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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Single men have had their fare share of complaint threads, many would say unfairly including me sometimes.
But let’s talk about couples! The sheer amount of couples who don’t read profiles or if they do ignore the profile requirements is astounding. I haven’t blocked couples (because of forum discussions etc but might need to revisit).
FYI I’m not that bothered about it but wanted to create a little balance amongst all the man bashing threads.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I agree. Most couples I've come across send the generic message us if we appeal.
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I don’t even meet couples as stated on my profile but still they wink and message. |
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Hi OP as you know I am one of the biggest voices on here for calling out man bashing threads but starting one to bash couples isn’t the answer tbh so I hope you forgive me when I say I hope the thread isn’t popular.
Btw I am a big fan of yours and I think your gorgeous.
Love Malcolm xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couples usually make the least effort when messaging. It comes across as entitled tbh.
They may just send more pics of her and can’t understand why I want to see him, and not just his dick. |
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I had a no show couple..contacted me again...invited me to meet them ...unknown to me it was at an old boys house...the then proceeded to get d*unk ...kept chatting and not playing....and tried to blag a lift home with me because he was too pissed to drive himself....just felt like a hired cock  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi OP as you know I am one of the biggest voices on here for calling out man bashing threads but starting one to bash couples isn’t the answer tbh so I hope you forgive me when I say I hope the thread isn’t popular.
Btw I am a big fan of yours and I think your gorgeous.
Love Malcolm xx"
Not so much bashing, I was kinda kidding there! More making them aware of things that are annoying! |
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We like to think we aren't like those lazy couples x we don't send many messages though as we're only really playing in clubs at the moment x if we do send a message it's usually well Thought out x |
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"Hi OP as you know I am one of the biggest voices on here for calling out man bashing threads but starting one to bash couples isn’t the answer tbh so I hope you forgive me when I say I hope the thread isn’t popular.
Btw I am a big fan of yours and I think your gorgeous.
Love Malcolm xx
Not so much bashing, I was kinda kidding there! More making them aware of things that are annoying! "
Because I think you’re lovely I will let you off this time   |
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By *yron69Man
over a year ago
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"Hi OP as you know I am one of the biggest voices on here for calling out man bashing threads but starting one to bash couples isn’t the answer tbh so I hope you forgive me when I say I hope the thread isn’t popular.
Btw I am a big fan of yours and I think your gorgeous.
Love Malcolm xx"
Biggest? Photo proof…? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find its usually just the male messaging and wants to meet up on their own or their mrs gets waylaid etc. If they can't social together we don't meet together |
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I have blocked couples. Many treat you like a new toy to bring into their bedroom. They tell you exactly how the scenario should play out and expect you to be grateful of the privilege of fulfilling their fantasy. There's also the "be my boyfriend/husband's birthday present" messages and the "be a live sex show with me for my boyfriend/husband" messages.
There's also plenty of great couples who treat you like a human being. Just as there are many great single men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’re all dickheads 
Seriously though I do agree to a certain extent. Our profile says the only scenario we’d meet a couple but we still get quite a few messages from them. |
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I agree my worst experience in clubs have been with couples
Male halves touching uninvited & when you give them the look or say something, the response is it's ok my wife's over there - that doesn't give you the right to touch me
Or worse still the wife clocking you challenging the uninvited touch & saying 'oh don't mind him, he's a boob man'
WTAF |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have blocked couples. Many treat you like a new toy to bring into their bedroom. They tell you exactly how the scenario should play out and expect you to be grateful of the privilege of fulfilling their fantasy. There's also the "be my boyfriend/husband's birthday present" messages and the "be a live sex show with me for my boyfriend/husband" messages.
There's also plenty of great couples who treat you like a human being. Just as there are many great single men. "
Glad it’s not just me that feels that way about the ‘birthday present’ messages.
Makes me feel like a free sex worker |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We’re all dickheads
Seriously though I do agree to a certain extent. Our profile says the only scenario we’d meet a couple but we still get quite a few messages from them."
Don’t get me wrong I have some amazing chats with couples both on here and at clubs, but I seem to be batting away a lot of couples who want to meet when I state I’m straight and won’t meet couples lol and it’s on my profile! |
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"Couples usually make the least effort when messaging. It comes across as entitled tbh.
They may just send more pics of her and can’t understand why I want to see him, and not just his dick. "
Totally agree, it's like 'we are a pair, you must want us'
entitled is definitely the right word to describe many couples behaviour |
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Like all these discussions it's not possible to tar everyone with the same brush.
A lot of couples I've chatted to have been approachable and happy to chat as equals.
Unfortunately a lot have also been the complete opposite and are only interested in me as a number and nothing else.
