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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone else think it would be better if fabs could do a swipe facility. Meaning that guys especially could see who has swiped for them as a single guy this site is awful
Definitely would be better fo  so many rejections aren’t good for peoples confidence. I know mines at an all time low at the moment due to the rejections.
What does everyone else think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. T isn't good either. I'd hate to swipe on somebody just because of their looks, speak to them and realise we're not a good match and have to tell them.
I much rather see how people conduct themselves on forums such as this or speak to them with no expectations. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope. T isn't good either. I'd hate to swipe on somebody just because of their looks, speak to them and realise we're not a good match and have to tell them.
I much rather see how people conduct themselves on forums such as this or speak to them with no expectations."
I agree in a sense but most of the time people don’t reply. I would be fine if someone had the decency to talk then say no . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some kind of match would be good before a message can be sent, that would save a lot of people being ignored/messages deleted/inboxes being bombarded."
Yeh I agree. There is only so much a guy can take lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some kind of match would be good before a message can be sent, that would save a lot of people being ignored/messages deleted/inboxes being bombarded."
Yes, I agree! Instead of me sending 20 messages to women that might not like me, I could send only 5 messages to those who thought I am hot and I would have a slightly chance to get a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another no from me.
Fab is a tough place for the single fella, you need to have a thick skin at times.
You have to consider that the ladies of fab have a huge variety of choice when it comes to guys here. And you also have to consider that only a very small % of those women are likely to find you attractive enough to want to have sex with, as well as be compatible on other levels.
I can only suggest that you manage your expectation levels. Delete your sent sent messages box, it can be a cruel mistress to your mind. Polish up your profile if you feel it doesn’t beat represent you.
A tinder style swipe left and right would be just as cruel.
How would a screen full of swipe left notifications make you feel any better? |
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I’d say the site works if you use all the tools available to you…
It allows you a space to sell yourself with a good profile and pics. To stand out from the crowd.
It’s gives you access to socials and club events so people can see you in person.
There’s cams too, to get noticed.
If everyone who isn’t doing well on here used these features I can safely say they would do much better than people who don’t.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tinder wasn’t a thing when I was last single so other than the swiping I have no idea how it works.
If no replies piss people off would they feel any better with no swipes for a prolonged period of time? |
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"Another no from me.
Fab is a tough place for the single fella, you need to have a thick skin at times.
You have to consider that the ladies of fab have a huge variety of choice when it comes to guys here. And you also have to consider that only a very small % of those women are likely to find you attractive enough to want to have sex with, as well as be compatible on other levels.
I can only suggest that you manage your expectation levels. Delete your sent sent messages box, it can be a cruel mistress to your mind. Polish up your profile if you feel it doesn’t beat represent you.
A tinder style swipe left and right would be just as cruel.
How would a screen full of swipe left notifications make you feel any better? "
This is spot on I just checked out your profile and its one of the best I've read in a while. the kind of profile would be accompanied by a no doubt well thought first message, which would regardless of a yes or a no get a response from me.
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I really don't get why people don't use the winks system more on here. Its the same as likes and if you get a returning wink then off you go, if not then just block/private note the profile so it doesn't come up in searches... |
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"Does anyone else think it would be better if fabs could do a swipe facility. Meaning that guys especially could see who has swiped for them as a single guy this site is awful
Definitely would be better fo so many rejections aren’t good for peoples confidence. I know mines at an all time low at the moment due to the rejections.
What does everyone else think? "
Why not just go on Tinder then ?
I hear you get as much, if not more sex on there. It has the facility you are looking for and therefore should ease your confidence issues.
This reminds me of all those people who tell me how fabulous their home country is, whilst living here.  |
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"Nope. T isn't good either. I'd hate to swipe on somebody just because of their looks, speak to them and realise we're not a good match and have to tell them.
I much rather see how people conduct themselves on forums such as this or speak to them with no expectations.
