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"Lol I've literally just had a message which started with...Right auld yin, let's get it on!!!!! I was gobsmacked, did laugh though, I'm not ashamed of my age but .. auld yin !!!! "Cheeky Fecker  | |||
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"I have thought this exact same thing before my self Also for myself yes I would say it in real life but my first message are awesome "  | |||
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"Lol I've literally just had a message which started with...Right auld yin, let's get it on!!!!! I was gobsmacked, did laugh though, I'm not ashamed of my age but .. auld yin !!!!
Cheeky Fecker "Gotta laugh | |||
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"Couples can be equally as bad, I don't even meet couples but they all seem to think they can be the exception to the rule & as one told me yesterday, I get the best of both worlds if I changed my mind " I must admit, all the messages I've received from couples have been nice x | |||
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"I've decided some of them do and that's why they are festering on a website, complaining they can't get women to respond to them. " Some are just disgusting and vile x | |||
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"We got one the other day… “Hi darling I’d love to suck on your tits” Our profile says it’s the male half replying… Now I’m self conscious of my man boobs "He maybe likes them squishy | |||
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"Funnily enough I've just received one that made me think this exact thing "Nothing surprises me anymore on here...and then they wonder why they aren't getting replies. | |||
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"We got one the other day… “Hi darling I’d love to suck on your tits” Our profile says it’s the male half replying… Now I’m self conscious of my man boobs
He maybe likes them squishy "Squishy, hairy man tits. If he messages again I might let him motorboat them  | |||
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"Same here, why would you send someone such an overly sexual first message. I understand that it's a sex site but come on please. Ooooo maybe I'm a prude "I'm beginning to think I am. If a guy ever walked up to me in person and said some of the things I've received, he'd be picking his teeth up from the floor  | |||
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"I believe I would….but I’m the type of guy that tries to be polite, charming and witty in my opening messages….I get ignored….but that’s how it is when I’m chatting in real life " | |||
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"They're not meeting someone in person. They are addressing someone on a website full of spunked up genitals, sex menus, tits out, sex reviews. I don't think it's their fault if they assume that's how people want to be approached. " I tend to find it's the 20-30 year old bracket that send them. | |||
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"They're not meeting someone in person. They are addressing someone on a website full of spunked up genitals, sex menus, tits out, sex reviews. I don't think it's their fault if they assume that's how people want to be approached. " Good point | |||
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"Same here, why would you send someone such an overly sexual first message. I understand that it's a sex site but come on please. Ooooo maybe I'm a prude
I'm beginning to think I am. If a guy ever walked up to me in person and said some of the things I've received, he'd be picking his teeth up from the floor "Totally justified!!!  | |||
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"Also the ...what you wearing ones. Not even a hello lol. I laugh ,do they think women sit in there living room in sexy underwear 24/7 . I reply with the stark reality of life....cosy pj's "Lol...me too | |||
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"Lol I've literally just had a message which started with...Right auld yin, let's get it on!!!!! I was gobsmacked, did laugh though, I'm not ashamed of my age but .. auld yin !!!! "Definitely not an auld yin  | |||
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"And I always thought I was charming. "You are CG....I meant some guys, not all x | |||
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"They absolutely would not, some weird guys on here, you've got to wonder what is up with the women they manage to get through to" As they say, it takes allsorts to make the world go round | |||
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"P.s Not a man bashing thread...I just don't know what type of messages some women send, only going by what I receive sometimes x" Do women send messages now? | |||
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"Also the ...what you wearing ones. Not even a hello lol. I laugh ,do they think women sit in there living room in sexy underwear 24/7 . I reply with the stark reality of life....cosy pj's "What if they have a cosy PJ's fettish  | |||
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"Would you REALLY say some of the things you send in your opening message to someone in real life?? P.s Not a man bashing thread...I just don't know what type of messages some women send, only going by what I receive sometimes x" Weirdly I’m stuck in a hospital waiting room and - due to pure boredom - trying to re-educate a decent looking guy on the perils of sending faf messages and dick pics as a first message. I’ll let you know how I get on! | |||
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"Would you REALLY say some of the things you send in your opening message to someone in real life?? P.s Not a man bashing thread...I just don't know what type of messages some women send, only going by what I receive sometimes x Weirdly I’m stuck in a hospital waiting room and - due to pure boredom - trying to re-educate a decent looking guy on the perils of sending faf messages and dick pics as a first message. I’ll let you know how I get on! "Good luck with your mission. Hope everything is ok x | |||
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"P.s Not a man bashing thread...I just don't know what type of messages some women send, only going by what I receive sometimes x Do women send messages now? "I dont know.....do they??? | |||
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"Well no I’d definitely leave out the bit about six milk bottles and an egg whisk in the bedroom out. "The rubber chicken is ok though? | |||
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"They're not meeting someone in person. They are addressing someone on a website full of spunked up genitals, sex menus, tits out, sex reviews. I don't think it's their fault if they assume that's how people want to be approached. I tend to find it's the 20-30 year old bracket that send them." Some of us were brought up with better manners.  | |||
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"Yes I would. Why do you ask? What kind of things do I send women? " I've no idea what you send | |||
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"Yes I would. Why do you ask? What kind of things do I send women? " Yes pls can you send an example | |||
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"They're not meeting someone in person. They are addressing someone on a website full of spunked up genitals, sex menus, tits out, sex reviews. I don't think it's their fault if they assume that's how people want to be approached. I tend to find it's the 20-30 year old bracket that send them. Some of us were brought up with better manners. " | |||
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"This isn’t real life though "So is that an excuse to be disgusting and vile??? | |||
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"They're not meeting someone in person. They are addressing someone on a website full of spunked up genitals, sex menus, tits out, sex reviews. I don't think it's their fault if they assume that's how people want to be approached. Manners are free I tend to find it's the 20-30 year old bracket that send them. Some of us were brought up with better manners. " | |||
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"See I send a polite hi and stuff never abuse cos I want people see me for me not an idiot or abuser. But sometime comments get back omg lol " | |||
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"Well no I’d definitely leave out the bit about six milk bottles and an egg whisk in the bedroom out.
