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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago
Wiltshire |
Seems a bit strange on her but any introverts here?
Used to be a lot more social for a few years but now I'm very anti social once again and really enjoy it now, before I used to think it was a problem and not having many friends growing up but now I'm best when I'm on my own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am. I love not having to meet up with friends, not being invited to hen do's or parties etc. I've saved loads of money to do things that I want to do, whilst also protecting my MH at the same time. Apart from 2 meets off here. I don't think I've met up with anyone outside of the immediate family in a few years. It's amazing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes very much so! That's the thing about society, it's so extroverted that people try to convince you your abnormal if you aren't the loudest or chattiest person in the room. I have days where I'm completely content not seeing anyone and with my own company. We are all different and that's okay  |
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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago
Wiltshire |
"I am. I love not having to meet up with friends, not being invited to hen do's or parties etc. I've saved loads of money to do things that I want to do, whilst also protecting my MH at the same time. Apart from 2 meets off here. I don't think I've met up with anyone outside of the immediate family in a few years. It's amazing "
Yeah I don't think I can deal with a social event now with too many people, sooner have a camp out in the woods on my own.
I have autism too so it all works together and only thing I get nervous about is going to a supermarket |
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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago
Wiltshire |
"Yes very much so! That's the thing about society, it's so extroverted that people try to convince you your abnormal if you aren't the loudest or chattiest person in the room. I have days where I'm completely content not seeing anyone and with my own company. We are all different and that's okay "
This exactly, I used to hate being dragged along somewhere when I was a kid and all I wanted to do was stay home and read or play on my computer  |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
I can relate to being introvert as I feel very 50/50, I swing from being introvert to yearning for lively company.Saying that the type of company is a key factor are there are so many negative folk it makes you want to avoid them at times, however, and this might sound cliche, I'm finding people on her I chat to and meet ring me out of introverted self, it's real life that's the problem LOL. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best place to be an introvert is on the forums. Not a single person to look at you and you can shout as loud as you like and do handstands in your pants. Not a single look your way. Woohoo! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m very much an introvert. I like my own company most of the time. I do occasionally like being sociable but I need time to recover afterwards with some quiet time and lots of sleep!
People can be exhausting. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Keep in mind introvert is not exclusively related to those who don't like to socialise.
It is also (and more so) about those who recharge while being solo and drain while around others vs those who gain energy from being around people.
You can be social as any "extrovert" but lose energy faster while in the company of people, while being a shy extrovert but your energy is not drained by them. |
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By *art123Man
over a year ago
Stoke |
"Seems a bit strange on her but any introverts here?
Used to be a lot more social for a few years but now I'm very anti social once again and really enjoy it now, before I used to think it was a problem and not having many friends growing up but now I'm best when I'm on my own"
This is a great post.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Keep in mind introvert is not exclusively related to those who don't like to socialise.
It is also (and more so) about those who recharge while being solo and drain while around others vs those who gain energy from being around people.
You can be social as any "extrovert" but lose energy faster while in the company of people, while being a shy extrovert but your energy is not drained by them. "
This describes me perfectly. I feel like I only have a certain amount of social hours in me per day, once it's exceeded I just don't have the energy for people. |
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"Seems a bit strange on her but any introverts here?
Used to be a lot more social for a few years but now I'm very anti social once again and really enjoy it now, before I used to think it was a problem and not having many friends growing up but now I'm best when I'm on my own"
Yes, hate large groups - hence why I tend to avoid clubs, which I'll admit tends to make things harder  |
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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago
Wiltshire |
"Introvert here. I’d happily wander as lonely as a cloud!
One of the reasons I no longer meet is because I just can’t be doing with putting myself through the first meet anymore."
I agree I don't think I can go through with a meet anymore, just no energy for people anymore. They're some nice people out there but I'm just not find of people in general now |
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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago
Wiltshire |
"Keep in mind introvert is not exclusively related to those who don't like to socialise.
It is also (and more so) about those who recharge while being solo and drain while around others vs those who gain energy from being around people.
You can be social as any "extrovert" but lose energy faster while in the company of people, while being a shy extrovert but your energy is not drained by them.
This describes me perfectly. I feel like I only have a certain amount of social hours in me per day, once it's exceeded I just don't have the energy for people."
It takes me days to decompress from people which others really don't get |
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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago
Gosport |
I am not a total recluse, but I could quiet happily exist as a hermit, I find large groups of people hard work.
Do others find that they whilst you can be good freinds with everyone present that as group size increases you get gradually edged out and essentially ignored/exclided or is that just me?
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"I am not a total recluse, but I could quiet happily exist as a hermit, I find large groups of people hard work.
Do others find that they whilst you can be good freinds with everyone present that as group size increases you get gradually edged out and essentially ignored/exclided or is that just me?
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Yes, one to one interactions are okay. Even small groups, but large gatherings where you don't know people. I think it's fear of the unexpected, drying up in conversation. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"Best place to be an introvert is on the forums. Not a single person to look at you and you can shout as loud as you like and do handstands in your pants. Not a single look your way. Woohoo! "
This is false advertising.
I can't do handstands in my pants 
I think what's been said previously is right. There are many, many introverts on the forums and we thrive here. Because we get the social interaction that we need without any of that horrific social interaction that is so terrifying and draining.
It takes a lot of psyching up for me to manage to be in a social situation and even more to recharge afterwards.
I don't like the out. That's where they keep the people. I'd rather stay mostly in and babble shite at you lot. |
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I am. People often don't believe me but I think people think it means you're quiet and shy all the time. Of course there are some who are but we're not all like that. I find too much socialising to be draining and I have a need for a certain amount of time on my own. I enjoy my own company and I prefer to work independently. I enjoy socialising but it is hard work for me and I do tend to enjoy smaller groups of close friends or one on one time over big groups/parties. |
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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago
Wiltshire |
"I'm an introvert. Hate people really.
But I have needs, and I tend to only engage with people who improve my life in some way. "
Yeah same here, only really engage with people for needs, shopping, sexual activity etc.
Personally I'd be happy stranded on a desert island with a monthly supply drop of food, meds etc and be content  |
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"I am. People often don't believe me but I think people think it means you're quiet and shy all the time. Of course there are some who are but we're not all like that. I find too much socialising to be draining and I have a need for a certain amount of time on my own. I enjoy my own company and I prefer to work independently. I enjoy socialising but it is hard work for me and I do tend to enjoy smaller groups of close friends or one on one time over big groups/parties. "
Yes I'm sure some people think I'm an extrovert. I do value some social contact, but it's great to just be on my own to recharge |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go through stretches of being like it, home the gates shut, intercom & mobile off and dont emerge for a week or so, however its not healthy for me it doesnt do my mind anygood so try to socialize, even if its going for a pint on my own and chatting to absolute strangers  |
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I am definitely an ambivet, I love socialising and being around people but other days I will just disappear down to coast to be on my own, miles away from any one else.
It just being able to have that time to recharge and carry on, research "spoon theory" it's quite interesting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd happily go back to the lockdowns.
I'm the most antisocial ever. But to be fair people are generally annoying.
They are. Few good ones though. "
A few sounds like an over estimation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems a bit strange on her but any introverts here?
Used to be a lot more social for a few years but now I'm very anti social once again and really enjoy it now, before I used to think it was a problem and not having many friends growing up but now I'm best when I'm on my own"
Same!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am. I love not having to meet up with friends, not being invited to hen do's or parties etc. I've saved loads of money to do things that I want to do, whilst also protecting my MH at the same time. Apart from 2 meets off here. I don't think I've met up with anyone outside of the immediate family in a few years. It's amazing "
Replaced them all with cute puppies... |
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