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What does being on fabswingers mean to you? Most guys I chat too seem to only want fun with me but that's not what swinging is for me though?
Is it just me or do others find its the same when chatting to others they seem to think it's a sex site and not a proper swinging site?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's for Swinging, NSA, hook ups, dating, sex chat, socials, voyeurism, exhibitionism, whatever people want to use it for.
I find the people who just want a wet hole are the ones who get the most irate that they can't find one.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think its for whatever you want it to be. I joined a few years ago and I've met a few but I've also made some great friends of which you are one, I've had some great nights out
I hope this year to have more fun and be more open to things.
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"Is it just me or do others find its the same when chatting to others they seem to think it's a sex site and not a proper swinging site?"
Back when we first joined, we did so because it was a swinger's site. I thought the clue was in the title! 
However, maybe since t*nder started being used more as a dating app by some, Fab seems to have become hook-up central to many.
I guess there's not a lot we can do to stem that tide now. |
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"I think its for whatever you want it to be. I joined a few years ago and I've met a few but I've also made some great friends of which you are one, I've had some great nights out
I hope this year to have more fun and be more open to things.
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I am with you on this one blonds I'd say for me I've met some great folks had some great fun too. Look forward to seeing u all soon xxx |
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When I first joined I just wanted to get my dick sucked or fuck someone.
Although I had heard of swinging I don't actually think I understood the whole thing, the whole lifestyle and I've actually became very close to someone both married but both very attracted to each other and both want to explore each others kinkier sides but at the same time we are very good friends.
I now believe that this is what swinging is all about, not just fucking anything but finding the right person/people to make it about more than blowing your load.
I'm very late to the party but this seems to be a party that goes on for years |
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"What does being on fabswingers mean to you? Most guys I chat too seem to only want fun with me but that's not what swinging is for me though?
Is it just me or do others find its the same when chatting to others they seem to think it's a sex site and not a proper swinging site?
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For me it’s a NSA sex site and meets at clubs. It’s not a relationship site  |
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Personally I’ve seen it as the follows:
Can make friends.
Can meet and engage with like minded people.
But ultimately wether people want to admit it or not, the core of the site and what the majority are after… is sex. No one will tell me fibs and say it’s not.
Like you don’t go to a butchers shop and give off your vegan. So why be on a site that’s rife with sex, and then give off that people just want sex.
Im a no bs type of person. If someone is only there to use me as a pen pal.
Il politely tell them to no longer waste my time.
Ps. Before anyone gets all hot and bothered. All my comments are made in general term and not directed at any individual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I came to fab to get what I wouldn't get elsewhere - the chance to join couples for 3somes and more. I don't think of it as a dating site, but for me to become a real swinger and couple swap, I need to find a partner who is like-minded and won't kibosh any swinging action, so having the chace to meet single females on here is a real plus point and hopefully leads me to an FWB situation where we can swing with couples and go to clubs / parties together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s a what ever you want it to be site
Sometimes I am looking just to make friends
Sometimes I am looking for dates
Sometimes I am just looking for chat
Sometimes I am just here to show off pics
Sometimes I am here for swingeing and social side off thing
Sometimes I am here for mindless no strings attached sex come in do me then leave out the door
See it’s a what ever you want site |
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"What does being on fabswingers mean to you? Most guys I chat too seem to only want fun with me but that's not what swinging is for me though?
Is it just me or do others find its the same when chatting to others they seem to think it's a sex site and not a proper swinging site?
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What do you mean by proper swinging site, what are you looking for from the site OP
I always thought by definition swinging was having sexual encounters outside the boundaries of a traditional relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its a site where some talk about sex but get none,
some get sex but don't talk about it,
Some get sex and brag about it,
some don't get sex but pretend they do,
some pretend they want sex but don't,
some crave the attention of others,
Some can't stand the attention of others,
Some say it isn't cheating if the other half is watching,
a site where men are the commodity not the customer,
Where supply outstrips demand,
where for some their wildest fantasies are achieved,
or where dreams and self esteem die alone,
Fab is many things to many people.
Best to use fab as you see fit and not worry about how others use it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd say it's more of casual dating site than a site for swingers.
I know arguments about whether it's a swingers site go back years but I think the balance has long shifted from couples (and singles interested in meeting them), to being more singles looking to meet with singles. |
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For us we use the site mainly to find out about clubs, events and keep up-to-date with friends on the scene. And to show off a little sometimes. We don't really use it to meet up with people. Swinging is far better and more successful in the real world. So we generally keep our swinging to clubs, events and arrangements with people we've met in the real life swinging world. |
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Its a great place to find awesome hothusbands and a few special single men.