The rubber chicken is ok though? "Exactly | |||
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"Yes I would. Why do you ask? What kind of things do I send women? I've no idea what you send "Ahhh… sorry I just felt like the title include all men as if you knew what all men sent. My mistake | |||
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"We had one the other day saying...I d love to fuck a milf...I replied, you presume I m a mother? His reply...I hope they didn't ruin your pussy for me... Safe to say that's a definite no "Jesus H CHRIST. | |||
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 You wouldn't do that in real life! Whip it out before saying hello. We have the men filter on so this was from the male half of a couple. | |||
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"We had one the other day saying...I d love to fuck a milf...I replied, you presume I m a mother? His reply...I hope they didn't ruin your pussy for me... Safe to say that's a definite no "Did he ask why you turned him down? | |||
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"Yes I would. Why do you ask? What kind of things do I send women? I've no idea what you send
Ahhh… sorry I just felt like the title include all men as if you knew what all men sent.
My mistake "Where did I say "all" It was a general question. | |||
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"Would you REALLY say some of the things you send in your opening message to someone in real life?? P.s Not a man bashing thread...I just don't know what type of messages some women send, only going by what I receive sometimes x" I hope to treat the recipeint as a real person. Messages received range from witty & sophisticated to one word dreary. The worst is that your carefully crafted message sits perpetually unread as it drifts to eventual autodelete by the system. Q | |||
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"I was just thinking the same thing OP My block button gets a good workout lol " Mine is red hot | |||
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"We had one the other day saying...I d love to fuck a milf...I replied, you presume I m a mother? His reply...I hope they didn't ruin your pussy for me... Safe to say that's a definite no
Did he ask why you turned him down? "Ha no but also had a...giz a go on her...to which I replied saying woe you must get loads of meets with a message like that to which he said he did and could he have a go... beggars belief | |||
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"Yes I would. Why do you ask? What kind of things do I send women? I've no idea what you send
Ahhh… sorry I just felt like the title include all men as if you knew what all men sent.
My mistake
Where did I say "all"
It was a general question."You didn’t say all, but you didn’t exclude anyone either. You asked generally, so you asked everyone. Assuming you knew what all men send. Saying “not man bashing” then posting negatively about men in general is the same as saying “it’s just banter” when saying something horrible. It’s not a defence in my opinion. The same kinda post with genders reversed would get exactly the response I’m giving Just my 2c | |||
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"Yes I would. Why do you ask? What kind of things do I send women? I've no idea what you send
Ahhh… sorry I just felt like the title include all men as if you knew what all men sent.
My mistake
Where did I say "all"
It was a general question.
You didn’t say all, but you didn’t exclude anyone either.
You asked generally, so you asked everyone. Assuming you knew what all men send.
Saying “not man bashing” then posting negatively about men in general is the same as saying “it’s just banter” when saying something horrible. It’s not a defence in my opinion.
The same kinda post with genders reversed would get exactly the response I’m giving
Just my 2c "Thanks for your input. | |||
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"I was just thinking the same thing OP My block button gets a good workout lol Mine is red hot "Ok you two stop boasting ..! | |||
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"I was just thinking the same thing OP My block button gets a good workout lol Mine is red hot
Ok you two stop boasting ..! "Ha!! | |||
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"I was just thinking the same thing OP My block button gets a good workout lol Mine is red hot
Ok you two stop boasting ..!
