Hi, thinking of try swinging/cuckolding with wife but we worried how it may effect our relationship, for the better or worse, does it change how you feel about each other? any advice from experienced people welcome, thanks |
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over a year ago
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Me and my wife both on here. It doesn't or shouldn't change the way you feel about eachother. We both say we are still eachothers number 1, it had made us stronger |
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It all depends upon the people involved, if she is curious then there is no reason why it can not work. But if it's something that she has no interest in trying to push her down that road isn't going to work. |
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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago
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No one can tell you the answer to that only what they experienced, you will only find out after you have doneit so bear in mind once its done there is no undoing and therein lies the risk for better or worse. |
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If you are both interested, then create a couples profile on here and let her drive it, see if you can get some socials.
Make sure you discuss your boundaries and try not to stray and if either of you want to push them, then do it gently with discussion.
Oh and did I mention that discussion is the key to this. |
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Talk about is seriously.
How do you both feel if members of the opposite sex flirt? How do you react if the other does a double take when an attractive person walks by? How do you feel if someone of the opposite sex stares too long at your partner.
The reality is swinging sounds fun but the reality can be devastating.
I met my other half here eight years ago. We attended clubs but we went through a bad patch over something unforeseen whilst swinging. I don't have a jealous bone in my body. The other half expects me to have an almost forensic shower before sex, but happily went down on women who had previously been pounded by other men without batting an eyelid in clubs.
If you have any doubts, don't jeopardise your relationship. |
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My biggest worry when we started this was that it would change things. That my hubby would see me differently after and we’d regret it. We just made sure we were honest with each other and communicate about things all the time. Before the first meet I remember saying to him if either of us weren’t completely happy with how things went then we would stop and we wouldn’t hold anything against each other.
Two and a half years on we are still enjoying it. Of course some things have changed in what we want out of this but we just keep talking things through all the time.
Kx |
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Does she know you're on here? If she doesn't then please don't start swinging together.. swinging should be about being open and honest, trust was a huge thing for me and my partner when we swung together...
If you have a truthful and honest relationship then go for it. It's great!  |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
"Hi, thinking of try swinging/cuckolding with wife but we worried how it may effect our relationship, for the better or worse, does it change how you feel about each other? any advice from experienced people welcome, thanks"
The opinion on the topic from Fab population would be kind of “the mistake of survivorship bias”
All couples with positive experience will stay here and says it’s all good, but the one with negative experience most probably don’t want to come back to the site |
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"Hi, thinking of try swinging/cuckolding with wife but we worried how it may effect our relationship, for the better or worse, does it change how you feel about each other? any advice from experienced people welcome, thanks
The opinion on the topic from Fab population would be kind of “the mistake of survivorship bias”
All couples with positive experience will stay here and says it’s all good, but the one with negative experience most probably don’t want to come back to the site "
Exactly. It obviously works for all the couples on here or they wouldn’t be here. I wouldn’t even get to talking about it. Definitely not for me. Not something I could ever do or even understand to be honest. I’d say it would need a lot of discussion to make sure you’re both totally happy with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We'd been together for about 15 years before we gave it a go. I don't think you know how it'll work out until it happens.
We've never seen ourselves as part of the lifestyle though it's just been something we've done from time to time.
It definitely added to our sex life but we can take it or leave it. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Hi, thinking of try swinging/cuckolding with wife but we worried how it may effect our relationship, for the better or worse, does it change how you feel about each other? any advice from experienced people welcome, thanks"
First thing I would do is be truthful about your status… if there are two of you, then your status and your profile should be about two of you!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If your relationship is solid then it can't effect it as long as your both happy and comfortable with the arrangement. If you are doing it due to relationship problems/lack of sex life, it will most likely end up in diaster. |
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