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Sex is nice and all that but I feel like I'm in a minority on here (especially as a man) as I don't spend really any time trying to have sex through this site.
Yes, like everyone else, it was a major part of why I signed up to the website but the more I think about it, the more I find myself just coming here for a bit of debate, a few laughs, to make some friends and maybe a bit flirt.
I think I forgot
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hear you man……since the C word came along things have obviously changed and I try see the positive in it and it’s this site. I’ve spoken to loads of people about all sorts of things and made a few friends via KIK/Skype etc just here to have some fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree OP, sex is never an endgame or objective, like to have a laugh or several while getting to know someone, if it leads to sex great, if not then friendship is great too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree OP, sex is never an endgame or objective, like to have a laugh or several while getting to know someone, if it leads to sex great, if not then friendship is great too "
or even cake!!  |
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The sheer amount of luck needed to even get a message opened + a much smaller user base than similar apps made me decide to stop searching on here long ago
Just the forums for me now unless someone messages me 1st with something very tempting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whilst it would be a kinda dull place to spend some time without the forums, I probably wouldn't hang around if there was never any prospect of some sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree OP, sex is never an endgame or objective, like to have a laugh or several while getting to know someone, if it leads to sex great, if not then friendship is great too
or even cake!! "
Cake with a friend? Even better  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Whilst it would be a kinda dull place to spend some time without the forums, I probably wouldn't hang around if there was never any prospect of some sex "
I sometimes wonder why some people stick around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The sheer amount of luck needed to even get a message opened + a much smaller user base than similar apps made me decide to stop searching on here long ago
Just the forums for me now unless someone messages me 1st with something very tempting. "
Idk mate, your bod is exactly the kinda bod I like on a guy, it would be hard not to open a message  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same here. My wife and I initially set up a couples profile in December 2020, in the hope that a) Covid would soon be on its way out, and b) we would be able to find a suitable, reliable man for MFM.
We were let down on both counts, but I’ve come back - while my wife watches with interest and some scepticism - to sound people out in a more indirect way, and to enjoy some fun conversations. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"I sometimes wonder why some people stick around. "
Exactly. I’m all about that vagine!
The forums are just a cheap trip to the zoo most days, you get to point and laugh at all the animals doing stupid things! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I sometimes wonder why some people stick around.
Exactly. I’m all about that vagine!
The forums are just a cheap trip to the zoo most days, you get to point and laugh at all the animals doing stupid things!"
Lmao such an apt analogy |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
I’ve had a horrible couple of years and had my confidence knocked to shit and my libido took a massive crash with it. I’m trying to get myself back together but I really haven’t got enough confidence back to start meeting again yet. I don’t want to waste anyone’s time so put my filters up to stop most messages and make it clear on my profile I’m not meeting new people. I don’t mind messages from forum threads and friends so I don’t hide my profile. I’m slowly getting my Miss SJ back on though. I’m sticking to the lounge until I’m ready for anything else |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"I agree OP, cake is never the endgame or objective, like to have a laugh or several while getting to know someone, if it leads to cake great, if not then friendship is great too "
I disagree ... it's ALL about the cake, specifically chocolate fudge cake vs. carrot cake |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I sometimes wonder why some people stick around.
Exactly. I’m all about that vagine!
The forums are just a cheap trip to the zoo most days, you get to point and laugh at all the animals doing stupid things!"
That's probably why some people stick around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is so nice to know that i am not alone, yes sure i like sex but i also like the social side of being able to chat to like minded people
I used to have to explain that i actually meant coffee and a cake and nothing more lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally with you there, fab has been a confidence boost for me and a great way to meet new people (i've only had sex with 2 people off here but we've met LOADS of lovely folk) especially as i've been a stay at home mum for the past few years and very rarely ever get out. |
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Obv no meets here yet. I do come on daily, but not to look for my next conquest, its more about chatting to likeminded people with common interests. If one day it leads to play then all good, but not the main objective of being on here
Happy fabbing all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a horrible couple of years and had my confidence knocked to shit and my libido took a massive crash with it. I’m trying to get myself back together but I really haven’t got enough confidence back to start meeting again yet. I don’t want to waste anyone’s time so put my filters up to stop most messages and make it clear on my profile I’m not meeting new people. I don’t mind messages from forum threads and friends so I don’t hide my profile. I’m slowly getting my Miss SJ back on though. I’m sticking to the lounge until I’m ready for anything else "
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I never have looked for or expected to meet anyone here, I do enjoy reading some forums and of course some profiles have amazing pictures and I take my hat off to all those that post that content. The Ireland forums tend to be controlled by a few users that wish to dictate the flow and content of the posts, some people just seem to have an opinion on everything and love to give a fuck when its not there turn to give a fuck. For me its light hearted fun to help pass away the boring hours in work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Woo hoo, all the more for me if none of you are wanting any  !
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I'm actually only joking. I usually only stay here when I am actively looking, but I'm semi seeing someone and have a lot else going on so that side is paused for now. But I still wanted to hang about for a bit anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The people on here put me off sex.
That only happens to me when they start talking
 
There's always exceptions
Cheeky fucker! 
It was a compliment lol
I think someone is after a smacked bum !
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Wot u like? |
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"The people on here put me off sex.
That only happens to me when they start talking
There's always exceptions
Cheeky fucker!
It was a compliment lol
I think someone is after a smacked bum !
Wot u like?"