I've spoken many times on here about how I don't send messages and haven't done in 2 years.
Therefore every conversation is initiated by others.
It is hilarious to read the instruction manuals written on here telling single men what they are doing wrong and how they need to change their approach. Hilarious because I have yet to see one that doesn't apply equally to couples.
Introductory messages are anything but. There is no attempt to introduce themselves at all but just a list of demands.
Couples say they want men to read their profiles and put something in their opening message that is relevant to that profile but yet they persist in just sending opening messages demanding phone numbers, facepics, removal of my beard, a change to my sexuality where I must play bi or I must meet them the next day without a social.
I know from speaking to single straight women that they have received similar messages from couples(maybe not the beard part though) with an expectation that they will play bi even though they are straight.
Maybe start showing a little respect for those you are approaching rather than making them feel you are doing them a favour and the response may be more positive.
I've removed the looking for couples from my profile in recent weeks because of the sense of entitlement in messages and forum comments and it wouldn't bother me in the slightest if I never meet a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have blocked couples. Many treat you like a new toy to bring into their bedroom. They tell you exactly how the scenario should play out and expect you to be grateful of the privilege of fulfilling their fantasy. There's also the "be my boyfriend/husband's birthday present" messages and the "be a live sex show with me for my boyfriend/husband" messages.
There's also plenty of great couples who treat you like a human being. Just as there are many great single men.
Glad it’s not just me that feels that way about the ‘birthday present’ messages.
Makes me feel like a free sex worker "
Yep I get those too and I’ve had the ‘female’ half proclaiming how he’s always wanted to fuck a black girl too! All I ask is that they read my profile lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’re all dickheads
Seriously though I do agree to a certain extent. Our profile says the only scenario we’d meet a couple but we still get quite a few messages from them.
Don’t get me wrong I have some amazing chats with couples both on here and at clubs, but I seem to be batting away a lot of couples who want to meet when I state I’m straight and won’t meet couples lol and it’s on my profile! "
I agree. Considering some couples receive the same shit single women get you’d think they’d read profiles/preferences or send better opening messages. |
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"I agree my worst experience in clubs have been with couples
Male halves touching uninvited & when you give them the look or say something, the response is it's ok my wife's over there - that doesn't give you the right to touch me
Or worse still the wife clocking you challenging the uninvited touch & saying 'oh don't mind him, he's a boob man'
WTAF"
Yeah I've never understood why men in couples think they can behave in ways a single man would be crucified for. |
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"I'm going to flounce off in a corner and cry 
You’re always welcome in my inbox
'Scuse me, I'm just in the middle of penning my fantasy scenario to send to Lacey, we'll be with you shortly "
I do love you  |
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The only gripe we have with couples is no pics of men.
We wouldn’t send a generic message for one and we wouldn’t send a message to people that aren’t going to be interested in us.
We will however send messages to say if people have good photos. We like to tell people, regardless of what sex they are if they have good photos.
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As a couple..I feel I have to defend us a little bit...please don't tar all couples with the same brush...we have never let anyone down, always meet when we say we will. We both chat in messages and our profile is very very clear with the kind of things we like. We tend not to send messages first, if anyone messages us with a simple 'hey' we instantly block... I feel its important to read profiles to see if we can all connect, otherwise its just a waste of time. We are not here to 'add to our numbers' we are here to have fun and simply know what we are looking for...we don't make demands of anyone and don't treat anyone as a 'play toy' however, if said person has read our profile fully, they will know what we are looking for and know if its something they would like to get involved in.  |
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"I'm going to flounce off in a corner and cry
You’re always welcome in my inbox
'Scuse me, I'm just in the middle of penning my fantasy scenario to send to Lacey, we'll be with you shortly
I do love you "
Dear Lacey,
For my husband's birthday, he'd quite like a lady dressed as a mermaid to masturbate him with a rubber duck  We'd be happy to pay for a hotel room. Well, B&B more likely (we're a bit strapped for cash, soz). Anyways, hope yous up for it 
Kind regards,
Mrs KC |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm going to flounce off in a corner and cry
You’re always welcome in my inbox
'Scuse me, I'm just in the middle of penning my fantasy scenario to send to Lacey, we'll be with you shortly
I do love you
Dear Lacey,
For my husband's birthday, he'd quite like a lady dressed as a mermaid to masturbate him with a rubber duck We'd be happy to pay for a hotel room. Well, B&B more likely (we're a bit strapped for cash, soz). Anyways, hope yous up for it
Kind regards,
Mrs KC "
Would you consider substituting a lady for a gentleman and a rubber duck for a funky chicken? |
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"I'm going to flounce off in a corner and cry
You’re always welcome in my inbox
'Scuse me, I'm just in the middle of penning my fantasy scenario to send to Lacey, we'll be with you shortly
I do love you
Dear Lacey,
For my husband's birthday, he'd quite like a lady dressed as a mermaid to masturbate him with a rubber duck We'd be happy to pay for a hotel room. Well, B&B more likely (we're a bit strapped for cash, soz). Anyways, hope yous up for it
Kind regards,
Mrs KC "
Paying for a B&B! Far too generous! So close though . |
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"I'm going to flounce off in a corner and cry
