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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's plenty won't shag me cos I'm fat
There's plenty won't shag me cos I'm old
There's plenty won't shag me cos I'm short
Concentrate on those that accept your race and colouring
There's plenty here that don't exercise such preferences |
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I'm going to say what no one ever says on these threads.
The further east one travels from the UK the less the respect for women is. It's a generalisation for sure. But is has basis in recent history and cultural customs.
And for some of us it has basis in fact.
Of course not everyone of Eastern, Arab, Asian descent will treat women badly. But the common perception is what will put a lot of women off.
So it is a form of discrimination, but against perceived national cultures not the nationality itself.
Equally, discrimination. is not just the preserve of Caucasians. I have witnessed discrimination between other skin tones too.
This is only my own opinion of course  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Now on that basis
My mothers father were born in uk
I was born in uk
But why is it I’m always getting the blame for what they do in the east I’ve never visited india but in my life so why is it I’m getting the compared to people in India Pakistan and being called paki |
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Race, creed or colour doesn't matter to me. I've never judged anyone on the colour of their skin or place of birth but I very much judge them on their demeanour and attitude towards others.
I've always said I'm blind where it comes to race, creed and colour but I don't need braille to recognise an idiot. |
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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
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Why is it so hard to talk to a person Ayer they find out your Asian it’s always goes quiet would like to know the reason "
I'm really confused, the first words in your profile say, "Asian male 30".
How did they not know you were Asian? Are you sending messages and are not getting a reply? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve sent a message to the person when we exchange a fair few messages the 3 weeks down the line we ask out the blue you Asian I replie yes and then I got a reply saying you I don’t date Asians
It states on the profile I’m asian you can see in the pictures I’m asian I’ve also gave them my name witch is a common Asian name |
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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
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"I’ve sent a message to the person when we exchange a fair few messages the 3 weeks down the line we ask out the blue you Asian I replie yes and then I got a reply saying you I don’t date Asians
It states on the profile I’m asian you can see in the pictures I’m asian I’ve also gave them my name witch is a common Asian name"
You dodged a bullet there mate! Exchanging messages and 3 weeks in asks if you are Asian, can you imagine trying to set up a meet, would have been a nightmare. |
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I think this depends on the context.
In terms of society, then yes. We can’t gloss over it and pretend we don’t see colour or race. We should see it, and celebrate the differences in culture that enrich humanity and societies.
In terms of sex and relationships, nope. Give me a woman I find attractive with the qualities I’m searching for, and colour or race isn’t an issue. My most memorable meet was with a woman of a different ethnicity than myself.
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"I’ve sent a message to the person when we exchange a fair few messages the 3 weeks down the line we ask out the blue you Asian I replie yes and then I got a reply saying you I don’t date Asians
It states on the profile I’m asian you can see in the pictures I’m asian I’ve also gave them my name witch is a common Asian name"
I was just going to reply to your other thread, I can't tell your skin colour from your images, & sadly most don't read profiles, which ti me shows ignorance & laziness
If you've been chatting for 3 weeks & they've not bothered to read your profile or asked to see other photos chances are they were a fake profile & if they are real well I think you've had a lucky escape |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This site over the years I THINK is no good for Asians out of 100 messages you send no one reply’s once in a blue moon they do just to say no thanks lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This site over the years I THINK is no good for Asians out of 100 messages you send no one reply’s once in a blue moon they do just to say no thanks lol
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Either I’m getting ugly or the members are not looking for asians |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has been done to death. Political correctness needs to STOP when it comes to who people are attracted to for sex and dating. No one has a right to brand someone any kind of bigot due to their type and tastes in partners. It is going too far. As long as people are not rabidly offensive on their profiles, move on and live and let live  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve sent a message to the person when we exchange a fair few messages the 3 weeks down the line we ask out the blue you Asian I replie yes and then I got a reply saying you I don’t date Asians
It states on the profile I’m asian you can see in the pictures I’m asian I’ve also gave them my name witch is a common Asian name
You dodged a bullet there mate! Exchanging messages and 3 weeks in asks if you are Asian, can you imagine trying to set up a meet, would have been a nightmare. "
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"This site over the years I THINK is no good for Asians out of 100 messages you send no one reply’s once in a blue moon they do just to say no thanks lol
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That's what happens to all single men in general on here it has nothing to do with skin colour
Read the forums there's messages everyday from single guys having the same problem
There are roughly 100 single guys for every women /couple in this site, single guys face a tough ride and have to work hard to get people chatting ket akine meeting
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This site over the years I THINK is no good for Asians out of 100 messages you send no one reply’s once in a blue moon they do just to say no thanks lol
Either I’m getting ugly or the members are not looking for asians"
Doesn't mean you are ugly, maybe they just don't fancy you. I don't fancy George Clooney but apparently he's fit.
