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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you see forums different to private messages when it comes to sex chat?
Do you talk about sex in one arena (forums / messages) but not the other?
If so, why the difference?
Does it depend on who you are talking to and who instigates it?
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Yes. I only really sex chat with people I am invested with on other platforms in messages and voice clips because I'm not really an online flirt as I'm too literal on the forums, much prefer face to face flirting instead  |
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Sex chat comes further down the line for us.
We don’t want to know about your escapades or what bedroom gymnastics you can do until we’ve found out whether you have similar views/desires as ourselves 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Forums are for chatting shite.
Private messages are what you receive when somebody wants to abuse you for saying stuff they don't like on the forum usually followed by a block so you can't respond.
Or maybe that's just me  |
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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago
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I tend to be far more flirty and risque on the forum and more held back with what I say in messages. I don't do sex chat straight off with people as a rule.
I think that's for the same reason as in real life though.
In a pub, chatting with a lot of people in public I'm not looking to get to know anyone better there and then and I'll flirt like a loon and have no filter, because I can get away with it. Guys enjoy it as much as I do and their women don't see me as a threat because of how I look.
In private I'm a lot more shy and quieter, the flirting is far more subtle and I want to get to know the person I'm talking to.
So, same with messages.
When I do get my flirt on in private it's absolutely meant as it is though
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The only sex chat I do is talking about experiences that link into the thread topic or the odd pm where again, it's experiences and consequences kinds thing.
So my 'sex chat' is very different from the sex chat others do. It's very formal and matter of fact. Topical not wanton. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Forums are different as very public where as pvt message is just that - depends on the topic and conversation really "
I'd say that's patently obvious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Forums are different as very public where as pvt message is just that - depends on the topic and conversation really
I'd say that's patently obvious. "
For me and others it is - so depending on the conversation depends on how I would reply or what I might say in public vs private
Other people can of course act differently as were all different |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I’m answering a question regarding sex on a thread then I might go into detail, however I won’t talk about sex in a pm unless it’s with someone I’ve had the sex with  "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I tend to be far more flirty and risque on the forum and more held back with what I say in messages. I don't do sex chat straight off with people as a rule.
I think that's for the same reason as in real life though.
In a pub, chatting with a lot of people in public I'm not looking to get to know anyone better there and then and I'll flirt like a loon and have no filter, because I can get away with it. Guys enjoy it as much as I do and their women don't see me as a threat because of how I look.
In private I'm a lot more shy and quieter, the flirting is far more subtle and I want to get to know the person I'm talking to.
So, same with messages.
When I do get my flirt on in private it's absolutely meant as it is though
Posh "
I think of the forums as like a pub. Just chatting and having a laugh whereas a message is personal 1 to 1. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Depends how horny I am.
Sometimes I welcome a bit of filth, other times it’s a no.
I don’t like it when you have the horn on a Saturday morning and maybe dally with some sex chat with a fella, alls well that ends well.
Then 3 days later they want a wank and their porn site of choice isn’t uploading so they message me thinking we can carry on with our chat.
NO!
I have slept since then and my horn level is now on a different level. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only general chat on forums and messages on fab. Anything more than that I deem as personal between me and the person involved so I use a different platform. |
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I talk more in the forums & am more open
Even when I arrange a meet I'm not chatty in private message but I'll happily share a bit of sex chat here
I'm DMs people want private wank fodder and I don't have time for that I'd rather help them face to face |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I talk more in the forums & am more open
Even when I arrange a meet I'm not chatty in private message but I'll happily share a bit of sex chat here
I'm DMs people want private wank fodder and I don't have time for that I'd rather help them face to face "
Agree about the wank fodder. |
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?"
What I talk about in private messages is my own business but I'm 56 not 16 so sexting does nothing for me.
What I'm here for is between me and those I choose to chat with. |
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By *ysyphusMan
over a year ago
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?
What I talk about in private messages is my own business but I'm 56 not 16 so sexting does nothing for me.
What I'm here for is between me and those I choose to chat with. "
Did I actually ask you what you message about?
Try reading what the thread is about. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?
What I talk about in private messages is my own business but I'm 56 not 16 so sexting does nothing for me.
What I'm here for is between me and those I choose to chat with.
Did I actually ask you what you message about?
Try reading what the thread is about."
Do you not understand what the thread is about?
He is answering the question. |
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?
What I talk about in private messages is my own business but I'm 56 not 16 so sexting does nothing for me.
What I'm here for is between me and those I choose to chat with.
Did I actually ask you what you message about?
Try reading what the thread is about."
I did read what it's about and already posted above but you asked why people are here if they aren't talking about sex and that's what I'm replying to.
Most people don't need to talk about sex to have sex.
I don't discuss my likes and dislikes in an open forum either. It's not what I do.
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?"
I don't do sex chat. Not on the forum, not in DM.
With people I'm interested to meet I will discuss likes and dislikes, but anyone looking to wank over my messages is going to be sadly disappointed because they are factual rather than erotic.
To answer your questions:
What do I talk about? The 95% of my life and the life of the person I'm chatting with that isn't explicitly sexual.