You’re always welcome in my inbox
'Scuse me, I'm just in the middle of penning my fantasy scenario to send to Lacey, we'll be with you shortly
I do love you
Dear Lacey,
For my husband's birthday, he'd quite like a lady dressed as a mermaid to masturbate him with a rubber duck We'd be happy to pay for a hotel room. Well, B&B more likely (we're a bit strapped for cash, soz). Anyways, hope yous up for it
Kind regards,
Mrs KC
Paying for a B&B! Far too generous! So close though . "
Hmmmm, the Tender Chicken offer above is looking ever more attractive. I wonder if he'd make a convincing mermaid?! |
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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago
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We make sure we read a profile before we decide to message so we arent wasting anyones time as god knows weve had plenty of messages that are a waste of time from people who clearly dont read our profile  |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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I must have been very lucky with couples as I've had mainly good experiences with them, however I do suspect the one or two supposed couple that have been idiotic have been the male half of a couple using a couples account to be a dick or even a single male hiding on a couple s account. |
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I'm part of a couple and I understand what you are saying, BUT and it's a big one, when couples are compleatley over run with msgs from single men it's hard to respond to every single one of them, we have a quote that has to be put in the msg to show that the profile has been read all the way to the end and 1 in ten just say hi, or I would love to bang you, you also have to look at the ratio of single men to single woman and couples, single men out way the scales by 100%+, need to look at the big picture here and not just the response you are getting, just because you don't get a reply back dose not mean thay have rejected you it might be a million and one resions, you only have to worry and think.about you, a couple has to.qorry about the other partner and there self's and find the time in there life's to swing, may be thay have kids that thay have to think about, finding time in a couples life isent easy, thay can just drop everything and go jump on dick, thay can't spend a hole day just replying to men because thay feel thay need to be polite 24/7 and thay can't please every single man on a place like fab everyone as a personal life to deal with and allot of the time couples personal life's are mental trust me |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I find it interesting that main times I have seen angst happening in clubs has involved couples, mostly where they have failed to communicate where one has “gone rouge” on the other and has broken some sort of rule….
Best fight I have seen in a club was a woman landing a perfect right cross of her husband after he sneaked off playing without her!
Also, and I hate to say it, there are some couples who think they are so far up the totem pole, that they do treat single guys like they are shit on the bottom of their shoes!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm part of a couple and I understand what you are saying, BUT and it's a big one, when couples are compleatley over run with msgs from single men it's hard to respond to every single one of them, we have a quote that has to be put in the msg to show that the profile has been read all the way to the end and 1 in ten just say hi, or I would love to bang you, you also have to look at the ratio of single men to single woman and couples, single men out way the scales by 100%+, need to look at the big picture here and not just the response you are getting, just because you don't get a reply back dose not mean thay have rejected you it might be a million and one resions, you only have to worry and think.about you, a couple has to.qorry about the other partner and there self's and find the time in there life's to swing, may be thay have kids that thay have to think about, finding time in a couples life isent easy, thay can just drop everything and go jump on dick, thay can't spend a hole day just replying to men because thay feel thay need to be polite 24/7 and thay can't please every single man on a place like fab everyone as a personal life to deal with and allot of the time couples personal life's are mental trust me "
To be fair, I don't think anyone here is arguing with what couples and single women have to put up with in terms of messages received. It's about when they reach out and the lack of effort on their part which creates a double standard. As single males, we get the power dynamic on here is inn favour of the women and couples but we still deserve a modicum of respect and decency when being addressed  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm part of a couple and I understand what you are saying, BUT and it's a big one, when couples are compleatley over run with msgs from single men it's hard to respond to every single one of them, we have a quote that has to be put in the msg to show that the profile has been read all the way to the end and 1 in ten just say hi, or I would love to bang you, you also have to look at the ratio of single men to single woman and couples, single men out way the scales by 100%+, need to look at the big picture here and not just the response you are getting, just because you don't get a reply back dose not mean thay have rejected you it might be a million and one resions, you only have to worry and think.about you, a couple has to.qorry about the other partner and there self's and find the time in there life's to swing, may be thay have kids that thay have to think about, finding time in a couples life isent easy, thay can just drop everything and go jump on dick, thay can't spend a hole day just replying to men because thay feel thay need to be polite 24/7 and thay can't please every single man on a place like fab everyone as a personal life to deal with and allot of the time couples personal life's are mental trust me "
What are you on about, I’m a single woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we message a lady we always send a quick introduction message with face pics and take it from there. Some arnt interested , some are , some are put off by our bio because of a boundry we have but quite a few havent been and weve had lots of fun on here and made some great freinds.