Many men on here say they chat for a while then it goes quiet. |
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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
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"This site over the years I THINK is no good for Asians out of 100 messages you send no one reply’s once in a blue moon they do just to say no thanks lol
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100 messages and no replies is it the same message sent 100 times? |
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"How would you contact a person on here"
If they didnt know you were asian to start with then they barely glanced at your profile. And unless were all in possession of your conversation thread you had with them on the basis of what youve said i wont be jumping on the racist wagan and joining in with calling them racist. If they just say 'we dont meet asian guys' that alone is not necessarily racist, asking it 3 weeks after exchanging messages also doesnt necessarily mean it otherwise. You clearly dont meed much evidence for people to start labelling a person racist, its also a nice opportunity for some people to tell us 'they dont see colour' and 'detest racists' etc and not even respond really to op's initial post. Self congratulatory pat on the back for telling us your not racist. Why leave it there....depending on topic you can copy paste and just change couple words "i dont have unconsensual sex , im againt it wholeheartedly' "i apologise for the guys that hit their wives, on bahalf of the few good ones here we dont condone violence towards women' and so on.. |
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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
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"How would you contact a person on here"
On a 1-2-1 personal level, if you sent 100 exactly the same message, that is isn't very personable is it?
Try finding a profile that appeals to you and write a message directly to them.
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"I’m back again
Why is it so hard to talk to a person Ayer they find out your Asian it’s always goes quiet would like to know the reason "
People have preferences, I'm not everyone's and that's fine - everyone's not mine...
Sometimes it's down to negative stereotypes or bad past experiences, but I only want to meet people who want to meet me, so don't think too in depth about it
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"I'm going to say what no one ever says on these threads.
The further east one travels from the UK the less the respect for women is. It's a generalisation for sure. But is has basis in recent history and cultural customs."
Would the reason no one says it be the same reason why no one says their cat can juggle, or they breathe fire out of their arse?
I'm curious... what happens if one travels more to the West from the UK?  |
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People don't want to meet us because we are both straight people don't want to meet up with us because I don't have big tits people don't want to meet up because they don't fancy us I could go on !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As per my reply to your other thread.
We know some incredibly successfully Single Asian guys on the swinging scene. They ooze positivity, charm and light up the room when they enter with their personalities. They are confident not arrogant and first and foremost always respectful and total gentlmen.
They have taken the time and effort to study and embrace the swinging scene and culture. They attend large scale social events (social nights where swingers meet not for sex but to get to know like minded peoole). They attended swinging clubs and respectfully engage fellow swingers. Over time they built up excellent reputations which leads to invites to exclusive parties.
These are average looking Asian guys (in their own words) with average size penises as well. They understand that negativity and poor me attitudes are absolutely NOT Sexy in the slightest.
These guys also have no problem meeting and dating new women outside the swinging scene i.e. at the pub, nightclubs, the workplace , a bus stop, vanilla dating sites and so on.
OP are you successful with meeting women in real life outside of the swinging scene??
If your not successful at meeting people and having sexual relationships in real life then your going to stuggle on fab where there's 100 guys to every 1 women / couple.
At least on Tinder its roughly a straight 50/50 split so 1 guy for every female user. The same in a nightclub you roughly have a similar amount of fellas to ladies.
Far to many men including many who are incel come to fab thinking it's an easy route to sex after failing in real life when the opposite is true.
Your race really doesn't factor in to the above tbh.
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Men find it hard to make progress here. Some don't have realistic expectations. Some blame it on a metaphorical wooden leg.