I agree in a sense but most of the time people don’t reply. I would be fine if someone had the decency to talk then say no . "
I reply to messages that have effort hey.. hi... how are you...she hot... messages are generally not getting a reply
Your efforts will be matched by ours
We have given lots of advice on presentation of what our idea of a better profile is on fab 20 dick picks tell me nothing except you have one
Mrs B
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really don't get why people don't use the winks system more on here. Its the same as likes and if you get a returning wink then off you go, if not then just block/private note the profile so it doesn't come up in searches..."
I've been here a short time and this is exactly how I've understood how the wink system should work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. T isn't good either. I'd hate to swipe on somebody just because of their looks, speak to them and realise we're not a good match and have to tell them.
I much rather see how people conduct themselves on forums such as this or speak to them with no expectations.
I agree in a sense but most of the time people don’t reply. I would be fine if someone had the decency to talk then say no . "
Why would they talk to you if they already know they wouldn't meet you? Women look at profiles. |
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I’d rather keep Tinder & here separate. At least here they have a verified verification system whereas on Tinder it’s easier to catfish someone or scam them.
As a single bloke though, it is hard, but I don’t have my expectations set astronomically high and would rather meet new people as friends and see where it goes. |
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Ideally it’s a good system
Currently fabs is a shotgun method. You fire off messages to profiles that take your fancy
Most of those messages go unopened
Most opened messages get no reply for various reasons
A good idea would be to have a swipe system like tinder. Except instead of notifying eachother of a match, a “yes” swipe would move that person into a priority message box
Priority message box is separate from your normal message box. So you could check this box 1st to see if any profiles that you said yes to have messaged you
Then check your normal mail box for everything else |
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"Does anyone else think it would be better if fabs could do a swipe facility. Meaning that guys especially could see who has swiped for them as a single guy this site is awful
Definitely would be better fo so many rejections aren’t good for peoples confidence. I know mines at an all time low at the moment due to the rejections.
What does everyone else think? "
I don't get the (for single guys this site is awful vibe at all)
I've never had anything but Craic and banter on here, then again I ain't trying to ride the whole site, suggest you don't rely solely on the Forums OP,
Head out into the wider Fab world and put in the leg work,, look after the legs and the willie will look after itself, my auld Gran used to say,,,  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that you’re low.
This may not apply to you of course but men need to be sure that they’re matching peoples stated requirements and preferences if they want less rejections.
We get a lot of cut and paste messages from guys way outside of our brief. |
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"I really don't get why people don't use the winks system more on here. Its the same as likes and if you get a returning wink then off you go, if not then just block/private note the profile so it doesn't come up in searches..."
Yep, I agree.
It essentially offers the same benefits as the swipe system.
I like it personally, and don't use it instead of a first message, but use it as a way of getting attention to my profile and not wasting mine or the recipients time with unwanted first messages (after all most people check the profile first anyway).
I just wish there was a way of turning it off so that we could only send them to people who use the feature. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. T isn't good either. I'd hate to swipe on somebody just because of their looks, speak to them and realise we're not a good match and have to tell them.
I much rather see how people conduct themselves on forums such as this or speak to them with no expectations.
I agree in a sense but most of the time people don’t reply. I would be fine if someone had the decency to talk then say no .
Why would they talk to you if they already know they wouldn't meet you? Women look at profiles. "
How long should I talk to someone before I say no? 5 messages? 10? Times that by dozens and dozens of guys and surely you can see why women don't do this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really don't get why people don't use the winks system more on here. Its the same as likes and if you get a returning wink then off you go, if not then just block/private note the profile so it doesn't come up in searches...
Yep, I agree.
It essentially offers the same benefits as the swipe system.
I like it personally, and don't use it instead of a first message, but use it as a way of getting attention to my profile and not wasting mine or the recipients time with unwanted first messages (after all most people check the profile first anyway).
I just wish there was a way of turning it off so that we could only send them to people who use the feature. "
Very few women check their winks though - they spend too much time dealing with messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear that you’re low.
This may not apply to you of course but men need to be sure that they’re matching peoples stated requirements and preferences if they want less rejections.
We get a lot of cut and paste messages from guys way outside of our brief. "
I think men do read profiles and send decent messages to women/ couples they really fancy.
They get no reply.
They read more profiles and send messages to those they fancy.
