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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm the only guy working with 5 women. A 6th in another work group on a bank of desks chats to the 5 in my group, after sharing compliments with each other etc.. Or general chat, she's smiling and laughing, then loks at me with a blank stare for a moment, I look away as if I wasn't listening and she returns to the other bank of desks.
Not being savvy with socialising with women as I e always worked with groups of guys from army and male dominated settings, is she displaying a problem with me? Just asking I'm not rattled just curious
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Far too many factors at play here to know
Stop caring and instead focus on you
Be kind and respectful to everyone
Include everyone
Make everyone feel welcomed by you
Then you won’t have a problem "
Oh yeah, I just cary o. And get stuck I to my work |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"She's probably not thinking about you at all."
Ah right, just wasn't sure if she s been tell g her mates girly stuff then realising I could have overheard lol.
I just carry on and keep my head down |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What kind of stare? X
Blank, mouth closed, her eyes narrow and lasts for about 3 or 4 seconds, not a pleasent stare.
Ohh that's not nice then! X"
Oh well... Nowt I can do about it, I just take no notice.
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"What kind of stare? X
Blank, mouth closed, her eyes narrow and lasts for about 3 or 4 seconds, not a pleasent stare. "
Sounds like she maybe could have a problem then! Only way is to ask if u feel brave enough? Understand if u dont maybe something like is everything ok? What do the others do when she dies that? Or dont they notice? X |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Probably nothing. I have worked as the only male in teams many times, best thing is to concentrate on your job and get involved if invited. If the conversation turns to something unpleasant or uncomfortable then point it out and ask them to conduct personal and private conversations elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the occasions I work in the office I am around more women than men and the women are virtually predatory. They are often making flirty comments and inuendo. Fortunately I'm not the delicate type. |
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I've often worked in environments where there's only been one man and quite a few women. We rarely discussed "girly" stuff and always included the guy as another human being in general conversation, excluding one member of a team is not pleasant. How old are these women? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What kind of stare? X
Blank, mouth closed, her eyes narrow and lasts for about 3 or 4 seconds, not a pleasent stare.
Sounds like she maybe could have a problem then! Only way is to ask if u feel brave enough? Understand if u dont maybe something like is everything ok? What do the others do when she dies that? Or dont they notice? X"
I haven't looked at the others, though I think they've noticed but nothing said.
Still early days I suppose, I've been there a month now. Might be because she can't talk about things she doesn't want men to hear.
I'll see how it goes and possibly ask her in confidence if it gets worse
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"I've often worked in environments where there's only been one man and quite a few women. We rarely discussed "girly" stuff and always included the guy as another human being in general conversation, excluding one member of a team is not pleasant. How old are these women? "
2 in early 60s, one in 40s 1 teenager, one 20s
Shes in 20s
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"What kind of stare? X
Blank, mouth closed, her eyes narrow and lasts for about 3 or 4 seconds, not a pleasent stare.
Sounds like she maybe could have a problem then! Only way is to ask if u feel brave enough? Understand if u dont maybe something like is everything ok? What do the others do when she dies that? Or dont they notice? X
I haven't looked at the others, though I think they've noticed but nothing said.
Still early days I suppose, I've been there a month now. Might be because she can't talk about things she doesn't want men to hear.
I'll see how it goes and possibly ask her in confidence if it gets worse
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Good idea! Good luck x |
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"I've often worked in environments where there's only been one man and quite a few women. We rarely discussed "girly" stuff and always included the guy as another human being in general conversation, excluding one member of a team is not pleasant. How old are these women?
2 in early 60s, one in 40s 1 teenager, one 20s
Shes in 20s
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I'd hope the older ones would know better than to exclude you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What kind of stare? X
Blank, mouth closed, her eyes narrow and lasts for about 3 or 4 seconds, not a pleasent stare.
Sounds like she maybe could have a problem then! Only way is to ask if u feel brave enough? Understand if u dont maybe something like is everything ok? What do the others do when she dies that? Or dont they notice? X
I haven't looked at the others, though I think they've noticed but nothing said.
Still early days I suppose, I've been there a month now. Might be because she can't talk about things she doesn't want men to hear.
I'll see how it goes and possibly ask her in confidence if it gets worse
Good idea! Good luck x"
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