To tar couples with the same brush is a bit harsh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My bad, note to self READ THE POST PROPERLY BEFORE REPLYING, sorry guys ?? "
Typical couple not reading things properly 
I'm joking of course, you have nothing to apologise for and if you put the same effort in that you want to receive then you're far from the problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree. Most couples I've come across send the generic message us if we appeal.
I don’t even meet couples as stated on my profile but still they wink and message. "
95% of my views are either couples or TV/TS ..go figure.. |
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"My bad, note to self READ THE POST PROPERLY BEFORE REPLYING, sorry guys ??
Typical couple not reading things properly
I'm joking of course, you have nothing to apologise for and if you put the same effort in that you want to receive then you're far from the problem "
I'm going to put it down to it being the male half
G's first time posting in the forums 
Forgot to quote previously will teach me for getting cheeky  x |
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"I'm part of a couple and I understand what you are saying, BUT and it's a big one, when couples are compleatley over run with msgs from single men it's hard to respond to every single one of them, we have a quote that has to be put in the msg to show that the profile has been read all the way to the end and 1 in ten just say hi, or I would love to bang you, you also have to look at the ratio of single men to single woman and couples, single men out way the scales by 100%+, need to look at the big picture here and not just the response you are getting, just because you don't get a reply back dose not mean thay have rejected you it might be a million and one resions, you only have to worry and think.about you, a couple has to.qorry about the other partner and there self's and find the time in there life's to swing, may be thay have kids that thay have to think about, finding time in a couples life isent easy, thay can just drop everything and go jump on dick, thay can't spend a hole day just replying to men because thay feel thay need to be polite 24/7 and thay can't please every single man on a place like fab everyone as a personal life to deal with and allot of the time couples personal life's are mental trust me
What are you on about, I’m a single woman. "
Apologies read the post completely wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't hold with bashing any group of people as there's good and bad across te board. However, I've been actively here for little over a month and I thought I'd throw in my tuppence-worth.
In that time I've been approached by single men who don't match with me. I've been invited to meet couples and single women, neither of which I'm looking for.
I think we could probably sum this phenomenon up with an umbrella post to say 'Lots of people don't read profiles or do read them but assume any preferences don't apply to them.'
In my 21-ish years online, this is not peculiar to here and will most likely never change. Sadly. |
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By *AABMan
over a year ago
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"I agree. Most couples I've come across send the generic message us if we appeal.
I don’t even meet couples as stated on my profile but still they wink and message.
95% of my views are either couples or TV/TS ..go figure.."
What? You get actual views? Is that a thing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The trouble with couples I see
Is they don’t think and talk just like me
It’s the same though with singles
And tvs with both dingles
So I guess it’s all gravy with me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The vast majority of the couples I see on the forum seem lovely, its nearly always non-forumites that I take issue with.
As a single straight woman I think I've had two couples approach just to say hi or that they liked the photos. I've been hassled by a male half several times because I didn't want to play with him alone. And plenty of them approach me for threesomes and other scenarios. I am not into women! Much of the time I turn off the messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it interesting that main times I have seen angst happening in clubs has involved couples, mostly where they have failed to communicate where one has “gone rouge” on the other and has broken some sort of rule….
Best fight I have seen in a club was a woman landing a perfect right cross of her husband after he sneaked off playing without her!
Also, and I hate to say it, there are some couples who think they are so far up the totem pole, that they do treat single guys like they are shit on the bottom of their shoes!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always read the bio, tbh the bio is make or break for me, just can genuinely judge a person by there bio.
And your always going to get people who try their luck even if you say no to couples.
The mr |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't hold with bashing any group of people as there's good and bad across te board. However, I've been actively here for little over a month and I thought I'd throw in my tuppence-worth.
In that time I've been approached by single men who don't match with me. I've been invited to meet couples and single women, neither of which I'm looking for.
I think we could probably sum this phenomenon up with an umbrella post to say 'Lots of people don't read profiles or do read them but assume any preferences don't apply to them.'
