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"I'd choose you OP. I'd love to see your inbox of all the women swooning over you and your pictures "I have 3 messages...  | |||
"I'd choose you OP. I'd love to see your inbox of all the women swooning over you and your pictures
I have 3 messages... "Ah, more than me | |||
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"Technically I all ready do as I am in the middle " You get the best (or worst) of both "worlds"  | |||
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"Technically I all ready do as I am in the middle You get the best (or worst) of both "worlds" "Yip ha ha lol | |||
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"I'd choose you OP. I'd love to see your inbox of all the women swooning over you and your pictures
I have 3 messages... "3 more than me
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"Very quiet I would imagine. I'd like guys to receive messages that they deem offensive on a regular basis so that get a feel for what it's like being a woman "deem offensive is a grey area. It’s how you take it I suppose. Although I can well imagine the comments that you receive. Even an offensive comment would be greatly received. I’ve got shit going on with my body but I’m proud of it. | |||
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"I've done cold calling...I imagine it would be a bit like that " | |||
"I'd choose you OP. I'd love to see your inbox of all the women swooning over you and your pictures
I have 3 messages...
3 more than me
I’d message you but I’m too chicken"Don't be 'chicken' to message those you may wish to connect with, we shouldn't fear one a other. I do believe if we actively break learnt dynamics, internalised perceptions would be challenged and found untrue. | |||
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"I'd choose you OP. I'd love to see your inbox of all the women swooning over you and your pictures
I have 3 messages...
3 more than me
I’d message you but I’m too chicken"Chickens are cute | |||
"I'd choose you OP. I'd love to see your inbox of all the women swooning over you and your pictures
I have 3 messages...
3 more than me
I’d message you but I’m too chicken
Don't be 'chicken' to message those you may wish to connect with, we shouldn't fear one a other.
I do believe if we actively break learnt dynamics, internalised perceptions would be challenged and found untrue."I did it
Thanks for the pep talk! | |||
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"I'd choose you OP. I'd love to see your inbox of all the women swooning over you and your pictures
I have 3 messages...
3 more than me
I’d message you but I’m too chicken
Chickens are cute " I couldn’t find the chicken | |||
"Id block everyone and then read men's profiles and message the ones who caught my eye.. " You'd be my type of woman | |||
"I'd choose you OP. I'd love to see your inbox of all the women swooning over you and your pictures
I have 3 messages...
3 more than me
I’d message you but I’m too chicken
Don't be 'chicken' to message those you may wish to connect with, we shouldn't fear one a other.
I do believe if we actively break learnt dynamics, internalised perceptions would be challenged and found untrue.
I did it
Thanks for the pep talk!";) this made me smile 
Go you! | |||
"Id block everyone and then read men's profiles and message the ones who caught my eye.. " A favoured approach | |||
"Oh go on then, I'll do day as Mekell and a day as FoolHardy. Be something akin to Freaky Friday
If you'll allow me free reign afterall "Careful with it though, it's my only body | |||
"Oh go on then, I'll do day as Mekell and a day as FoolHardy. Be something akin to Freaky Friday
If you'll allow me free reign afterall
Careful with it though, it's my only body "It'll be my mind that will win them all - however, once faced with constant rejection, being ignored, and harsh words I may need some aftercare in the form of warm drinks and soft furnishings. | |||
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"I wouldn't want to be a man on Fab. For all the annoying parts as a woman, at least there's something going on. I'd get bored and give up quickly if I wasn't getting any interaction back. " And that's when you find the forums | |||