Ha!! "Ha! | |||
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"I was just thinking the same thing OP My block button gets a good workout lol Mine is red hot
Ok you two stop boasting ..! "It's not a boast to be proud off | |||
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"Couples can be equally as bad, I don't even meet couples but they all seem to think they can be the exception to the rule & as one told me yesterday, I get the best of both worlds if I changed my mind " Ditto! | |||
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"I'm finding it really hard this week. Messages like "Can I cream pie your tits x" are just disgusting. Adding a fucking X makes me want to scream. I get lots of lovely ones which I aim to reply to but they're outnumbered atm. I have a date tonight with someone who sent me a nice intro message. This is why I don't switch off messages from men. Because they do lead to meets and they do lead to friendships and banter. But for fuck's same I'm not an object. "'Adding a fucking X'
Got to laugh at it though right? It's beyond comprehension and just mind blowing. | |||
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"Would you REALLY say some of the things you send in your opening message to someone in real life?" Yes...yes I would, although I rarely send an opening message | |||
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"I'm finding it really hard this week. Messages like "Can I cream pie your tits x" are just disgusting. Adding a fucking X makes me want to scream. I get lots of lovely ones which I aim to reply to but they're outnumbered atm. I have a date tonight with someone who sent me a nice intro message. This is why I don't switch off messages from men. Because they do lead to meets and they do lead to friendships and banter. But for fuck's same I'm not an object.
'Adding a fucking X'
Got to laugh at it though right? It's beyond comprehension and just mind blowing. "Yeah I today I don't have a sense of humour about it. I just feel shit. | |||
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"I had one a few months ago that said basically said they’d met my other half a while back and he’d “let” my OH fuck his girlfriend so… With the implication, to me, that it was now his turn and wasn’t overly pleasant when I said no. Amusingly I recently had a second one recently mention meeting my other half. He’s been on here over 10 years so if all the guys whose partners he’s played with feel owed a reciprocal “turn” it’s going to be interesting lol. " Many couples assume they should both get a 'go'/ 'turn'. Swapping of the women like sex bait. | |||
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"Yes I would. Why do you ask? What kind of things do I send women? I've no idea what you send
Ahhh… sorry I just felt like the title include all men as if you knew what all men sent.
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"I had one a few months ago that said basically said they’d met my other half a while back and he’d “let” my OH fuck his girlfriend so… With the implication, to me, that it was now his turn and wasn’t overly pleasant when I said no. Amusingly I recently had a second one recently mention meeting my other half. He’s been on here over 10 years so if all the guys whose partners he’s played with feel owed a reciprocal “turn” it’s going to be interesting lol. Many couples assume they should both get a 'go'/ 'turn'. Swapping of the women like sex bait. " Sorry, I should have been clearer. Both of these met my other half years ago. Long before I met him. | |||
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"I've decided some of them do and that's why they are festering on a website, complaining they can't get women to respond to them. Some are just disgusting and vile x" Agreed | |||
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"The thought has occurred to me why not just block all men and message the ones you want that way most of these types of messages will hopefully get filtered out " Simple solution you would think | |||
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"Well no I’d definitely leave out the bit about six milk bottles and an egg whisk in the bedroom out. "Not everyone has milk bottles these days. Do you supply your own or will cartons do? | |||
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"Would you REALLY say some of the things you send in your opening message to someone in real life?? P.s Not a man bashing thread...I just don't know what type of messages some women send, only going by what I receive sometimes x" Always start off polite and courteous until you know what the person you are chatting to likes. Everyone is different and its a skill to find out how someone likes their chat to go. | |||
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"Couples can be equally as bad, I don't even meet couples but they all seem to think they can be the exception to the rule & as one told me yesterday, I get the best of both worlds if I changed my mind " Agreed | |||
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"Couples can be equally as bad, I don't even meet couples but they all seem to think they can be the exception to the rule & as one told me yesterday, I get the best of both worlds if I changed my mind Agreed " And what's the connection? Men! | |||
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I'm having great giggles here | |||
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"The thought has occurred to me why not just block all men and message the ones you want that way most of these types of messages will hopefully get filtered out " Women shouldn't NEED to block all men! | |||
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"Also the ...what you wearing ones. Not even a hello lol. I laugh ,do they think women sit in there living room in sexy underwear 24/7 . I reply with the stark reality of life....cosy pj's "Same Sorts the wheat from the chaff. | |||
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"This isn’t real life though
So is that an excuse to be disgusting and vile???"I didn’t say that. | |||
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"I’d hate to see a men bashing thread if this isn’t one. I’m always polite in my opening message, I send it the same way as I would speak to a lady in a pub, cafe, or wherever else. I never anticipate getting a response as most just don’t bother anyway. I only ever message people who I think we have a near identical match in terms of interests on our profiles. " The question was would guys speak to woman in RL as the do on here.... What's man bashing about that???? | |||
