open to my niblings. |
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"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
Don't think so. My parents were straight laced and essentially stopped having sex after I was born (so my dad d*unkenly told me once).
What made you head in this direction? Rebelling against the straight-laced family model, a long held feeling that this is who you are, or something else?
Oh, good question. A very curious mind about clubs when I was younger. Sex was made to feel dirty in our house, so as soon as I could, I was off exploring. Got invited to a club when I was 20, and I was sold.
Off scene when married, and been on and off here for last seven years. Still love a club.
What is it about clubs that hits you in that special spot?
I miss going to clubs, but I know I am in higher demand when I go with a man and I don't have one.
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A connection you don't get on here, or in normal pubs/clubs. I like the honesty and frankness. Oh, I also love being naked in a hot tub, as it is so different to my vanilla day job |
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Pretty sure my Dad was a swinger. He's certainly always been very free and liberal in his sex life (sometimes to the detriment of monogamous partners). I think my exhibitionist tendencies come via my Dad. |
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"Pretty sure my Dad was a swinger. He's certainly always been very free and liberal in his sex life (sometimes to the detriment of monogamous partners). I think my exhibitionist tendencies come via my Dad. "
My parents didn't show any flesh at all, even on the beach. When I go to a club, I'm normally naked after an hour. |
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"Pretty sure my Dad was a swinger. He's certainly always been very free and liberal in his sex life (sometimes to the detriment of monogamous partners). I think my exhibitionist tendencies come via my Dad.
My parents didn't show any flesh at all, even on the beach. When I go to a club, I'm normally naked after an hour."
My mother was always topless on the beach and liked to pose in her skimpies by lying on the poolside. I think she was more liberal sex wise than I'm aware of. She and I don't get on, but I certainly didn't come from a prudish family overall (my parents divorced when I was young). |
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"Mother once called me "a thoroughly brazen hussie", so I very much doubt it.
Although I once discovered my Fathers secret stash of top shelf mags, so, ???
Maybe."
Haven't heard hussie for some years. Badge of honour |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Definitely not in my case. I lost my dad 35 years ago and my mum 7 years ago and she never so much as looked at another man in those intervening years.
I wasn't adventurous at all due to circumstances and didn't have sex until my mid 20s.
I didn't start exploring until I was 50 so there was nothing genetic about my decisions. Just a newly discovered me. "
Maybe the late awakening to this sexual exploration is linked to your parents' faithfulness?
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Pretty sure my Dad was a swinger. He's certainly always been very free and liberal in his sex life (sometimes to the detriment of monogamous partners). I think my exhibitionist tendencies come via my Dad. "
Are we related? |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Mother once called me "a thoroughly brazen hussie", so I very much doubt it.
Although I once discovered my Fathers secret stash of top shelf mags, so, ???
Maybe."
I found my dad's mag stash when I was about 8. I think it's called a formative experience. |
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"Definitely not in my case. I lost my dad 35 years ago and my mum 7 years ago and she never so much as looked at another man in those intervening years.
I wasn't adventurous at all due to circumstances and didn't have sex until my mid 20s.
I didn't start exploring until I was 50 so there was nothing genetic about my decisions. Just a newly discovered me.
Maybe the late awakening to this sexual exploration is linked to your parents' faithfulness?
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That's only a tiny part of the story |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Pretty sure my Dad was a swinger. He's certainly always been very free and liberal in his sex life (sometimes to the detriment of monogamous partners). I think my exhibitionist tendencies come via my Dad.
My parents didn't show any flesh at all, even on the beach. When I go to a club, I'm normally naked after an hour.
My mother was always topless on the beach and liked to pose in her skimpies by lying on the poolside. I think she was more liberal sex wise than I'm aware of. She and I don't get on, but I certainly didn't come from a prudish family overall (my parents divorced when I was young)."
Will you be surprised if you discover her boudoir photos and toys sometime down the line?
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Definitely not in my case. I lost my dad 35 years ago and my mum 7 years ago and she never so much as looked at another man in those intervening years.
I wasn't adventurous at all due to circumstances and didn't have sex until my mid 20s.
I didn't start exploring until I was 50 so there was nothing genetic about my decisions. Just a newly discovered me.
Maybe the late awakening to this sexual exploration is linked to your parents' faithfulness?
That's only a tiny part of the story"
Of course. The balance of sharing, contributing to the discussion and retain privacy is a personal boundary we all have, at different levels. |
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"Definitely not in my case. I lost my dad 35 years ago and my mum 7 years ago and she never so much as looked at another man in those intervening years.
I wasn't adventurous at all due to circumstances and didn't have sex until my mid 20s.
I didn't start exploring until I was 50 so there was nothing genetic about my decisions. Just a newly discovered me.
Maybe the late awakening to this sexual exploration is linked to your parents' faithfulness?
That's only a tiny part of the story
Of course. The balance of sharing, contributing to the discussion and retain privacy is a personal boundary we all have, at different levels."
That and it being rather boring |
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"Mother once called me "a thoroughly brazen hussie", so I very much doubt it.
Although I once discovered my Fathers secret stash of top shelf mags, so, ???
Maybe.