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"It must be so easy being a woman I’d love the attention you get it’s a real kick in the dick " I wanna come on those fabulous tits I'm going to leave a handprint on your ass Love the collar, lead you round like an animal Yeah. It's wonderful being a woman here. | |||
"Oh go on then, I'll do day as Mekell and a day as FoolHardy. Be something akin to Freaky Friday
If you'll allow me free reign afterall
Careful with it though, it's my only body
It'll be my mind that will win them all - however, once faced with constant rejection, being ignored, and harsh words I may need some aftercare in the form of warm drinks and soft furnishings."I think that's sadly true for many guys here. | |||
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"I’ll do anything you like u obviously a filthy bastard like me I’ll fuck you like a dog whilst your making cow noises " Great advert for blokes that! Or are you trying to be ironic(doubt it) | |||
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"I’ll do anything you like u obviously a filthy bastard like me I’ll fuck you like a dog whilst your making cow noises " Might bring up objections from the RSPCA in the current climate... | |||
"It must be so easy being a woman I’d love the attention you get it’s a real kick in the dick I wanna come on those fabulous tits I'm going to leave a handprint on your ass Love the collar, lead you round like an animal Yeah. It's wonderful being a woman here. " I'll beat you like the dog you are When's it my turn hoe I got you dog food All recent messages. Happy fabbing all | |||
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"Absolutely not. I’m sam tender… why in the world would I wanna be anyone else? "So you could have sex with Sam Tender obvs | |||
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"It must be so easy being a woman I’d love the attention you get it’s a real kick in the dick I wanna come on those fabulous tits I'm going to leave a handprint on your ass Love the collar, lead you round like an animal Yeah. It's wonderful being a woman here. I'll beat you like the dog you are When's it my turn hoe I got you dog food All recent messages. Happy fabbing all " it disgusts me as a man reading these messages. | |||
"Absolutely not. I’m sam tender… why in the world would I wanna be anyone else?
So you could have sex with Sam Tender obvs"No thanks. I’ve seen the size of his beautiful penis in the flesh! | |||
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"I've done cold calling...I imagine it would be a bit like that "Pretty much | |||
"Technically I all ready do as I am in the middle " You show off!! | |||
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"I love this. Love to try it. I’d make a bad man lol x" Define 'bad'. | |||
"I love this. Love to try it. I’d make a bad man lol x Define 'bad'. "I’ll leave that to the imagination lol Even better if hubby turns into woman-I’d ruin him lol xx | |||
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"I’d hate to get abuse and/or loads of rubbish messages. I’ll stick to being me "Lol. So true. Some are nice though x | |||
"It would be interesting to see exactly what kind of depraved message you would get. I would imagine a lot of them would be full of nearly reportable obscenity. On the inheritance hand it would be a refreshing change for women to be using my inbox for a day - they'd have plenty time to relax and go about whatever they want to do with only the odd "i know your straight but...." guy offering services they don't require and messages from people they actually want to converse with." Christ my phone keeps letting me down - other hand turned into inheritance???? Mental | |||
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"It must be so easy being a woman I’d love the attention you get it’s a real kick in the dick I wanna come on those fabulous tits I'm going to leave a handprint on your ass Love the collar, lead you round like an animal Yeah. It's wonderful being a woman here. I'll beat you like the dog you are When's it my turn hoe I got you dog food All recent messages. Happy fabbing all "  | |||
"If the people on the forum are “not” the issue as we all send polite messages and know how to talk to people, who exactly is this meant to be a lesson for?" | |||
"I'd be too busy playing with my new willy to care." | |||
"I love this. Love to try it. I’d make a bad man lol x Define 'bad'.
I’ll leave that to the imagination lol
Even better if hubby turns into woman-I’d ruin him lol xx".