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"I’d hate to see a men bashing thread if this isn’t one. I’m always polite in my opening message, I send it the same way as I would speak to a lady in a pub, cafe, or wherever else. I never anticipate getting a response as most just don’t bother anyway. I only ever message people who I think we have a near identical match in terms of interests on our profiles. The question was would guys speak to woman in RL as the do on here.... What's man bashing about that????" For once I don't think this particular thread is man bashing. Though it of course is open to it heading in that direction but that's not on you as the OP. It was a direct question presented to men. | |||
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"The thought has occurred to me why not just block all men and message the ones you want that way most of these types of messages will hopefully get filtered out Women shouldn't NEED to block all men!" No they SHOULDN'T have to but in the absence of a "block all men who send unacceptable messages" filter. What else is there, if you don't want to receive that type of messages? | |||
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"The question was would guys speak to woman in RL as the do on here.... What's man bashing about that????" If we can get some choice samples I’m happy to try them out at the MLS. Some times its not what you say, but how you say it! | |||
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"I’d hate to see a men bashing thread if this isn’t one. I’m always polite in my opening message, I send it the same way as I would speak to a lady in a pub, cafe, or wherever else. I never anticipate getting a response as most just don’t bother anyway. I only ever message people who I think we have a near identical match in terms of interests on our profiles. The question was would guys speak to woman in RL as the do on here.... What's man bashing about that????" I didn’t say you as the OP was man bashing, but come on, we can all see the comments. Lol To answer your question from my perspective, no, I wouldn’t, but I don’t speak to people like shit, make or female, unless they have opened by speaking to me like shit of course. Unfortunately, society (and fab) seems to be full of knobs. | |||
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"90% of the first messages I receive are: Hi. How big is it? I can honestly say that nobody has ever used that as an opener to me in a pub. " Unless referring to the bill for a round of drinks in London ... | |||
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"And all from the comfort of their wanking chariot. " | |||
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"I’d hate to see a men bashing thread if this isn’t one. I’m always polite in my opening message, I send it the same way as I would speak to a lady in a pub, cafe, or wherever else. I never anticipate getting a response as most just don’t bother anyway. I only ever message people who I think we have a near identical match in terms of interests on our profiles. The question was would guys speak to woman in RL as the do on here.... What's man bashing about that???? For once I don't think this particular thread is man bashing. Though it of course is open to it heading in that direction but that's not on you as the OP. It was a direct question presented to men. " | |||
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"Would you REALLY say some of the things you send in your opening message to someone in real life?? P.s Not a man bashing thread...I just don't know what type of messages some women send, only going by what I receive sometimes x" I have a strict "do not talk to women unknown to myself" rule with a rare caveat of friendliness if the mood takes me. Not that my messages on here are particularly egregious mind. | |||
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"I’d hate to see a men bashing thread if this isn’t one. I’m always polite in my opening message, I send it the same way as I would speak to a lady in a pub, cafe, or wherever else. I never anticipate getting a response as most just don’t bother anyway. I only ever message people who I think we have a near identical match in terms of interests on our profiles. The question was would guys speak to woman in RL as the do on here.... What's man bashing about that????" That might have not been your intention as you don't sate good or bad messages but the way you phrased your quest has left it open for others to interpret it as such. | |||
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They fall in to distinct categories.
The men who don’t know what to say or question why they aren’t getting a response….
The women who are questioning the motivations and the sense of the males sending the messages.
Then the mix of the most bizarre stuff that we receive.
I will admit to taking screen shots of some of my most amusing for my own amusement! | |||
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"The thought has occurred to me why not just block all men and message the ones you want that way most of these types of messages will hopefully get filtered out Women shouldn't NEED to block all men! No they SHOULDN'T have to but in the absence of a "block all men who send unacceptable messages" filter. What else is there, if you don't want to receive that type of messages? " Maybe some men should just stop treating women like pieces of meat. | |||
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"The thought has occurred to me why not just block all men and message the ones you want that way most of these types of messages will hopefully get filtered out Women shouldn't NEED to block all men! No they SHOULDN'T have to but in the absence of a "block all men who send unacceptable messages" filter. What else is there, if you don't want to receive that type of messages? " More peer pressure on men not to send messages for starters. And less of an expectation that this is an issue for women to manage, rather than men to change. | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!?" Flirty/flattering is good but some of the disgusting ones just turn the stomach x | |||
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"The thought has occurred to me why not just block all men and message the ones you want that way most of these types of messages will hopefully get filtered out Women shouldn't NEED to block all men! No they SHOULDN'T have to but in the absence of a "block all men who send unacceptable messages" filter. What else is there, if you don't want to receive that type of messages? Maybe some men should just stop treating women like pieces of meat. " As the father of two doughters I agree with you. But this conversation needs to be aimed at those men, no? | |||
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"Well no I’d definitely leave out the bit about six milk bottles and an egg whisk in the bedroom out.