Haven't heard hussie for some years. Badge of honour "
lol worn with pride thankyou  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Mother once called me "a thoroughly brazen hussie", so I very much doubt it.
Although I once discovered my Fathers secret stash of top shelf mags, so, ???
Maybe.
Haven't heard hussie for some years. Badge of honour
lol worn with pride thankyou "
I used to wear strumpet. I don't get to strump much these days. 
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"Mother once called me "a thoroughly brazen hussie", so I very much doubt it.
Although I once discovered my Fathers secret stash of top shelf mags, so, ???
Maybe.
Haven't heard hussie for some years. Badge of honour
lol worn with pride thankyou
I used to wear strumpet. I don't get to strump much these days.
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Lol, may your luck change soon then x |
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"Mother once called me "a thoroughly brazen hussie", so I very much doubt it.
Although I once discovered my Fathers secret stash of top shelf mags, so, ???
Maybe.
Haven't heard hussie for some years. Badge of honour
lol worn with pride thankyou
I used to wear strumpet. I don't get to strump much these days.
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I used to say that to the wife....she loved it  |
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I certainly didn't inherit my mothers sexual appetite thankfully.
So has zero interest and will happily tell me how her marriage has issues because of it.
We are polar opposite in that regard, and on many other things thankfully |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I certainly didn't inherit my mothers sexual appetite thankfully.
So has zero interest and will happily tell me how her marriage has issues because of it.
We are polar opposite in that regard, and on many other things thankfully "
Do you feel your were born as opposite to her or grew that way?
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"I certainly didn't inherit my mothers sexual appetite thankfully.
So has zero interest and will happily tell me how her marriage has issues because of it.
We are polar opposite in that regard, and on many other things thankfully
Do you feel your were born as opposite to her or grew that way?
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Sexually, born that way.
Everything else, a conscious decision |
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"Pretty sure my Dad was a swinger. He's certainly always been very free and liberal in his sex life (sometimes to the detriment of monogamous partners). I think my exhibitionist tendencies come via my Dad.
My parents didn't show any flesh at all, even on the beach. When I go to a club, I'm normally naked after an hour.
My mother was always topless on the beach and liked to pose in her skimpies by lying on the poolside. I think she was more liberal sex wise than I'm aware of. She and I don't get on, but I certainly didn't come from a prudish family overall (my parents divorced when I was young).
Will you be surprised if you discover her boudoir photos and toys sometime down the line?
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Seeing as I have nothing to do with her, I'd be jolly surprised to discover anything of the sort |
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As with most things, I think it's a mix of nature vs nurture. I am mostly submissive in nature. I used to think that I am the only one in my family like that until I caught my brother watching femdom porn once. I guess it does run in the family |
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"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
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mine was def from my uncle which is close, As he is basically my father figure in life,
However my mum is quite open about her endeavours as a youth, I was a one night stand with one of her mates |
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"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
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This is a really interesting topic.
But the short answer is there is nothing interesting about sexual desire and triggers.
It is all learnt as we develop.
There were studies on rats conducted where every time a juvenile rat copulation they put in the smell of lemons.
Later in its development as an adult the rat is given the chance to get down with two lady rats. He "does" both of them multiple times, as rats do... but the one that was scented of lemons got 80% of the action compared to 20% for the other.
So if you grow up around something consciously or otherwise it will become a sexual norm/desire or trigger for you.
Imagine lighting lavender candles everyone you have sex... lavender will be entrinsically linked to sex for you.
You may become aroused just smelling the scent.
Interesting stuff...
Now what triggers could we intentionally start to give our selves... |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I've been thinking about what has shaped me, how I have formed my views about sex, what I am willing to do and what I will tolerate.
I believe I have inherited a chunk of it from my father.
A friend then told me they are third generation swingers.
Is our sexual inheritance more than what we learn? Were we born this way?
This is a really interesting topic.
But the short answer is there is nothing interesting about sexual desire and triggers.
It is all learnt as we develop.
There were studies on rats conducted where every time a juvenile rat copulation they put in the smell of lemons.
Later in its development as an adult the rat is given the chance to get down with two lady rats. He "does" both of them multiple times, as rats do... but the one that was scented of lemons got 80% of the action compared to 20% for the other.
So if you grow up around something consciously or otherwise it will become a sexual norm/desire or trigger for you.
Imagine lighting lavender candles everyone you have sex... lavender will be entrinsically linked to sex for you.
You may become aroused just smelling the scent.
Interesting stuff...
Now what triggers could we intentionally start to give our selves... "
Ah, but some of us rats rebel against what we see as the norm. The norm may have had damaging consequences or emotional responses.
On the surface, and in my formative years, there was nothing to suggest my nuclear family parents had one that was deviating from the accepted model.
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"Ah, but some of us rats rebel against what we see as the norm. The norm may have had damaging consequences or emotional responses.
On the surface, and in my formative years, there was nothing to suggest my nuclear family parents had one that was deviating from the accepted model.
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I agree. And we don't stop making and breaking the connections.
Some of my recent fab experiences have been very formative on current triggers.
Or maybe you observe others, or see it in movies.
God knows some porn has been very counter productive to the expectations of many guys! |
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