I don't doubt he'd love it. | |||
"If the people on the forum are “not” the issue as we all send polite messages and know how to talk to people, who exactly is this meant to be a lesson for?" ...just because I don't send abusive messages and harass women on fab, does not mean I understand what they are going through on this website. Just because a woman on the forums says she understands how tough it is for a man on fab, doesn't mean she knows what it feels like to be constantly ignored or rejected (even if you do send polite messages). | |||
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"It would be interesting to see exactly what kind of depraved message you would get. I would imagine a lot of them would be full of nearly reportable obscenity. On the inheritance hand it would be a refreshing change for women to be using my inbox for a day - they'd have plenty time to relax and go about whatever they want to do with only the odd "i know your straight but...." guy offering services they don't require and messages from people they actually want to converse with." You can see examples that Bellaseas and I have received on this thread. I think I would find it pretty depressing having messages ignored and deleted if I had a man's account. | |||
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"As a bi guy, I’ve got a good idea The low effort messages The gross messages The WTF messages And even when you find a good one, they just do stuff that makes you sigh in disgust Told a guy I would hook up with somewhat regularly that I had covid and was bed ridden Came back to like 30 messages in detail how he could come over and just use me if he wanted. How his balls were full and needed emptying I’ve got covid man. I’m literally just a piece of meat to you aren’t I? Couldn’t care less if I’m dying in bed, you just need to get your rocks off? I think that’s one thing straight guys never see. It’s gross " Yeeeeeew!!! Phwoar come on love, my balls need emptying. How could you refuse dude? | |||
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"On my singles profile I have, all I wanted to do was meet women. My inbox has never been so empty and my views were next to nothing, yes I sent winks and messages but rarely got a reply. Now I have opened it up to men too. Danish x " oh my god , you two are proper fit , yourself , has the type of bod that makes me perk , with a ‘oo helllo you.’ I can even see the attraction of himself hairy butt lol
I did consider putting this in a message to you but thought , meh bugger it I’ll write it here. Cheers for posting you’ve brightened my day .
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"As a bi guy, I’ve got a good idea The low effort messages The gross messages The WTF messages And even when you find a good one, they just do stuff that makes you sigh in disgust Told a guy I would hook up with somewhat regularly that I had covid and was bed ridden Came back to like 30 messages in detail how he could come over and just use me if he wanted. How his balls were full and needed emptying I’ve got covid man. I’m literally just a piece of meat to you aren’t I? Couldn’t care less if I’m dying in bed, you just need to get your rocks off? I think that’s one thing straight guys never see. It’s gross Yeeeeeew!!! Phwoar come on love, my balls need emptying. How could you refuse dude? " I know! So rude of me to have covid! How fucked up is it that not only was he willing to come over and “use me” while bed ridden He was willing to risk catching covid to do it! I’ve said it before on here Many men have no idea the amount of abuse and vile messages women get. Being treated like a hole. Like you owe strangers sex, or a reply, or a smile Many women will never know what it’s like as a single guy up walk down an endless corridor of closed doors. Never good enough, no replies, not even a wink. No message you send is ever good enough, no picture catches anyones eye. | |||
"I know it may not be as simple as this, but these threads are made up of the people from both perspectives right? In theory, the not nice folk probably won't be posting about these issues. IT will be the nice folk on here who are frustrated by the issues mentioned. Understandably, there's back and forth from people who want to defend their position. I think everyone is right. It's awful to feel like you're ignored and it must be shite for an inbox full of sleezy shitty messages too. EVERYONE is right! Maybe we could change it up a little? If you see someone saying they feel ignored, message them and start a conversation. Even if you don't fancy them, can still start a conversation. And if you see someone sick of shitty messages then ask them about their hobbies or some stuff. Might make a new friend and reassure that person that not everyone is a sleazy knobhead. Even if you're talking to someone you don't fancy, they will feel better, once you feel better good stuff starts to happen. YOu might notice that other person who messaged amogst the dick pics, or you might feel more confident about messaging that other person without the fear of rejection etc. Or I may just be talking complete dogshit but I've had coffee and can't stop typing " I love this, always happy to make friends and chat. | |||
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"I used an incorrect prefix so I have gone into the corner to cut off a little finger" SHAME! SHAME! SHAME! | |||
"There has been some back and forth lately, on the forum, regarding men not understanding how frustrating it can be as a woman on fab ( the hundreds of dick pics, the constant harassment in the messages, the abuse...), or vice versa how women don't understand what's it like as a man on fab ( being constantly ignored or rejected, never being good enough, not being anyone's type...). What if for 24 hours you could swap with a fellow fabster (of the opposite sex) so you can better understand what it feels like ...who would you choose? And what would you hope to experience? "I'll swap with you. You can tick my looking for men box and delight at the men who will fuck the manky type of woman who has a blank profile. | |||
"There has been some back and forth lately, on the forum, regarding men not understanding how frustrating it can be as a woman on fab ( the hundreds of dick pics, the constant harassment in the messages, the abuse...), or vice versa how women don't understand what's it like as a man on fab ( being constantly ignored or rejected, never being good enough, not being anyone's type...). What if for 24 hours you could swap with a fellow fabster (of the opposite sex) so you can better understand what it feels like ...who would you choose? And what would you hope to experience?
