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By *acob90D OP Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Hi guys,
My partner and I are booked to attend our first club visit (and first swinging experience) so it's all new to us.
We've read some articles online to gather some info but I expect the best advice will be from couples who have been through this themselves.
So, what can we expect regarding nerves, how people treat newbies etc?
We definitely want Mrs to try another man albeit we are of course just going to see how it goes.
What were your first club experiences? Do you recommend a club for a first time over a private meet with someone?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's always nerve wracking taking that first step but most clubs are always friendly and very welcoming. Just go at your own pace, only do what your comfortable with and most importantly have fun! Treat it as a social only to meet new people, then if you have fun it's a bonus. If not, there's always next time.
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I practically had to shove Mrs Misfit through the door on her first visit (I'd been to clubs as a single beforehand). I knew she would love it and she did. She was so at home very quickly her first time. Now she's racked up more hours in clubs that me and happy to go alone too. Club are absolutely nothing to be worried about. Out of all the first times couples we've seen in clubs over the years I've seen no more than two couples not like it and go home. Most love it and keep coming. So in such basic terms statistically chances are you'll enjoy it. Its a good night out whatever you do or don't do. Clubs are really safe and friendly places to visit.
It's good to talk before hand about your expectations but please go with an open mind and without pressure of expectations first time. Every club is different and every night is different (because the people there change from night to night). And make sure you look at the club website or ring for the right information such as dress, payment, drinks etc so your prepared when you arrive (it's a few less things to be anxious about). Also tell the staff it's your first time and they will show you around, help you settle in and maybe even introduce you to some people.
We think clubs are far better for meeting new people than private meets. On a private meet you invest loads of time talking/arranging and then take a night out of your free time to meet one person/couple and it can all go tits up and be a waste of time. A club you just go and it can be like adult speed dating. You get to meet lots of people and know pretty quickly who will work for you and who won't. Those that don't float your boat you can move on from. And when you find those that do float your boat you have the on site facilities to take it further then and there. And also the opportunity of a few encounters with different people on the same night. Plus you get to meet people though people and experience the wider real world swinger scene (and not all people on the scene are on fab). So it's hassle free, risk free and with far more opportunities. Far better than chancing private meets IMO. |
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