Currently looking at hotels |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a horrible couple of years and had my confidence knocked to shit and my libido took a massive crash with it. I’m trying to get myself back together but I really haven’t got enough confidence back to start meeting again yet. I don’t want to waste anyone’s time so put my filters up to stop most messages and make it clear on my profile I’m not meeting new people. I don’t mind messages from forum threads and friends so I don’t hide my profile. I’m slowly getting my Miss SJ back on though. I’m sticking to the lounge until I’m ready for anything else "
It will be great to see your Miss SJ back in action in Manchester.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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And yes OP, it's safe to say I'm actively not looking for sex through this site. I'm quite happy, no real interest in particularly pursuing anything. I enjoy talking to people because, well, people but I don't have the desire to be sexcruiting. |
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"Na fab is a sex site it's not a social media outlet! It's hard enough for guys as it is to even get a reply so I think it should be mostly about meeting other likemind people for no strings sex "
But dont you get enough sex anyways?
Ive never gone on the pull or actively pursued sex.
Yes I'll flirt, wink and say hello but anyone who speaks to me will tell you that I believe in conversation first, friendship second and if we remember, then yes maybe sex might come up for conversation but I'm much more likely to ask about you and your day than if your cock or pussy needs attention.
Strangely enough, when I talk to women in particular, they're the ones that tend to bring up the subject of sex first.
Maybe that's why they tend to enjoy my company. im not a threat in their eyes.
Besides, having a person come on to me is probably best as I'm not very good at knowing when someone fancies me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The people on here put me off sex.
That only happens to me when they start talking
There's always exceptions
Cheeky fucker!
It was a compliment lol
I think someone is after a smacked bum !
Wot u like?
Currently looking at hotels"
Hotels? Or Premier Inns? x |
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"The people on here put me off sex.
That only happens to me when they start talking
There's always exceptions
Cheeky fucker!
It was a compliment lol
I think someone is after a smacked bum !
Wot u like?
Currently looking at hotels
Hotels? Or Premier Inns? x"
Oh god no!
That's where we put our homeless clients at work
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"Na fab is a sex site it's not a social media outlet! It's hard enough for guys as it is to even get a reply so I think it should be mostly about meeting other likemind people for no strings sex "
Actually fab is a swinging site... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am definitely not looking just for sex. I want more than that. Maybe even a partner? Who knows? At the same time I’m happy to have sex with people whilst I’m on that search!
I would like to make friends on the forums but it seems really difficult. |
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I’m here mainly for the social scene. Just like many men I have days in which I’m really turned on and will jump on anything with a pulse (Human only). But those days are getting few and far between.
Go to a club, have a drink, nice chat, maybe a dance and home sweet home. |
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I must admit that because of the commitments I have at the moment, I am not actively pursuing new friendships, but I like to keep in touch with all old friends and acquaintances, and continuing where we left off. However it has been good to get to know so much about about so many through forums with our private exchange of messages, I am looking forward to meeting you all when circumstances are right. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'm similar op
I'm already In a relationship ans we have our own profiles plus a joint one.
I haven't met from this profile in years, am considering the odd social though.
I'm mainly here for forums and those I already know. |
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I don't tend to look on here any more. I use this site more for chatting but mainly for socials, and look for meets elsewhere.
There are a million different ways to use this site; it's one of the things I like about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex is nice and all that but I feel like I'm in a minority on here (especially as a man) as I don't spend really any time trying to have sex through this site.
Yes, like everyone else, it was a major part of why I signed up to the website but the more I think about it, the more I find myself just coming here for a bit of debate, a few laughs, to make some friends and maybe a bit flirt.
I think I forgot
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Same here really couldn't be arsed...now if something comes out of it,its fine.but I wouldn't chase anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The sheer amount of luck needed to even get a message opened + a much smaller user base than similar apps made me decide to stop searching on here long ago
Just the forums for me now unless someone messages me 1st with something very tempting. "
Ohhh why are you so much younger than me!! Not fair! I would read your message  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Well I’m here for amazing sex with awesome people, I will avoid you lot for sure
Thank god for that - for a minute there I thought I was the only forum strumpet!
Also here for mind-blowing sex with marvellous people - however I also love the fab socials up and down the country - plus the clubs - and thanks to both I’ve made some bloody amazing friends up and down the country who’ll probably be stuck with me for life - poor buggers! "
I'll settle for your friendship. Xx |
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"Well I’m here for amazing sex with awesome people, I will avoid you lot for sure
Thank god for that - for a minute there I thought I was the only forum strumpet!
Also here for mind-blowing sex with marvellous people - however I also love the fab socials up and down the country - plus the clubs - and thanks to both I’ve made some bloody amazing friends up and down the country who’ll probably be stuck with me for life - poor buggers!
I'll settle for your friendship. Xx"
You’re very welcome to it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Na fab is a sex site it's not a social media outlet! It's hard enough for guys as it is to even get a reply so I think it should be mostly about meeting other likemind people for no strings sex "
Apart from at clubs, I’m not keen on no strings, sex is so much better with connection. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"So does Fab need a new Forum section for those looking for sex as it appears from this thread that sex is no longer ‘on-trend’ as influencers like to say?"
Have you looked at any of the other forums? |
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"So does Fab need a new Forum section for those looking for sex as it appears from this thread that sex is no longer ‘on-trend’ as influencers like to say?"
I think the friend part of fwb is more important atm on here lots more people are looking for lasting connections which is not a bad thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The sheer amount of luck needed to even get a message opened + a much smaller user base than similar apps made me decide to stop searching on here long ago
Just the forums for me now unless someone messages me 1st with something very tempting. "
I'm the same. This place is very definitely not where you can meet a hot lover unfortunately. I gave up chasing it ages ago on here, just flirty chat and leave it at that as the chances of actually meeting are very slim.
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