I'll swap with you. You can tick my looking for men box and delight at the men who will fuck the manky type of woman who has a blank profile. "Deal! Let's do it | |||
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"I absolutely hate this notion that people seem to have that all women on fab are inundated, all women are getting shitty messages and are annoyed by it and that all women can just click their fingers and get sex. And that all men are ignored and having a shitty fab time. It simply isn't true. Yes. There are some women who get hundreds of messages from men. There are some women who are offended by the majority of the messages they get. And there are some women who can click their fingers and have men falling at their feet. But there are some women who don't, aren't and can't. And hearing about "being a woman on fab means x,y,z" just makes those women feel like lesser beings (not all, I'm not arrogant enough to assume I can speak for all). And makes them feel like the messages they do get are because the men that are sending them are using them as a back up plan. As a desperate attempt to get their dicks wet. Which colours their reaction or non reaction to the messages they do get. I live in the arse end of nowhere. I'm in my 40s, fat, not that attractive unless I make an effort and take a picture from a flattering angle. My profile is offputting to most or many who read it. I'm not inundated by messages. I do get some, and I do get a lot of the type that seem to anger or upset several people, or bore them. I certainly can't get sex at the click of a finger. If I put a meet now status up I'd get a lot of messages..... from men who are far too far away to actually meet now ("if only you were in Glasgow/London/Timbuktu"). If I put a meet on in the meets section I get no responses. And I am absolutely fine with that. I'm also fine with the random requests to rip my arsehole open with the sender's massive cock, with the requests to take a dump on or in various parts of a body. The "nice tits", the "I'd destroy you", the "the things I'd do if I could get my hands on you" and the random fantasies. And the "Hi, how are you". Because it doesn't matter. The people (and those aren't just from the section called "men", they come from all the 4 sections) who send them are reaching out in their way. I have a choice to react or not, and they don't know if I'd react well or badly to their opener so more power to them for giving it their best shot. I've also many times been rejected. Abusively, sometimes horrifically so. Kindly, yes. And silently with messages being ignored. And it is disheartening when that happens. It reinforces my idea that I'm a bit shit and anyone who does send me a message saying they find me attractive is scr*ping the barrel. But that's on me and my insecurities. (I should note here that I am aware that some people do find me attractive and I thank them for making the effort to tell me enough and for long enough that I actually believe them now) There are more men who have a rough time of it on here than there are women. But a big part of that is because there are more men on here. And we read every day in the forum, in statuses and in profiles that "no one ever replies", "what do I have to do to get a shag" etc. Reinforcing the idea that men will shag anyone as long as it means they get a shag. And that idea doesn't help women or men. Moaning about it is unattractive, and devalues those women who do answer all their messages, as (those that would wonder) are left wondering what it is about them that makes them unworthy of a message from these men.... whether they want one or not. As is moaning about an overflowing inbox of "shite", about there being "no decent men" etc. It looks boastful, self aggrandising and is destructive to those men who are lovely, kind and decent, who are (in some cases) left wondering if their message ever got through, is it shite, are they not a decent man etc. I don't quite know what my point is. Except that I'm just tired of the moaning, the assumptions. The lumping all women into one homogenous blob,doing the same with men, ignoring that couples are two people (and that the message *you* consider shitty could just have well have come from the woman) and seeming to forget that TV/TS/CD is even a group on fab. Women (and the other 3 groups) are individuals with our own fab experiences. And I'd really like it if we were treated as such. Thanks for attending my TED talk, and sorry Mekell for going off on a tangent. Oh. And in answer to the OP, nah. I'd not exchange thanks. I've experienced that through male friends and purely through being me. But if I could swap bodies with a man..... now you're talking "Thoughtful, considered and insightful. Thanks Posh, I enjoyed reading this. x | |||
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"On my singles profile I have, all I wanted to do was meet women. My inbox has never been so empty and my views were next to nothing, yes I sent winks and messages but rarely got a reply. Now I have opened it up to men too. Danish x oh my god , you two are proper fit , yourself , has the type of bod that makes me perk , with a ‘oo helllo you.’ I can even see the attraction of himself hairy butt lol
I did consider putting this in a message to you but thought , meh bugger it I’ll write it here. Cheers for posting you’ve brightened my day .