For someone to be content in life here, they have to accept that most people are not compatible with most other people and this will be driven by preferences.
If you can't put in the graft as a single man here, go to clubs and get to know people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m half Asian.
I’ve done okay-ish in my short time on here.
Yes there are women/couples on here that don’t want to meet the likes of me and you, OP.
There are also plenty of others who do. |
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Unfortunately OP sorry
I’m gonna say it how it is.some people like to use the word preference, Some people like to say they’re open minded when they clearly are not.
ignorance is bliss, not all but some have the fear of the unknown and we get tared with the same brush and stereotypes
But saying that there are some wonderful people on here and I have had some great laughs. I guess it just makes the world a good balance where there is good there is always bad |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"As per my reply to your other thread.
We know some incredibly successfully Single Asian guys on the swinging scene. They ooze positivity, charm and light up the room when they enter with their personalities. They are confident not arrogant and first and foremost always respectful and total gentlmen.
They have taken the time and effort to study and embrace the swinging scene and culture. They attend large scale social events (social nights where swingers meet not for sex but to get to know like minded peoole). They attended swinging clubs and respectfully engage fellow swingers. Over time they built up excellent reputations which leads to invites to exclusive parties.
These are average looking Asian guys (in their own words) with average size penises as well. They understand that negativity and poor me attitudes are absolutely NOT Sexy in the slightest.
These guys also have no problem meeting and dating new women outside the swinging scene i.e. at the pub, nightclubs, the workplace , a bus stop, vanilla dating sites and so on.
OP are you successful with meeting women in real life outside of the swinging scene??
If your not successful at meeting people and having sexual relationships in real life then your going to stuggle on fab where there's 100 guys to every 1 women / couple.
At least on Tinder its roughly a straight 50/50 split so 1 guy for every female user. The same in a nightclub you roughly have a similar amount of fellas to ladies.
Far to many men including many who are incel come to fab thinking it's an easy route to sex after failing in real life when the opposite is true.
Your race really doesn't factor in to the above tbh.
KJ"
Totally agree again very well put  as the other thread |
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"Now on that basis
My mothers father were born in uk
I was born in uk
But why is it I’m always getting the blame for what they do in the east I’ve never visited india but in my life so why is it I’m getting the compared to people in India Pakistan and being called paki"
Simple ignorance.
Just like all Americans are gun toting war mongers. It's natural for people to make sweeping judgments.
All Caucasian people don't hate Muslims, and so on.
That doesn't make it right, it just happens  |
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"Would the reason no one says it be the same reason why no one says their cat can juggle, or they breathe fire out of their arse?
I'm curious... what happens if one travels more to the West from the UK? "
Then 'western culture' tends to prevail, until you reach 'eastern culture' again.
I appreciate you don't agree with me, but have a look at women's rights around the world |
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Personally speaking, it hasn't been that bad for me. I think it's obvious from my pictures that I'm Asian and so if they were to get in contact with me, they would fully know this and would want to know me for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As per my reply to your other thread.
We know some incredibly successfully Single Asian guys on the swinging scene. They ooze positivity, charm and light up the room when they enter with their personalities. They are confident not arrogant and first and foremost always respectful and total gentlmen.
They have taken the time and effort to study and embrace the swinging scene and culture. They attend large scale social events (social nights where swingers meet not for sex but to get to know like minded peoole). They attended swinging clubs and respectfully engage fellow swingers. Over time they built up excellent reputations which leads to invites to exclusive parties.
These are average looking Asian guys (in their own words) with average size penises as well. They understand that negativity and poor me attitudes are absolutely NOT Sexy in the slightest.
These guys also have no problem meeting and dating new women outside the swinging scene i.e. at the pub, nightclubs, the workplace , a bus stop, vanilla dating sites and so on.
OP are you successful with meeting women in real life outside of the swinging scene??
If your not successful at meeting people and having sexual relationships in real life then your going to stuggle on fab where there's 100 guys to every 1 women / couple.
At least on Tinder its roughly a straight 50/50 split so 1 guy for every female user. The same in a nightclub you roughly have a similar amount of fellas to ladies.