They get no reply.
They read more profiles and send messages to those they fancy.
They get no reply.
They read more profiles and send messages to those they fancy.
They get no reply.
They read more profiles and send messages to those they fancy.
They get no reply.
They read more profiles and send messages to those they fancy.
They get no reply.
They message anyone online in a 500 mile radius.
They get no reply.
Then they get pissed off. |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
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"Some kind of match would be good before a message can be sent, that would save a lot of people being ignored/messages deleted/inboxes being bombarded."
Would it, or would it mean some just swipe right on everybody until they get a match then review if they wish to remain a match.
Thats usually how the tinda game is played.
Right swipe swipe swipe swipe, match, nah unmatch, right swipe swipe swipe swipe. |
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By *haggydogMan
over a year ago
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As a guy, you do need to have thick skin on fab. But if it effects you in a negative way take some time out.
If you're just here looking for sex, then most guys will end up disappointed. There's more to it than that.
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"I really don't get why people don't use the winks system more on here. Its the same as likes and if you get a returning wink then off you go, if not then just block/private note the profile so it doesn't come up in searches..."
9 times out of 10, a couple or single female has winked me, as their opener. It’s very rare to receive an actual first message as a single guy in here, just the same as being a single guy in a club, you have to put the effort in, nothing comes to you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ideally it’s a good system
Currently fabs is a shotgun method. You fire off messages to profiles that take your fancy
Most of those messages go unopened
Most opened messages get no reply for various reasons
A good idea would be to have a swipe system like tinder. Except instead of notifying eachother of a match, a “yes” swipe would move that person into a priority message box
Priority message box is separate from your normal message box. So you could check this box 1st to see if any profiles that you said yes to have messaged you
Then check your normal mail box for everything else "
That wouldn’t work - women get inundated with messages and a second message box would just be an overload. |
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"Some kind of match would be good before a message can be sent, that would save a lot of people being ignored/messages deleted/inboxes being bombarded.
Would it, or would it mean some just swipe right on everybody until they get a match then review if they wish to remain a match.
Thats usually how the tinda game is played.
Right swipe swipe swipe swipe, match, nah unmatch, right swipe swipe swipe swipe."
Apparently, Men swipe right 70%+ of the time whilst Women only about 30%. This results in women being swamped with potential matches and a small group of elite males being sought after.
The sought after males then just go from match to match having sex and moving on. They become more and more self-involved and as a result women have a poor experience.
Now, this sounds a lot like Fab, but at least Fab is honest about it.
If the wink system was used as such it would do little. The problem is you can't wunk those who have blocked your category.
However, if you could wink, not message, members who have blocked men etc. then it would allow a similar experience.
So a woman could block messages but still be able to see if someone liked her via winks.
She then winks back and comms can be opened.
She has a quiet inbox, feels less pressure, but is still able to sit with a glass of wine and see who she fancies...that fancies her.
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"Ideally it’s a good system
Currently fabs is a shotgun method. You fire off messages to profiles that take your fancy
Most of those messages go unopened
Most opened messages get no reply for various reasons
A good idea would be to have a swipe system like tinder. Except instead of notifying eachother of a match, a “yes” swipe would move that person into a priority message box
Priority message box is separate from your normal message box. So you could check this box 1st to see if any profiles that you said yes to have messaged you
Then check your normal mail box for everything else
That wouldn’t work - women get inundated with messages and a second message box would just be an overload."
Your message only goes into the priority box if they liked you
So your priority box would only be messages from guys that you’ve swiped “yes” to
Is that clearer? Why wouldn’t that work? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ideally it’s a good system
Currently fabs is a shotgun method. You fire off messages to profiles that take your fancy
Most of those messages go unopened
Most opened messages get no reply for various reasons
A good idea would be to have a swipe system like tinder. Except instead of notifying eachother of a match, a “yes” swipe would move that person into a priority message box
Priority message box is separate from your normal message box. So you could check this box 1st to see if any profiles that you said yes to have messaged you
Then check your normal mail box for everything else
That wouldn’t work - women get inundated with messages and a second message box would just be an overload.