"Thank you for the love! Nice tash! Danish x | |||
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"I absolutely hate this notion that people seem to have that all women on fab are inundated, all women are getting shitty messages and are annoyed by it and that all women can just click their fingers and get sex. And that all men are ignored and having a shitty fab time. It simply isn't true. Yes. There are some women who get hundreds of messages from men. There are some women who are offended by the majority of the messages they get. And there are some women who can click their fingers and have men falling at their feet. But there are some women who don't, aren't and can't. And hearing about "being a woman on fab means x,y,z" just makes those women feel like lesser beings (not all, I'm not arrogant enough to assume I can speak for all). And makes them feel like the messages they do get are because the men that are sending them are using them as a back up plan. As a desperate attempt to get their dicks wet. Which colours their reaction or non reaction to the messages they do get. I live in the arse end of nowhere. I'm in my 40s, fat, not that attractive unless I make an effort and take a picture from a flattering angle. My profile is offputting to most or many who read it. I'm not inundated by messages. I do get some, and I do get a lot of the type that seem to anger or upset several people, or bore them. I certainly can't get sex at the click of a finger. If I put a meet now status up I'd get a lot of messages..... from men who are far too far away to actually meet now ("if only you were in Glasgow/London/Timbuktu"). If I put a meet on in the meets section I get no responses. And I am absolutely fine with that. I'm also fine with the random requests to rip my arsehole open with the sender's massive cock, with the requests to take a dump on or in various parts of a body. The "nice tits", the "I'd destroy you", the "the things I'd do if I could get my hands on you" and the random fantasies. And the "Hi, how are you". Because it doesn't matter. The people (and those aren't just from the section called "men", they come from all the 4 sections) who send them are reaching out in their way. I have a choice to react or not, and they don't know if I'd react well or badly to their opener so more power to them for giving it their best shot. I've also many times been rejected. Abusively, sometimes horrifically so. Kindly, yes. And silently with messages being ignored. And it is disheartening when that happens. It reinforces my idea that I'm a bit shit and anyone who does send me a message saying they find me attractive is scr*ping the barrel. But that's on me and my insecurities. (I should note here that I am aware that some people do find me attractive and I thank them for making the effort to tell me enough and for long enough that I actually believe them now) There are more men who have a rough time of it on here than there are women. But a big part of that is because there are more men on here. And we read every day in the forum, in statuses and in profiles that "no one ever replies", "what do I have to do to get a shag" etc. Reinforcing the idea that men will shag anyone as long as it means they get a shag. And that idea doesn't help women or men. Moaning about it is unattractive, and devalues those women who do answer all their messages, as (those that would wonder) are left wondering what it is about them that makes them unworthy of a message from these men.... whether they want one or not. As is moaning about an overflowing inbox of "shite", about there being "no decent men" etc. It looks boastful, self aggrandising and is destructive to those men who are lovely, kind and decent, who are (in some cases) left wondering if their message ever got through, is it shite, are they not a decent man etc. I don't quite know what my point is. Except that I'm just tired of the moaning, the assumptions. The lumping all women into one homogenous blob,doing the same with men, ignoring that couples are two people (and that the message *you* consider shitty could just have well have come from the woman) and seeming to forget that TV/TS/CD is even a group on fab. Women (and the other 3 groups) are individuals with our own fab experiences. And I'd really like it if we were treated as such. Thanks for attending my TED talk, and sorry Mekell for going off on a tangent. Oh. And in answer to the OP, nah. I'd not exchange thanks. I've experienced that through male friends and purely through being me. But if I could swap bodies with a man..... now you're talking
Thoughtful, considered and insightful.
