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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Depends on what you mean by matter.
Overall no it doesn't matter. We can end up being attracted to almost anyone for many different reasons. If two people are attracted then what reason should they be told otherwise based upon opinion. Just as somebody may have no attraction to certain ages.
Age limits as a hard rule are bizzare to me (at least solid and none moving ones). A 30 year old is pretty much no different to a 31 year old, or a 50 year old from 51.they don't suddenly become something I'm not interested in once they gain that extra year under their belt.
I have age range on my profile, but they are most certainly guidelines rather than rules. The person will be of more interest to me than their age (over the legal age!). What I find is that the further from my own age I go the chances are I'd have less in common with them so the attraction will be reduced, but that doesn't mean I won't have things in common either. Between with plenty of people with a sizable age gap between us and worked out great. |
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"Depends on what you mean by matter.
Overall no it doesn't matter. We can end up being attracted to almost anyone for many different reasons. If two people are attracted then what reason should they be told otherwise based upon opinion. Just as somebody may have no attraction to certain ages.
Age limits as a hard rule are bizzare to me (at least solid and none moving ones). A 30 year old is pretty much no different to a 31 year old, or a 50 year old from 51.they don't suddenly become something I'm not interested in once they gain that extra year under their belt.
I have age range on my profile, but they are most certainly guidelines rather than rules. The person will be of more interest to me than their age (over the legal age!). What I find is that the further from my own age I go the chances are I'd have less in common with them so the attraction will be reduced, but that doesn't mean I won't have things in common either. Between with plenty of people with a sizable age gap between us and worked out great. "
I don't find them bizarre at all. I have children in their 30's so I will never meet anyone even close to their ages.
It has no whatsoever to do with maturity or experience and everything to do with their age.
If that makes me ageist then so be it but I have no intention of ever breaking that rule.
In fact I take it so seriously that if I look at a profile and they are outside my age range I won't read it or look at the pics because we don't have anything in common regardless of how good their profile is. |
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over a year ago
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It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board. |
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When younger I was attracted to older men, as in about 10-15 years older than me. As I’ve gotten older I find I am enjoying spending time with younger men - again on average about 10-15 years younger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think when it comes to attraction age doesn’t really matter…
I have found tho that it becomes a problem when two people are walking two paths in life, example. One is in the middle of their career and the other is thinking about retiring . (Even energy level wise)
I think differences become more evident and it can dig into the relationship and create some problems that will put into deciding what to do about the relationship.
Also 5-10 years difference (+/-) isn’t all that, generation wise. While 20 , I think there are less things in common or that someone can relate to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board."
Be careful. I got a forum ban for saying something similar. |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board."
I do not post on certain posts . This comment has puzzled me. There are many females on here who have profiles and have 18 -99 age limits. I think I have seen other threads ? Where females have actual stated having sex with just above legal age limit .Even though a lot older. So that has to be creepy and weird ? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board."
Why is it creepy? And why older man/younger woman but not older woman/younger man?
Mutual attraction is mutual attraction. |
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I have a fetish for older. Once in my 20,s I was working at a house. And they had a cleaner. She was 62 but a really fancied her. Anyway she caught me ogling her large tits. Instead of telling me of, she asked if I’d like to suck them. Which lead to a really naughty afternoon. And It’s been a thing of mine ever since. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m currently sleeping with a woman twice my age- neither of us care. I think every individual person feels differently. 
^ He likes sleeping."
Missed this. I was asleep. |
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My FWB is 33 years younger than me. When we are together I don’t think about it, it’s two adults enjoying themselves. If we are out in public we get a few looks particularly from young guys but she’s not bothered and neither am I. |
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It matters to me.
Anyone young enough to my children's age or old enough to my parents age is a no, why I have age filters.
What anyone else does as long as its legal & consensual is their business. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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I prefer guys of a similar age to myself or younger, but not fussed what other people do. It's up to the individual. We all have different preferences.
I've not spoken to guys at clubs as they looked too young and I thought they wouldn't be interested in me, but I guess you don't know unless you ask  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Relationship wise, an age gap to me matters. I’d want someone similar age to me. I dated a woman 15 years younger than me when about 15 years ago. As good as it was, there were things in every day life that showed our age gap and we eventually split. As for a fuck buddy, any age above legal is good to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board.