In my 21-ish years online, this is not peculiar to here and will most likely never change. Sadly. "
100% agree, not sure of the need to divide everyone up... Men V Women V Couples = Trouble Causing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple..I feel I have to defend us a little bit...please don't tar all couples with the same brush...we have never let anyone down, always meet when we say we will. We both chat in messages and our profile is very very clear with the kind of things we like. We tend not to send messages first, if anyone messages us with a simple 'hey' we instantly block... I feel its important to read profiles to see if we can all connect, otherwise its just a waste of time. We are not here to 'add to our numbers' we are here to have fun and simply know what we are looking for...we don't make demands of anyone and don't treat anyone as a 'play toy' however, if said person has read our profile fully, they will know what we are looking for and know if its something they would like to get involved in. "
Totally agree with this. We are more than happy to send pics of us both. Some single profiles are very up themselves with what they will and won't do what they want. We are always happy to chat, share likes dislikes, our biggest gripe is not being treated as a couple and that it shouldn't matter what you look like, as your on fab! |
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"Single men have had their fare share of complaint threads, many would say unfairly including me sometimes.
But let’s talk about couples! The sheer amount of couples who don’t read profiles or if they do ignore the profile requirements is astounding. I haven’t blocked couples (because of forum discussions etc but might need to revisit).
FYI I’m not that bothered about it but wanted to create a little balance amongst all the man bashing threads.
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We also find couples don't read profiles, which is partly why we reply to no more than 5% of messages. |
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People are all different and each to their own.
I don't care what your sex or status is (single or couple) but I expect the same respect to be shown to all.
If you don't want people showing you their body then I expect your body to be covered up too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People are all different and each to their own.
I don't care what your sex or status is (single or couple) but I expect the same respect to be shown to all.
If you don't want people showing you their body then I expect your body to be covered up too."
What does that mean? I've got revealing photos so that means it's ok to send me dick pics?  |
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"People are all different and each to their own.
I don't care what your sex or status is (single or couple) but I expect the same respect to be shown to all.
If you don't want people showing you their body then I expect your body to be covered up too.
What does that mean? I've got revealing photos so that means it's ok to send me dick pics? "
Will you change your profile photo if I find it offensive?
Just a yes/no answer will do please.
After that, we can get into a debate on sexism and the patriarchal system. |
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I've read the first half a dozen responses.
My chime......
Very many couples profiles are run by MEN.
Very many couples profiles are single MEN.
Very many single mens profiles are married cheaters.
Very ....... yada yada....
For a little exercise in futility why not go and piss in the wind.
For a little exercise in reaching conclusions / making wild claims based on a half possibility see The Sun/Daily Mail headlines.
For a little exercise in stopping single male mud slinging - don't throw chimp shit at other apes |
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"People are all different and each to their own.
I don't care what your sex or status is (single or couple) but I expect the same respect to be shown to all.
If you don't want people showing you their body then I expect your body to be covered up too.
What does that mean? I've got revealing photos so that means it's ok to send me dick pics?
Will you change your profile photo if I find it offensive?
Just a yes/no answer will do please.
After that, we can get into a debate on sexism and the patriarchal system."
I was asking you to explain what you meant. I haven't asked anyone to change their profile pic nor would I. But I can choose who I engage with just as you can. |
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"People are all different and each to their own.
I don't care what your sex or status is (single or couple) but I expect the same respect to be shown to all.
If you don't want people showing you their body then I expect your body to be covered up too.
What does that mean? I've got revealing photos so that means it's ok to send me dick pics?
Will you change your profile photo if I find it offensive?
Just a yes/no answer will do please.
After that, we can get into a debate on sexism and the patriarchal system.
Oooo great. Give me a shout when it starts. "
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"People are all different and each to their own.
I don't care what your sex or status is (single or couple) but I expect the same respect to be shown to all.
If you don't want people showing you their body then I expect your body to be covered up too.
What does that mean? I've got revealing photos so that means it's ok to send me dick pics?
Will you change your profile photo if I find it offensive?
Just a yes/no answer will do please.
After that, we can get into a debate on sexism and the patriarchal system.
I was asking you to explain what you meant. I haven't asked anyone to change their profile pic nor would I. But I can choose who I engage with just as you can. "
Well to clarify
When I said "If you don't want people showing you their body then I expect your body to be covered up too." Then I mean just that.
If I something else to say I would have said it.
So, again, if your profile pic on show to us all (unsolicited) every time you post on a thread, caused a person to ask you to stop using that picture, would you?
The patriarchal aspect comes into it when the discussion naturally becomes about why the penis is historically taught (especially to women in particular) to be more offensive than other body parts.
It falls into the same category as to why gay sex between men carried the death penalty but there's never been a law against lesbian women having consenting sex in this country. |
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"Single men have had their fare share of complaint threads, many would say unfairly including me sometimes.
