Did you become sexually confident/comfortable?
I had an issue with the size of my man hood for years thinking every other man out there would be bigger and better etc but ive come to realise i have enough to please and nothing to be ashamed of.
Also since hitting my 30s ive become morw confident in what i like and not afraid to express it with new partners. |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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Late 20s when I realised my own worth, fucked off toxic people from my life and started exploring my sexuality more. It’s been a liberating 10yrs so far and I have no desire to change.
I’m a confident woman who loves sex and I finally see there’s nothing wrong with being that way despite years of feeling suppressed x
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over a year ago
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Probably in my mid 20’s. I’ve always carried a bit extra weight and was self conscious about my man boobs. I started going to the gym and didn’t lose much fat but gained muscle and feel a lot better about myself.
I’ve never really been bothered by the size of my penis but since going to clubs I’ve realised that the massive ones are actually quite rare. So I’m a lot more confident about my size. |
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Great responses so far. Ive found it very liberating since becoming comfortable with who i am and what i like.
By no means do i think im gods gift and could sleep with who i want but the ones i do im confident i can offer something which i didnt feel i could before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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About 28, to be honest is was the older women I were meeting up with at the time helped. They didn’t give a shit and that helped me not to care too, changed the way I think of women also. Great experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you become sexually confident/comfortable?
I had an issue with the size of my man hood for years thinking every other man out there would be bigger and better etc but ive come to realise i have enough to please and nothing to be ashamed of.
Also since hitting my 30s ive become morw confident in what i like and not afraid to express it with new partners."
Started to get sexually attractive I think when I was 27... 
Confident only couple of years ago.
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At around 25 I just figured out how to pull. Had a few mad years of pulling every weekend, multiple times a week, which lead me to being very comfortable with myself sexually
Then towards the end of that I had a long term FWB that took the time to teach me loads. How to give good oral was big. That’s when I was confident. As I was comfortable with myself, but I could back it up with a good performance
So I’d say around 29ish |
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"I was invisible for 49 years. Then I became visible.
Good to hear mate, what made you visible?"
Complete and total burnout from being the glue that held everyone else's lives together and then deciding I had to do me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Between mid and late 20s; I was in great shape physically and mentally and it showed sexually.
Then I got old, fat and unfit and it went away again. D’oh!!! "
Lol sorry buddy made me laugh 
Still not too late to get yourself that confidence again and work on yourself where needed  |
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Mid/late thirties x became more accepting of my body, more open to trying new things and a sudden realisation that life is very short so enjoy all you can While you can x ill take very few regrets to my grave x |
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
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"Between mid and late 20s; I was in great shape physically and mentally and it showed sexually.
Then I got old, fat and unfit and it went away again. D’oh!!!
Lol sorry buddy made me laugh
Still not too late to get yourself that confidence again and work on yourself where needed "
Unfortunately, ‘bakery’ comes before ‘gym’ in the dictionary and I like order. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure I am yet. I mean, I'm confident in my body. I don't like some parts of it but I know there's no point dwelling on that fact. Or the fact I'm covered in stretch marks, wobbly bits, dimples. If everyone started walking around naked tomorrow I'd have no problems doing so. But yeah, society's expectations are still ingrained and I don't think that will disappear for generations yet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happened for me in my mid-twenties. I had the somewhat mixed fortunes of meeting my first adventurous partner - very much my first foray into any kind of kink. He gave me a confidence that never left.
I say mixed fortunes because he went on to cheat on me but, thankfully, I saw that for what it was and continued to blossom and explore. I'm still grateful to him for the eye-opening experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Early twenties, I joined Fab and some other sites and apps, then realised that I am wanted by at least some. After having casual sex with a lot of people I'm now very comfortable with myself sexually. But I've lost some confidence again after gaining weight xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually comfortable, I’d say maybe 3-4 years x 
A little young don’t you think?
No kink shaming, but if someone’s sexually comfortable at 3-4 I’d have questions "
As in identity maybe? |
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"Sexually comfortable, I’d say maybe 3-4 years x
A little young don’t you think?
No kink shaming, but if someone’s sexually comfortable at 3-4 I’d have questions
As in identity maybe? "
Or 3-4 years ago? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine has been like a rollercoaster and it’s very much linked to my body confidence.
I was really sexually confident in my 20s then it took a huge dip as a result of some toxic relationships.
It crept back about 3 years ago. Fab and the people I met here played a big part in that.
But recently after having a baby I’m finding it’s dwindled again. It will come back though  |
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"Mine has been like a rollercoaster and it’s very much linked to my body confidence.
I was really sexually confident in my 20s then it took a huge dip as a result of some toxic relationships.
It crept back about 3 years ago. Fab and the people I met here played a big part in that.
But recently after having a baby I’m finding it’s dwindled again. It will come back though "
You look lovely and sexy mums are the best  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mid to late 40's after my divorce and finding fab and like minded people, before that i kind of thought it was wrong think about sex so much lol
More stable now though |
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To be honest I probably had the most confidence when I first started exploring. The guys were generally nervous but excited and happy to let me take the lead and show them what I wanted or we learnt and explored together. As I and they got older, they got more demanding, more judgemental, more arrogant and often more selfish. I feel like I'm coming out of the other side now and many experience now and things seem to be getting better as I and the men I sleep with get older but I guess even with the nicest person, there's always going to be a bit more pressure than when you were both inexperienced so there were no expectations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually comfortable, I’d say maybe 3-4 years x
A little young don’t you think?
No kink shaming, but if someone’s sexually comfortable at 3-4 I’d have questions "
3-4 years ago  I thought I wrote ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually comfortable, I’d say maybe 3-4 years x
A little young don’t you think?
No kink shaming, but if someone’s sexually comfortable at 3-4 I’d have questions
3-4 years ago I thought I wrote ago
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Phew you kept them in suspense a long time |
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Sounds daft, but I don't think I (Mrs) have ever not been sexually confident. Before we started to dabble in swinging, I'd been in a monogamous relationship with Mr KC since we were 17 and 18 and very confident with him from the start. I'd had two previous boyfriends with whom there was some level of sexual involvement and again, didn't lack confidence.
I was in my early 20s when I started exploring the non vanilla world with Mr KC more but that was more due to natural evolution of our relationship than anything else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine's now and I've loved every minute of it, it's been a roller coaster year and I've done things I'd never dreamed of doing. I'm hoping for many more experiences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say that I've never really been confident in my body or sexually but I've learnt to accept compliments over the last few years. Size is generally an issue to most guys and its certainly held me back over the years  |
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By *oc1998Man
over a year ago
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Like 19 or 20. Up until I was nearly 18, I thought I was average in length. Then when I hit 19 or 20, more and more women were telling me they were truely enjoying themselves. Thanks to that, I am confident in both my body and skills |
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Around 36-37 so about 8 years ago when I started swinging but I wouldn’t say I wasn’t confident I was just inexperienced as I’d been with my husband for 25 years up until then and only slept with 5 guys before him as soon as we started swinging I took of like a rocket |
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