Why is it creepy? And why older man/younger woman but not older woman/younger man?
Mutual attraction is mutual attraction. "
Cos older men are perves, older women are 'cougars'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board.
Why is it creepy? And why older man/younger woman but not older woman/younger man?
Mutual attraction is mutual attraction. "
I wouldn't say creepy but I would wonder if there is a power imbalance - that also goes for an older woman with a teenage boy. I say that as a parent of an 18yo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board.
Why is it creepy? And why older man/younger woman but not older woman/younger man?
Mutual attraction is mutual attraction.
I wouldn't say creepy but I would wonder if there is a power imbalance - that also goes for an older woman with a teenage boy. I say that as a parent of an 18yo. "
My OH out earns me by 30k a year, yet strangers still put me in the 'sugar daddy' category
It is just unfeasible to some why a young, attractive, career successful person would get into a relationship with an old, fat, slaphead |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board.
Why is it creepy? And why older man/younger woman but not older woman/younger man?
Mutual attraction is mutual attraction.
I wouldn't say creepy but I would wonder if there is a power imbalance - that also goes for an older woman with a teenage boy. I say that as a parent of an 18yo.
My OH out earns me by 30k a year, yet strangers still put me in the 'sugar daddy' category
It is just unfeasible to some why a young, attractive, career successful person would get into a relationship with an old, fat, slaphead"
Don't come across many teens who are career successful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board.
Why is it creepy? And why older man/younger woman but not older woman/younger man?
Mutual attraction is mutual attraction.
I wouldn't say creepy but I would wonder if there is a power imbalance - that also goes for an older woman with a teenage boy. I say that as a parent of an 18yo.
My OH out earns me by 30k a year, yet strangers still put me in the 'sugar daddy' category
It is just unfeasible to some why a young, attractive, career successful person would get into a relationship with an old, fat, slaphead
Don't come across many teens who are career successful "
You get my drift though
As I am older and less conventionally attractive, there is a line of thought that the younger, more attractive one is there for the money and the lifestyle
Like it isn't even feasibly possible that there could be a physical attraction or any true love there |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board.
Why is it creepy? And why older man/younger woman but not older woman/younger man?
Mutual attraction is mutual attraction.
I wouldn't say creepy but I would wonder if there is a power imbalance - that also goes for an older woman with a teenage boy. I say that as a parent of an 18yo.
My OH out earns me by 30k a year, yet strangers still put me in the 'sugar daddy' category
It is just unfeasible to some why a young, attractive, career successful person would get into a relationship with an old, fat, slaphead
Don't come across many teens who are career successful
You get my drift though
As I am older and less conventionally attractive, there is a line of thought that the younger, more attractive one is there for the money and the lifestyle
Like it isn't even feasibly possible that there could be a physical attraction or any true love there "
I hadn't suggested that this couldn't be true. But if one of my teens was involved with someone far older I'd have some doubts to start. I think some people can still be very vulnerable in their teens and early twenties until they have some more life experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board.
Why is it creepy? And why older man/younger woman but not older woman/younger man?
Mutual attraction is mutual attraction.
I wouldn't say creepy but I would wonder if there is a power imbalance - that also goes for an older woman with a teenage boy. I say that as a parent of an 18yo.
My OH out earns me by 30k a year, yet strangers still put me in the 'sugar daddy' category
It is just unfeasible to some why a young, attractive, career successful person would get into a relationship with an old, fat, slaphead"
Maybe it's because you dress like Elton John when you're out together.
You're both fucking gorgeous.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board.
Why is it creepy? And why older man/younger woman but not older woman/younger man?
Mutual attraction is mutual attraction.
I wouldn't say creepy but I would wonder if there is a power imbalance - that also goes for an older woman with a teenage boy. I say that as a parent of an 18yo.
My OH out earns me by 30k a year, yet strangers still put me in the 'sugar daddy' category
It is just unfeasible to some why a young, attractive, career successful person would get into a relationship with an old, fat, slaphead
Maybe it's because you dress like Elton John when you're out together.
You're both fucking gorgeous. "
We are the Elton and David of Manchester  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"does age difference matter, being old enough to be there mum or dad"
I wouldn't shag someone old enough to be my mum or dad. Fucking someone young enough to be my son though.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board.
