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By *onkeynut OP   Woman  over a year ago

somewhere

What do you do to stop it?

I don’t think I have ever been lonely before. I love my own company, have never relied on others either practically or emotionally, but just recently I’ve had a feeling creeping up on me, and I think it’s loneliness. I don’t know what it is about my life now that is lonely…nothing much has changed. I can’t escape the feeling but I would quite like to!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I know what you mean, its not a nice feeling. Only answer I can give is distraction. Be it an engrossing tv show or film, or even game. Keep the mind preoccupied with something as best you can.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Lucy, I’m in the same place as you. I guess I try to keep busy and try not to ruminate on my situation versus all the people with loads of friends and/or partners xxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think sometimes making a connection you can talk to, be it on the phone, on line or in person, can help.

I mean… yeah, I don’t really know. I’m the person who sometimes can be lonely in a crowded room.

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By *aiseiMan  over a year ago

Birmingham

It’s difficult to answer as it may not be the same solution for everyone, despite it seeming to be obvious that the answer should be ‘find some company’.

One stretch in my 20s, I went six months without going out as all my mates were paired off and stopped going out. It absolutely sucked. I ended up going out on my own just so I had a change of scenery. It made some difference, as I usually got talking to someone whilst I was out….. but was far from a real answer.

I think you need to be honest with yourself about what you’re missing so that you directly do the right things to make you feel better, not just the first thing you can as a sticking plaster.

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By *onkeynut OP   Woman  over a year ago

somewhere

I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess "

Yeah I totally get what you’re saying and going through, and have some thoughts on it

I’m quite happy for you to drop me a message if you think it’d help. (Btw just to reassure you, you’re hot, but this isn’t a ploy to get you to message me for sexy stuff. I’m just not that guy.)

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan  over a year ago

Aylesbury

I can whole heartedly sympathise OP. Ways that I have been coping include comfort eating and starting to smoke again (I had to force myself into quitting again), although I'd recommend neither. I can only suggest trying to make a local friend. A popular dating app that rhymes with mumble has a "bff" finder. Failing that, try to find a local friend on here.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Life changes have left me feeling lonely at times

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess "

well, guess you need to workout what you think is missing in your life. you can still feel alone with other people around. maybe you need a goal something to train for or study for?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess "

Or just give in, and get hitched

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Life changes have left me feeling lonely at times"

Yes same here; it’s a common cause of loneliness.

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By *lhr1061Man  over a year ago

Warwickshire

Don't confuse loneliness with being alone, it's possible to be lonely in a room full of people. Talking is a great help but maybe seek some professional help.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Think it's only nature.humans are social animals. My inbox is always open . I'm great at talking nonsense

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By *onkeynut OP   Woman  over a year ago

somewhere

I run my own business and I’m very content with that. I don’t know what is missing. Maybe I just need to get laid

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By *onkeynut OP   Woman  over a year ago

somewhere


"I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess

Or just give in, and get hitched "

Pass. Only just got rid of the last one!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Don't confuse loneliness with being alone, it's possible to be lonely in a room full of people. Talking is a great help but maybe seek some professional help."

Exactly this…

Or maybe like you said OP, you just need a shag, lmao

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I run my own business and I’m very content with that. I don’t know what is missing. Maybe I just need to get laid "

well im sure you'll manage that

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Never felt it till divorce and loosing my mum the same year, having friends and family around but lonely is always at my door,. Just try live each day and have positive thoughts. X

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Its weird because you can be surrounded by people and still feel alone

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I run my own business and I’m very content with that. I don’t know what is missing. Maybe I just need to get laid

well im sure you'll manage that"

or try something you are not good at.. a real challenge write a book, run a marathon row the atlanic - go for it !!

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By *onkeynut OP   Woman  over a year ago

somewhere

I do appreciate all the replies.

As much as I do need a shag I’m pretty sure it won’t help!

I guess I need to figure out what’s missing to be able to fix it.

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By *parrow77Man  over a year ago

cheshire

I have felt this last 8 months

After splitting with ex of 8 yrs. I’ve always enjoyed own company and time but in past had someone at home speak to and other things.

