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"When they can’t answer simple questions on consent and boundaries."
ndaries."
Yes this!
We were approached by a guy at Christmas, renting a chalet near us with a hot tub. We sent him our moron filter questions. These are a collection of questions some serious, some funny, that filter out morons.
Normally 99% of people answer them in the spirit of them. He went off on a rant about not wanting to get into politics or being woke! So of course The Boy pushed back a little and he exposed himself to be a complete bell end who also wanted us to take drugs!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As already stated by others.
Not asking questions or replying with anything more than one or two word answers.
Basically people killing some time while they are horny or looking for an ego boost as they love attention
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When they show lack of consideration to the fact that I am in a relationship, and then suggest that I should couple up with them... instantly loses my interest.
NBVN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As already stated by others.
Not asking questions or replying with anything more than one or two word answers.
Basically people killing some time while they are horny or looking for an ego boost as they love attention
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Or people being polite and not wanting to be rude to someone who seems nice.... |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"When they show lack of consideration to the fact that I am in a relationship, and then suggest that I should couple up with them... instantly loses my interest.
NBVN x"
Wow....the nerve  |
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When they ask to meet after just a couple of messages. You refuse and then get a message from a fab friend informing you that she had messaged them through your verifications and told her to back off and stop holding you back. |
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"When they can’t answer simple questions on consent and boundaries.
ndaries."
Yes this!
We were approached by a guy at Christmas, renting a chalet near us with a hot tub. We sent him our moron filter questions. These are a collection of questions some serious, some funny, that filter out morons.
Normally 99% of people answer them in the spirit of them. He went off on a rant about not wanting to get into politics or being woke! So of course The Boy pushed back a little and he exposed himself to be a complete bell end who also wanted us to take drugs!!"
Kind of want to take the moron questions as intrigued to what they could be haha |
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"When they show a complete lack of discretion and talk in detail about folk they've shagged on here."
I've seen a few verifications recently praising people for being great story tellers.
From experience I know that most of the stories these people are telling at group socials are not their own.
They are personal stories told to them in confidence by others but they see nothing wrong in not only making them public but in telling everyone who told them.
Unfortunately so many are lapping it up and the storyteller is lauded for his fab connections. |
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Purely for fun could you send me your moron filter questions please?"
1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.
2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.
3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.
4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all
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"[Removed by poster at 28/01/22 08:42:14]
Purely for fun could you send me your moron filter questions please?
1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.
2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.
3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.
4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all
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No
Yes
No
No
Can’t see anything in there that would trigger someone so badly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had one today, he looks after an elderly severely disabled lady, basically he’s on night duty and wanted me to go round later tonight and well you know at her house - nope not my thing! |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"Had one today, he looks after an elderly severely disabled lady, basically he’s on night duty and wanted me to go round later tonight and well you know at her house - nope not my thing! "
I hope it was family member he was looking after rather than him being employed by a care agency, otherwise he’s breaching all sorts rules and regulations! |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
People who keep asking questions especially personal ones while being vague in any answer they give you.
Someone who keeps name dropping in conversations as tho that should impress me. |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
"Ever been messaging someone and it’s all going well until they say or do something to change your mind ?
Any examples?"
For me it sometimes doesn't get as far as all is going well before there is a red flag, a three or four word initial message to instigate a conversation is all good but when the first two or three messages back are still the same it's a red flag I am not in for a two way chat, I like to chat but won't have a one way chat having to drag every word from someone, my wi fi usually has issues when that starts and yes it's from ladies and couples too. Also the ones that have spent late time messaging then go quiet for days ot weeks, then next time they are bored send another and expect you have another few hours to waste. We could do with a red flag list, time is precious especially for us older folk so we don't want it wasting. |
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"[Removed by poster at 28/01/22 08:42:14]
Purely for fun could you send me your moron filter questions please?
1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.
2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.
3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.
4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all
No
Yes
No
No
Can’t see anything in there that would trigger someone so badly!"
Yea, but there you go! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing is I have had so many chats with guys on this site and others that within 5 messages from them I can tell if it's going to go anywhere. If I say that and end the chat - I often get grief. So if I'm honest it's disappointment or hassle. Yay. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When a guy says he wants you all to himself and doesn't want you meeting or talking to anyone else. Also, when you ask for a face pic and you don't get one. Two red flags! x |
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"For phone numbers do you normally exchange before a meet
I've not given my phone number to anyone for years now. Kik or Telegram only. "
Okay thanks i have Kik but it doesnt work very well on my phone. I will look into Telegram. Is it an App too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For phone numbers do you normally exchange before a meet
I've not given my phone number to anyone for years now. Kik or Telegram only.
Okay thanks i have Kik but it doesnt work very well on my phone. I will look into Telegram. Is it an App too? "
Yes it's an app. If you search the forum for Telegram you can find what other people think - it's 500% better than kik. Take care to hide your phone number on the app though - so no-one sees it. |
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Fab thank you so much 
"For phone numbers do you normally exchange before a meet
I've not given my phone number to anyone for years now. Kik or Telegram only.
Okay thanks i have Kik but it doesnt work very well on my phone. I will look into Telegram. Is it an App too?
Yes it's an app. If you search the forum for Telegram you can find what other people think - it's 500% better than kik. Take care to hide your phone number on the app though - so no-one sees it. "
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