Far to many men including many who are incel come to fab thinking it's an easy route to sex after failing in real life when the opposite is true.
Your race really doesn't factor in to the above tbh.
KJ"
Top post. Should be framed and posted as reply every time this topic comes up. I was myself low on confidence for about two years. It's only after I got out of that shell and developed confidence, I was able to get meets. It was and is still close to impossible on fab. But I have been quite successful in parties. |
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"Then 'western culture' tends to prevail, until you reach 'eastern culture' again.
I appreciate you don't agree with me, but have a look at women's rights around the world "
That's not a serious answer, is it? I mean, you get that it's a globe?
And do you really think there are such broadly defined categories as "Western" and "Eastern" culture?
What happens to a 3rd generation Pakistani gentleman? Is he now judged by Eastern or Western cultural presumptions? |
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"Then 'western culture' tends to prevail, until you reach 'eastern culture' again.
I appreciate you don't agree with me, but have a look at women's rights around the world
That's not a serious answer, is it? I mean, you get that it's a globe?
And do you really think there are such broadly defined categories as "Western" and "Eastern" culture?
What happens to a 3rd generation Pakistani gentleman? Is he now judged by Eastern or Western cultural presumptions? "
I agree, how can we generalise nations of people when we sometimes don’t like our neighbours. So colour and religion doesn’t define us our actions define us |
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I think most people that say there not into Asian guys or girls do so on the basis of them not being attracted to them. Its not a racism issue, though i'm sure fab has its fair share of racists too but unfortunately that's life.
Its no different to people saying that they only want BBC, people over 5'10, clean shaven etc. These are peoples preferences and tastes. Doesn't mean 100% that they wouod never deviate from what they're seeking. Its just that this site allows people to forefill their desires and be alittle choosey if thats what they want.
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By (user no longer on site)
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That's definitely right we all just got the kind of person we like for me me when I get that text and the parson pushed my right button and they face u now u going to meet for social as someone told me u see a parson u know in the first 10 Seconds if u want them lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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P attractive preference... you cant help what in a person you find attractive, be it colour, hair style, or whatever.
Rather than dwell over it find someone with preferences that you fit |
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"That's not a serious answer, is it? I mean, you get that it's a globe?
And do you really think there are such broadly defined categories as "Western" and "Eastern" culture?
What happens to a 3rd generation Pakistani gentleman? Is he now judged by Eastern or Western cultural presumptions? "
Yes there are broadly defined East/West cultures.
Often they are tarred with the same brush, which I have clearly said above, is not right but happens.
Perhaps, instead of trying to nitpick, have a read of some serious history and politics books.
There's a lot of differences all over the globe |
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"I agree, how can we generalise nations of people when we sometimes don’t like our neighbours. So colour and religion doesn’t define us our actions define us"
It's very easy to generalise, most people do it all the time.
And I did say in my first post it is about generalising, not actually knowing people. |
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"Personally speaking, it hasn't been that bad for me. I think it's obvious from my pictures that I'm Asian and so if they were to get in contact with me, they would fully know this and would want to know me for me "
Off topic, but how have I never seen your photos before? I know you're out of my age range but that doesn't normally stop me having a perv!  |
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"Personally speaking, it hasn't been that bad for me. I think it's obvious from my pictures that I'm Asian and so if they were to get in contact with me, they would fully know this and would want to know me for me "
Omg those pics, easily in the top 5 of best men's pics on fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally speaking, it hasn't been that bad for me. I think it's obvious from my pictures that I'm Asian and so if they were to get in contact with me, they would fully know this and would want to know me for me
Off topic, but how have I never seen your photos before? I know you're out of my age range but that doesn't normally stop me having a perv! "
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"Personally speaking, it hasn't been that bad for me. I think it's obvious from my pictures that I'm Asian and so if they were to get in contact with me, they would fully know this and would want to know me for me
Omg those pics, easily in the top 5 of best men's pics on fab"
That's very kind of you say, thank you! |
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"Perhaps, instead of trying to nitpick, have a read of some serious history and politics books."
I wasn't "nit-picking."
History, politics and psychology are practically all I read. Any books in particular you would like to discuss? |
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