Now am single and have no one around or near me family 30 mins away and don’t have friends to speak of only people work and talk to in work. I feel so lonely and stuff I enjoyed about having times alone etc am now starting to hate as makes me feel pathetic and sad I have nothing in my life

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By *elinefineWoman  over a year ago

kempston

I have four cats and a little dog at home and a horse so I always have my animals around me for easy company and have to leave the house every day to sort out the horse.

I am at peace with my own company but think if I didn’t have the reason to get up each day loneliness could become a factor. The only time it really creeps in is when I know people aren’t around like away on holiday or have other commitments.

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By *parrow77Man  over a year ago

cheshire


"I do appreciate all the replies.

As much as I do need a shag I’m pretty sure it won’t help!

I guess I need to figure out what’s missing to be able to fix it. "

If you need a chat or friend message me and stuff

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By *lhr1061Man  over a year ago

Warwickshire

I suffer from depression, it's a lonely disease. Being with people doesn't help, it's a real medical condition, not just being miserable like a lot of people think. It's no different to a broken leg and needs treatment to sort it out. Go see your doctor OP, chat with them about your feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Look, this goes for anyone reading this, my inbox is always open for a chat and to shoot the breeze. I’ve been there where loneliness is all encompassing. It’s bloody awful.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Feel lonely quite often, I work alone so only really have my own thoughts most days. To stop it can be a difficult one, gotta be honest and it sounds possibly silly.....but I find talking to strangers on the Internet sometimes makes me feel less alone as they aren't involved in my life if that makes sense, and it's just an easy going chat about nothing really

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Feel lonely quite often, I work alone so only really have my own thoughts most days. To stop it can be a difficult one, gotta be honest and it sounds possibly silly.....but I find talking to strangers on the Internet sometimes makes me feel less alone as they aren't involved in my life if that makes sense, and it's just an easy going chat about nothing really "

think you've explained us all

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I’ve suffered really badly from loneliness over the past year or two too.

I usually stave it off by making myself busy. I clean. I clean a lot. I was up at 05:30 vacuuming then dusting. Doing the bathrooms etc.

Sometimes I garden. Weeding just for the sake of it.

I really need to get laid too I’ve only recently started having sex again after major surgeries and it’s taking some getting used to tbh.

I’d love a boyfriend but my life is too unstable for that perhaps.

I’ve just accepted an offer on my house so I know I’ll be really busy getting set to move. Finding somewhere to go. Arranging for my old car to go into a workshop to be fixed up. Packing up. Possibly putting everything into storage and mixing sofa surfing with travelling in the camper I’ve built.

I’m still aware I’m still desperately lonely. I don’t have anyone who really gives a shit about my day.

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By *arleyQuinnandTheJokerCouple  over a year ago

Cumbria


"I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess

Or just give in, and get hitched "

I'm married and I've never felt lonelier than I do now

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By *JB1954Man  over a year ago

Reading

I put in another post recently. Having retired December 2019. Covid struck and wife diagnosed with cancer early 2020. So isolated most 2020 and 2021. Sadly wife passed away 2021. I have no family . Friends yes phoned, messaged for a while and as now once a month or more. I do have a hobby , sea fishing. But that is reliant on weather and tides. Where I go is about one and a half hours drive. Yes very lonely .

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By *lhr1061Man  over a year ago

Warwickshire


"I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess

Or just give in, and get hitched

I'm married and I've never felt lonelier than I do now

"

Exactly how I feel too.

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By *onkeynut OP   Woman  over a year ago

somewhere


"

I’m still aware I’m still desperately lonely. I don’t have anyone who really gives a shit about my day. "

I think your last sentence has pretty much hit the nail on the head.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’ve suffered really badly from loneliness over the past year or two too.

I usually stave it off by making myself busy. I clean. I clean a lot. I was up at 05:30 vacuuming then dusting. Doing the bathrooms etc.

Sometimes I garden. Weeding just for the sake of it.

I really need to get laid too I’ve only recently started having sex again after major surgeries and it’s taking some getting used to tbh.

I’d love a boyfriend but my life is too unstable for that perhaps.