Why is it creepy? And why older man/younger woman but not older woman/younger man?
Mutual attraction is mutual attraction.
I wouldn't say creepy but I would wonder if there is a power imbalance - that also goes for an older woman with a teenage boy. I say that as a parent of an 18yo.
My OH out earns me by 30k a year, yet strangers still put me in the 'sugar daddy' category
It is just unfeasible to some why a young, attractive, career successful person would get into a relationship with an old, fat, slaphead
Maybe it's because you dress like Elton John when you're out together.
You're both fucking gorgeous.
We are the Elton and David of Manchester "
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"Yes, it matters to me.
So oldies like me are consigned to the fab waste bin?
Not at all... I prefer older  x  "
Where were you when I was working in Barrow in Furness? Sadly fab wasn't around back then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"does age difference matter, being old enough to be there mum or dad"
I have never dated a female older than me in my life as age is only a number, biggest age gap was was 25 years she was 25 i was 50.
I'm 12 years older than Jane and its never been an issue , she keeps me younger looking and I'm lucky she finds me attractive even though I know I'm punching well above myself being with her.
If 2 people are happy and in love good on them age shouldn't cone into it  |
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We don’t find age to be a particular issue.
It’s more how we connect with will in turn influence whether we play.
Experience has shown older guys are most respectful in general.
There was one occasion fairly recently where a random young fella just approached us and asked would you like to find a room ! We just told him NO.
On that same evening a much older chap asked if it was ok to sit next to us. He seemed nice so we said it was ok. Conversation just flowed. Inevitably after best part of an hour we were asked if we are interested in going further? Let’s just say it ended with Cat’s first spontaneous threesome.
To this day we don’t know how old as we didn’t ask but hazarding a guess he’s got to be at least 60. We do intend on finding out as he is regular at that club. C’s parents are within the same age range.
The beauty of this lifestyle is it allows you to explore and push boundaries and do things you wouldn’t ever think of doing ordinarily.
Sex with an older playmate is not the same as committing to a relationship ! That’s a different ball game entirely.
So yes we generally prefer older playmates here.
Can anyone else particularly girls relate to this ??
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Age is less of a concern to us. Attraction is the big thing. You could have a 20 year old who hasn't taken care of them selves and looks old enough to be my nan or you could have someone in their 50s who looks like they are in their 30s. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We don’t find age to be a particular issue.
It’s more how we connect with will in turn influence whether we play.
Experience has shown older guys are most respectful in general.
There was one occasion fairly recently where a random young fella just approached us and asked would you like to find a room ! We just told him NO.
On that same evening a much older chap asked if it was ok to sit next to us. He seemed nice so we said it was ok. Conversation just flowed. Inevitably after best part of an hour we were asked if we are interested in going further? Let’s just say it ended with Cat’s first spontaneous threesome.
To this day we don’t know how old as we didn’t ask but hazarding a guess he’s got to be at least 60. We do intend on finding out as he is regular at that club. C’s parents are within the same age range.
The beauty of this lifestyle is it allows you to explore and push boundaries and do things you wouldn’t ever think of doing ordinarily.
Sex with an older playmate is not the same as committing to a relationship ! That’s a different ball game entirely.
So yes we generally prefer older playmates here.
Can anyone else particularly girls relate to this ??
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Anyone ive met, older or younger has been respectful, i can tell within a few messages if they know how what respectful is
Met 2 guys under 30 since ive been here, absolute gents, that great balance of humility with serious skills |
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By *etra43TV/TS
over a year ago
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"It depends. An older man sleeping with a teenage girl - even when she is above the age of consent - is creepy and weird.
Older than that, anything goes, as long as everyone is happy and on board.
I do not post on certain posts . This comment has puzzled me. There are many females on here who have profiles and have 18 -99 age limits. I think I have seen other threads ? Where females have actual stated having sex with just above legal age limit .Even though a lot older. So that has to be creepy and weird ? "
Shows a narrow mind in your case, it's attraction not age |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah to a point.
We had a very charming couple approach is but as they were half our age (and very attractive - far out of our league) we'd have just felt really awkward.
Each to their own though  |
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