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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take life a day at a time, an hour at a time on your very bad days. Try and keep yourself busy, distraction is a good thing. Play some happy music and above all confide in someone about how you're feeling. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Take life a day at a time, an hour at a time on your very bad days. Try and keep yourself busy, distraction is a good thing. Play some happy music and above all confide in someone about how you're feeling."
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would say come and find me, get away from your usual routine for an hour or so and just talk to me over a coffee. There is always someone a lot worse of than ourselves and whatever is going on can be made better |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Be kind to yourself so accept that it's fine to be having a bad day. If you're having a lot of negative thoughts, remember they are just thoughts and not reality. They have importance if you give them importance.
Try and change those thoughts for a few mins by doing something nice for yourself as has been suggested by others.
Finally, always have hope...life has ups and downs....so the downs will pass |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be kind to yourself, it's OK to be selfish and look after yourself.
Talk to someone , and saying you are struggling is a very brave step it can only get better now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Talk to someone, simply just sit and take some deep breaths, get out in the fresh air. Just switch off from everything for a while and go to your "happy place". We've all got one. Reach out to find help, there's support out there. Take care of yourself x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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All of the above advice is fantastic I would just also add that just let them know you are there for them even if it's just to listen or them to vent just to further show that you are there for them and show them they are not alone somebody cares and that they do matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would advise, find a person who knows you well and talk to them about struggles. Seek professional advice, spend less time online. Also, take time to reflect on whether struggles are through external factors, take small steps to make small changes.
Always try remember, it won't last forever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get a scrap book and fill it with memories, photos, descriptions of special times, even the odd argument. The person may have gone but memories always remain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Get out in nature.. go for a wander, enjoy & appreciate the little things around you.
Listen to music.
Try and think of one positive each day… even if it’s that you got yourself out of bed and got dressed. Or that the sun was shining or you made it through another day and tomorrow is a new day. |
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"Get out in nature.. go for a wander, enjoy & appreciate the little things around you.
Listen to music.
Try and think of one positive each day… even if it’s that you got yourself out of bed and got dressed. Or that the sun was shining or you made it through another day and tomorrow is a new day."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In addition to all the above, maybe walk a dog for neighbour? Pets can give us a good sense of well being and dog walking for someone can be the next best thing."
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Just wanted to share an excellent book I've just finished reading called "The body keeps the score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk.
It explores trauma and how to deal with it and has lots of science to support his views and recommendations. Worth a read. Eg..the science behind the benefits of slow and deep breathing ..how the brain is affected beneficially.  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"If you had to give advice to someone who's struggling? what would be your best solution be?
Make sure they know that I'm only ever a call or txt away, anytime "
I'm not saying this about you or any person in particular that has said this or similar in this thread.
Sometimes this is one of the worst things you can say, because some don't or can't always live up to this. When the time comes and they try to reach out for that help or support it is not there. Which is an extremely hard position to be in when already feeling so low and vulnerable. When that happens it can be worse than no help being offered at all. I can truely break you, and enhance everything that is already making you feel as you are.
I speak from experience. |
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"If you had to give advice to someone who's struggling? what would be your best solution be?
Make sure they know that I'm only ever a call or txt away, anytime
I'm not saying this about you or any person in particular that has said this or similar in this thread.
Sometimes this is one of the worst things you can say, because some don't or can't always live up to this. When the time comes and they try to reach out for that help or support it is not there. Which is an extremely hard position to be in when already feeling so low and vulnerable. When that happens it can be worse than no help being offered at all. I can truely break you, and enhance everything that is already making you feel as you are.
I speak from experience. "
Fair comment dude |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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Analyse why you are struggling.
Is it over things you can control? Look at how you can change them. Step by step. Baby steps if needed.
Is it things out of your control that might be irrational? Find tools that can work for you to reframe your perspective on what worries you. Like journaling about it, finding a group that shares the same worries and discusses it, find something that distracts you from those thoughts when they start.
You’ll find the right way for you. |
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