Not everyone has milk bottles these days. Do you supply your own or will cartons do?"I am always happy to improvise cartons it is x | |||
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"The thought has occurred to me why not just block all men and message the ones you want that way most of these types of messages will hopefully get filtered out Women shouldn't NEED to block all men! No they SHOULDN'T have to but in the absence of a "block all men who send unacceptable messages" filter. What else is there, if you don't want to receive that type of messages? Maybe some men should just stop treating women like pieces of meat. As the father of two doughters I agree with you. But this conversation needs to be aimed at those men, no? "Which is why I asked the question... | |||
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"I’d hate to see a men bashing thread if this isn’t one. I’m always polite in my opening message, I send it the same way as I would speak to a lady in a pub, cafe, or wherever else. I never anticipate getting a response as most just don’t bother anyway. I only ever message people who I think we have a near identical match in terms of interests on our profiles. The question was would guys speak to woman in RL as the do on here.... What's man bashing about that???? That might have not been your intention as you don't sate good or bad messages but the way you phrased your quest has left it open for others to interpret it as such." That's on other people who fail to interpret the OP question, often times it says more about them than the person asking. I'm a huge anal freak when it comes to wording things to avoid confusion, and while it could have been worded differently, the question was still clear. People would have made it in to man bashing regardless of how the OP had said it. But again that is on them. Hell if the question was about women, at some point it would have descended in to a man bashing/men vs women thread. I read the question and responded appropriately above. Pretty much saying yes, I do say the things I say to others in an opening message. Because I'm polite in the first message as I am to others out in the world, I do t say anything I wouldn't elsewhere. I read the question and responded with the answer. | |||
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" As the father of two doughters I agree with you. But this conversation needs to be aimed at those men, no? "Actually it needs aimed at all men. Men like that don’t listen to women, but they do often listen to other men. If guys stopped laughing, even if it’s just polite and internally they’re rolling their eyes, at their pal making comments about the slag on the dance floor. Or actually told them they were out of order when they brag about not giving their bitch ex money for nails and hair (ie skipping child main ten episode) then less guys would do it. If it wasn’t socially acceptable to be a prick to women then it would be like d*unk driving - rare and come with social consequences. | |||
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Marvellous. Can you wait til tomorrow? I should have finished another two-pinter."Happy to I’ll start off now as my take some time in the milk float me thinks | |||
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"I’d hate to see a men bashing thread if this isn’t one. I’m always polite in my opening message, I send it the same way as I would speak to a lady in a pub, cafe, or wherever else. I never anticipate getting a response as most just don’t bother anyway. I only ever message people who I think we have a near identical match in terms of interests on our profiles. The question was would guys speak to woman in RL as the do on here.... What's man bashing about that???? That might have not been your intention as you don't sate good or bad messages but the way you phrased your quest has left it open for others to interpret it as such. That's on other people who fail to interpret the OP question, often times it says more about them than the person asking. I'm a huge anal freak when it comes to wording things to avoid confusion, and while it could have been worded differently, the question was still clear. People would have made it in to man bashing regardless of how the OP had said it. But again that is on them. Hell if the question was about women, at some point it would have descended in to a man bashing/men vs women thread. I read the question and responded appropriately above. Pretty much saying yes, I do say the things I say to others in an opening message. Because I'm polite in the first message as I am to others out in the world, I do t say anything I wouldn't elsewhere. I read the question and responded with the answer." I’d just like to point out, that although I do find it honourable you’re defending the OP, my intention wasn’t to start the OP had purposely started a man bashing thread, so my apologies if it did come across as that, and I hope that was cleared up in my response to the OP above. | |||
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"The thought has occurred to me why not just block all men and message the ones you want that way most of these types of messages will hopefully get filtered out Women shouldn't NEED to block all men!" Exactly - I'm really sick of this being suggested instead of - the men in question not being pricks. I don't want to turn off my messages. I like hearing from some men. I like making friends, and having good conversations. I like that someone may message whom I want to meet. Stop telling women what to do - we are not the problem. | |||
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"Would you REALLY say some of the things you send in your opening message to someone in real life?? P.s Not a man bashing thread...I just don't know what type of messages some women send, only going by what I receive sometimes x" I’ll give you an example: ‘Hi’ | |||
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" As the father of two doughters I agree with you. But this conversation needs to be aimed at those men, no?
Actually it needs aimed at all men.
Men like that don’t listen to women, but they do often listen to other men.
If guys stopped laughing, even if it’s just polite and internally they’re rolling their eyes, at their pal making comments about the slag on the dance floor. Or actually told them they were out of order when they brag about not giving their bitch ex money for nails and hair (ie skipping child main ten episode) then less guys would do it.
If it wasn’t socially acceptable to be a prick to women then it would be like d*unk driving - rare and come with social consequences. "In my opinion preaching to the converted doesn't make much of a difference, as they are already doing the things you expect them to do. But I could be wrong I don't hold a monopoly on bring right | |||
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" As the father of two doughters I agree with you. But this conversation needs to be aimed at those men, no?
Actually it needs aimed at all men.
Men like that don’t listen to women, but they do often listen to other men.
If guys stopped laughing, even if it’s just polite and internally they’re rolling their eyes, at their pal making comments about the slag on the dance floor. Or actually told them they were out of order when they brag about not giving their bitch ex money for nails and hair (ie skipping child main ten episode) then less guys would do it.