But let’s talk about couples! The sheer amount of couples who don’t read profiles or if they do ignore the profile requirements is astounding. I haven’t blocked couples (because of forum discussions etc but might need to revisit).
FYI I’m not that bothered about it but wanted to create a little balance amongst all the man bashing threads.
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One thing i will agree with is couples and unicorns have all the power, however i have had messages off straight couples (where the wife apparently doesnt chat or just watches) and straight guys wanting to try and play. |
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"Single men have had their fare share of complaint threads, many would say unfairly including me sometimes.
But let’s talk about couples! The sheer amount of couples who don’t read profiles or if they do ignore the profile requirements is astounding. I haven’t blocked couples (because of forum discussions etc but might need to revisit).
FYI I’m not that bothered about it but wanted to create a little balance amongst all the man bashing threads.
One thing i will agree with is couples and unicorns have all the power, however i have had messages off straight couples (where the wife apparently doesnt chat or just watches) and straight guys wanting to try and play."
Sorry to disagree but they have no power around me.
Unless you're looking for that type, then just pass them by. |
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"People are all different and each to their own.
I don't care what your sex or status is (single or couple) but I expect the same respect to be shown to all.
If you don't want people showing you their body then I expect your body to be covered up too.
What does that mean? I've got revealing photos so that means it's ok to send me dick pics?
Will you change your profile photo if I find it offensive?
Just a yes/no answer will do please.
After that, we can get into a debate on sexism and the patriarchal system.
I was asking you to explain what you meant. I haven't asked anyone to change their profile pic nor would I. But I can choose who I engage with just as you can.
Well to clarify
When I said "If you don't want people showing you their body then I expect your body to be covered up too." Then I mean just that.
If I something else to say I would have said it.
So, again, if your profile pic on show to us all (unsolicited) every time you post on a thread, caused a person to ask you to stop using that picture, would you?
The patriarchal aspect comes into it when the discussion naturally becomes about why the penis is historically taught (especially to women in particular) to be more offensive than other body parts.
It falls into the same category as to why gay sex between men carried the death penalty but there's never been a law against lesbian women having consenting sex in this country."
This has nothing to do with the thread and you haven't clarified. |
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"Also why is the guy always the one on the account but every pic is the women? "
It depends on the dynamic of the couple. I don’t play with others so most of our pics are of my wife. I’ve been trying to upload a few more of me but it’s not like they’d attract our target audience. |
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I probably get about 10 messages a day from couples and I would say 3 of those have read my profile but I still reply to the others with a kind thanks but no thanks |
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It helps if couples read profiles but it's not unusual to see all pics of the female half. It's what would attract me to the profile though so I won't complain |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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As with single men and women, there are some amazing and lovely couples on here. Beautiful people inside and out.
With that said, I will also say that my worst interactions have also been with couples too. Largely I assume because there are two of them to begin with, so they are the "majority" and have been far ruder, aggressive, disrespectful, demanding, entitled, and intimidating than any single female I've had an interaction with.
There are good and bad in all categories. |
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over a year ago
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"As with single men and women, there are some amazing and lovely couples on here. Beautiful people inside and out.
With that said, I will also say that my worst interactions have also been with couples too. Largely I assume because there are two of them to begin with, so they are the "majority" and have been far ruder, aggressive, disrespectful, demanding, entitled, and intimidating than any single female I've had an interaction with.
There are good and bad in all categories. "
Exactly this.
There are some wonderful people on here, and some not so wonderful. They come categorized as single men and women, couples and TV/TS.
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over a year ago
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"Also why is the guy always the one on the account but every pic is the women? "
I have far more patience to deal with messages than Gina, but she is the horny one. |
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"Also why is the guy always the one on the account but every pic is the women?
There's plenty of couples accounts where it's run mainly by the woman..."
Mrs here, account run by myself, hubby doesn't have as much time as me. So what you said is wrong. |
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"Couples usually make the least effort when messaging. It comes across as entitled tbh.
They may just send more pics of her and can’t understand why I want to see him, and not just his dick. "
Not all of us are like that rach. |
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"Couples usually make the least effort when messaging. It comes across as entitled tbh.
They may just send more pics of her and can’t understand why I want to see him, and not just his dick.
Not all of us are like that rach. "
I respond to all messages, thank them and advise if we are interested or not, hopefully they find my response polite.
There are plenty people who get loads of attention and can't respond to each and every message. If that comes across as entitled then thats on you, not them.