I’ve just accepted an offer on my house so I know I’ll be really busy getting set to move. Finding somewhere to go. Arranging for my old car to go into a workshop to be fixed up. Packing up. Possibly putting everything into storage and mixing sofa surfing with travelling in the camper I’ve built.

I’m still aware I’m still desperately lonely. I don’t have anyone who really gives a shit about my day. "

i give a shit about your day and i don't even know you.

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By *nabelle21Woman  over a year ago

B38


"I put in another post recently. Having retired December 2019. Covid struck and wife diagnosed with cancer early 2020. So isolated most 2020 and 2021. Sadly wife passed away 2021. I have no family . Friends yes phoned, messaged for a while and as now once a month or more. I do have a hobby , sea fishing. But that is reliant on weather and tides. Where I go is about one and a half hours drive. Yes very lonely . "

I am so sorry to hear if your wife passing.

And, with your retirement well things have certainly changed for you.

I kmow you said friends phones for a while...sometimes they don't cause they don't know what to say.

Maybe you could call them.

My dad lost his partner to cancer and then retired. It was a difficult time. I hope you get to find some company or at least someone to talk to x

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By *nabelle21Woman  over a year ago

B38


"I’ve suffered really badly from loneliness over the past year or two too.

I usually stave it off by making myself busy. I clean. I clean a lot. I was up at 05:30 vacuuming then dusting. Doing the bathrooms etc.

Sometimes I garden. Weeding just for the sake of it.

I really need to get laid too I’ve only recently started having sex again after major surgeries and it’s taking some getting used to tbh.

I’d love a boyfriend but my life is too unstable for that perhaps.

I’ve just accepted an offer on my house so I know I’ll be really busy getting set to move. Finding somewhere to go. Arranging for my old car to go into a workshop to be fixed up. Packing up. Possibly putting everything into storage and mixing sofa surfing with travelling in the camper I’ve built.

I’m still aware I’m still desperately lonely. I don’t have anyone who really gives a shit about my day. "

Oh Rachel...I have always had a big soft spot for you. And, anytime you want a chat just drop me a message.

I give a shit about your day and about you. I feel like I kinda know you, just a little...or I'd like to at least x

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By *nabelle21Woman  over a year ago

B38


"I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess

Or just give in, and get hitched

I'm married and I've never felt lonelier than I do now

"

I get you..Once of the loneliest times I have ever felt was feeling trapped in a bad relationship

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

I’m still aware I’m still desperately lonely. I don’t have anyone who really gives a shit about my day.

I think your last sentence has pretty much hit the nail on the head."

I think that’s when you realise xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’ve suffered really badly from loneliness over the past year or two too.

I usually stave it off by making myself busy. I clean. I clean a lot. I was up at 05:30 vacuuming then dusting. Doing the bathrooms etc.

Sometimes I garden. Weeding just for the sake of it.

I really need to get laid too I’ve only recently started having sex again after major surgeries and it’s taking some getting used to tbh.

I’d love a boyfriend but my life is too unstable for that perhaps.

I’ve just accepted an offer on my house so I know I’ll be really busy getting set to move. Finding somewhere to go. Arranging for my old car to go into a workshop to be fixed up. Packing up. Possibly putting everything into storage and mixing sofa surfing with travelling in the camper I’ve built.

I’m still aware I’m still desperately lonely. I don’t have anyone who really gives a shit about my day.

Oh Rachel...I have always had a big soft spot for you. And, anytime you want a chat just drop me a message.

I give a shit about your day and about you. I feel like I kinda know you, just a little...or I'd like to at least x"

Thank you so much. You’re an angel xxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’ve suffered really badly from loneliness over the past year or two too.

I usually stave it off by making myself busy. I clean. I clean a lot. I was up at 05:30 vacuuming then dusting. Doing the bathrooms etc.

Sometimes I garden. Weeding just for the sake of it.

I really need to get laid too I’ve only recently started having sex again after major surgeries and it’s taking some getting used to tbh.

I’d love a boyfriend but my life is too unstable for that perhaps.