If it wasn’t socially acceptable to be a prick to women then it would be like d*unk driving - rare and come with social consequences. "Do you genuinely believe this will make any difference? That men - or people in general - only behave as they do because its socially accepted by their mates? I'm wondering what kind of people find it amusing to hang bags of dog shit on trees because as far as I can tell everyone condemns the behaviour but there's an awful lot of people who do it. I wonder if we made murder socially unacceptable it would stop? R@pe? Theft? Mugging? It's funny isn't it, the tiniest hint of a suggestion that a woman could do anything at all to influence the behaviour of her fellow humans is an outrage and an anathema to most commentators on here but it's perfectly OK to suggest that all men are responsible for the behaviour of all other men. This is true even though there is absolutely zero evidence to suggest any effect. I mean if we're blaming acquaintances why wait for adulthood? If behaviour is that easily controlled by everyone else why not blame mothers? Every man has one and if a mate calling you out on a joke is enough then surely to god a mother doing her job properly would mean boys don't grow up like this in the first place? Mr | |||
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"The thought has occurred to me why not just block all men and message the ones you want that way most of these types of messages will hopefully get filtered out Women shouldn't NEED to block all men! Exactly - I'm really sick of this being suggested instead of - the men in question not being pricks. I don't want to turn off my messages. I like hearing from some men. I like making friends, and having good conversations. I like that someone may message whom I want to meet. Stop telling women what to do - we are not the problem. " Exactly this | |||
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" As the father of two doughters I agree with you. But this conversation needs to be aimed at those men, no?
Actually it needs aimed at all men.
Men like that don’t listen to women, but they do often listen to other men.
If guys stopped laughing, even if it’s just polite and internally they’re rolling their eyes, at their pal making comments about the slag on the dance floor. Or actually told them they were out of order when they brag about not giving their bitch ex money for nails and hair (ie skipping child main ten episode) then less guys would do it.
If it wasn’t socially acceptable to be a prick to women then it would be like d*unk driving - rare and come with social consequences.
Do you genuinely believe this will make any difference? That men - or people in general - only behave as they do because its socially accepted by their mates? I'm wondering what kind of people find it amusing to hang bags of dog shit on trees because as far as I can tell everyone condemns the behaviour but there's an awful lot of people who do it.
I wonder if we made murder socially unacceptable it would stop? R@pe? Theft? Mugging?
It's funny isn't it, the tiniest hint of a suggestion that a woman could do anything at all to influence the behaviour of her fellow humans is an outrage and an anathema to most commentators on here but it's perfectly OK to suggest that all men are responsible for the behaviour of all other men. This is true even though there is absolutely zero evidence to suggest any effect. I mean if we're blaming acquaintances why wait for adulthood? If behaviour is that easily controlled by everyone else why not blame mothers? Every man has one and if a mate calling you out on a joke is enough then surely to god a mother doing her job properly would mean boys don't grow up like this in the first place?
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. " “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient | |||
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" As the father of two doughters I agree with you. But this conversation needs to be aimed at those men, no?
Actually it needs aimed at all men.
Men like that don’t listen to women, but they do often listen to other men.
If guys stopped laughing, even if it’s just polite and internally they’re rolling their eyes, at their pal making comments about the slag on the dance floor. Or actually told them they were out of order when they brag about not giving their bitch ex money for nails and hair (ie skipping child main ten episode) then less guys would do it.
If it wasn’t socially acceptable to be a prick to women then it would be like d*unk driving - rare and come with social consequences.
Do you genuinely believe this will make any difference? That men - or people in general - only behave as they do because its socially accepted by their mates? I'm wondering what kind of people find it amusing to hang bags of dog shit on trees because as far as I can tell everyone condemns the behaviour but there's an awful lot of people who do it.
I wonder if we made murder socially unacceptable it would stop? R@pe? Theft? Mugging?
It's funny isn't it, the tiniest hint of a suggestion that a woman could do anything at all to influence the behaviour of her fellow humans is an outrage and an anathema to most commentators on here but it's perfectly OK to suggest that all men are responsible for the behaviour of all other men. This is true even though there is absolutely zero evidence to suggest any effect. I mean if we're blaming acquaintances why wait for adulthood? If behaviour is that easily controlled by everyone else why not blame mothers? Every man has one and if a mate calling you out on a joke is enough then surely to god a mother doing her job properly would mean boys don't grow up like this in the first place?