Why don't I talk about sex? The chat doesn't interest me. If I'm looking to wank over smut I know some great authors and will read their work rather than trying to get myself off to "great tits, wud luv to cum on them" and "u free now"
Why am I here? To chat shit with people I like, to watch out for group socials I fancy attending and to keep perv over a couple of people's photos. |
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?
I don't do sex chat. Not on the forum, not in DM.
With people I'm interested to meet I will discuss likes and dislikes, but anyone looking to wank over my messages is going to be sadly disappointed because they are factual rather than erotic.
To answer your questions:
What do I talk about? The 95% of my life and the life of the person I'm chatting with that isn't explicitly sexual.
Why don't I talk about sex? The chat doesn't interest me. If I'm looking to wank over smut I know some great authors and will read their work rather than trying to get myself off to "great tits, wud luv to cum on them" and "u free now"
Why am I here? To chat shit with people I like, to watch out for group socials I fancy attending and to keep perv over a couple of people's photos."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to be far more flirty and risque on the forum and more held back with what I say in messages. I don't do sex chat straight off with people as a rule.
I think that's for the same reason as in real life though.
In a pub, chatting with a lot of people in public I'm not looking to get to know anyone better there and then and I'll flirt like a loon and have no filter, because I can get away with it. Guys enjoy it as much as I do and their women don't see me as a threat because of how I look.
In private I'm a lot more shy and quieter, the flirting is far more subtle and I want to get to know the person I'm talking to.
So, same with messages.
When I do get my flirt on in private it's absolutely meant as it is though
Posh "
Sorry what, Posh? "Women don't see me as a threat because of how I look". No no no no don't think or say that about yourself. You are a beautiful human being inside and out.  |
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By *ysyphusMan
over a year ago
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?
What I talk about in private messages is my own business but I'm 56 not 16 so sexting does nothing for me.
What I'm here for is between me and those I choose to chat with.
Did I actually ask you what you message about?
Try reading what the thread is about.
I did read what it's about and already posted above but you asked why people are here if they aren't talking about sex and that's what I'm replying to.
Most people don't need to talk about sex to have sex.
I don't discuss my likes and dislikes in an open forum either. It's not what I do.
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Are you familiar with the idea of hypothetical questions? |
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?
What I talk about in private messages is my own business but I'm 56 not 16 so sexting does nothing for me.
What I'm here for is between me and those I choose to chat with.
Did I actually ask you what you message about?
Try reading what the thread is about.
I did read what it's about and already posted above but you asked why people are here if they aren't talking about sex and that's what I'm replying to.
Most people don't need to talk about sex to have sex.
I don't discuss my likes and dislikes in an open forum either. It's not what I do.
Are you familiar with the idea of hypothetical questions?"
Yes I am thanks and I answered your three questions within the parameters you set. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you see forums different to private messages when it comes to sex chat?
Do you talk about sex in one arena (forums / messages) but not the other?
If so, why the difference?
Does it depend on who you are talking to and who instigates it?
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The last threads I started were on threesomes, nipple clamps and pity sex. But seriously there is a difference between talking about sex and sexy talk. I love being able to talk and read about all sorts here. I flirt a little on the forums. Nearly always with someone I've chatted with privately with.
I often talk about sex with women and men in DMs - in a general kind of way. Sexy talk is very limited and usually off-site. Because I'd only maybe do that with someone I'm planning to meet. Flirtation is fine though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?
What I talk about in private messages is my own business but I'm 56 not 16 so sexting does nothing for me.
What I'm here for is between me and those I choose to chat with.
Did I actually ask you what you message about?
Try reading what the thread is about.
I did read what it's about and already posted above but you asked why people are here if they aren't talking about sex and that's what I'm replying to.
Most people don't need to talk about sex to have sex.
I don't discuss my likes and dislikes in an open forum either. It's not what I do.
Are you familiar with the idea of hypothetical questions?"
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?"
Are we obliged to talk sex and give someone a boner?
Is this a free sex chat line now?
I rarely talk about sex on here or in private. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As in just talking about sex or sexy chat e.g I'm here legs spread with a perfectly oiled cucumber in my hand?
I dunno if forumers would have enough eye bleach for my sexy chat. |
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?"
Maybe they're not interested in sex anymore. Maybe they've realised people will lie to get a sniff of minge and they ain't prepared to leave themselves a target anymore. Maybe they're here to talk shit in the forums and express themselves through photo as and when the mood takes them.
Just Maybe.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?
Maybe they're not interested in sex anymore. Maybe they've realised people will lie to get a sniff of minge and they ain't prepared to leave themselves a target anymore. Maybe they're here to talk shit in the forums and express themselves through photo as and when the mood takes them.
Just Maybe.
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Couldn’t of said it better myself.
Apart from obviously replacing the word minge with cock for myself. |
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"If people don't talk about sex in the forums or messages, what do they talk about? (Apart from cars & jaffa cakes). Why don't they talk about sex? Why are they here?
Maybe they're not interested in sex anymore. Maybe they've realised people will lie to get a sniff of minge and they ain't prepared to leave themselves a target anymore. Maybe they're here to talk shit in the forums and express themselves through photo as and when the mood takes them.
Just Maybe.
Couldn’t of said it better myself.
Apart from obviously replacing the word minge with cock for myself."
Gives me sad that you feel that way too.  |
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