When I don't get a response I assume, rightly or wrongly, they either have too many to respond to or we are just not their type. Either way, I don't take it personally. |
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Irs unfair to blame a certain category. On fab you find entitled fems, men, cpls, tvs. Some people were born arsehole but just grew bigger . We had entitled men and women contact us,But also had some really tidy ones contact us also. I hate these bashing threads. Just block who you are not interested in meeting simples |
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All of the couples getting upset - the overall message is about how SOME couples behave. And it's the only thread I can remember which addresses couples compared to frequent ones about single men. |
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"Irs unfair to blame a certain category. On fab you find entitled fems, men, cpls, tvs. Some people were born arsehole but just grew bigger . We had entitled men and women contact us,But also had some really tidy ones contact us also. I hate these bashing threads. Just block who you are not interested in meeting simples"
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"Single men have had their fare share of complaint threads, many would say unfairly including me sometimes.
But let’s talk about couples! The sheer amount of couples who don’t read profiles or if they do ignore the profile requirements is astounding. I haven’t blocked couples (because of forum discussions etc but might need to revisit).
FYI I’m not that bothered about it but wanted to create a little balance amongst all the man bashing threads.
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You could just swap the word couples for people in general OP.
I do find this addressing the balance though I find it just more bashing of people in here with couples being the target this time.
People don’t read profiles, people don’t think of what they send could be offensive, people don’t take the time to get to know another person as a human being. This is just how fab life is. Use it as a filter it’s that simple
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"All of the couples getting upset - the overall message is about how SOME couples behave. And it's the only thread I can remember which addresses couples compared to frequent ones about single men. "
Rarely ones about entitles ladies though believe me we had a few beauties of messages of ones who started hinting they want to control the play totally if we met them. Likevi said its not gender or category specific. Some peeps are born self entitled or arseholes. |
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"Single men have had their fare share of complaint threads, many would say unfairly including me sometimes.
But let’s talk about couples! The sheer amount of couples who don’t read profiles or if they do ignore the profile requirements is astounding. I haven’t blocked couples (because of forum discussions etc but might need to revisit).
FYI I’m not that bothered about it but wanted to create a little balance amongst all the man bashing threads.
You could just swap the word couples for people in general OP.
I do find this addressing the balance though I find it just more bashing of people in here with couples being the target this time.
People don’t read profiles, people don’t think of what they send could be offensive, people don’t take the time to get to know another person as a human being. This is just how fab life is. Use it as a filter it’s that simple
Beard"
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Not all us couples are bad you know, I spend equally as much time having to deal with people who won’t take the time to read our profile and if you don’t take the time to read our profile I won’t take the time to read your message.
I get there is a lot of time wasting couples out there but some of us are worth a punt |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"All of the couples getting upset - the overall message is about how SOME couples behave. And it's the only thread I can remember which addresses couples compared to frequent ones about single men.
Rarely ones about entitles ladies though believe me we had a few beauties of messages of ones who started hinting they want to control the play totally if we met them. Likevi said its not gender or category specific. Some peeps are born self entitled or arseholes. "
There have been a fair few about entitled women - women who in the real world are a 4 and wouldn't get a 8 or 9 demanding them here. Women fancying people who aren't their body type, nay, demanding them. Women who demand face pics but don't have any on their profile. Women who demand certain size penises.
You get the idea.
I agree with you though, it's certainly not gender specific. Just thought I'd banish the idea that it's rare there are threads on entitled women. |
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"All of the couples getting upset - the overall message is about how SOME couples behave. And it's the only thread I can remember which addresses couples compared to frequent ones about single men.
Rarely ones about entitles ladies though believe me we had a few beauties of messages of ones who started hinting they want to control the play totally if we met them. Likevi said its not gender or category specific. Some peeps are born self entitled or arseholes. "
Nothing aimed at ladies? Are you kidding?
If you don't do the stuff people complain about - why get upset? Feel happy in the knowledge that you're good peeps |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Not all us couples are bad you know, I spend equally as much time having to deal with people who won’t take the time to read our profile and if you don’t take the time to read our profile I won’t take the time to read your message.
I get there is a lot of time wasting couples out there but some of us are worth a punt "
The main "issue" with couples (the bad ones) is that the bad parts are applified by two. They have the backup egging each other on to be rude and whatever else that specific couple is.
As I said further up, the absolute worst interactions (just talking, not even meets) I've had is with couples.
There are however beyond amazing couples out there too.
But damn, having to deal with a couple as a single person at times can be intimidating when they are bad, far worse than the most bad attitude single woman I've interacted with by far. |
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"Not all us couples are bad you know, I spend equally as much time having to deal with people who won’t take the time to read our profile and if you don’t take the time to read our profile I won’t take the time to read your message.
I get there is a lot of time wasting couples out there but some of us are worth a punt "
To be honest I would actually prefer timewasting to what I normally receive.
As I said above there are lots of lovely couples who are more than happy to treat me as an equal or even as a human being.