Mostly I use it as an excuse to travel the country and meet awesome people at fab party socials and maybe find a man or 2 I'd like to keep in my life  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To me it's about finding people that I wanna have sex with.
For me that means I have to like a person. There is nothing wrong with having a friends with benefits situation, but most people don't want the friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I came to fab to get what I wouldn't get elsewhere - the chance to join couples for 3somes and more. I don't think of it as a dating site, but for me to become a real swinger and couple swap, I need to find a partner who is like-minded and won't kibosh any swinging action, so having the chace to meet single females on here is a real plus point and hopefully leads me to an FWB situation where we can swing with couples and go to clubs / parties together."
Just couples? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To me it's about finding people that I wanna have sex with.
For me that means I have to like a person. There is nothing wrong with having a friends with benefits situation, but most people don't want the friends."
Couldnt agree more |
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I joined 2 years ago initially to have sex. However as time has gone on I found it was more the scene as a whole that I enjoyed - the relaxed environment at clubs and the social side as well.
I think the site is more about singles having one off or regular fun (fuck buddies) than actual swinging (as in partner swapping etc) but to a degree that is the benefit of Fab as it can be for what you want it to be provided you aren't hurting anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Everyone can use the site how they want.
However I must say I do get annoyed when I tell someone that I like a pure social before “doing” anything as I like to get to know someone at least a little and they are just like “erm what?! Don’t you know this is a sex site not a dating site?!” 
I mean, if they’re just looking for a warm hole to use, they can go to a professional. |
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"I came to fab to get what I wouldn't get elsewhere - the chance to join couples for 3somes and more. I don't think of it as a dating site, but for me to become a real swinger and couple swap, I need to find a partner who is like-minded and won't kibosh any swinging action, so having the chace to meet single females on here is a real plus point and hopefully leads me to an FWB situation where we can swing with couples and go to clubs / parties together.
Just couples? "
Haha, sorry, pardon me - couples and singles!!!!  I thought the singles went without saying!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone can use the site how they want.
However I must say I do get annoyed when I tell someone that I like a pure social before “doing” anything as I like to get to know someone at least a little and they are just like “erm what?! Don’t you know this is a sex site not a dating site?!”
I mean, if they’re just looking for a warm hole to use, they can go to a professional. "
Haha, there's are plenty of people that are proud to announce they are professional on here!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tens of thousands of people here - I think there's room for anything. I joined because I'm non-monogamous and kinky and hoped to find men who were the same.
I do get very tired of being told I don't belong or people trying to persuade me that I'm not actually straight and surely their partner can watch. Men expecting me to be available at the drop of a hat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it’s a swinging site but that doesn’t preclude others from using it how they want to, so long as it doesn’t impinge on the ability of others to use it how they want too. My using it as a hookup site or piss-about-on-the-forums site doesn’t take away from anyone else’s enjoyment of proper swinging, whatever that means to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone can use the site how they want.
However I must say I do get annoyed when I tell someone that I like a pure social before “doing” anything as I like to get to know someone at least a little and they are just like “erm what?! Don’t you know this is a sex site not a dating site?!”
I mean, if they’re just looking for a warm hole to use, they can go to a professional. "
I just laugh at those types though. They are likely just irritated because they can't get a shag. |
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"It's for Swinging, NSA, hook ups, dating, sex chat, socials, voyeurism, exhibitionism, whatever people want to use it for.
I find the people who just want a wet hole are the ones who get the most irate that they can't find one. "
I totally agree with all of this.
For me personally, I like the friends I have made via the forums, and I like to post pictures which ticks my exhibitionist box, and whilst I'm aware it's not e-harmony *smirk*
I'd be open to the possibility of dating/relationship with someone who wanted similar.
I'm more likely to find the type of sex I want and need here than elsewhere, but the chances of a relationship are almost zero.
Having said all that, it isn't something I'd look for, and would probably run a mile if someone contacted me asking for that 
I want to be wowed in every sense |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"For us we use the site mainly to find out about clubs, events and keep up-to-date with friends on the scene. And to show off a little sometimes. We don't really use it to meet up with people. Swinging is far better and more successful in the real world. So we generally keep our swinging to clubs, events and arrangements with people we've met in the real life swinging world."
That's how I use fab too |
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On occasion I have come across someone I've really liked. However, once I removed the wool from over my eyes I realised just how superficial they were. Sorry to be so negative, don't fool yourself. You can't question someone's integrity. |
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