Your message only goes into the priority box if they liked you
So your priority box would only be messages from guys that you’ve swiped “yes” to
Is that clearer? Why wouldn’t that work? "
Because most women on Fab don’t actively look for men so wouldn’t be interested to swipe. I’m more mature than many women on Fab and have particular requirements but I still get messages every day. If I stay online reading the Forum I get lots of messages. When I returned to Fab last summer after a 2 year break I got over 120 messages in 24 hours. It becomes overwhelming and the younger “hot” women on Fab probably get that number or more every single day.
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"Ideally it’s a good system
Currently fabs is a shotgun method. You fire off messages to profiles that take your fancy
Most of those messages go unopened
Most opened messages get no reply for various reasons
A good idea would be to have a swipe system like tinder. Except instead of notifying eachother of a match, a “yes” swipe would move that person into a priority message box
Priority message box is separate from your normal message box. So you could check this box 1st to see if any profiles that you said yes to have messaged you
Then check your normal mail box for everything else
That wouldn’t work - women get inundated with messages and a second message box would just be an overload.
Your message only goes into the priority box if they liked you
So your priority box would only be messages from guys that you’ve swiped “yes” to
Is that clearer? Why wouldn’t that work?
Because most women on Fab don’t actively look for men so wouldn’t be interested to swipe. I’m more mature than many women on Fab and have particular requirements but I still get messages every day. If I stay online reading the Forum I get lots of messages. When I returned to Fab last summer after a 2 year break I got over 120 messages in 24 hours. It becomes overwhelming and the younger “hot” women on Fab probably get that number or more every single day.
Fab could be the equivalent of a full time job if you let it "
I’m still confused why you think it wouldn’t work
No one’s being forced to swipe to message
It would just be an extra feature that helps people that want a more tailored, separate mailbox |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"I really don't get why people don't use the winks system more on here. Its the same as likes and if you get a returning wink then off you go, if not then just block/private note the profile so it doesn't come up in searches..."
Exactly this!!
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else think it would be better if fabs could do a swipe facility. Meaning that guys especially could see who has swiped for them as a single guy this site is awful
Definitely would be better fo so many rejections aren’t good for peoples confidence. I know mines at an all time low at the moment due to the rejections.
What does everyone else think? I don't get the (for single guys this site is awful vibe at all)
I've never had anything but Craic and banter on here, then again I ain't trying to ride the whole site, suggest you don't rely solely on the Forums OP,
Head out into the wider Fab world and put in the leg work,, look after the legs and the willie will look after itself, my auld Gran used to say,,, "
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By *haggydogMan
over a year ago
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"I really don't get why people don't use the winks system more on here. Its the same as likes and if you get a returning wink then off you go, if not then just block/private note the profile so it doesn't come up in searches..."
A lot of people just ignore winks. Many state they will not respond to them on their profiles. I've received winks from some who state they ignore winkers.
It's all part of the fab experience for us guys.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't really see how swiping and matching on looks alone makes Tinder better. I've had plenty of matches on there only to discover we have nothing in common when we've started chatting, or they are a catfish, lying etc People also leave matches sat there and work their way through them gradually like a hit list. I prefer fab personally. "
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"Another no from me.
Fab is a tough place for the single fella, you need to have a thick skin at times.
You have to consider that the ladies of fab have a huge variety of choice when it comes to guys here. And you also have to consider that only a very small % of those women are likely to find you attractive enough to want to have sex with, as well as be compatible on other levels.
I can only suggest that you manage your expectation levels. Delete your sent sent messages box, it can be a cruel mistress to your mind. Polish up your profile if you feel it doesn’t beat represent you.
A tinder style swipe left and right would be just as cruel.
How would a screen full of swipe left notifications make you feel any better?
This is spot on I just checked out your profile and its one of the best I've read in a while. the kind of profile would be accompanied by a no doubt well thought first message, which would regardless of a yes or a no get a response from me.
Sweet "
I always look at men's profiles which get favourable comments. It's a good way to get ideas and tweak my own.
Sorry Keyser, I was just perving you for your erudite prose |
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