I’ve just accepted an offer on my house so I know I’ll be really busy getting set to move. Finding somewhere to go. Arranging for my old car to go into a workshop to be fixed up. Packing up. Possibly putting everything into storage and mixing sofa surfing with travelling in the camper I’ve built.

I’m still aware I’m still desperately lonely. I don’t have anyone who really gives a shit about my day.

i give a shit about your day and i don't even know you.

"

thank you for giving a shit

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess

Or just give in, and get hitched

I'm married and I've never felt lonelier than I do now

Exactly how I feel too. "

Ouch my bad

I was just saying in jest

I withdraw my words.

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By *eavenNhellCouple  over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge


"I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess "

nothing worse than feeling lonely in a busy room with friends all around have been there and it's the worst feeling in the world

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By *iger4uWoman  over a year ago

In my happy place

It catches me out too.

Im the only person I know who is alone without partner or children.

Work from home and no friends on doorstep.

I love home, but nobody gives a thought thati might like to be out somewhere.

People have forgotten how to socialise and mix.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It catches me out too.

Im the only person I know who is alone without partner or children.

Work from home and no friends on doorstep.

I love home, but nobody gives a thought thati might like to be out somewhere.

People have forgotten how to socialise and mix.

"

So true. I gave up when the pub’s reopened. Who wants to sit alone at a table when no one can join you

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By *iger4uWoman  over a year ago

In my happy place


"I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess

Or just give in, and get hitched

I'm married and I've never felt lonelier than I do now

"

So is hubby not your partner in crime in your cpl profile?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We're social creatures at heart. I think there comes a time when we all need not to be alone and to spend time with others, even if we're happy in our own company most of the time. As for why now? Well, we all have our own triggers so perhaps only you can answer that.

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By *ubal1Man  over a year ago

Newry Down


"I do appreciate all the replies.

As much as I do need a shag I’m pretty sure it won’t help!

I guess I need to figure out what’s missing to be able to fix it. "

Is it possible that you are becoming aware of your biological clock and that time may be running out for your ability to start a family?

I do not expect a public reply, but you are in your mid-thirties; I recently had a long heart to heart conversation with a young woman about her overwhelming need to have children in her life.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Life changes have left me feeling lonely at times"

You have always got friends to call upon and you always know where I am xxx

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By *parrow77Man  over a year ago

cheshire

Well it’s 2:20 Sunday morning and am sat here wondering shit is this all I am now.

I have no one to talk to no friends and so I join sites like this for forums and others and even dating sites in Hope connect and maybe speak to a human but I send out and nothing back.

I sit here thinking no one would know. Ow if I wasn’t even hear.

I’ve posted few times about stuff and hardships since my ex walked out with no reason so made me look at self and decide I’m too broken to be liked and maybe that’s why I have no friends and no one wants to be friends.

People I know and work with tolerate me but if I share I see the omg he’s talking serious to me so I’ve become good and faking everything even emotions.

So now am sat here alone feeling like a failure and more lonely than I could imagine.

I have never had fiends I try and join ppl and try bond but soon they get minored or see how broke I am so now I don’t know what do and I’ve never felt so empty and lonely.

So I understand but I don’t want anyone to feel like I do so I hope you manage find someone or something to help.

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By *ames-77Man  over a year ago

milton keynes


"What do you do to stop it?

I don’t think I have ever been lonely before. I love my own company, have never relied on others either practically or emotionally, but just recently I’ve had a feeling creeping up on me, and I think it’s loneliness. I don’t know what it is about my life now that is lonely…nothing much has changed. I can’t escape the feeling but I would quite like to!"

This has to be the most genuine post I've read on here and can relate to it a lot.. and I'm sure a lot of others on here can.. I would give advice but I'm afraid most of my ways of dealing with things are toxic and would only turn you into someone who's cold and heartless so I won't

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well it’s 2:20 Sunday morning and am sat here wondering shit is this all I am now.

I have no one to talk to no friends and so I join sites like this for forums and others and even dating sites in Hope connect and maybe speak to a human but I send out and nothing back.

I sit here thinking no one would know. Ow if I wasn’t even hear.

