FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > That feeling
That feeling
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I don’t understand it. Fab has made me pretty complacent, but I’d never start messing people around like that. It takes seconds to let them know you’ve changed your mind. No excuses for it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life. "
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I don’t understand it. Fab has made me pretty complacent, but I’d never start messing people around like that. It takes seconds to let them know you’ve changed your mind. No excuses for it."
Exactly. Even if they've had someone else pop up and they've sorted something with them. A simple cancel wouldn't go q miss. They don't have to say they've found someone else. Just that they're gonna have to cancel tonight |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination"
To be honest it’s easy to think it’s a mess about, when I’m truth it might be a complete emergency and haven’t had the time to get back to you |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
Terra Firma |
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination"
17:30 today? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don’t understand it. Fab has made me pretty complacent, but I’d never start messing people around like that. It takes seconds to let them know you’ve changed your mind. No excuses for it."
Totally agree… |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've agreed to meet and then the person got a bit creepy on messages in the lead up so I decided to back out.
I know it's frustrating but anyone can back out at any time for any reason. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
To be honest it’s easy to think it’s a mess about, when I’m truth it might be a complete emergency and haven’t had the time to get back to you "
No 90% chance they are messing him about. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
To be honest it’s easy to think it’s a mess about, when I’m truth it might be a complete emergency and haven’t had the time to get back to you "
I mean unless there's been a huge emergency like a family thing there's no real excuse |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
17:30 today? "
Yes |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
To be honest it’s easy to think it’s a mess about, when I’m truth it might be a complete emergency and haven’t had the time to get back to you
I mean unless there's been a huge emergency like a family thing there's no real excuse"
But it could be, I would at least wait until you hear before making the assumption. Just my opinion of course |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I've agreed to meet and then the person got a bit creepy on messages in the lead up so I decided to back out.
I know it's frustrating but anyone can back out at any time for any reason. "
But why wouldn't you just tell them they're giving an off vibe so you're gonna have to cancel? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I've agreed to meet and then the person got a bit creepy on messages in the lead up so I decided to back out.
I know it's frustrating but anyone can back out at any time for any reason. "
Surely just message the dude and say - sorry, not happening so he’s not left waiting like a saddo, posting on the forums…no offence like  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
Terra Firma |
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
To be honest it’s easy to think it’s a mess about, when I’m truth it might be a complete emergency and haven’t had the time to get back to you
No 90% chance they are messing him about. "
If he was messaging them around 17:30 today, I would say this is being blown out of all proportion. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
To be honest it’s easy to think it’s a mess about, when I’m truth it might be a complete emergency and haven’t had the time to get back to you
I mean unless there's been a huge emergency like a family thing there's no real excuse
But it could be, I would at least wait until you hear before making the assumption. Just my opinion of course "
Maybe. But as I've seen on here more than enough times it's more than likely they've just messed me about |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
To be honest it’s easy to think it’s a mess about, when I’m truth it might be a complete emergency and haven’t had the time to get back to you
No 90% chance they are messing him about.
If he was messaging them around 17:30 today, I would say this is being blown out of all proportion. "
Well I did message them at 5 and then 20 past as they were offline to give them time to reply |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination"
It is only 15 minutes after said time. And it was "around half 5". You were going to message them, they didn't need to reply at half 5. If they've got kids then no doubt they'll be doing dinner, tidying, organising for the next day, baths and bedtime. Possibly unexpected company. Was it to definitely meet tonight? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
Terra Firma |
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
17:30 today?
Yes "
I think you have given them no time, anything could have happened, stuck in traffic etc.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
To be honest it’s easy to think it’s a mess about, when I’m truth it might be a complete emergency and haven’t had the time to get back to you
I mean unless there's been a huge emergency like a family thing there's no real excuse
But it could be, I would at least wait until you hear before making the assumption. Just my opinion of course
Maybe. But as I've seen on here more than enough times it's more than likely they've just messed me about "
Of course if they have messed you about it’s a horrible feeling and no one likes being given the run around but it is still quite fresh in the time |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
It is only 15 minutes after said time. And it was "around half 5". You were going to message them, they didn't need to reply at half 5. If they've got kids then no doubt they'll be doing dinner, tidying, organising for the next day, baths and bedtime. Possibly unexpected company. Was it to definitely meet tonight? "
There was no mention of kids in their profile or to me and, yes it was. They even put a status up and we agreed I would he coming round at for around 6pm tonight |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
17:30 today?
Yes
I think you have given them no time, anything could have happened, stuck in traffic etc.
"
I was going to theirs |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
Terra Firma |
"I'm going to wait for them to come back online to see if they reply to my message. If not then it will be a block "
I hope they get in touch, but try and be a little more relaxed about things going forward, it will be good for your heart and soul  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Family emergency, their own health emergency, broken phone, cold feet but feel embarrassed to message, a man on the other end wanking at the possibility of meeting somebody, life.
