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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago
A world all of his own |
"Just Ben to the same venue for yet another funeral. I have to say I hate them, horrible experience every time and don't get any fookin easier
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Yeah I had one towards the end of last year too, getting to hate them myself. |
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"Am I soppy for getting ch@ked up and couldn't speak? Others seemed fine. Was my aunts funeral "
Nope.
I tend to go a bit numb at funerals but the most recent one we went to was an ex navy man and the dignified lowering of the flags by members of the British Legion as the curtains closed across his coffin was a very emotional sight. |
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"Am I soppy for getting ch@ked up and couldn't speak? Others seemed fine. Was my aunts funeral "
Not at all, everyone deals with the experience differently. Some cry, some walk out as too much and others are stiff upper lipped. There is no right or wrong way, just everyone’s natural reaction at the time. |
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By *istalloverCouple
over a year ago
Pays de la Loire -Normandie -Brittany borderFrance |
I dislike burial services been to too many and military ones with bugles go through the toughest of men .
But modern crematorium services seem less formal with the vicars becoming more like dj's playing more music and less about the individuals life.
But thanks to a Dave Allen sketch
As the curtain is about to close I keep expecting to see a Supermarket next customer please on the conveyor.
I know it's a sad time but the above takes the edge off it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I refuse to go to any more funerals, I can fairly justify it without anyone having a go at me, I've had to bury 3 of my children 2008,2014 and 2020 I was the sole Pall bearer of 2 tiny white coffins for my son and daughter, then myself and brothers for my 6 year old sons in 2020. I don't even want to go to my own funeral. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I refuse to go to any more funerals, I can fairly justify it without anyone having a go at me, I've had to bury 3 of my children 2008,2014 and 2020 I was the sole Pall bearer of 2 tiny white coffins for my son and daughter, then myself and brothers for my 6 year old sons in 2020. I don't even want to go to my own funeral."
That is truly awful. Peace and respect to you mate
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Funerals are always brutal mate , never gets any easier like you say and as time goes on you start attending more of them than weddings . It’s a tad grim . |
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Now you see I like a good funeral.
I like to here about people’s lives before I knew them , a good eulogy can make all the difference. I’d rather listen to some interesting anucdotes than music at a funeral.
I like to catch up with people I haven’t seen for years
I like to reflect on my association with the deceased and share a laugh with others about memories we have.
You can be respectful and show sadness without having a downer on everything.
This is just my view and obviously others will have theirs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I refuse to go to any more funerals, I can fairly justify it without anyone having a go at me, I've had to bury 3 of my children 2008,2014 and 2020 I was the sole Pall bearer of 2 tiny white coffins for my son and daughter, then myself and brothers for my 6 year old sons in 2020. I don't even want to go to my own funeral."
Oh my I’m crying all over again xxxx I’m so sorry you have had to go through this
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Now you see I like a good funeral.
I like to here about people’s lives before I knew them , a good eulogy can make all the difference. I’d rather listen to some interesting anucdotes than music at a funeral.
I like to catch up with people I haven’t seen for years
I like to reflect on my association with the deceased and share a laugh with others about memories we have.
You can be respectful and show sadness without having a downer on everything.
This is just my view and obviously others will have theirs. "
I wish I could be like that!
I couldn't speak at all and had to make jestures.
I texted cousin later to apologise and explain I was too upset to speak to him or anyone else. I'm really glad I didn't start crying
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"Now you see I like a good funeral.
I like to here about people’s lives before I knew them , a good eulogy can make all the difference. I’d rather listen to some interesting anucdotes than music at a funeral.
I like to catch up with people I haven’t seen for years
I like to reflect on my association with the deceased and share a laugh with others about memories we have.
You can be respectful and show sadness without having a downer on everything.
This is just my view and obviously others will have theirs.
I wish I could be like that!
I couldn't speak at all and had to make jestures.
I texted cousin later to apologise and explain I was too upset to speak to him or anyone else. I'm really glad I didn't start crying
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I’m quite sure no one would judge you for showing your emotions, funerals can be very emotional for lots of reasons.
The main thing is you were there and payed your respects, I’m sure that was appreciated by your cousins and family   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Now you see I like a good funeral.
I like to here about people’s lives before I knew them , a good eulogy can make all the difference. I’d rather listen to some interesting anucdotes than music at a funeral.
I like to catch up with people I haven’t seen for years
I like to reflect on my association with the deceased and share a laugh with others about memories we have.
You can be respectful and show sadness without having a downer on everything.
This is just my view and obviously others will have theirs.
I wish I could be like that!
I couldn't speak at all and had to make jestures.
I texted cousin later to apologise and explain I was too upset to speak to him or anyone else. I'm really glad I didn't start crying
I’m quite sure no one would judge you for showing your emotions, funerals can be very emotional for lots of reasons.
The main thing is you were there and payed your respects, I’m sure that was appreciated by your cousins and family "
Thanks
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You should never apologise for showing emotion, especially not at something like a funeral. Everyone deals with their emotions differently and so just because others appeared "ok" at the service, it's quite possible they felt the same as you, inwardly.
I have no idea how I sang the poem I sang at my Grandad's funeral in Feb 2021. But I did. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went to my besties mum’s funeral this morning
I cried tons! But it was such a beautiful service and memory of her life!
I wish I could have a 61st wedding anniversary
It was beautiful to hear how 62 years ago they met and instantly fell in love and how that love stayed so strong for so long
Although I am ready to not attend another for years to come xx |
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"I refuse to go to any more funerals, I can fairly justify it without anyone having a go at me, I've had to bury 3 of my children 2008,2014 and 2020 I was the sole Pall bearer of 2 tiny white coffins for my son and daughter, then myself and brothers for my 6 year old sons in 2020. I don't even want to go to my own funeral."
That's so traumatic. No words |
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