I’ve posted few times about stuff and hardships since my ex walked out with no reason so made me look at self and decide I’m too broken to be liked and maybe that’s why I have no friends and no one wants to be friends.

People I know and work with tolerate me but if I share I see the omg he’s talking serious to me so I’ve become good and faking everything even emotions.

So now am sat here alone feeling like a failure and more lonely than I could imagine.

I have never had fiends I try and join ppl and try bond but soon they get minored or see how broke I am so now I don’t know what do and I’ve never felt so empty and lonely.

So I understand but I don’t want anyone to feel like I do so I hope you manage find someone or something to help. "

Unfortunately, people join this site hoping it’s fun. They are drawn to the fun people rather than the ones who are showing their vulnerabilities.

I hope you find the companionship you seek x

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By *ackFromTheDead2Man  over a year ago

London/Surrey


"Well it’s 2:20 Sunday morning and am sat here wondering shit is this all I am now.

I have no one to talk to no friends and so I join sites like this for forums and others and even dating sites in Hope connect and maybe speak to a human but I send out and nothing back.

I sit here thinking no one would know. Ow if I wasn’t even hear.

I’ve posted few times about stuff and hardships since my ex walked out with no reason so made me look at self and decide I’m too broken to be liked and maybe that’s why I have no friends and no one wants to be friends.

People I know and work with tolerate me but if I share I see the omg he’s talking serious to me so I’ve become good and faking everything even emotions.

So now am sat here alone feeling like a failure and more lonely than I could imagine.

I have never had fiends I try and join ppl and try bond but soon they get minored or see how broke I am so now I don’t know what do and I’ve never felt so empty and lonely.

So I understand but I don’t want anyone to feel like I do so I hope you manage find someone or something to help. "

Feelings like this is why I join forum just to chat with randoms but doesn't really help fill the gap of chatting with friends it's so hard to explain

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By *dysseusukMan  over a year ago

Chelmsford


"I have friends and family around and have a fairly active social life.

It’s hard to explain I guess "

You don’t have to be on your own to feel lonely.

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By *hrista BellendWoman  over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

My loneliness feelings are generally actually boredom feelings, so for me it's learning to recognise them and do something else. I am quite a fan of a brain dump puzzle if I have spare time and no urge to fill it with fun

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"My loneliness feelings are generally actually boredom feelings, so for me it's learning to recognise them and do something else. I am quite a fan of a brain dump puzzle if I have spare time and no urge to fill it with fun"

Oh what’s the puzzle called? x

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By *os19Man  over a year ago

Edmonton

I have felt lonely most of my life I can’t really put into words why.I feel a sense of shyness , awkwardness,worthless and uncomfortable around certain situations and occasions don’t help me.Over the years I have tried to go out more and be more social but often feel what am I doing here.At work I decline to attend things like team buildings , Christmas lunches , breakfast mornings and this has caused a lot of friction with a manager for the last 6 years her trying to help just pisses me off even more and I have come close to self destructing during most of 2021.So far 2022 is going better than 2021.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have felt lonely most of my life I can’t really put into words why.I feel a sense of shyness , awkwardness,worthless and uncomfortable around certain situations and occasions don’t help me.Over the years I have tried to go out more and be more social but often feel what am I doing here."

Hmm this sounds somewhat familiar. Are you an introvert personality type - sounds like it?

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By *os19Man  over a year ago

Edmonton


"I have felt lonely most of my life I can’t really put into words why.I feel a sense of shyness , awkwardness,worthless and uncomfortable around certain situations and occasions don’t help me.Over the years I have tried to go out more and be more social but often feel what am I doing here.

Hmm this sounds somewhat familiar. Are you an introvert personality type - sounds like it? "

. I have just google the word introvert to make sure that I answer you truthfully and yes I would say I am introvert.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have felt lonely most of my life I can’t really put into words why.I feel a sense of shyness , awkwardness,worthless and uncomfortable around certain situations and occasions don’t help me.Over the years I have tried to go out more and be more social but often feel what am I doing here.

Hmm this sounds somewhat familiar. Are you an introvert personality type - sounds like it? . I have just google the word introvert to make sure that I answer you truthfully and yes I would say I am introvert."