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" In my opinion preaching to the converted doesn't make much of a difference, as they are already doing the things you expect them to do. But I could be wrong I don't hold a monopoly on bring right "You’re missing the point. It’s still very often socially acceptable in a group of makes to be misogynistic toward women. How many times have you pulled up a friend, relative or colleague for calling a woman a slag or commenting on her attire suggesting she’s up for it? Compared to how many times you’ve heard it I bet very few. Or how many times have you posted on the forums suggesting men stop being nasty to women compared to how many times you’ve suggested how women should deal with it… While men like yourself prefer preaching to women how to deal with it, rather than preaching to men not to do it, then there’s no pressure on the men to stop. Because Dave/Steve/Mohammed/Pete obviously agree because they just laugh and tell women not to wear that/post there/accept messages if they don’t like it | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient " Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. | |||
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" As the father of two doughters I agree with you. But this conversation needs to be aimed at those men, no?
Actually it needs aimed at all men.
Men like that don’t listen to women, but they do often listen to other men.
If guys stopped laughing, even if it’s just polite and internally they’re rolling their eyes, at their pal making comments about the slag on the dance floor. Or actually told them they were out of order when they brag about not giving their bitch ex money for nails and hair (ie skipping child main ten episode) then less guys would do it.
If it wasn’t socially acceptable to be a prick to women then it would be like d*unk driving - rare and come with social consequences.
Do you genuinely believe this will make any difference? That men - or people in general - only behave as they do because its socially accepted by their mates? I'm wondering what kind of people find it amusing to hang bags of dog shit on trees because as far as I can tell everyone condemns the behaviour but there's an awful lot of people who do it.
I wonder if we made murder socially unacceptable it would stop? R@pe? Theft? Mugging?
It's funny isn't it, the tiniest hint of a suggestion that a woman could do anything at all to influence the behaviour of her fellow humans is an outrage and an anathema to most commentators on here but it's perfectly OK to suggest that all men are responsible for the behaviour of all other men. This is true even though there is absolutely zero evidence to suggest any effect. I mean if we're blaming acquaintances why wait for adulthood? If behaviour is that easily controlled by everyone else why not blame mothers? Every man has one and if a mate calling you out on a joke is enough then surely to god a mother doing her job properly would mean boys don't grow up like this in the first place?
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient " Indeed. It’s a bit like the notion that a compliment is creepy, when it is from someone you don’t find attractive - but romanticised when it is from someone who you do find attractive. | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. " I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Indeed. It’s a bit like the notion that a compliment is creepy, when it is from someone you don’t find attractive - but romanticised when it is from someone who you do find attractive. " From someone I am talking to when I've made it clear I am interested vs the very first message from a stranger. Completely different scenarios. | |||
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" In my opinion preaching to the converted doesn't make much of a difference, as they are already doing the things you expect them to do. But I could be wrong I don't hold a monopoly on bring right
You’re missing the point.
It’s still very often socially acceptable in a group of makes to be misogynistic toward women.
How many times have you pulled up a friend, relative or colleague for calling a woman a slag or commenting on her attire suggesting she’s up for it? Compared to how many times you’ve heard it I bet very few.
Or how many times have you posted on the forums suggesting men stop being nasty to women compared to how many times you’ve suggested how women should deal with it…
While men like yourself prefer preaching to women how to deal with it, rather than preaching to men not to do it, then there’s no pressure on the men to stop. Because Dave/Steve/Mohammed/Pete obviously agree because they just laugh and tell women not to wear that/post there/accept messages if they don’t like it "Ok if that's how you see me then fair enough. | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. " Erm.. the intent of our comment was as an agreement with the OP's original statement.. | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? " Is it really so difficult to NOT send sexually explicit messages to strangers? Most people on this site manage it. | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. Erm.. the intent of our comment was as an agreement with the OP's original statement.. " I understand that. I was elaborating on what you said - sorry if what I said came off badly. | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? Is it really so difficult to NOT send sexually explicit messages to strangers? Most people on this site manage it. " In all likelihood most people on this site probably do send explicit messages to strangers. If one was to examine the stats. Given the number of threads like this I suspect it is the case. Personally, I only reply to messages. I don’t send them. | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? Is it really so difficult to NOT send sexually explicit messages to strangers? Most people on this site manage it. In all likelihood most people on this site probably do send explicit messages to strangers. If one was to examine the stats. Given the number of threads like this I suspect it is the case. Personally, I only reply to messages. I don’t send them. " Thats because there are more men than women on the site...so yes most (men) probably do. | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? Is it really so difficult to NOT send sexually explicit messages to strangers? Most people on this site manage it. In all likelihood most people on this site probably do send explicit messages to strangers. If one was to examine the stats. Given the number of threads like this I suspect it is the case. Personally, I only reply to messages. I don’t send them. " The first message. As it is the topic of the thread I didn't spell it out. But that's what I meant. | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? Flirty/flattering is good but some of the disgusting ones just turn the stomach x" As we feel, in what world would be different? Just basic manners!! X | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? Is it really so difficult to NOT send sexually explicit messages to strangers? Most people on this site manage it. " Like I said, depends on the profile. Some want you to get down to brass tax don’t they. We’re all different | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? Is it really so difficult to NOT send sexually explicit messages to strangers? Most people on this site manage it. In all likelihood most people on this site probably do send explicit messages to strangers. If one was to examine the stats. Given the number of threads like this I suspect it is the case. Personally, I only reply to messages. I don’t send them. Thats because there are more men than women on the site...so yes most (men) probably do." No it’s not. It’s because it’s a sex site. People A men and women are going to send explicit messages. My comment was not about who does it most, simply that it’s likely to occur. | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? Is it really so difficult to NOT send sexually explicit messages to strangers? Most people on this site manage it. In all likelihood most people on this site probably do send explicit messages to strangers. If one was to examine the stats. Given the number of threads like this I suspect it is the case. Personally, I only reply to messages. I don’t send them. Thats because there are more men than women on the site...so yes most (men) probably do. No it’s not. It’s because it’s a sex site. People A men and women are going to send explicit messages. My comment was not about who does it most, simply that it’s likely to occur. "Actually it is a swinging site....not a sex site | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? Is it really so difficult to NOT send sexually explicit messages to strangers? Most people on this site manage it. In all likelihood most people on this site probably do send explicit messages to strangers. If one was to examine the stats. Given the number of threads like this I suspect it is the case. Personally, I only reply to messages. I don’t send them. Thats because there are more men than women on the site...so yes most (men) probably do. No it’s not. It’s because it’s a sex site. People A men and women are going to send explicit messages. My comment was not about who does it most, simply that it’s likely to occur.
