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When you organise a vanilla date
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"And then find out they’re on Fab  so Ive got a date tomorrow and today he revealed he’s on here too and has seen me on here before! Lol! "
Decision time then .. try and have a 'normal' date, or get straight into talking about Fab life... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out   "
He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy! |
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"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out
He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy! "
Sounds perfect! Enjoy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hope you have a great time and both get what you want from it. It is impossible to not be slightly different to how it would have been otherwise, but he probably knew you was on fab right from the start. You'll probably have dirtier sex than otherwise, but that's a good thing, surely!!  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out
He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy! "
That is one of the benefits to this little situation with him.
Obviously it does not mean sex is guaranteed etc but it's so much easier to be able to mention sex as a topic and discuss without it coming across as that's what you are wanting or seeming like a creep. Knowing what they like early on let's you know if you are sexually compatible.
It is a disadvantage to vanilla dating that sometimes sex can be so far away from the first date then when you eventually get around to it, there is just no compatibility there.
Now if sex is the only or majority of conversation then that is not good at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hope you have a great time and both get what you want from it. It is impossible to not be slightly different to how it would have been otherwise, but he probably knew you was on fab right from the start. You'll probably have dirtier sex than otherwise, but that's a good thing, surely!! "
Oh yeah he messaged me on fab a whole month before liking me on Hinge dirty sex is a very good thing! |
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By *wesomeLolaCouple
over a year ago
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I spoke to someone recently who said that if she went on a date with someone from dating site she would not fuck them on a first date. But if it's swinging it's different.
So maybe whether your date is on fab might dictate whether you're going to get a shag. Although OP I've seen you on cam and I'm sure that if you want a shag he won't be able to refuse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can be a good thing can be a bad thing
I am looking for different things bween them
But have found the minute they find I am on fab they focus shifts from wanting to date and all that to just wanting to bang
Hopefully it dosent turn that way for you op |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I spoke to someone recently who said that if she went on a date with someone from dating site she would not fuck them on a first date. But if it's swinging it's different.
So maybe whether your date is on fab might dictate whether you're going to get a shag. Although OP I've seen you on cam and I'm sure that if you want a shag he won't be able to refuse."
We are going for coffee, there’ll be no fucking lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out
He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy!
That is one of the benefits to this little situation with him.
Obviously it does not mean sex is guaranteed etc but it's so much easier to be able to mention sex as a topic and discuss without it coming across as that's what you are wanting or seeming like a creep. Knowing what they like early on let's you know if you are sexually compatible.
It is a disadvantage to vanilla dating that sometimes sex can be so far away from the first date then when you eventually get around to it, there is just no compatibility there.
Now if sex is the only or majority of conversation then that is not good at all. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't date anyone who had a profile on here.
I’ve always said that too but we’ll see! "
Lots of people have met their partner on here. It's possible. Good luck. |
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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago
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Best of luck OP. Have fun.
My situation is a bit more complicated. I can't have a 'vanilla' date because I'm in a poly relationship. I would have to tell the lady all about my lifestyle before taking her out (only fair). This inevitably causes issues as most women wouldn't entertain the idea of sharing. And then they often confuse it with swinging etc.
Obviously not true of most... But it's a struggle even on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Best of luck OP. Have fun.
My situation is a bit more complicated. I can't have a 'vanilla' date because I'm in a poly relationship. I would have to tell the lady all about my lifestyle before taking her out (only fair). This inevitably causes issues as most women wouldn't entertain the idea of sharing. And then they often confuse it with swinging etc.
Obviously not true of most... But it's a struggle even on here."
At least you’re honest! Yeah I wouldn’t consider dating someone poly, I think it’s a special kind that can handle that! Have you tried the dating app that is specifically for poly dating? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When arranging a sensible date
And realising they’re on Fab quite late
You should go for a coffee
With caramel or toffee
Cos you’re both not vanilla, check mate |
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"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out
He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy! "
Well that sounds fantastic
Have a brilliant time  |
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"I wouldn't date anyone who had a profile on here.
I’ve always said that too but we’ll see!
Lots of people have met their partner on here. It's possible. Good luck. "
We met on here (Northern Chat room)
First meet 11 yrs ago and been married 8 yrs
Good luck on your date |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't date anyone who had a profile on here.
I’ve always said that too but we’ll see!
Lots of people have met their partner on here. It's possible. Good luck.
We met on here (Northern Chat room)
First meet 11 yrs ago and been married 8 yrs
Good luck on your date "
Wow is it really 11 years! I remember when you got together.  |
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"I wouldn't date anyone who had a profile on here.
I’ve always said that too but we’ll see!
Lots of people have met their partner on here. It's possible. Good luck.
We met on here (Northern Chat room)
First meet 11 yrs ago and been married 8 yrs
Good luck on your date
Wow is it really 11 years! I remember when you got together. "
It was in the chat room Feb 14th a leap year Meg proposed to me and I said yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This happened to me last year.
Also, I feel it’s becoming more and more a thing as a lot of singles are using fab like dating sites now. The amount you see on tinder etc that are also here is massive! |
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"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out
He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy! "
Good luck, have a great time! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm dating someone from here and have for 2 years it can work. only problem is looking for that third person to join the fun   "
Awww I love this, gives me hope |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The topic of Fab provides great conversation fodder on a date, particularly the weird messages and shit
Hope it goes well!"
I mean he’s seen me suck cock and get fucked, nothing left to hide |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The topic of Fab provides great conversation fodder on a date, particularly the weird messages and shit
Hope it goes well!
I mean he’s seen me suck cock and get fucked, nothing left to hide "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If he'd mentioned fab before we met, he wouldn't be for me
Why? (Not a dig at all, but genuinely curious)."
I'd probably think he was all about the sex.
And for me, I wouldn't want to date someone like that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Good luck OP. Hope it turns well. Isn't that the dream for most? Find someone who you like in vanilla life and is also into swinging?"
We won’t swing lol |
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