I read ‘Quiet’ by Susan Cain and it was a lightbulb moment. Really gives you a insight into why you feel and behave as you do. No shame in being an ‘innie’.

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By *os19Man  over a year ago

Edmonton


"I have felt lonely most of my life I can’t really put into words why.I feel a sense of shyness , awkwardness,worthless and uncomfortable around certain situations and occasions don’t help me.Over the years I have tried to go out more and be more social but often feel what am I doing here.

Hmm this sounds somewhat familiar. Are you an introvert personality type - sounds like it? . I have just google the word introvert to make sure that I answer you truthfully and yes I would say I am introvert.

I read ‘Quiet’ by Susan Cain and it was a lightbulb moment. Really gives you a insight into why you feel and behave as you do. No shame in being an ‘innie’. "

. I will google it and see if I can get a copy from the library.No there is no shame in been a innie as you put it.It was just hard growing up and never been asked to take part in anything and when I was was not allowed or too shy to say yes.

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By *ubal1Man  over a year ago

Newry Down

If someone is suffering from chronic, long-term debilitating loneliness this may be indicative of clinical depression which merits professional help or pharmacological intervention in the short term.

If, after having tried to assist an individual by talking (therapy) the person refuses to help themselves they should be left to their own devices.

From my experiences, some people from chronically dysfunctional backgrounds will always have trouble with relationships and making connection, and may have to come to terms with that enduring situation.

If loneliness is an issue, visit the GP and ask for help from a professional evaluator, whether psych or shrink.

Each case has to be evaluated in its own merits; with some it is acute and short-term, caused by a bereavement or significant life change.

With others it is chronic, long-term and potentially permanent.

In one sad situation, I eventually had to walk away; this person's issues, which were very complex and had existed for nearly 50 years.

I advised this individual needed to go into hospital for a professional evuation, but I knew he never would.

I had to protect my own sanity, and cut all ties, irrevocably.

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By *onkeynut OP   Woman  over a year ago

somewhere


"If someone is suffering from chronic, long-term debilitating loneliness this may be indicative of clinical depression which merits professional help or pharmacological intervention in the short term.

If, after having tried to assist an individual by talking (therapy) the person refuses to help themselves they should be left to their own devices.

From my experiences, some people from chronically dysfunctional backgrounds will always have trouble with relationships and making connection, and may have to come to terms with that enduring situation.

If loneliness is an issue, visit the GP and ask for help from a professional evaluator, whether psych or shrink.

Each case has to be evaluated in its own merits; with some it is acute and short-term, caused by a bereavement or significant life change.

With others it is chronic, long-term and potentially permanent.

In one sad situation, I eventually had to walk away; this person's issues, which were very complex and had existed for nearly 50 years.

I advised this individual needed to go into hospital for a professional evuation, but I knew he never would.

I had to protect my own sanity, and cut all ties, irrevocably.

"

That sounds like an extreme end of the scale.

I wouldn’t say I meet that. I’m pretty happy with my life, friends, job, hobbies.

I don’t think the wine helped last night

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By *parrow77Man  over a year ago

cheshire

Crazy how many of us are here and feel same about being lonely etc.

If anyone wants chat or anything mail me am always happy chat I may be delayed due to life and work but will respond

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By *mooth4uMan  over a year ago

Kings kynn

I find it very hard to find friends , I think I’m quite sociable , been with my wife for 12 yrs but the last few months she has started to live a single life , she’s away most weekends and has her own group of friends , we rarely communicate . I only really see people at work . The feeling of loneliness is overwhelming at times , and I find it hard to deal with .

Seems from the comments above that it’s a hard thing to get out off , no family close to me , I dread weekends now .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"What do you do to stop it?

I don’t think I have ever been lonely before. I love my own company, have never relied on others either practically or emotionally, but just recently I’ve had a feeling creeping up on me, and I think it’s loneliness. I don’t know what it is about my life now that is lonely…nothing much has changed. I can’t escape the feeling but I would quite like to!"

Iv felt lonely all my life really.. it used to feel uncomfortable, but now it feels safe and I avoid the company of others.