Thanks Posh, I enjoyed reading this. x "Same. | |||
"I'm sorry to anyone who has been upset by my long comment earlier. I didn't intend it to sound as angry and ranty as apparently it came across and I apologise for that. I took my hard couple of days out by speaking my mind in a flow of consciousness and it was a stupid and thoughtless thing to do, despite it being how I feel. There is a time and a place and this wasn't it." I like angry ranty, it gets the blood flowing!
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"I'm sorry to anyone who has been upset by my long comment earlier. I didn't intend it to sound as angry and ranty as apparently it came across and I apologise for that. I took my hard couple of days out by speaking my mind in a flow of consciousness and it was a stupid and thoughtless thing to do, despite it being how I feel. There is a time and a place and this wasn't it." No upset here Posh. Only respect. | |||
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"I'm sorry to anyone who has been upset by my long comment earlier. I didn't intend it to sound as angry and ranty as apparently it came across and I apologise for that. I took my hard couple of days out by speaking my mind in a flow of consciousness and it was a stupid and thoughtless thing to do, despite it being how I feel. There is a time and a place and this wasn't it." It's actually a pretty fair assessment and synopsis of life on fab and did need to be said without having to start an entirely new thread. Anything that reminds people not to generalise or tar particular groups with the same brush and start treating people as human beings rather than talking pussies and penises can only be positive. | |||
"I absolutely hate this notion that people seem to have that all women on fab are inundated, all women are getting shitty messages and are annoyed by it and that all women can just click their fingers and get sex. And that all men are ignored and having a shitty fab time. It simply isn't true. Yes. There are some women who get hundreds of messages from men. There are some women who are offended by the majority of the messages they get. And there are some women who can click their fingers and have men falling at their feet. But there are some women who don't, aren't and can't. And hearing about "being a woman on fab means x,y,z" just makes those women feel like lesser beings (not all, I'm not arrogant enough to assume I can speak for all). And makes them feel like the messages they do get are because the men that are sending them are using them as a back up plan. As a desperate attempt to get their dicks wet. Which colours their reaction or non reaction to the messages they do get. I live in the arse end of nowhere. I'm in my 40s, fat, not that attractive unless I make an effort and take a picture from a flattering angle. My profile is offputting to most or many who read it. I'm not inundated by messages. I do get some, and I do get a lot of the type that seem to anger or upset several people, or bore them. I certainly can't get sex at the click of a finger. If I put a meet now status up I'd get a lot of messages..... from men who are far too far away to actually meet now ("if only you were in Glasgow/London/Timbuktu"). If I put a meet on in the meets section I get no responses. And I am absolutely fine with that. I'm also fine with the random requests to rip my arsehole open with the sender's massive cock, with the requests to take a dump on or in various parts of a body. The "nice tits", the "I'd destroy you", the "the things I'd do if I could get my hands on you" and the random fantasies. And the "Hi, how are you". Because it doesn't matter. The people (and those aren't just from the section called "men", they come from all the 4 sections) who send them are reaching out in their way. I have a choice to react or not, and they don't know if I'd react well or badly to their opener so more power to them for giving it their best shot. I've also many times been rejected. Abusively, sometimes horrifically so. Kindly, yes. And silently with messages being ignored. And it is disheartening when that happens. It reinforces my idea that I'm a bit shit and anyone who does send me a message saying they find me attractive is scr*ping the barrel. But that's on me and my insecurities. (I should note here that I am aware that some people do find me attractive and I thank them for making the effort to tell me enough and for long enough that I actually believe them now) There are more men who have a rough time of it on here than there are women. But a big part of that is because there are more men on here. And we read every day in the forum, in statuses and in profiles that "no one ever replies", "what do I have to do to get a shag" etc. Reinforcing the idea that men will shag anyone as long as it means they get a shag. And that idea doesn't help women or men. Moaning about it is