But this was a couple that reached out to me. They were reluctant to give an exact address in case I was gonna stand them up. And they even made a post asking for people that aren't going to mess them about.
We left it with me saying I would message then at around half 5 to get the exact address but they haven't been online for over an hour. So I'm not setting off till I get an exact address as I'm not traveling with no destination
To be honest it’s easy to think it’s a mess about, when I’m truth it might be a complete emergency and haven’t had the time to get back to you
I mean unless there's been a huge emergency like a family thing there's no real excuse
But it could be, I would at least wait until you hear before making the assumption. Just my opinion of course
Maybe. But as I've seen on here more than enough times it's more than likely they've just messed me about
Of course if they have messed you about it’s a horrible feeling and no one likes being given the run around but it is still quite fresh in the time "
.
To me around half 5 means either 25 past or 25 to |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Relax I know it’s hard, I’ve been there. But seriously you could spend the next couple of hours waiting for a reply to not get one.
The best thing to do is carry on your evening as you would usually.
If they reply and want to meet and you still want to, then go for it…
If they don’t it’s just one of those things unfortunately. Block and move on if not.
Like others have said above they might have had some kind of disaster…
It’s not a pleasant feeling I know and understand |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Sorry to hear this OP. It's absolutely awful that people mess others around. The least people can be is upfront and honest and message to say they've changed their minds. I appreciate that sometimes emergencies happen but on the whole people just change their mind. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
So they came online and asked me if I can be there for half 7 and then when I said yes they asked really. I replied and they've gone offline again. Like what? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"So they came online and asked me if I can be there for half 7 and then when I said yes they asked really. I replied and they've gone offline again. Like what?
Maybe they’ve seen this thread? "
Well if they did then they should take away from it that I was genuine and that I wasn't trying to stand them up |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So they came online and asked me if I can be there for half 7 and then when I said yes they asked really. I replied and they've gone offline again. Like what?"
Well just wait it out until half 7.
A lot of people reply and then click the app off, after a few minutes it shows offline. They are probably getting ready… |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
"So they came online and asked me if I can be there for half 7 and then when I said yes they asked really. I replied and they've gone offline again. Like what?
Maybe they’ve seen this thread?
Well if they did then they should take away from it that I was genuine and that I wasn't trying to stand them up "
How long have you been speaking to them? Have you spoken to both of them? Did you arrange a social or are you going straight to theirs for sex? Not trying to have a go just trying to work out if they are genuine not you OP |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So they came online and asked me if I can be there for half 7 and then when I said yes they asked really. I replied and they've gone offline again. Like what?
Maybe they’ve seen this thread? "
My thoughts exactly! So now you’ve publicly shamed them, why would you not wait more than an hour before making a thread? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So they came online and asked me if I can be there for half 7 and then when I said yes they asked really. I replied and they've gone offline again. Like what?
Maybe they’ve seen this thread? "
Yes. If they have it wouldn't be particularly nice for them.
Most of us have lives off FAB and all the things it throws at us. We can't be on here at the beck and call of a stranger. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So they came online and asked me if I can be there for half 7 and then when I said yes they asked really. I replied and they've gone offline again. Like what?"
Did they explain what happened at 5.30?
I wouldn't bother getting ready. Sounds like a piss take. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"So they came online and asked me if I can be there for half 7 and then when I said yes they asked really. I replied and they've gone offline again. Like what?
Did they explain what happened at 5.30?
I wouldn't bother getting ready. Sounds like a piss take. "
Nope. No reason. They just asked if I could make it for half 7 instead and then updated their status saying half 7 now |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
"So they came online and asked me if I can be there for half 7 and then when I said yes they asked really. I replied and they've gone offline again. Like what?
Did they explain what happened at 5.30?
I wouldn't bother getting ready. Sounds like a piss take.
Nope. No reason. They just asked if I could make it for half 7 instead and then updated their status saying half 7 now "
If you mean they are still asking for a meet at 7.30 I’d say they’ve made you plan b |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So I came and wouldn't you know it they started opening my messages and ignoring me so I'm going home, reporting them and shaming them on a status "
You can't name and shame them. Block and move on. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"So I came and wouldn't you know it they started opening my messages and ignoring me so I'm going home, reporting them and shaming them on a status
You can't name and shame them. Block and move on. "
Why not? I've seen plenty do it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So I came and wouldn't you know it they started opening my messages and ignoring me so I'm going home, reporting them and shaming them on a status
You can't name and shame them. Block and move on.
Why not? I've seen plenty do it"
Just be better than them then mate, don’t bring yourself down to their levels |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I don't know how people actually have the patience for this site "
Try attending clubs and socials then at least you'll actually get to meet people and it won't be a total waste of your time. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I don't know how people actually have the patience for this site
Try attending clubs and socials then at least you'll actually get to meet people and it won't be a total waste of your time."
I've got one planned In march and one in April |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
You can’t name and shame though. You’ll be a gonner then you won’t need the patience. 