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? Is it really so difficult to NOT send sexually explicit messages to strangers? Most people on this site manage it. Like I said, depends on the profile. Some want you to get down to brass tax don’t they. We’re all different " Even though every single woman on the thread and every other one like it says they don't like sexually explicit messages as an intro? Sure. Ok. | |||
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"We had one the other day saying...I d love to fuck a milf...I replied, you presume I m a mother? His reply...I hope they didn't ruin your pussy for me... Safe to say that's a definite no "sorry that bad but was funny aswell. | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? Is it really so difficult to NOT send sexually explicit messages to strangers? Most people on this site manage it. Like I said, depends on the profile. Some want you to get down to brass tax don’t they. We’re all different " Very true....but some don't bother reading profiles! | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient " Our comment seems to have been taken out of context a touch.. We were wholeheartedly agreed with the initial statement of respect.. | |||
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"Odd that so many gents are having issues contacting and communicating with women here. I’ve never had an issue "It’s not odd when you read through the forums. Themes abound. | |||
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"Odd that so many gents are having issues contacting and communicating with women here. I’ve never had an issue
It’s not odd when you read through the forums. Themes abound. "I spend quite a bit of time in the forums | |||
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"Odd that so many gents are having issues contacting and communicating with women here. I’ve never had an issue "Apparently it's not the guys who have the issues....its us women, go figure | |||
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"We got one the other day… “Hi darling I’d love to suck on your tits” Our profile says it’s the male half replying… Now I’m self conscious of my man boobs "Hahahaha that’s hilarious!!! We’ve had a few of the “I’d love to suck em till you scream” type messages…… I mean you can….but I’m not that way inclined (am 100% NOT GAY MALE!!) | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. Erm.. the intent of our comment was as an agreement with the OP's original statement.. I understand that. I was elaborating on what you said - sorry if what I said came off badly. " It did. However apology accepted and we're on the same page x | |||
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"A fine line to tread, polite/boring Vs Flirty/flattering.. we all know why we're here, but really how do some get it sooooooo wrong!?!? It's not a fine line. Seriously - "hello how are you, I liked your profile, can we chat" OR "can I cream pie over your titx". It's not difficult. It's seeing women as humans that's the problem. Men who write the vile messages see women as objects for their sexual urges. Luckily there are LOTS of men who don't see women this way. “It’s not a fine line! Look at these 2 extreme examples from each side of the spectrum” I think you’ll find it is a fine line when not dealing with extremes. For example a writing out a little fantasy you had about someone could be a turn on the r vomit inducing, depending on the recipient Would a decent man write a little fantasy to a total stranger as his first message? I don't think so. I've had them written to me and it's after we've chatted, after he knows a little about me to judge what I may find a turn on. I’m terms of your list question. It depends on what it states in the profile surely. So, if that is what the lady or couple is asking for (and those profiles do exisit) then yes. But then do we get beaten down for doing that in the first message? Or do we go with the polite opener as we should if we were chatting in a pub, to then inevitably be shot down in a different thread stating we don’t read profiles? Is it really so difficult to NOT send sexually explicit messages to strangers? Most people on this site manage it. Like I said, depends on the profile. Some want you to get down to brass tax don’t they. We’re all different Very true....but some don't bother reading profiles!" That’s true, and it’s another issue I have seen a lot in the forums. I always read the profile in full and follow any instruction (if given) in any message I send. And quite often don’t even bother to message if there is even 1 single clear indicator that my message won’t be well received no matter how nice it is. The problem is that there is a lot of tarring with the same brush and it gets a little frustrating as a respectable person. | |||
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