unattractive, and devalues those women who do answer all their messages, as (those that would wonder) are left wondering what it is about them that makes them unworthy of a message from these men.... whether they want one or not. As is moaning about an overflowing inbox of "shite", about there being "no decent men" etc. It looks boastful, self aggrandising and is destructive to those men who are lovely, kind and decent, who are (in some cases) left wondering if their message ever got through, is it shite, are they not a decent man etc. I don't quite know what my point is. Except that I'm just tired of the moaning, the assumptions. The lumping all women into one homogenous blob,doing the same with men, ignoring that couples are two people (and that the message *you* consider shitty could just have well have come from the woman) and seeming to forget that TV/TS/CD is even a group on fab. Women (and the other 3 groups) are individuals with our own fab experiences. And I'd really like it if we were treated as such. Thanks for attending my TED talk, and sorry Mekell for going off on a tangent. Oh. And in answer to the OP, nah. I'd not exchange thanks. I've experienced that through male friends and purely through being me. But if I could swap bodies with a man..... now you're talking "Well said | |||
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"I'm sorry to anyone who has been upset by my long comment earlier. I didn't intend it to sound as angry and ranty as apparently it came across and I apologise for that. I took my hard couple of days out by speaking my mind in a flow of consciousness and it was a stupid and thoughtless thing to do, despite it being how I feel. There is a time and a place and this wasn't it." I'm definitely not one for blowing smoke up your arse but I genuinely enjoyed reading it - it was authentic, heartfelt and true. It didn't read as ranty. It's what GC said earlier about the homogeneous group. I've never had an abusive message bar one directly relating to the forum. Never been turned down. Our (not you and I, NSP, the general our) experiences are so different as women. An individualistic approach is far better than a blanket one that unfairly and incorrectly describes the "reality" of a woman on here. Anyway, I hope your hard couple of days are over and things are on the up for you, the sooner the better. | |||
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"If I were the opposite sex on Fab I would probably be the village bike "This is true....... prob a Raleigh Chopper | |||
"I'm sorry to anyone who has been upset by my long comment earlier. I didn't intend it to sound as angry and ranty as apparently it came across and I apologise for that. I took my hard couple of days out by speaking my mind in a flow of consciousness and it was a stupid and thoughtless thing to do, despite it being how I feel. There is a time and a place and this wasn't it." Why apologise ? Fuck the sound byters ...... just fuck them. | |||
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"I'm sorry to anyone who has been upset by my long comment earlier. I didn't intend it to sound as angry and ranty as apparently it came across and I apologise for that. I took my hard couple of days out by speaking my mind in a flow of consciousness and it was a stupid and thoughtless thing to do, despite it being how I feel. There is a time and a place and this wasn't it." Don’t be sorry to anyone! You’ve not said anything to cause offence or upset. I think it’s brilliant and I think a lot of people respect your post it’s truthfully honest and raw. | |||
"I absolutely hate this notion that people seem to have that all women on fab are inundated, all women are getting shitty messages and are annoyed by it and that all women can just click their fingers and get sex. And that all men are ignored and having a shitty fab time. It simply isn't true. Yes. There are some women who get hundreds of messages from men. There are some women who are offended by the majority of the messages they get. And there are some women who can click their fingers and have men falling at their feet. But there are some women who don't, aren't and can't. And hearing about "being a woman on fab means x,y,z" just makes those women feel like lesser beings (not all, I'm not arrogant enough to assume I can speak for all). And makes them feel like the messages they do get are because the men that are sending them are using them as a back up plan. As a desperate attempt to get their dicks wet. Which colours their reaction or non reaction to the messages they do get. I live in the arse end of nowhere. I'm in my 40s, fat, not that attractive unless I make an effort and take a picture from a flattering angle. My profile is offputting to most or many who read it. I'm not inundated by messages. I do get some, and I do get a lot of the type that seem to anger or upset several people, or bore them. I