Maybe what you feel isn't loneliness. You said your life hasn't changed so maybe you suddenly need to do something different and new.

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By *.L.0460.Woman  over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"What do you do to stop it?

I don’t think I have ever been lonely before. I love my own company, have never relied on others either practically or emotionally, but just recently I’ve had a feeling creeping up on me, and I think it’s loneliness. I don’t know what it is about my life now that is lonely…nothing much has changed. I can’t escape the feeling but I would quite like to!"

This is me right now. I have a challenging job but work with a small team of lovely people & we live in when at work, do I can guarantee for at least a third of my week I'll have company, but when I'm at home, I just vegitate on my sofa in front of the tv staring at my phone

I think part of it is winter blues- I live 5 mins from the seafront, so in warmer months, I get outside for a little walk, grab a coffee & sit on the prom. I nearly always see someone I know & just saying hi, how are you to another human helps a bit.

I do miss company & conversation, but probably not enough to look for a new partner just yet!!

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By *parrow77Man  over a year ago

cheshire

Think factors of winter impacts and last 2 years the covid impact with people being alone, relationship breaks due to always being close.

Many factors but it’s how we try help stop all just watching tv browsing fab to look for company lol

So if anyone wants to connect and get know a geeky guitar playing nerd lol hit me up

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By *ibonacciMan  over a year ago

hidden location


"What do you do to stop it?

I don’t think I have ever been lonely before. I love my own company, have never relied on others either practically or emotionally, but just recently I’ve had a feeling creeping up on me, and I think it’s loneliness. I don’t know what it is about my life now that is lonely…nothing much has changed. I can’t escape the feeling but I would quite like to!"

I think its different for everyone and a lot comes down to personality type.

But lets start with the obvious: January/February blues. People don't go out much and so do not get much sunlight and their vitamin D is lower at this time of year, so that has been medically proven to lead to negative feelings and mild depression. So first off, if you are not doing so, start taking Vit D supplements of see your GP about the same thing and get them prescribed.

Secondly, if you are doing the same things all the time with no variation in your routine, things get stale. Your brain needs stimulated and challenged in other ways, including socially. Make a list of things you'd like to do - no matter how bizarre, impractical or impossible, then review it and see what you will start, like hobbies, etc. Especially ones that will lead to more contact with people. I started doing that a few years ago and now can do the rubiks cube, can juggle and am learning arabic in a group of people..!

Third, and somewhat randomly, there is a Celtic Rock group from the 1970s in Ireland called the Horslips that have a song called "Lonliness" and ironically its quite upbeat and fun, so root it out and have a listen

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By *ryandseeMan  over a year ago

Yorkshire

It's sad to see how many people do genuinely suffer and hope all of you who do, make good progress and feel a lot better soon. There are days like that for everyone but for some people it's more deep more serious and need support from family and friends as well as professionals. For the rest of us, I always find a chat with a friend, a good walk, a cuddle with the dog and whenever possible some good sunshine does a lot of good. Take care everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

People often don't make the effort to reach out to people. They think it's not their concern/issue - which it isn't , however a simple hello and small talk could make someone's day....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

YOu can feel lonely in the company of all of your friends. Maybe you're feeling something that you dont feel others will understand? So it sets you apart?

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By *nabelle21Woman  over a year ago

B38


"People often don't make the effort to reach out to people. They think it's not their concern/issue - which it isn't , however a simple hello and small talk could make someone's day...."

It really could. Instead of being on my phone when waiting for and on the bus, I have put it away. I think in a I'd become a bit unsociable. Lately I've struck up a few conversations and I've quite enjoyed it myself.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"YOu can feel lonely in the company of all of your friends. Maybe you're feeling something that you dont feel others will understand? So it sets you apart? "

This is so true. I went through a phase where I felt very lonely on nights out with my friends. I was struggling with a few things and felt everyone else around me were happy and I felt so alone. Hard to describe but it's a sad feeling. That was a few years ago and thankfully I've never felt that way in recent years.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think it comes with getting older as u done most things in life get used to being alone.

But I think job can can get you down to when they put u hotels

So what I do chat with family friends and call on a lovely friend with benefits hope this helps x

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