Many women and couples say they want men to approach them respectfully as if they were meeting in a pub and not jump into sexual conversations.
As I don't send messages and only chat to those who contact me, I expect a similar level of respect.
I have no issue at all if a conversation fizzles out after a few messages or even after a lot of messages.
I do however have an issue when someone whether they are a single woman or a couple see me as nothing more than a talking cock. They can look elsewhere for their pet doormat.
From what I can see I'm not the only one getting "when we say jump, you jump!" messages.
There really are people on here who are at a loss when men refuse to jump or give in to their demands and I have had a lot of " Do you not know who we are?" replies when I've said no thanks.
For some reason they are under the illusion that it's also my loss. |
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"Why do we need threads 'bashing' anyone? I don't like to generalise, I prefer to treat people as the individuals that they are, and only engage with those that I find pleasant. "
Because people have some things they wanted to air. It's not bashing couples - lots of people have said how lovely lots of couples are. |
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I'm sure there are lots of issues with couples, men, women, kinks, beards, boobs and a myriad of different other things we see here on fab. As with everything some are good some are bad. But if keep looking for the bad that's all we're going to see.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I'm sure there are lots of issues with couples, men, women, kinks, beards, boobs and a myriad of different other things we see here on fab. As with everything some are good some are bad. But if keep looking for the bad that's all we're going to see.
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Not necessarily, seeing the bad allows you to appreciate the good.
Instead of getting overly defensive, people should see what issues others have with a specific category and take note. The vast majority of things said here are actually constructive criticisms for the most part.
The "man bashing" threads are easy targets because despite being the majority population, are the underdogs and the punching bags of fab (in comparison) easy targets. Still constructive criticism happens in those too, but also gets rather heated and actual hate towards men pops up.
As do quite a few aimed at women, those can get mean. From both sides. |
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"Why do we need threads 'bashing' anyone? I don't like to generalise, I prefer to treat people as the individuals that they are, and only engage with those that I find pleasant.
Because people have some things they wanted to air. It's not bashing couples - lots of people have said how lovely lots of couples are."
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"I'm sure there are lots of issues with couples, men, women, kinks, beards, boobs and a myriad of different other things we see here on fab. As with everything some are good some are bad. But if keep looking for the bad that's all we're going to see.
Not necessarily, seeing the bad allows you to appreciate the good.
Instead of getting overly defensive, people should see what issues others have with a specific category and take note. The vast majority of things said here are actually constructive criticisms for the most part.
The "man bashing" threads are easy targets because despite being the majority population, are the underdogs and the punching bags of fab (in comparison) easy targets. Still constructive criticism happens in those too, but also gets rather heated and actual hate towards men pops up.
As do quite a few aimed at women, those can get mean. From both sides. "
I'm not defensive, I often disagree with you but we don't argue about it. I like having debates with people, I suspect you do too.
I feel though as I was discussing with someone I was debating with off the back of another thread. When things get heated or become overtly negative a lot of people switch off. And then the opportunity to discuss and maybe meet in the middle or to learn something from another's perspective is lost?
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It's the the blank couples profiles with no pics or bio that think your there employee that do my nut in. Send this pic and that pic doing this and that and a big list of does and don'ts when they havent even got and pics public or private yet they think they can demand me to send to them. Think someone else hit the nail on the head with the shit on there shoe comment. I like to go by the rule if i want a face pic and ask for one ill send one in the msg that ive asked and if you ask me then you can send first. Dont think thats out of order realy. ? |
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"I'm sure there are lots of issues with couples, men, women, kinks, beards, boobs and a myriad of different other things we see here on fab. As with everything some are good some are bad. But if keep looking for the bad that's all we're going to see.
Not necessarily, seeing the bad allows you to appreciate the good.
Instead of getting overly defensive, people should see what issues others have with a specific category and take note. The vast majority of things said here are actually constructive criticisms for the most part.
The "man bashing" threads are easy targets because despite being the majority population, are the underdogs and the punching bags of fab (in comparison) easy targets. Still constructive criticism happens in those too, but also gets rather heated and actual hate towards men pops up.
As do quite a few aimed at women, those can get mean. From both sides.
I'm not defensive, I often disagree with you but we don't argue about it. I like having debates with people, I suspect you do too.
I feel though as I was discussing with someone I was debating with off the back of another thread. When things get heated or become overtly negative a lot of people switch off. And then the opportunity to discuss and maybe meet in the middle or to learn something from another's perspective is lost?
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That "instead of getting overly defensive" was a universal thing, not aimed at you as a coupleor any others, or men, or women but everyone.
This is far from negative though, it's mixed in with lots of "not all couples" far more than we would usually see. |
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they've started shagging sorry Granny....