certainly can't get sex at the click of a finger. If I put a meet now status up I'd get a lot of messages..... from men who are far too far away to actually meet now ("if only you were in Glasgow/London/Timbuktu"). If I put a meet on in the meets section I get no responses. And I am absolutely fine with that. I'm also fine with the random requests to rip my arsehole open with the sender's massive cock, with the requests to take a dump on or in various parts of a body. The "nice tits", the "I'd destroy you", the "the things I'd do if I could get my hands on you" and the random fantasies. And the "Hi, how are you". Because it doesn't matter. The people (and those aren't just from the section called "men", they come from all the 4 sections) who send them are reaching out in their way. I have a choice to react or not, and they don't know if I'd react well or badly to their opener so more power to them for giving it their best shot. I've also many times been rejected. Abusively, sometimes horrifically so. Kindly, yes. And silently with messages being ignored. And it is disheartening when that happens. It reinforces my idea that I'm a bit shit and anyone who does send me a message saying they find me attractive is scr*ping the barrel. But that's on me and my insecurities. (I should note here that I am aware that some people do find me attractive and I thank them for making the effort to tell me enough and for long enough that I actually believe them now) There are more men who have a rough time of it on here than there are women. But a big part of that is because there are more men on here. And we read every day in the forum, in statuses and in profiles that "no one ever replies", "what do I have to do to get a shag" etc. Reinforcing the idea that men will shag anyone as long as it means they get a shag. And that idea doesn't help women or men. Moaning about it is unattractive, and devalues those women who do answer all their messages, as (those that would wonder) are left wondering what it is about them that makes them unworthy of a message from these men.... whether they want one or not. As is moaning about an overflowing inbox of "shite", about there being "no decent men" etc. It looks boastful, self aggrandising and is destructive to those men who are lovely, kind and decent, who are (in some cases) left wondering if their message ever got through, is it shite, are they not a decent man etc. I don't quite know what my point is. Except that I'm just tired of the moaning, the assumptions. The lumping all women into one homogenous blob,doing the same with men, ignoring that couples are two people (and that the message *you* consider shitty could just have well have come from the woman) and seeming to forget that TV/TS/CD is even a group on fab. Women (and the other 3 groups) are individuals with our own fab experiences. And I'd really like it if we were treated as such. Thanks for attending my TED talk, and sorry Mekell for going off on a tangent. Oh. And in answer to the OP, nah. I'd not exchange thanks. I've experienced that through male friends and purely through being me. But if I could swap bodies with a man..... now you're talking "Wow well said that lady | |||
"Oh go on then, I'll do day as Mekell and a day as FoolHardy. Be something akin to Freaky Friday
If you'll allow me free reign afterall "Who would not allow you free reign | |||
"Oh go on then, I'll do day as Mekell and a day as FoolHardy. Be something akin to Freaky Friday
If you'll allow me free reign afterall
Who would not allow you free reign "Very good question, Mancunianjay1981. Probably someone sensible to be fair | |||
"I know it may not be as simple as this, but these threads are made up of the people from both perspectives right? In theory, the not nice folk probably won't be posting about these issues. IT will be the nice folk on here who are frustrated by the issues mentioned. Understandably, there's back and forth from people who want to defend their position. I think everyone is right. It's awful to feel like you're ignored and it must be shite for an inbox full of sleezy shitty messages too. EVERYONE is right! Maybe we could change it up a little? If you see someone saying they feel ignored, message them and start a conversation. Even if you don't fancy them, can still start a conversation. And if you see someone sick of shitty messages then ask them about their hobbies or some stuff. Might make a new friend and reassure that person that not everyone is a sleazy knobhead. Even if you're talking to someone you don't fancy, they will feel better, once you feel better good stuff starts to happen. YOu might notice that other person who messaged amogst the dick pics, or you might feel more confident about messaging that other person without the fear of rejection etc. Or I may just be talking complete dogshit but I've had coffee and can't stop typing " Love the sentiment - well said. | |||
